LadyBeee:
Since I started dating, I've never met a man like this. So caring, cute, neat, hygienic, generous but unfortunately, he doesn't have much but the little he has, he'll spend on you and make you feel like a queen.

He stays in one room face me I face u. Initially, when I found out, I said I was going to quit but the love he showed me was so overwhelming and I couldn't quit. He said he's making plans to move out and he won't be renewing his rent in may. I agreed.

I fell in love with him too and became comfortable with his room but I made it clear that I will never pass the night at his place. You know how love can be blind, I found myself pass the night once and again and again then I asked him about his plans to move out, how much does he have at hand to rent a new place because I was secretly planning to support him with some money to add and he said he doesn't have up to 30k. I was angry and so dissapointed at him.

Right now I'm thinking the whole thing over. I don't think I can continue. Please advise me


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Is he staying in the one room forever? Why can't you work harder to achieve the status you want with him?

RENT him a duplex or bungalow. Case closed

Skepticus:


You speak with great understanding.

Thank you sir.

I was very foolishly in love once, got burnt beyond recognition and vowed that it would never happen again. Because I am a natural people watcher, I subsequently observed and tested and probed for many years until I learnt to understand how women reason... if their thought process can be properly described as 'reasoning' that is.

Belafonte:
Ladybeee, you don’t have to continue this relationship, and you certainly don’t have to rent him a better apartment. You obviously know what you want, and you’re simply conflicted because this dude is different from what you’re used to, even though he’s almost what you want.

However, let me put it to you that money is the leading cause of divorce worldwide. This is obviously not nothing, and like I said earlier, these feelings of infatuation will fade eventually. You will be left with the stark reality of the state of his finances. If you’re accustomed to a certain standard, please and please, save yourself and your boyfriend any future heartbreaks and move on now, while you still can, before you start having children.

Forget anybody trying to compel you with talk of his potential, not all potential is fulfilled o. Life is filled with broken dreams and buried visions. People marry and live their whole lives in face-me-I-face-you o. That love you claim to be feeling can easily turn to hatred. When you pay house rent for two years in a row, it won’t matter how neat or kind he is , you’ll probably feel like slapping him with the broom when he’s sweeping . Now is the time to japa.

yes that's the truth. For the fact he is kind of comfortable in such place ,he may not be financially intelligent to hustle and move out. That lady may cushion the financial burden all through the marriage. Quit now.

J111333:
Love is not enough and it doesn't put food on the table.
I can only advise you to stay for awhile and know where he's headed as a man if he is hardworking, educated, has dreams and is working towards them.
If not, a man that said he wasn't gonna stay in that apartment after May but hasn't got up to 30k for moving expenses isn't a serious man.

A man that has a heart to love and a preek to fvck shoud also have means to put food on the table and money to buy baby diapers.

thank you. The guy is not a hard-working guy . This lady will regret the whole thing.

don't marry out of pity .thats only advice for u

He spent the rent money on you nah to show you how much he cares, so, how him wan raise the money?

travelland:



Sisters pay no attention to stories like this unless you're from a poor home

It is only an advice but let us not deceive ourselves, most, if not many poor will become rich in years to come and many who are rich will as well become poor,therefore no one knows the belle that will give birth to kings and presidents.


I don't even expect her to take my advice but many young men shall grow and become what God wants them to be.

Better put 'The sex is amazing but I can't date a brokeass nigga'

vivalavida:


This lady wants the best. She is even determined to support him to move out. Baby, keep supporting him but give him a deadline. I wouldn't want my.sister dating a man who lives in such an environment sef

i hope you have made it in life too.

LadyBeee:
Since I started dating, I've never met a man like this. So caring, cute, neat, hygienic, generous but unfortunately, he doesn't have much but the little he has, he'll spend on you and make you feel like a queen.

He stays in one room face me I face u. Initially, when I found out, I said I was going to quit but the love he showed me was so overwhelming and I couldn't quit. He said he's making plans to move out and he won't be renewing his rent in may. I agreed.

I fell in love with him too and became comfortable with his room but I made it clear that I will never pass the night at his place. You know how love can be blind, I found myself pass the night once and again and again then I asked him about his plans to move out, how much does he have at hand to rent a new place because I was secretly planning to support him with some money to add and he said he doesn't have up to 30k. I was angry and so dissapointed at him.

Right now I'm thinking the whole thing over. I don't think I can continue. Please advise me


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You are the materialistic type. Don't push your man into indulging in something that will affect both of you. Enjoy him in peace otherwise watch another well deserving lady enjoy this gold mine you are underestimating

Butbest:
What if his more than what you think and using that to know the kind of person you are.
U better b wise n support him.

You watch too much movies

Two things to check before u enter ham.

1) does he has a vision

2) is he an hand working man that people can speak about.

3) what is his character, hope he is not a mouthed person because I have them here plenty. Some will be speaking as if they have vision or knowledge whereas they are just snake with lies tongue so think very well before u go into it so that u won't become single mum suddenly seeking for help on social media like we see today.

LadyBeee:
Since I started dating, I've never met a man like this. So caring, cute, neat, hygienic, generous but unfortunately, he doesn't have much but the little he has, he'll spend on you and make you feel like a queen.

He stays in one room face me I face u. Initially, when I found out, I said I was going to quit but the love he showed me was so overwhelming and I couldn't quit. He said he's making plans to move out and he won't be renewing his rent in may. I agreed.

I fell in love with him too and became comfortable with his room but I made it clear that I will never pass the night at his place. You know how love can be blind, I found myself pass the night once and again and again then I asked him about his plans to move out, how much does he have at hand to rent a new place because I was secretly planning to support him with some money to add and he said he doesn't have up to 30k. I was angry and so dissapointed at him.

Right now I'm thinking the whole thing over. I don't think I can continue. Please advise me


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Tell him to stop spending on you so that he can save money for a flat

LadyBeee:
Since I started dating, I've never met a man like this. So caring, cute, neat, hygienic, generous but unfortunately, he doesn't have much but the little he has, he'll spend on you and make you feel like a queen.

He stays in one room face me I face u. Initially, when I found out, I said I was going to quit but the love he showed me was so overwhelming and I couldn't quit. He said he's making plans to move out and he won't be renewing his rent in may. I agreed.

I fell in love with him too and became comfortable with his room but I made it clear that I will never pass the night at his place. You know how love can be blind, I found myself pass the night once and again and again then I asked him about his plans to move out, how much does he have at hand to rent a new place because I was secretly planning to support him with some money to add and he said he doesn't have up to 30k. I was angry and so dissapointed at him.

Right now I'm thinking the whole thing over. I don't think I can continue. Please advise me


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I think you should leave him PLEASE. Rather than waste your time and his time giving him false hope that you will love him on whatever circumstance he is in, because if you continue with him, all you will end up doing is comparing him and wishing you could have chosen differently. You'll frustrate the man and frustrate yourself. Leave him please.

He needs a woman that will love him for who he is, assist him in saving his money and help him build a life and a home, and not a woman who's instead eating his seed.

Kingdollar28:



You are a jezebel

Ur heart is full of evil

Evil ?? Why is this evil....??
Support man to pay his personal rent??... what kind of transaction is that one?? ..... it’s not like they are married and he doesn’t have much....Or a one off thing during courtship.
She should support him becos that’s what she wants? Not what the guy wants to do.The guys doesn’t obviously want to step up...
if the girl does it now she will have to continue like Nn3muka said and that’s nonsense.....

If he is the right man, willingly help him at least you have the capacity to help.

Good things most times don't present themselves at a platter of gold.

Damn
I pity that guy sha
He don jam the wrong person.

Ibechris2:




It is only an advice but let us not deceive ourselves, most, if not many poor will become rich in years to come and many who are rich will as well become poor,therefore no one knows the belle that will give birth to kings and presidents.


I don't even expect her to take my advice but many young men shall grow and become what God wants them to be.

I am not a harbinger of bad news, but going by her description, this guy does not look like he's on the way to any visible growth rate. She says that he has very little and yet spends it all on her. Recipe for lifelong poverty if you ask me, unless he wakes up from his slumber.

benji93:
You don't have to cloak well-to-do in vision. It's ok to be honest.

Having a vision to be well to do is the best vision ever
Don't u think so

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1StopRudeness:


Evil ?? Why is this evil....??
Support man to pay his personal rent??... what kind of transaction is that one?? ..... it’s not like they are married and he doesn’t have much....Or a one off thing during courtship.
She should support him becos that’s what she wants? Not what the guy wants to do.The guys doesn’t obviously want to step up...
if the girl does it now she will have to continue like Nn3muka said and that’s nonsense.....

what of those men that paid girls fees, feed them, accommodate them, give them monthly allowance

What do u pple take guys for
You think men are foolish abi

LadyBeee:
Since I started dating, I've never met a man like this. So caring, cute, neat, hygienic, generous but unfortunately, he doesn't have much but the little he has, he'll spend on you and make you feel like a queen.

He stays in one room face me I face u. Initially, when I found out, I said I was going to quit but the love he showed me was so overwhelming and I couldn't quit. He said he's making plans to move out and he won't be renewing his rent in may. I agreed.

I fell in love with him too and became comfortable with his room but I made it clear that I will never pass the night at his place. You know how love can be blind, I found myself pass the night once and again and again then I asked him about his plans to move out, how much does he have at hand to rent a new place because I was secretly planning to support him with some money to add and he said he doesn't have up to 30k. I was angry and so dissapointed at him.

Right now I'm thinking the whole thing over. I don't think I can continue. Please advise me


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I have live in this type of house bfr, my fiance nw my wife didn't even bother herself when I was trying to hide my place bt the day I reluctantly brought her to my place, she encourage me But today we lived like king n queen in our place. So stay madam. No condition s permanent. Till today she encourage me on many things even when my PHD tire m

brodalikeme:
My dear don’t allow the devil use you against yourself!

You have 95% of what every lady dream of and you want to throw it away for something trivial and temporary? He stays in a rented one bedroom apartment, he isn’t the landlord, he is not squatting with some friend, haba!
He loves you and is honest with you take that is all that matters!
If the plan is marriage, support him to grow in his career or business, the benefits will come back to you in the form of more love and comfort. If it’s not marriage, at least you would have helped your fellow human being. I know so many ladies that have gone the
extreme length of giving their man money to pay their bride price(Dude should have borrowed from friends though).

Sister support him! If his a good man like you said, you’ll be better of for doing that.

Have you heard that great song by Cobhams Asuquo Ft Simi titled We Plenti? A part of it says “beans no dey cook forever”

A little patient, a little input, you guys will be fine.

Not a one bedroom flat.... She specifically stated it's a single room... Those types that share a single toilet and bathroom...

Jewessgratitudd:

Sincerely speaking, in this time and age, I wouldn't advise anyone to start a family in that condition. You'll end up regretting it.

As per his level, with not up to 30k to start with, OP, you might be wasting your time with such a guy except if you are ready to bear 90% of the cost.

Now, you didn't state the kind of job he does so I'll know if it holds any prospects for the future or you might need to exercise patience until he gets a better job.

If you truly love him and are ready to take the risk and damn the consequence, then go ahead with the relationship. Know that with your frequent sleeping over, belle go soon show. Hmm.. That is when you'll know the importance of comfortability.

My sister he is a broke ass nigger. U can't help him stay away so he can grow, part of the money, he is supposed to use for his improvement, he spends on u. And pls don't even think of going back when he is eventually comfortable Cus u might pull him down again Cus of him trying to be Mr nice guy to u.

Years back,more than 27 years ago,one of my friends wey just finish school.No job.He dey manage dey stay one room apartment with one of e younger brothers.Wetin dey the room na old black and white 14" tv,big foam/matress and reading desk.
E come get one babe wey come dey date am.The girl na homely person,she nor send the present situation wey she meet her guy because she believe say the guy get future.
Dem come dey patch o until the guy come involve for diesel business with small money(Dem even borrow that money)
The girl come still dey manage with am over the years.
But right now,the boy na big boy now for 2020.
He nor only dey live for 2 bedroom flat but na the girl e still marry.The girl don arrange three healthy boys for am and dem live happily.
The guy get properties here and there but very good and humble guy till date because he nor forget wetin poverty do am.
Any girl wey nor send you because you still dey one room,nor send her too.
Continue to build your career or hustle, one day E go pay.

Girl, please get conscience .
It the accommodation money he's been using to take care you

When I was in uni, I had guys that stayed in one room, and brought in different kinds of hot girls everyday. Some will even spend the night , cook for passage and fetch water from the well. Dem go even follow use the general slippery bathroom and pit toilet .. same girls wey if you see outside go dey do like say dem no dey shìt wash yansh. If you truly love him, you wouldn't mind at all.

SenecaTheYonger:


Maybe stop watching porn so you can decrease that lust you feel. And try being with someone you actually like, and not someone with big nash and breast with zero personality.

Lmao... I will surely listen to your advice.

Nah person wey don chop belleful dey get power to argue.

emonis88:

My sister he is a broke ass nigger. U can't help him stay away so he can grow, part of the money, he is supposed to use for his improvement, he spends on u. And pls don't even think of going back when he is eventually comfortable Cus u might pull him down again Cus of him trying to be Mr nice guy to u.

You might want to redirect this your comment; I'm not the OP

LadyBeee:
Since I started dating, I've never met a man like this. So caring, cute, neat, hygienic, generous but unfortunately, he doesn't have much but the little he has, he'll spend on you and make you feel like a queen.

He stays in one room face me I face u. Initially, when I found out, I said I was going to quit but the love he showed me was so overwhelming and I couldn't quit. He said he's making plans to move out and he won't be renewing his rent in may. I agreed.

I fell in love with him too and became comfortable with his room but I made it clear that I will never pass the night at his place. You know how love can be blind, I found myself pass the night once and again and again then I asked him about his plans to move out, how much does he have at hand to rent a new place because I was secretly planning to support him with some money to add and he said he doesn't have up to 30k. I was angry and so dissapointed at him.

Right now I'm thinking the whole thing over. I don't think I can continue. Please advise me


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op relationship these days love is not enough to make a relationship work finances plays a major role .Be frank and truthful to yourself if you dont see yourself staying in such an environment better call it quits and go after what you really want cause on the long run this things will come into play then people will tag you a bad woman .

My Dear Sister.
Don't throw away the love and affection that this guy has for u just bkos of his current situation, A man dat lives in face me I face u today, can later live in Duplex
tomorrow, What u need to do is to keep encouraging him to save money in other to get a more comfortable apartment for both of u, Help him gather some money if u can, Am sure if u do dis , he will forever be grateful to u. Don't leave him just bkos he lives in a one bedroom apartment.