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Re: We Love Each Other But He Stays In One Room by anyilala12335(m): 5:58pm On Mar 29, 2020 |
My sister nothing good comes easy... I will share a personal experience: A friend accommodated me in his room and parlour when I came to Lagos after my nysc. A year after I secured a room in face me, I slap compound. With my small salary as a teacher, though a mechanical engineering graduate! I invited my girlfriend from Enugu, to visit me and see my humble beginnings but she was sad when she arrived Lagos and decided to quit the relationship because she felt I still have a long way to go, my place of abode and salary are a sorry situation.... She left, I felt bad, I move on with my life...fast forward today, 7 yrs after I am happily married to my best friend, my pillar that stood with me , encouraged me, inspired me and all that stuff... You know what? We started our relationship in that one room... Today, we have our own house, two plots land, car and God has blessed us with two lovely kids...career wise... Working in one of the best multi-national FMCG in sub Saharan Africa.. So, my sister, if you love him, he has vision of where he's going and he is assiduously working towards it, then inspired him more...you will know a man can be greater with the right woman pushing him.. Sorry for typo/syntax error...was in a hurry... 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: We Love Each Other But He Stays In One Room by Etfash(m): 5:58pm On Mar 29, 2020 |
So much has been said, perhaps you may not even see this. But I need to lend my voice. First, I don't believe in you guys sleeping together since you are not married. This may be old fashioned, but it's my school of taught. Having said the above, if all you have said about the guy is correct, you should have nothing to worry about. The guy told you he' s planning to move out of that apartment in May. You asked how much he has, he said about N30k, that's a start. May is still more than 30 days away. I think you just need to ask for his budget for his prospective accommodation and evaluate his ability to meet up with the set target based on current realities. While it is not wrong to rent the house for him, I won't advise that. I will suggest you support him by getting some basic household items for the house when it is rented. Assumptions My submission above is based on what you have said about him; and the assumption that he is not coming after you because of other interests like your money, class or connections etc. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: We Love Each Other But He Stays In One Room by Stefenijoan002(f): 5:59pm On Mar 29, 2020 |
My dear do not lose a good man coz of his current situation now coz nobody knows what the future we bring coz it's certainly pregnant now .but trust me if u hold on n support him you'll both build an empire for yourselves!gone are the days you see a man with some many qualities you just listed trust me . 2 Likes |
Re: We Love Each Other But He Stays In One Room by Ybaby: 6:01pm On Mar 29, 2020 |
Imagine your kids playing in the corridor + You donot know his true character until he has money which he may never even have. Abort mission now. 1 Like |
Re: We Love Each Other But He Stays In One Room by Angelacruz: 6:03pm On Mar 29, 2020 |
Lovely Esthered: |
Re: We Love Each Other But He Stays In One Room by bonnyhope: 6:04pm On Mar 29, 2020 |
Nn3muka: Greedy and self centered person But the man has been supporting her 4 Likes |
Re: We Love Each Other But He Stays In One Room by Gbrika(m): 6:15pm On Mar 29, 2020 |
What is his occupation? How long have you known him? What is your own occupation? Educational levels? If I know these, then expect my further contribution. 1 Like |
Re: We Love Each Other But He Stays In One Room by blozzynonny(f): 6:15pm On Mar 29, 2020 |
Jewessgratitudd:This is just so factual. Some of these guys only have that love to offer and nothing more. Knowing we ladies, we can fall for that so helplessly not knowing that that's just a ploy to get you to be comfortable with their status. When you finally settle down with them and the financial stress weighs on them, they will blame you for being the cause of their misfortune 1 Like |
Re: We Love Each Other But He Stays In One Room by Nobody: 6:15pm On Mar 29, 2020 |
Ariza:so even ladies fight and accuse each other of sending pms ![]() ![]() |
Re: We Love Each Other But He Stays In One Room by Oyiboman69: 6:17pm On Mar 29, 2020 |
Stacyomolola:There is no really a formula for perfection, if you know what I mean.
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Re: We Love Each Other But He Stays In One Room by Besherru90: 6:18pm On Mar 29, 2020 |
Instead of you to exercise patience and pray for him too...you rethinking..how about this”do you hav the money to rent your desired house?...if you don’t and you can’t afford it..please hold you peace...don’t pressure someone too much for what you yourself can’t afford... 1 Like |
Re: We Love Each Other But He Stays In One Room by saajus: 6:18pm On Mar 29, 2020 |
Stay with him if he's ambitious. If he's poor and no ambition, think twice. Love should not be blind nowadays. Ambition Test: Is a graduate? Is he trying to further his education? Is he looking for a job? Has he tried a business? Is he acquiring new skills? Forget the little he's spending on you, it could be an investment. Guys dey wise o, na u ladies blood dey run with emotions. Remember, poverty won't stop a man from cheating especially if the highest bidder comes. We poor guys are even more risky cos money truly change people. We have not been tested with money before so you've not really seen the true colour. "Reason with me, reason with me". Women should only reason with hardworking and ambitious guys, not the rich ones. Someone who is hammering a spot daily, someday he will breakthrough. |
Re: We Love Each Other But He Stays In One Room by Angelacruz: 6:18pm On Mar 29, 2020 |
God bless ur new home...some gals sha AFONJACOW: |
Re: We Love Each Other But He Stays In One Room by prettyaura: 6:21pm On Mar 29, 2020 |
STARGREEN:pls read thread post carefully before commenting on other peoples post...I said "u cant know the true colour of a man until he has money"..so how does your comment tally with what we are saying here? |
Re: We Love Each Other But He Stays In One Room by Sadteen: 6:21pm On Mar 29, 2020 |
densiks:Contracting |
Re: We Love Each Other But He Stays In One Room by Biglittlelois(f): 6:23pm On Mar 29, 2020 |
RisenPhoenix: Lol you are something else, your analysis is on point but still, it goes both ways, every Male and female is mindful of who they end up with these days which makes it seem like love is dead and relationships/marriages is solely for benefits, I have personally decided to see things as it is cos we humans are evolving, what works years ago isn't working now and won't work tomorrow, everything is changing rapidly. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: We Love Each Other But He Stays In One Room by emonis88: 6:24pm On Mar 29, 2020 |
babalonimi:Ur wife is a virtuous woman which is a quality lacking in alot of ladies theses days. Many r becoming evening news papers. May God give them wisdom. |
Re: We Love Each Other But He Stays In One Room by emonis88: 6:28pm On Mar 29, 2020 |
blozzynonny:that is y I always blame guys that want to go out with all these slay queens. Slay them on the bed n go look for a down to earth girl n marry. All these ladies looking for the guy with d ride. At the end of the day when the ride is gone, they grow wings n fly. |
Re: We Love Each Other But He Stays In One Room by Prossah: 6:28pm On Mar 29, 2020 |
Ariza: Tell am again.. |
Re: We Love Each Other But He Stays In One Room by saajus: 6:28pm On Mar 29, 2020 |
No be virtuous, na calcu. The lady saw he's ambitious and hardworking. She saw all his PhD dreams. She saw his will power. Some people are poor, drink alcohol all around and waiting for miracle money. emonis88: |
Re: We Love Each Other But He Stays In One Room by Nobody: 6:32pm On Mar 29, 2020 |
prettyaura:Chai... see how u just siddon use phone tear that guy man work? Let the babe love if ahe wants to na & u don't know the guy isn't being true
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Re: We Love Each Other But He Stays In One Room by emonis88: 6:33pm On Mar 29, 2020 |
saajus:Some women even see men with such traits n say, "seh na pali I go chop? " it takes a strong woman to support a man through thick n thin to get to a comfortable life. It is not easy. |
Re: We Love Each Other But He Stays In One Room by realG101(m): 6:33pm On Mar 29, 2020 |
This story just further asserts my opinion that love and money work hand in hand and are ever inseparable..in today's world there's no romantic love, there just attraction, the root of which is money.. The only category of ladies who can love you truly are the financially independent ladies |
Re: We Love Each Other But He Stays In One Room by Beirut01: 6:33pm On Mar 29, 2020 |
InvertedHammer: You're too harsh |
Re: We Love Each Other But He Stays In One Room by densiks: 6:36pm On Mar 29, 2020 |
Sadteen:Getting in ‘contact’ informs the need for social distancing and ‘contracting’ may or may not happen after one has made some form of ‘contact’ |
Re: We Love Each Other But He Stays In One Room by emonis88: 6:38pm On Mar 29, 2020 |
Jewessgratitudd:No I wanted u to read it so u know that the lady is also part of his problem. |
Re: We Love Each Other But He Stays In One Room by Ishilove: 6:39pm On Mar 29, 2020 |
It seems everyone has a grace to grass story. Op, I have said it before and I will loud it again- that he stays in a one room apartment today doesn't mean he can't own a duplex tomorrow, HOWEVER, it is not an excuse for him to swallow the spirit of poverty of his father's house. Be wise 2 Likes |
Re: We Love Each Other But He Stays In One Room by Talkingboy: 6:40pm On Mar 29, 2020 |
LadyBeee: So he should go and do Yahoo or rob a Bank ? Modified: Okay i jus realised that you're an attention seeker. Good luck to you . |
Re: We Love Each Other But He Stays In One Room by Sadteen: 6:41pm On Mar 29, 2020 |
My own small advice: if you truly love him because you think he is the right guy for you and he has career prospects, keep him, support him, be a part of his success story. A good man isn't easy to come by; believe me. Men are scum. Take it from me. If he is a lazy bum with no prospects, dump him or suffer the consequence later in life. The decision is yours to make. But from what you've mentioned he seems like a hardworking guy who is focused however hardwork doesn't guarantee success especially when you are working hard in a career that holds no prospect for you. I'll advise you to tell him to pick up a skill in demand like software development/cybersecurity; cyber security preferably. It will take him about 6 months of consistent hardwork to break into the field and be on his way to making 6 figures. |
Re: We Love Each Other But He Stays In One Room by pennywys(m): 6:42pm On Mar 29, 2020 |
brodalikeme:how will he have up to 30k in his savings since he had shower all his life earnings on you just to make u feel happy and here you are planning and making consultations on how to dump him. I don't blame you, I blame him he should have plan his life properly before trying to make a woman feel happy. Young intellectual men are after themselves and wellbeing first. 2 Likes |
Re: We Love Each Other But He Stays In One Room by Stacyomolola(f): 6:45pm On Mar 29, 2020 |
Oyiboman69:U do know there is a difference between being good and being perfect. A perfect man has no fault and no one actually is perfect except our creator |
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