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Re: Make Sure You Marry A Woman Who Makes Money by SweetCunt97(f): 8:11pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
Well, no one wants a women who has no source of income. Personally I would not advice any woman to b totally dependent on any man. 12 Likes |
Re: Make Sure You Marry A Woman Who Makes Money by MrBrownJay1(m): 8:29pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
its funny how so many men on this thread are saying that if they find a great woman, educated, intelligent that matches what they are seeking in a mate.... but because she may be unemployed at that point in her life, they will dismiss her as a possible life mate?!?!?!?!?!? you gotta focus on the foundation of that person, her character, her lifestyle, her being.... and nothing else. anyone can lose a good job. 20 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Make Sure You Marry A Woman Who Makes Money by Kfaaji(m): 8:44pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
I agree with you op. Before I went for my NYSC there is a married old man in my area that gave me an advice that during NYSC there will always be opportunity but people do fail to see it. That's it's after NYSC people will be realising those opportunities they've missed. I payed careful attention to this warning by making sure I applied for every opportunity coming my way then. Even some that required NYSC certificate and it worked for me. Fast forward to after my NYSC, I went back to thank him for the advice. He now said he'll offer me another one. I said I'm listening He said "never marry a lady that is not earning any income to complement you". He said it's very important I keep to it. The man must have been talking from experience. Am still holding on to this advice. It's the truth. It's not easy to be taking care of all your immediate family and some of the extended families needs coupled with some unforeseen contingencies during this period. It's a suicidal mission! 40 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: Make Sure You Marry A Woman Who Makes Money by 2buffagain(m): 8:50pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
Kfaaji: That man must have seen life ![]() The major thing is that, especially we black people, we are susceptible to the Black tax i.e expenses from extended family members. The honest feeling is: "I can handle taking care of my parents, but why do I have to still be taking care of hers?" ![]() Especially if they are the type that hungrily went in on you and collected "flenty" money during wedding list matters. ![]() Those expenses for her side should come from her own income. 21 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Make Sure You Marry A Woman Who Makes Money by Nobody: 8:51pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
2buffagain:you sound that a freeloader and a liability. What a disgrace!! 8 Likes |
Re: Make Sure You Marry A Woman Who Makes Money by Belafonte(m): 8:55pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
MrBrownJay1: In this age of ‘equality’, would any woman marry a man who ticks all the right boxes but not the financial one? In my opinion, marriage in today’s world is severely overrated. Overcalculation squeezes the fun out of any venture. 23 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Make Sure You Marry A Woman Who Makes Money by Belafonte(m): 8:57pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
funmisticqueen2: Sounding daft as always. How can one person be ugly, stupid and bitter at the same time? What kind of misfortune is that one? 41 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Make Sure You Marry A Woman Who Makes Money by MrBrownJay1(m): 9:03pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
Belafonte: in this age of woman being intelligent and educated, of course they will... unless of course you are talking about useless good for nothing slay queen that have nothing to offer a man but a warm coochie. REMEMBER a man may be broke AFTER paying the rent/bills/food etc and that certainly does not make him a poor dude....far from it! In my opinion, marriage in today’s world is severely overrated. Overcalculation squeezes the fun out of any venture. i dont believe it is... it only is in Africa/Nigeria etc where marriage is a do or die mission. thus many are marrying donkeys not because they want to spend the rest of their natural life with their loved one, BUT SIMPLY BECAUSE thats what society/family/religion/friends etc demands of them. there should be no overcalculation here... you find someone, she ticks all the natural foundation/character/desire that you need in a mate, and you you guys settle to spend the rest of your lives together. having a job is irrelevant, so long as she is intelligent/educated and actively seeking for employment. 6 Likes |
Re: Make Sure You Marry A Woman Who Makes Money by Nobody: 9:08pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
Belafonte:it's not good to talk about yourself in this fashion. Are you that depressed? 7 Likes |
Re: Make Sure You Marry A Woman Who Makes Money by 2buffagain(m): 9:13pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
MrBrownJay1: Yup. prospects/potential |
Re: Make Sure You Marry A Woman Who Makes Money by Nobody: 9:15pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
I hope you won't rush to do DNA tests for the kids sha. Someone who needs to share the expenses may have to do much to get her boss to give her bonuses and promotions. And as bosses do not normally appreciate hard work in their women staff, additional overtime might be necessary to secure that raise; skin to skin. I really cannot understand why a man will want a woman to take over his role. This feminist idea is really taking root in the psyches of men. 24 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Make Sure You Marry A Woman Who Makes Money by MrBrownJay1(m): 9:21pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
2buffagain: ... yet you were adamant earlier that she needs INCOME and you were quick to write: 2buffagain: so how can you run your above "idiot proofing diagnostic test" if she is an educated/intelligent woman (with no income) actively seeking employment?!?!?!? 8 Likes |
Re: Make Sure You Marry A Woman Who Makes Money by Uyi168: 9:27pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
funmisticqueen2:... U are a bigger disgrace if this is the only thing u could make from his post... 11 Likes |
Re: Make Sure You Marry A Woman Who Makes Money by 2buffagain(m): 9:55pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
MrBrownJay1: Prospects and potential are "okay" to go off of. Testing is and will always be better. I still prefer to observe a woman's actions than just hear her talking about what she would do in scenarios. 6 Likes |
Re: Make Sure You Marry A Woman Who Makes Money by Sierusvirus(m): 10:00pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
2buffagain:NIce point. She should also be a giver and not a receiver, very key 3 Likes |
Re: Make Sure You Marry A Woman Who Makes Money by 2buffagain(m): 10:03pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
RisenPhoenix: As a high earner, I think a good configuration is to have one person pull steady income which we budget with, and the other person be entrepreneurial so that person brings in burst money e.g Real Estate, sales, etc. Big (and I mean big) money drops that are not limited by salary/raises etc. 2 Likes |
Re: Make Sure You Marry A Woman Who Makes Money by Nobody: 10:11pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
2buffagain: The same person can have two income streams. It is not necessary that one should have the steady income and the other should invest. The man can; and should; do both. And entrepreneurship does not preclude a woman from being forced/tempted to use her enticements. She will still need to obtain favours from men in the form of contracts, connections etc. 11 Likes |
Re: Make Sure You Marry A Woman Who Makes Money by 2buffagain(m): 10:15pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
RisenPhoenix: The more the merrier, but as to the bolded. Lol I guess your mind is made up that the only way a woman can make something of herself outside the home is by thoting. ![]() For your sake bro, I hope you stay in Africa/Middle East and never entertain any plan to live outside of those areas. This your mindset will cause you problems anywhere else. 8 Likes |
Re: Make Sure You Marry A Woman Who Makes Money by Nobody: 10:20pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
2buffagain: Women are the same worldwide, and bosses are the same worldwide too. I've seen for myself firsthand. You are only trying to justify your desire to rely on your wife's contribution to what should rightly be your own responsibility. Yes, I know that it will cause me problems elsewhere, which is why I will always remain in Nigeria despite having dual citizenship. But my view being unpopular among the Western simp culture does not make it wrong. 20 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Make Sure You Marry A Woman Who Makes Money by Belafonte(m): 10:22pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
2buffagain: I’d say most women thot or would thot to make ends meet or meet set targets. It’s a firmly held belief of mine that has proven true more often than not. 3 Likes |
Re: Make Sure You Marry A Woman Who Makes Money by Belafonte(m): 10:25pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
MrBrownJay1: I, personally, wouldn’t marry a woman who spends too much time out of the home. I believe whatever energies she expends working to build someone else’s business would be put to better use in the home. However, I can also appreciate OP’s points. To each, their own 11 Likes |
Re: Make Sure You Marry A Woman Who Makes Money by MrBrownJay1(m): 10:33pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
Belafonte: like a biz owner, a doctor, lawyer, architect, engineer etc... that kind of woman?!? so what should she do at home all day? watch telemundo?! 13 Likes |
Re: Make Sure You Marry A Woman Who Makes Money by 2buffagain(m): 10:33pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
Belafonte: *Some* women. Not most. If it's "most" then that's possibly a naija factor where there is no such thing as worker's rights or really justice of any kind that does not involve money or sex. 1 Like |
Re: Make Sure You Marry A Woman Who Makes Money by 2buffagain(m): 10:35pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
RisenPhoenix: You do realize that the actual definition of a simp is a man who feels he needs to pay for everything about a woman, right? With natural game, you can have a financially contributing wife and STILL have your respect. 15 Likes |
Re: Make Sure You Marry A Woman Who Makes Money by Belafonte(m): 10:40pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
MrBrownJay1: There are millions of women who aren’t doctors, etc, who don’t spend their days watching telemundo 17 Likes |
Re: Make Sure You Marry A Woman Who Makes Money by Belafonte(m): 10:41pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
2buffagain: I’m talking about women offering wetness to get ahead, not even being harassed here. 1 Like |
Re: Make Sure You Marry A Woman Who Makes Money by MrBrownJay1(m): 10:43pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
Belafonte: pls enlighten me then because majority of EMPLOYED WOMEN go to work in the morning and come back home at night....so what type of working women (that dont spend too much time outside the home) are you talking about?! what specific job are you talking about? 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Make Sure You Marry A Woman Who Makes Money by 2buffagain(m): 10:57pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
Belafonte: In certain parts of the world, it would be far easier for the woman to get ahead if, upon any on-toward approach by her boss, she sues the company for multiples of her salary. Even if she gave green/mixed signals ![]() Much easier on the back and the kitty, wouldn't you say? Unless it's one of those morally questionable industries like entertainment, only a foolish man today in those countries would exchange business for sex with any female. He basically becomes her bitch after that. ![]() Far cheaper to simply go relieve his sexual appetites with a prostitute... If he no longer sends his wife like that. Again, Naija factor is what makes your experience on that subject a "most" and not a "some". |
Re: Make Sure You Marry A Woman Who Makes Money by 2buffagain(m): 11:05pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
lalasticlala can we get some front page love on this thread? |
Re: Make Sure You Marry A Woman Who Makes Money by Nobody: 11:05pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
2buffagain: No. A simp is one who is subservient to women, does not understand their manipulations and puts them on a pedestal. One way of doing this is by giving in to the feminist idea of role blurring, which is what your method leads to. If she has to contribute financially, then her work is as important as yours, so you have no moral right to consider yourself as the head of the family, nor can you shirk equally being responsible for roles that are traditionally hers like child nurture and housework; this is straight out of feminism 101. Having a financially contributing wife automatically disqualifies you from any respect in marriage. Only pimps and players make money off women and they can only sustain it for a short while, and tend to use fear and addictions more often than game; also it only works on damaged women. An alpha male does not shirk responsibility; ever. He also has too much pride in his abilities to sponge off a mere female. Do you think alphas like Donald Trump, Aliko Dangote or Ned Nwoko for example squabble over who pays the home expenses with their wives? 21 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Make Sure You Marry A Woman Who Makes Money by Belafonte(m): 11:07pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
MrBrownJay1: Women who run home businesses or run businesses from home. 5 Likes |
Re: Make Sure You Marry A Woman Who Makes Money by Belafonte(m): 11:11pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
2buffagain: Isn’t that the default in crazy situations? Do conquerors not take the wives and daughters of their conquests for wives? It is what it is. The nature will always play out when push comes to shove. Even your ‘negotiation-in-the-west’ despite the woman being a SAHM is still women reverting to type and taking full advantage of the situation they find themselves. Bring same women here and they’d do no better. 3 Likes |
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