MrBrownJay1:


pls enlighten me then because majority of EMPLOYED WOMEN go to work in the morning and come back home at night....so what type of working women (that dont spend too much time outside the home) are you talking about?! what specific job are you talking about?

It disgusts me when men try to make it seem like if a woman doesn't contribute financially, then she's good as useless.

I am really concerned about the loss of sense of responsibility from men nowadays. When did it become a taboo for you to make the money yourself and let your wife run the homefront. The Asians have been doing this for years and they're not complaining, hence why the family unit is strong and their children turn out as responsible adults and contribute meaningfully to their family and society at large.

You guys make it seem like marriage is some kind of business venture.if not for anything, be a man for your children, they need a parent to look after them at least in their tender years.

Have you not seen homes were both husband and wife are financially well to do but the children are nothing to write home about.

A woman can support at times financially but you going into a relationship looking for a woman who you'll share bills with just shows the quality of a man that you are.

RisenPhoenix:


No.

A simp is one who is subservient to women, does not understand their manipulations and puts them on a pedestal. One way of doing this is by giving in to the feminist idea of role blurring, which is what your method leads to. If she has to contribute financially, then her work is as important as yours, so you have no moral right to consider yourself as the head of the family, nor can you shirk equally being responsible for roles that are traditionally hers like child nurture and housework; this is straight out of feminism 101.

Having a financially contributing wife automatically disqualifies you from any respect in marriage. Only pimps and players make money off women and they can only sustain it for a short while, and tend to use fear and addictions more often than game; also it only works on damaged women. An alpha male does not shirk responsibility; ever. He also has too much pride in his abilities to sponge off a mere female.

Then you are the type of dude who believes he shouldn't even lift a finger to wash plate or do laundry in his house.

That's you I guess.
Again, stay in Naija.

2buffagain:


Then you are the type of dude who believes he shouldn't even lift a finger to wash plate or do laundry in his house.

That's you I guess.
Again, stay in Naija.

I do home chores once in a while; but because I want to, not because I am forced to by my dependence on my wife's financial support. There is a difference. Also, I prefer to free my wife to concentrate fully on the kids'upbringing., so I pay a househelp to do the chores. I feel that the added attention that I and my kids get from a rested wife is very much worth it.

efosky1246:
It disgusts me when men try to make it seem like if a woman doesn't contribute financially, then she's good as useless.

I am really concerned about the loss of sense of responsibility from men nowadays. When did it become a taboo for you to make the money yourself and let your wife run the homefront. The Asians have been doing this for years and they're not complaining, hence why the family unit is strong and their children turn out as responsible adults and contribute meaningfully to their family and society at large.

You guys make it seem like marriage is some kind of business venture.if not for anything, be a man for your children, they need a parent to look after them at least in their tender years.

Have you not seen homes were both husband and wife are financially well to do but the children are nothing to write home about.

A woman can support at times financially but you going into a relationship looking for a woman who you'll share bills with just shows the quality of a man that you are.

as much as you are entitled to whatever desire/opinion you got on marriage... let me just confirm that, if you want your wife to be unemployed and stay home all day (caring for the house), then best get her a subscription to TELEMUNDO beforehand (as she will definitely need it)

RisenPhoenix:


No.

A simp is one who is subservient to women, does not understand their manipulations and puts them on a pedestal. One way of doing this is by giving in to the feminist idea of role blurring, which is what your method leads to. If she has to contribute financially, then her work is as important as yours, so you have no moral right to consider yourself as the head of the family, nor can you shirk equally being responsible for roles that are traditionally hers like child nurture and housework; this is straight out of feminism 101.

Having a financially contributing wife automatically disqualifies you from any respect in marriage. Only pimps and players make money off women and they can only sustain it for a short while, and tend to use fear and addictions more often than game; also it only works on damaged women. An alpha male does not shirk responsibility; ever. He also has too much pride in his abilities to sponge off a mere female. Do you think alphas like Donald Trump, Aliko Dangote or Ned Nwoko for example squabble over who pays the home expenses with their wives?

Bros abeg you deserve cold beer. I honestly don't understand men who have this stupid mentality.

Sharing bills with a woman?

Why the f*ck are you a man then.

If you want a certain lifestyle for your family, work your ass of till you achieve it, you won't die during the process.youll become a better man.

Men create their own reality and women live in it.

RisenPhoenix:


I do home chores once in a while; but because I want to, not because I am forced to by my dependence on my wife's financial support. There is a difference. Also, I prefer to free my wife to concentrate fully on the kids'upbringing., so I pay a househelp to do the chores. I feel that the added attention that I and my kids get from a rested wife is very much worth it.

You think exactly like me.

efosky1246:


Bros abeg you deserve cold beer. I honestly don't understand men who have this stupid mentality.

Sharing bills with a woman?

Why the f*ck are you a man then.

If you want a certain lifestyle for your family, work your ass of till you achieve it, you won't die during the process.youll become a better man.

Men create their own reality and women live in it.

There are women for your type, just as there are women for my type.

Stay in naija

efosky1246:


Bros abeg you deserve cold beer. I honestly don't understand men who have this stupid mentality.

Sharing bills with a woman?

Why the f*ck are you a man then.

If you want a certain lifestyle for your family, work your ass of till you achieve it, you won't die during the process.youll become a better man.

Men create their own reality and women live in it.

Men who think that way are only echoing the feminist narrative without knowing it. They are emasculating themselves while thinking that they still retain respect. It comes from misunderstanding what masculinity is all about. Any woman who marries a man must learn to live within his capability. A simp is afraid to refuse his wife's demands for a 'better' standard of living; so he takes money from her to finance that lifestyle; losing his status in the process.

...its disadvantages are more severe....

You get disrespected....

They become uncontrollable

They become stingy

The love less

You will likely consider divorce

Personally I am all for female emancipation and women having jobs/not depending on some guy totally but topics like this are not for the average Nigerian man who believes he should be taken as a demi god by his wife.
You can't have a wife paying rent and buying food to feed her husband and and paying other bills and then her husband wants to exercise TOTAL control over her and the household in spite of her financial and domestic contributions.

That's why Nigerian women avoid men who want them to contribute financially.
Another thing is, after marriage the same man expecting his wife to split bills will expect her to be primarily responsible for housechores and be completely submissive and obedient to him. It doesnt work that way. If a woman starts feeding you or paying your bills you no longer have complete authority over her.
And it becomes imperative that you as the husband also take up housechores like cooking and cleaning and child care.

An average egotistical Nigerian man will not want to do all this.

Some of you speak like ALL the married women you work with in your offices are in broken marriages.
Y'all be some clowns.

The fact is, women have been working and contributing to the financials of the home unit long before this feminism thing some of you keep blaming.

I guess if you believe something hard enough, it becomes your reality.
Hence all this "If she makes money, she will eventually grow horns and become the devil" madness.

RisenPhoenix:


Men who think that way are only echoing the feminist narrative without knowing it. They are emasculating themselves while thinking that they still retain respect. It comes from misunderstanding what masculinity is all about. Any woman who marries a man must learn to live within his capability. A simp is afraid to refuse his wife's demands for a 'better' standard of living; so he takes money from her to finance that lifestyle; losing his status in the process.

My brother you are literally taking the words right from my mouth.
If you are a man that makes less than 100k, get a woman that is very comfortable with your ability to provide in that capacity. If you earn more, get a woman that is fine with your capacity. Stop depending on a woman to create your reality. Oh ye woke men. That way you eliminate 70% of potential issues that might spring up later

efosky1246:


You think exactly like me.

Do u know how many marriages break up cuz of washing machines....?

You guys get married and all loved up....you don't want to stress her washing your clothe so you buy the machine....

After 2years machine spoils nd your not financially ready for immediate replace...sh washes your clothe...the next sh washes them also but ask about your plans for the machine

The next time,sh washes them,but grudgingly..nd ur pissed off..you get angry cuz you just realized your wife is already putting of resistance to wash your clothes except their is machine as against your numerous friends wives...

You now want to assert authority and insist you won't buy it...nd one day sh wouldn't wash it nd tell u sh is tired nd quarell with you directly ant it....your confused nd breathless...

Sh continues her resistance nd you wash it your self thinking it will touch her....sh continues to ignore you nd your now 40 washing your clothe all by yourself cuz of I want to make life easier lovey lovey....

My own is stay strong in what you want in a lady...a resourcfull lady hardly respects a man!!!!

CHoccolaTE:
Personally I am all for female emancipation and women having jobs/not depending on some guy totally but topics like this are not for the average Nigerian man who believes he should be taken as a demi god by his wife.
You can't have a wife paying rent and buying food to feed her husband and and paying other bills and then her husband wants to exercise TOTAL control over her and the household in spite of her financial and domestic contributions.

That's why Nigerian women avoid men who want them to contribute financially.
Another thing is, after marriage the same man expecting his wife to split bills will expect her to be primarily responsible for housechores and be completely submissive and obedient to him. It doesnt work that way. If a woman starts feeding you or paying your bills you no longer have complete authority over her.
And it becomes imperative that you as the husband also take up housechores like cooking and cleaning and child care.

An average egotistical Nigerian man will not want to all this.

Nigerians in general tend to believe in autocracies and theocracies...not democracies.

This bleeds into everything they do.

efosky1246:


My brother you are literally taking the words right from my mouth.
If you are a man that makes less than 100k, get a woman that is very comfortable with your ability to provide in that capacity. If you earn more, get a woman that is fine with your capacity. Stop depending on a woman to create your reality. Oh ye woke men. That way you eliminate 70% of potential issues that might spring up later

You talk like half experience but half old skl person...

You married a woman cuz of pride you can't ask her for help on something you want to achieve so they can hail you as a good man....nonsense! And if u continue that way stroke will kill u by 34years old...

You wife shod b ur best friend,you guys shod want each others progress..anything short of that... Ur suffering and slaving in disguise of marriage

2buffagain:


Nigerians in general tend to believe in autocracies and theocracies...not democracies.

This bleeds into everything they do.

And where has a form of democracy been proven to work in a family unit. The nation's adopting this new system of running a family generally record higher divorce rate. So maybe we should stick to what works and not what is shouted on social media.

2buffagain:
Some of you speak like ALL the married women you work with in your offices are in broken marriages.

They may not be in broken marriages, but the men are not happy, not respected; in short; not men. And the children are often neglected. Plus divorce rates are through the roof and extra marital affairs are probably at an all time high.

2buffagain:

Y'all be some clowns.

Petty.

2buffagain:

The fact is, women have been working and contributing to the financials of the home unit long before this feminism thing some of you keep blaming.

True, but only recently has it been made mandatory on them. Originally, they would contribute when they wanted to but no one blamed them if they didn't. No self respecting man would at that time, advice another to ensure that 'a woman was making income' before he married her. Now, women are shamed for wanting to be housewives or for rejecting a career lifestyle... and yes, that attitude is actually a feminist creation.

2buffagain:

I guess if you believe something hard enough, it becomes your reality.

Yes. Like equating sponging off your wife with being alpha.

2buffagain:

Hence all this "If she makes money, she will eventually grow horns and become the devil" madness.

No she may not be a devil. But it is still unnatural and emasculating to have to send your wife out into the clutches of other men just to support an unnatural lifestyle that you are too lazy to hustle for yourself. Ask the average lady how many solicitations she gets from men she finds attractive on an average day, and ask yourself how well an average woman would be able to hold out against every single one of them; day in day out for decades; especially when she has been shackled by the inability to cause offence by the financial burdens you imposed on her.
Of course, some men are accepting of being cuckolds and would rather hide their heads in the sand when faced with their wives' infidelities; being too weak to complain about it.

bigpicture001:


You talk like half experience but half old skl person...

You married a woman cuz of pride you can't ask her for help on something you want to achieve so they can hail you as a good man....nonsense! And if u continue that way stroke will kill u by 34years old...

You wife shod b ur best friend,you guys shod want each others progress..anything short of that... Ur suffering and slaving in disguise of marriage

Assuming your responsibility as a man is what is slavery for you right?

Well it's not for me, I love to take care of those I love to the best of my ability. And I would not laud that over my wife because I understand that her role in the family is equally important. Please tell me how this is suffering.

And sorry, I won't be dying from too much responsibility anytime soon cause am not even 22 and I make close to 500k monthly.

Even at that, women are not my priority because I know where am headed. I know the kind of life I want, and am creating it myself, My woman will help me raise children to continue my legacy. Not share bills.

RisenPhoenix:


They may not be in broken marriages, but the men are not happy, not respected; in short; not men. And the children are often neglected. Plus divorce rates are through the roof and extra marital affairs are probably at an all time high.



Petty.



True, but only recently has it been made mandatory on them. Originally, they would contribute when they wanted to but no one blamed them if they didn't. No self respecting man would at that time, advice another to ensure that 'a woman was making income' before he married her. Now, women are shamed for wanting to be housewives or for rejecting a career lifestyle... and yes, that attitude is actually a feminist creation.



Yes. Like equating sponging off your wife with being alpha.



No she may not be a devil. But it is still unnatural and emasculating to have to send your wife out into the clutches of other men just to support an unnatural lifestyle that you are too lazy to hustle for yourself. Ask the average lady how many solicitations she gets from men she finds attractive on an average day, and ask yourself how well an average woman would be able to hold out against every single one of them; day in day out for decades; especially when she has been shackled by the inability to cause offence by the financial burdens you imposed on her.
Of course, some men are accepting of being cuckolds and would rather hide their heads in the sand when faced with their wives' infidelities; being too weak to complain about it.

Old man ...
A working wife who cheats will be teated just like a jobless wife who cheats.

I don't know what kind of men you have in mind when you write these, but clearly you have an incomplete view of your own gender.
Talkless of the female one.

RisenPhoenix:


No.

A simp is one who is subservient to women, does not understand their manipulations and puts them on a pedestal. One way of doing this is by giving in to the feminist idea of role blurring, which is what your method leads to. If she has to contribute financially, then her work is as important as yours, so you have no moral right to consider yourself as the head of the family, nor can you shirk equally being responsible for roles that are traditionally hers like child nurture and housework; this is straight out of feminism 101.

Having a financially contributing wife automatically disqualifies you from any respect in marriage. Only pimps and players make money off women and they can only sustain it for a short while, and tend to use fear and addictions more often than game; also it only works on damaged women. An alpha male does not shirk responsibility; ever. He also has too much pride in his abilities to sponge off a mere female. Do you think alphas like Donald Trump, Aliko Dangote or Ned Nwoko for example squabble over who pays the home expenses with their wives?

you are a great guy my man,nigerian men are becoming disgustingly weak,i see black america happening in nigeria soon,with lots of powerful educated successful women with weak,lazy criminally minded men who will be mere baby seaters for their wives

efosky1246:


Assuming your responsibility as a man is what is slavery for you right?

Well it's not for me, I love to take care of those I love to the best of my ability. And I would not laud that over my wife because I understand that her role in the family is equally important. Please tell me how this is suffering.

And sorry, I won't be dying from too much responsibility anytime soon cause am not even 22 and I make close to 500k monthly.

Even at that, women are not my priority because I know where am headed. I know the kind of life I want, and am creating it myself, My woman will help me raise children to continue my legacy. Not share bills.

I will keep mute cuz of your age.....u will understand that with age cums better understanding of life

babasolution:
you are a great guy my man,nigerian men are becoming disgustingly weak,i see black america happening in nigeria soon,with lots of powerful educated successful women with weak,lazy criminally minded men who will be mere baby seaters for their wives

Already happening. And the thing is, they don't even know it and don't want to hear it.

Uyi168:
...
U are a bigger disgrace if this is the only thing u could make from his post...

All these pained beggars.


These are trying times so I'll be benevolent and let you go.

RisenPhoenix:


Men who think that way are only echoing the feminist narrative without knowing it. They are emasculating themselves while thinking that they still retain respect. It comes from misunderstanding what masculinity is all about. Any woman who marries a man must learn to live within his capability. A simp is afraid to refuse his wife's demands for a 'better' standard of living; so he takes money from her to finance that lifestyle; losing his status in the process.

RisenPhoenix, although we may not see eye to eye, what did you eat Biko that is making you drop words of wisdom for these men up.and down. I want some too.

funmisticqueen2:
RisenPhoenix, although we may not see eye to eye, what did you eat Biko that is making you drop words of wisdom for these men up.and down. I want some too.

Lol. Too late. You have to start eating it very early.

Keep up your strength sis, the fight is just up ahead. My sister and her hubby are medical officers in the UK and what they are going through these days is just not funny. Stay safe and strong.

Oh and don't hoard all the ventilators for the women and leave the men to suffer when shit happens. We are watching.

RisenPhoenix:


Lol. Too late. You have to start eating it very early.

Keep up your strength sis, the fight is just up ahead. My sister and her hubby are medical officers in the UK and what they are going through these days is just not funny. Stay safe and strong.

Oh and don't hoard all the ventilators for the women and leave the men to suffer when shit happens. We are watching.

Lol, the ventilators go to who needs it most. If we have enough.

Thanks though.

Really?

True talk oooooo

Very critical

Marry a woman who is comfortable spending her own money and not expecting you to foot all bills. Some have money or work but will never use it for u or family

a woman who makes her own money is an added advantage

I like men who are pushy and discipline
Goal getters(this kind of man will push you to achieve success. Not dream killers in the name of marriage

Men who have modern brains and not men who are backward.

Someone who is smarter than me