Your argument does not align with the 21st century realities

CanadaOrBust:


So what u want is a girl with solid character who can weather any storm with u and without u, even if they don’t have much at the moment. The important thing is the character. That job may be gone tomorrow. She could be sleeping around but with good money/job. She may want nothing to do with home but always all about business and money-making. U sure that’s what u want? So u see the answer is not so simple. What has worked through the ages is: the man goes out to bring and they MANAGE whatever he brings, while the woman takes care of the home! Nothing prevents her from doing small time jobs or biz. Once the children are grown she can then go big time

CanadaOrBust:


So what u want is a girl with solid character who can weather any storm with u and without u, even if they don’t have much at the moment. The important thing is the character. That job may be gone tomorrow. She could be sleeping around but with good money/job. She may want nothing to do with home but always all about business and money-making. U sure that’s what u want? So u see the answer is not so simple. What has worked through the ages is: the man goes out to bring and they MANAGE whatever he brings, while the woman takes care of the home! Nothing prevents her from doing small time jobs or biz. Once the children are grown she can then go big time

Funny mentality filled with insecurities! So women shouldn't aspire to greater heights abi? For your information, women are ruling this world already, so shove your insecurities! In developed countries it is calculated as combined household income. Go and marry a woman who lives on minimum wage jobs, and watch how your quality of life will steadily decline! Maybe you should do a research around many top enterprises and see how many women are occupying top board positions! For your information, the CEO of transcorp is a woman yet she still strikes a balance between family turf and work. Find a woman who is career oriented and can strike a good balance between her home and her work!

MrBrownJay1:
IMHO i dont think her income has anything to do with finding a right mate, and instead this should be primarily about the MINDSET of that person. a job is just a tool to "help" you guys have a better life, it aint a necessary foundation to assure anyone of a great union. yes , a lot of women out there are LIABILITIES, but having a job does not solve this issue. there are a lot of LIABILITIES out there that have jobs.

the important question Is: whats important for your family?! a wife with a job (that she could lose a week after wedding) OR a wife with good character (that she can never lose)?! there is a huge difference between a mentally/emotionally broke woman AND a woman who is currently unemployed.

Bros, you have said it all... nice one!!!

Op you are right to some extent. In my option, it depends on what you want as a man. Different strokes for different fokes.

This is one of the reasons I am yet to marry. Although, I can pay my bbills to some extent but I don't have enough to sustain two people. When my people asked what's delaying maybe the guy I snapped at them o. I told them have asked if your girl is independent enough to shoulder a family incase of any eventually. Following their path would be tragic for me cos I know what is like.
My mom single-handedly raise my sibling and I to university and I wont settle for less. She's my role model!

This topic is shit as far I m concern

Who else notice that ladies don't comment on this topic.those species are unpredictable.

When you seek to alter the natural
order of responsibility, then you should
also share your leadership position since
you have decided to sell your birthright
for the earnings of a woman.

You shouldn't also question her movement
so much since you are all hustling to
bring home the bacon.

Kitchen, house cleaning, cooking etc
must be shared & timetable made for
both of you.

The woman's official name will be her
Name, Surname, then your own name.

By the time she starts earning more than
you, I think you should start answering
her maiden name, since you decided to
enter a financial partnership, not a marriage
of love.

Leave a woman's earnings alone; if she
is reasonable & getting good love &
banging, she will give you everything she
makes . Don't make it a condition for
marriage..



I suspect you are stingy by nature &
have longathroat for other people's things.
It is an early symptom of underlying
wizardry or witchcraft.


Park well.

2buffagain:
Gentlemen. The reality of living in the 20th century has changed, and so must every notion formed from previous days that no longer hold weight today.

Women are not the only ones who should be asking what you do.
You should also be asking her what she does....and guaging her wifeability from her response.
Nobody likes to suffer...yourself included. So why sign up for a lifetime of every financial request of your immediate family (and possibly both your extended families ) coming to just you alone?

Gone are the days where families survived on one income alone. Those days, houses in Nigeria used to cost #5M or less. These same houses now cost well over #30M.

I can bet your income did not also inflate 6x over the same time.

The reality is that you need a wife who also brings something home, and honestly it should hopefully be around the same (or more God willing) of what you pull in.

This way one person's income can cover the family stuff and the other person's income goes towardssavings/investments/emergencies/joblessness buffering/ etc. Your family will go farther and you can even both retire earlier if this is done right.

Also Naija guys please, have some respect for yourself.
If you meet a girl and she has the mental configuration of always wanting money from you, just know that she is not the one.

As a sister here once said, "A girl who truly likes you, won't ask you for money...unless it's bad and you are her last resort."
Na woman talk am. Believe that sister. Peep that one game from her, and most of you will be alright.

If a girl really likes you, she'll be too busy trying to think of ways to be an asset to your life or impress you...not a taker.

Get you a girl who makes her money with a good source of income and who understands that her income is to be included in plans.

You have been told.
You should be done with your broke girl phase right about now ^{(much like how women should be done with their bad boy stage).}
It does nothing for your life.

NOTE: I am not saying go and marry an idiot because she makes money.... Obviously.
You are still looking for a good wife, who just ALSO happens to be equipped with income and/or good income prospects and drive.

Sensible post

Some women are not supportive even though they are making money

AfroKnight:
You deserve chilled beer!


Men should stop settling for less.

Nna collect!

Kai Nna! Mortuary standard!!

efosky1246:


It disgusts me when men try to make it seem like if a woman doesn't contribute financially, then she's good as useless.

I am really concerned about the loss of sense of responsibility from men nowadays. When did it become a taboo for you to make the money yourself and let your wife run the homefront. The Asians have been doing this for years and they're not complaining, hence why the family unit is strong and their children turn out as responsible adults and contribute meaningfully to their family and society at large.

You guys make it seem like marriage is some kind of business venture.if not for anything, be a man for your children, they need a parent to look after them at least in their tender years.

Have you not seen homes were both husband and wife are financially well to do but the children are nothing to write home about.

A woman can support at times financially but you going into a relationship looking for a woman who you'll share bills with just shows the quality of a man that you are.

Exactly.

You're referring to the traditional settings, which in my view, makes sense and should be the archetype of a healthy home, as it has always been. Although, the idea that women also have to contribute financially stems from the progressive method of relationship, where women wanted equality in everywhere it favours them, but somehow, still wants to retain privileges associated with the traditional settings.

The OP is referring to the modern "progressive" method of relationship which in my view, makes logical sense, but when put under scrutiny, is worse and actually attack the balancing of a healthy home, such as expose the kids to outside negative influences because both parents are out there hustling.

A wife that possess a good moral behavior is better than the one that makes money

D fact is there is no perfect principle to making a union

I can make all the money we need. Just keep the ass for me alone for banging.i repeat,I will make all the raba for us.

Naomila:
Well.obviously...but some guys prefer their women to be housewives..its an individual choice if you want your wife to have money of her own or not.I'd like to have my own money though

Dear that was in the olden days and not now!

Alvin212:
Those of us who prefer them young and untouched,

Is it possible for a 19-year-old girl to already be making money in Nigeria.




I no go fit marry a girl above 21 years

Why? Isn't that their "hôe" phase

MrBrownJay1:
IMHO I don't think her income has anything to do with finding a right mate, and instead, this should be primarily about the MINDSET of that person. a job is just a tool to "help" you guys have a better life, it ain't a necessary foundation to assure anyone of a great union. yes, a lot of women out there are LIABILITIES, but having a job does not solve this issue. there are a lot of LIABILITIES out there that have jobs.

the important question Is: what's important for your family?! a wife with a job (that she could lose a week after the wedding) OR a wife with good character (that she can never lose)?! there is a huge difference between a mentally/emotionally broke woman AND a woman who is currently unemployed.

A woman of virtue will always have sth to offer apart from being a good cook and sex-machine.
Don't isolate the issue. Many marriages are in shambles because of non- ambidextrous of either of the couple. (Man or woman)
....to be continue

AirstarKane:
This is one of the reasons I am yet to marry. Although, I can pay my bbills to some extent but I don't have enough to sustain two people. When my people asked what's delaying maybe the guy I snapped at them o. I told them have asked if your girl is independent enough to shoulder a family incase of any eventually. Following their path would be tragic for me cos I know what is like.
My mom single-handedly raise my sibling and I to university and I wont settle for less. She's my role model!

Is that a good thing?

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vital94:
Who else notice that ladies don't comment on this topic.those species are unpredictable. P

Lolzz.is it now you realized? Those species, 90%...all they do is post and view pictures

Bbbwings:

40k will get you a washing machine

You didnt read the illustration....did it in any way say the man didnt buy a washing machine..?

Naomila:

You'd be surprised, especially African guys.
Haven't you seen some guys on NL saying if you date an independent woman you're on your own and youd never be able to control her.Those are the type that would like housewives, probably so they can control em.lol

When they gt chocked up financially , they will expect you to help.or else they start putting up some I'll behaviour

I pity women

Nice write up.

I hope while she is also bringing in the money, you're also pulling your weight with childcare and house chores.
It will be wicked of you to expect her to come back home from work everyday, and start cooking, washing and doing all sorts.
If you want things to work out well, get ready to also pick your kids from school, do homework, look after them while mum is at work on days you're free.
You should also be ready to get dinner ready for your wife on certain days of the week, and handle the washing when it's your turn.

That been said, I am all for women working and getting to the height of their endeavours. I believe real empowerment comes when you're able to take care of the financial needs of yourself and family. You learn to appreciate every dime, and you actually plan well around money.
Marriage is always teamwork anyway.

Also avoid women from struggling homes even if they earn...cos it's as good as no job cos everything she earns will go bk to her family while u still earn for her and her family

franchasng:
In today world, only broke men marry broke, unemployed ladies without any sellable skill or profession


If you want a financially valuable lady as wife, then hustle to become financially buoyant if not na broke, chewing gum girls and ladies who love calling guys broke will be your only option oh lol.


If you want to marry a valuable lady as your wife, then just forget about marrying ladies below 27yrs because in Nigeria, ladies start having sense from 25yrs and then start becoming financially valuable from the age of 27yrs and above.


You cannot be looking for an instagram slay queen of 22 or 24yrs to marry and still expect to marry a financially valuable lady, it does not work that way.


Stop chasing instagram slay queens and all those bimbo whose only quality to offer to a man is their big nyash and big boobs

If you are a single guy reading this, no matter how rich you may think you are, please don't marry broke, unemployed lady with no sellable skill or sellable profession, it is a recipe for disaster. Marry wisely, marry with your brains just as ladies do.

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Alvin212:
Those of us who prefer them young and untouched,

Is it possible for a 19-year-old girl to already be making money in Nigeria.




I no go fit marry a girl above 21 years

That depends on your choice boy.
For every choice has its advantages and disadvantages, like wise the other.

Even If you marry her at 12 years, she can never remain 12years all the days of her life.
Here we are talking of men/ women who are potentially productive, resourceful

Alvin212:




What of

Ned Nwoko and Regina

You can marry a broke woman as your 2nd or 3rd wife, but your first wife should not be broke, unemployable, no sellable skill, no sellable profession, if you wish to go far in life today as a man

Very good points, but marriage is still a scam.