quentin06:
sounds like lazy men thread, its good fie your wives to chip in, but marrying a woman just because of her money should not be the ultimate goal in a man s life.

I hate gold diggers and detest loafers disguised as would be husbands.

And I also hate gold diggers and lazy wives who contribute absolutely NOTHING and use househelps to do their chores you silly Puta!

@RisenPhoenix everything you've said on this thread is beyond shocking - especially coming from you! Majority of our women employ the use of househelps (with their husband's money) so please explain to me, what the fvck do Nigerian women bring to the table?

I just think that a woman who depends on a man for survival is a kind of slavery.Some men like playing daddy figures to their wives but end up holding a grauge against them in the later years.The complain that she has contributed nothing financialy to their union.But is marriage compulsory.I don't think so.But earning a living is.

Belafonte:


In this age of ‘equality’, would any woman marry a man who ticks all the right boxes but not the financial one?

In my opinion, marriage in today’s world is severely overrated. Overcalculation squeezes the fun out of any venture.

Well said

emmanuelewumi:

Are you sure Okonji Iweala, Folorunso Alakija, Ibukun Awosika chairperson of First Bank will not naturally play a major role in the home front.

They might, they might not; such women do not marry men who are unable to take care of the home front without help from them. Women typically marry up financially, not down. Their marriages are also hardly the kind of marriage most people aspire to.

emmanuelewumi:

The most important thing is the character of the person we are getting married to.

No matter her character, no woman will truly respect a man who cannot fully provide for her. Though some women try to conceal the contempt for their dependent husbands out of fear of societal disapproval, it is a natural ingrained feeling. That is why you see women feeling contempt for their old, non productive husbands and transferring their 'love' to their productive sons and daughters who now provide for them.

emmanuelewumi:

Some men will frustrate the career and business growth of their wives because they believed she might be richer than them.

I am not against women working or making money; even becoming wealthier than their husbands. My premise is that the ultimate financial responsibility of the home should always remain the husband's. The woman should be satisfied with that which her husband can provide comfortably; and the husband should not force her to give him out of her money to maintain the family in a standard that he cannot sustain singlehandedly. That is what I am against.

Poorboy:
Grow up, from ur write-up you're a very small boy.

Oshey, elder that is still a 'poorboy'. Continue looking for a woman that will babysit you . That is why the rate of divorce is so high.

sweetrace:


How do you know she has nothing to do? If you’re not enlightened enough to know that a lot of people work from home and earn good money, then you’ll keep shouting prostitute up and down. Anyway, a man who goes about accusing women he has no personal knowledge of of prostitution is either jobless, illiterate or both. Definitely uncouth.

Then the argument here is make sure you marry a woman that makes money fool.

You are talking about a working class lady so there's no argument about that.

Let me add further if you stay with a man or have a man that takes care of your needs in which inturn sleeps with you, you're on prostitution.

Genset:





Oshey, elder that is still a 'poorboy'. Continue looking for a woman that will babysit you . That is why the rate of divorce is so high.

I had your mentality many years ago, but you will soon outgrown it.
Save this post for future reference.

efosky1246:


Bros abeg you deserve cold beer. I honestly don't understand men who have this stupid mentality.

Sharing bills with a woman?

Why the f*ck are you a man then.

If you want a certain lifestyle for your family, work your ass of till you achieve it, you won't die during the process.youll become a better man.

Men create their own reality and women live in it.

Interesting point of view

RisenPhoenix:


They might, they might not; such women do not marry men who are unable to take care of the home front without help from them. Women typically marry up financially, not down. Their marriages are also hardly the kind of marriage most people aspire to.



No matter her character, no woman will truly respect a man who cannot fully provide for her. Though some women try to conceal the contempt for their dependent husbands out of fear of societal disapproval, it is a natural ingrained feeling. That is why you see women feeling contempt for their old, non productive husbands and transferring their 'love' to their productive sons and daughters who now provide for them.



I am not against women working or making money; even becoming wealthier than their husbands. My premise is that the ultimate financial responsibility of the home should always remain the husband's. The woman should be satisfied with that which her husband can provide comfortably; and the husband should not force her to give him out of her money to maintain the family in a standard that he cannot sustain singlehandedly. That is what I am against.

Disgusting! Absolutely disgusting way of thinking.
It's like this quarantine period has affected your brain. You gon learn one day

AfroKnight:
You deserve chilled beer!


Men should stop settling for less.

Nna collect!

Idiots don't understand what less is, once she's beautiful and has big front and back, she's the highest; whether she makes money or not.

quentin06:
sounds like lazy men thread, its good fie your wives to chip in, but marrying a woman just because of her money should not be the ultimate goal in a man s life.

I hate gold diggers and detest loafers disguised as would be husbands.

U seriously sound AFFECTED.
why not channel your ENERGY towards fixing your Family...?
Who wants to bear the BURDEN of others.. especially this time around..?

bigpicture001:
...its disadvantages are more severe....

You get disrespected....

They become uncontrollable

They become stingy

The love less

You will likely consider divorce

It depends anyways

If you are dealing with igbo women

8 out of 10
This will be the reality

I know my sisters very well

Poorboy:

Then the argument here is make sure you marry a woman that makes money fool.

You are talking about a working class lady so there no argument about that.

Let me add further if you stay with a man or have a man that takes care of your needs in which inturn sleeps with you, you're on prostitution.

'On prostitution' ke?. I will rather be involved in this type of prostitution that have a shameless man leech on me.

Poorboy:
I had your mentality many years ago, but you will soon outgrown it.
Save this post for future reference.

Hope u re sha drop-dead gorgeous? Because no rich woman will marry an ugly poorboy

Alvin212:
Those of us who prefer them young and untouched,

Is it possible for a 19-year-old girl to already be making money in Nigeria.




I no go fit marry a girl above 21 years

Another interesting point of view.

At least this is not child abuse

2buffagain:


1) Is she in school? What course is she in? If she is not in school what is she doing or aiming at? Basically analyze her for potential as she no doubt did you.

2) Eww. Why would I want a house wife?
I would rather she apply herself to other things besides only just child rearing, be it business or an actual career. Keeps her interesting and realistic. We should both be able to come back home and trade stories of our victories and learn from each other, as opposed to just "guess what, Junior pooped on me today".

My wife will be a full time 100% housewife... if she's okay with that.

I don't need her for her money for whatsoever reason at all, so why would I even bother if she's making some money or not?

Thank God for all these work at home opportunities.

She can pick anyone that interests her... again, if she's okay with that.

Genset:




'On prostitution' ke?. I will rather be involved in this type of prostitution that have a shameless man leech on me.

look at this fool of a person that doesn't know the direction of his life talking when experience men are making contributions.

From your write-up you will be a fool forever.

quite author=RisenPhoenix post=87959564]

They might, they might not; such women do not marry men who are unable to take care of the home front without help from them. Women typically marry up financially, not down. Their marriages are also hardly the kind of marriage most people aspire to.



No matter her character, no woman will truly respect a man who cannot fully provide for her. Though some women try to conceal the contempt for their dependent husbands out of fear of societal disapproval, it is a natural ingrained feeling. That is why you see women feeling contempt for their old, non productive husbands and transferring their 'love' to their productive sons and daughters who now provide for them.



I am not against women working or making money; even becoming wealthier than their husbands. My premise is that the ultimate financial responsibility of the home should always remain the husband's. The woman should be satisfied with that which her husband can provide comfortably; and the husband should not force her to give him out of her money to maintain the family in a standard that he cannot sustain singlehandedly. That is what I am against.[/quote]



But those women are richer than their husbands, that is life. Some start life as the husband been the sole provider before events change.

Do you know the reason why a number of Nigerian men kill their financially stable wives in the US. In the beginning, their wives were fully dependent on them. Such women took nursing courses which were financed by the husbands. The husband's never needed the voluntary support of their
wives in the home front.
While the man is labouring to keep on being the sole provider, the woman is investing having hundreds of thousands or millions of dollars, while the husband is in debts and a pay cheque away from bankruptcy.

When such men realize how financially fortified their wives are, jealousy comes in. Some will now plan to kill their wives in order to inherit such investments. Unfortunately most of such men imported their wives from villages in Nigeria thinking they will be different from the Akatas. That is why character, attitude and fear of God are very important.

We also have women do not have anything that still treat their husbands with comtept and disrespect.

True talk

Genset:





Hope u re sha drop-dead gorgeous? Because no rich woman will marry an ugly poorboy

you see his mentality, very low and not worth living in the same space with sane humans.

genq:

@RisenPhoenix everything you've said on this thread is beyond shocking - especially coming from you! Majority of our women employ the use of househelps (with their husband's money) so please explain to me, what the fvck do Nigerian women bring to the table?

You feel that women can only contribute by bringing money into a marriage? That is not my view. Much more important than washing your dirty dishes, paying half the rent or paying a third of the school fees, is what women contribute by making the home emotionally conducive for the rest of the family, providing a base of rest and comfort from which the husband goes out to fight in the rat race every morning, and nurturing the bodies and minds of the progeny. That is their primary and only duty. Do not underestimate that contribution, it is very important to society. In fact, the neglect by women of this primary duty is what gave rise to the sick society we have today, with rebellious children, stressed husbands and criminal behaviour everywhere. Anything that helps them in that duty; like getting a househelp to take away the less important functions; should be enhanced and encouraged. Would Boeing waste their chief engineer's time by asking him to count bolts and nuts in the store?

The only problem is that women are failing in their primary duty because they are not encouraged to perform it. Rather, weak and lazy men try to get their wives to do the men's duty instead of theirs, and men judge them on that basis. Witness the op.

franchasng:
In today world, only broke men marry broke, unemployed ladies without any sellable skill or profession


If you want a financially valuable lady as wife, then hustle to become financially buoyant if not na broke, chewing gum girls and ladies who love calling guys broke will be your only option oh lol.


If you want to marry a valuable lady as your wife, then just forget about marrying ladies below 27yrs because in Nigeria, ladies start having sense from 25yrs and then start becoming financially valuable from the age of 27yrs and above.


You cannot be looking for an instagram slay queen of 22 or 24yrs to marry and still expect to marry a financially valuable lady, it does not work that way.


Stop chasing instagram slay queens and all those bimbo whose only quality to offer to a man is their big nyash and big boobs

If you are a single guy reading this, no matter how rich you may think you are, please don't marry broke, unemployed lady with no sellable skill or sellable profession, it is a recipe for disaster. Marry wisely, marry with your brains just as ladies do.

As usual
I'm impressed with your comment

When you see a mans comment
You know
Not some still growing up.

Let me add this

For all young men out there

What you should be looking out for principally is PRUDENCE in a woman


Regardless of a woman's income
A woman who is NOT PRUDENT is a BIG liability to your life

And if you are not prudent yourself

Sorry be two of una name

We can also assist them by selecting and investing in profitable business.

bluefilm:


My wife will be a full time 100% housewife... if she's okay with that.

I don't need her for her money for whatsoever reason at all, so why would I even bother if she's making some money or not?

Thank God for all these work at home opportunities.

She can pick anyone that interests her... again, if she's okay with that.

Bluefilm clap hand for yourself

RisenPhoenix:


You feel that women can only contribute by bringing money into a marriage? That is not my view. Much more important than washing your dirty dishes, paying half the rent or paying a third of the school fees, is what women contribute by making the home emotionally conducive for the rest of the family, providing a base of rest and comfort from which the husband goes out to fight in the rat race every morning, and nurturing the bodies and minds of the progeny. That is their primary and only duty. Do not underestimate that contribution, it is very important to society. In fact, the neglect by women of this primary duty is what gave rise to the sick society we have today, with rebellious children, stressed husbands and criminal behaviour everywhere. Anything that helps them in that duty; like getting a househelp to take away the less important functions; should be enhanced and encouraged. Would Boeing waste their chief engineer's time by asking him to count bolts and nuts in the store?

The only problem is that women are failing in their primary duty because they are not encouraged to perform it. Rather, weak and lazy men try to get their wives to do the men's duty instead of theirs, and men judge them on that basis. Witness the op.

God bless you sir for your words of wisdom. Men like the o.p are the realities of men we have in this age .

2buffagain:


1) Is she in school? What course is she in? If she is not in school what is she doing or aiming at? Basically analyze her for potential as she no doubt did you.

2) Eww. Why would I want a house wife?
I would rather she apply herself to other things besides only just child rearing, be it business or an actual career. Keeps her interesting and realistic. We should both be able to come back home and trade stories of our victories and learn from each other, as opposed to just "guess what, Junior pooped on me today".

That can happen for a time, but that cannot be her entire life plan.

Reason is that will become a problem when that child grows up and no longer need her or leaves the house, like they are supposed to. What next for her? She has done nothing else over the years. She used that child as an excuse to not engage her mind in other things.

Also you hardly hear men being honest about this, but There are a lot of men who would end up disrespecting her because she is fully dependent on him for everything. This typically begins after his first financial strain.

This is the point where she starts feeling useless and starts looking for funny ways to find relevance for herself. I would rather spare my wife from that psychological turmoil.

Wifey will understand that, as much as we love our children, they must leave the nest. Her life must continue after they do, so she can't afford to make it all about the children. Even so, God forbid but if something were to happen to him, would it not be better that the woman actually has the capability to keep that family going? Instead of everything going to hell. She would then not even be able to provide for the children who she has made her whole life about.

That aside, nobody is trying to have that many children in this day and age. 2 is fine. _{I can be persuaded to 3, but she would have to convince me hard to get that high.}

Very well said, some guys be looking for excuse to cover their insecurities. Tx for saying it as it is

bluefilm:


My wife will be a full time 100% housewife... if she's okay with that.

I don't need her for her money for whatsoever reason at all, so why would I even bother if she's making some money or not?

Thank God for all these work at home opportunities.

She can pick anyone that interests her... again, if she's okay with that.

God bless you sir. I have hope that there are still reasonable men like u out there.

Poorboy:
Bluefilm clap hand for yourself

Do you accept that people are different?

Do you accept that you and I mustn't hold the same opinion?

Do you accept the fact that what works for my MIGHT never work for me, and vice versa?

I repeat, I don't need any money from my wife.

My money is sufficient for us!!!

But then, I will make sure that my wife acquires lots and lots of useful skills that will make her to be beneficial to herself, our kids and the larger society.

Poorboy:
look at this fool of a person that doesn't know the direction of his life talking when experience men are making contributions.

From your write-up you will be a fool forever.

why bother replying a boy still being fed by parents. Can't you see he is not in touch with the realities of life in this 21st Century?

Poorboy:
look at this fool of a person that doesn't know the direction of his life talking when experience men are making contributions.

From your write-up you will be a fool forever.

Oga experience men . It is experienced men not experience men . From all indications, u re an illiterate . No wonder u need a rich woman since u wont be able to put food on the table with your bad English

Alright.