I met my girlfriend about 2yrs ago and we've been doing pretty fine. Before we met, she was in an abusive relationship and she had to quit.

In trying to understand ourselves, we've had to agree and disagree on some things, which I believe is normal. I love her and she loves me too.

I won't say I have the cash, but I'm always there to support her when she has a very pressing issue. Aside that, I take her out, we go shopping, and lots more...

She is this type of lady that if you try to correct her (in a very respectful manner) she will just get angry and may not even talk to you for even 2 days. Anger is a big part of her life. I respect her a lot and have never used abusive words on her.

When we just met, she was kind. She hardly comes to see me without buying something, even if it's N50 corn...a gesture that I appreciate so much. About a year into the relationship, her character changed. She became somewhat stingy. But I didn't take it to mean anything because I hate to even depend on anybody for anything. It didn't stop me from supporting her and doing the much I can for her.

She doesn't ever allow me touch her phone. What she does now is that whenever I'm to see and spend time with her, she turns off her data. She rejects some calls when we are together. As someone who wants peace at all times, I've sat her down to tell her my observations and ask what the matter was. But she told me nothing was the matter.

So, I decided to buy a new SIM card. I started chatting her as a stranger. She chats with me (the stranger) till even 2am. She has opened up everything about herself to the stranger. Her name, where she's from, what she does, where she lives and lots more. I'm just wondering why someone who just chatted you today is already getting to know everything about you.

Now to the reason I opened this thread: she told the stranger guy that she isn't in any relationship. Though, she added that she just met a Guy last week through her friend and they are both trying to work things out. She even sent the picture of the new guy to this stranger.

I'm still wondering why she will do a thing like that. I'm not in her life to waste her time. She is very aware of that. I told her last December that we shall go see her people this year and seal everything, but she told me that we still have time and no need for the rush.

Personally, I had no reasons to suspect her of possibly cheating, but her actions when we are together made me get a new SIM card and started chatting her up anonymously.

On my part, I'm a guy that ladies even open up to me that they like me. They also say I'm very intelligent and all that. I'm very transparent to her. I don't hide nothing from her. I can leave my phone with her without any fear because I don't have anything to hide.

I've never had anything to do with any lady since I met her. I so much believe in keeping your body and soul to just the person you are with...whether relationship or marriage. If you can't do that, why not just tell the person that you are not interested again than going your way to deny the person before another guy.

Ladies and gents, why on earth will a man or woman do this to someone who had dedicated his or her all to you?

I will gladly welcome your contributions, including bashing...

Addition: I am business oriented. To make her depend less on any man for money, I have created a passive income source for her that generates about 20k for her monthly

Well, she simply ghosted you... The earlier you put your acts together and walk away the better.
Confront her with the truth and do well to walk out for your own good.

Bro! You see?

You goofed up big time by showing her all your cards bro. Relationship these days are like card games. You don't display all your cards to your opponent to avoid being kicked off the game. You play it smartly with your head not with your heart.

Now, you're outta of the game & you're of no relevance to her again. There's nothing you'll do to gain that back from her. To her, she's just using u as a step up plan until she lands her target man.

In otherwords, you're on your own
All, I'll say now is, start searching for another girl that would keep ur hrt occupied at the moment, after that dump her and move on. That's d only way to mk her feel d break up, don't let her break ur hrt, break hers first that's how you'll get to win on this bro. Outside it, it'll be an all-round win for her. So be smart and act fast.


Note: all these should be on code. Don't let her notice anysh*t as regarding ur intention towards her. Oya go win this bro

I made this same mistake bro, and now am a rebranded person.

Read on miseducation by Ubunja

You don't have a girlfriend. For your girlfriend to tell a guy that she is not in a relationship simply means she really is not in a relationship.

I hate seeing guys being played. Man up and do the right thing

Be happy she has even indirectly told you your place in the scheme of things. So wise up and do your things with your peace of mind intact...

Lol... Why crying...

Are you married to her?

Have you promised her marriage?

You time wasters...

What if she admits she has a guy to every toaster and you end up not marrying her?

Cry Cry baby... Lol

Now that you know the truth, what do you want to do about it.

You've been dating yourself all along.

chatinent:
You shouldn't be bothered; everyone is single still they get married (whether or not they are dating)!

gbam gbamer gbamest

Thanks for your comment. But try to read before rushing to comment. Thank you.

BiafranBushBoy:
Lol... Why crying...

Are you married to her?

Have you promised her marriage?

You time wasters...

What if she admits she has a guy to every toaster and you end up not marrying her?

Cry Cry baby... Lol

I will definitely meet her with the evidence. But I still want to continue chatting with her to get more info from her before I make the move.

BestAccessories:


Now that you know the truth, what do you want to do about it.

You've been dating yourself all along.

Na only u dey d relationship.

Your relationship is the best I have ever seen,
keep being softer to her,

She isn't in a relationship. How difficult a language is that to understand.

I honestly thought you understood English.

What else are you on here seeking?

it is finished

In Philosophy, it is said that Objectivity means talking from the view of the object.

Thats what I am going to try to do, no pity party, no emotions.

Sometime this year, I went for an interview and also met a host of other prospective candidates around, some of us were jobless, some already had jobs.

We began discussing about d pay, we speculated between 70 to 100k, I told them that it cant be more than a 70k given its the Chinese (very stingy persons). Amongst us was a guy already earning 150k somewhere, we scolded him, how can one attempt to leave a good paying job for peanuts, we warned him about the consequence of loosing his good job. He had his interview and quickly left, I felt he was so greedy, even if u want to leave a 150k job, it should be for a higher pay, his friend said he's fond of jumping from one interview to the other. With a pay of 150k, a lot of people would seat at that place for at least 2 years.

Man, the ordinary man has always been selfish, he seeks himself alone, remember Cain and Abel, Jacob and Esau, Absalom and David, David and Saul, the list is endless.

For a long time, I tried to convince myself that everything on earth doesnt revolve around Economics/Money/Status/Financial stability but I was wrong, as I get older I know better.

I dont want to make this longer than necessary, but if your financial position as they say in Accounting is not where your lady wants it to be enough for her to commit to u then, she is still in the market and when that guy comes with her bag of expectations, she will jump.

It is what it is, call them gold diggers, hoes, sluts, it is what it is, man seeks himself first, and don't forget that your country is the poverty capital of the world, everyone wants to escape it.

The 20k is something, there's a lady who would be happy with it, but not this one. People will continue to search for jobs, and partners that meet their financial expectations.

It is not ideal, it is not fair, it is not right in a suituation where human emotions are involved but is the World fair itself?

Cc: Primesoccer

oga,you have been relegated to d bench. she now has another man spending big for her. that's your reality. you either remain planB or quit.

What is her age?

primesoccer:
I will definitely meet her with the evidence. But I still want to continue chatting with her to get more info from her before I make the move.

That show you're immature and not ready for the truth you just heard.

Doing so, you give her opportunity to manipulate and feed you with shit.

If she is committed to you, she will not tell the stranger (You) that she isn't in a relationship. If she is into you, she will let everyone and the whole world know that she is taken already.

When she stop showing care towards and about you was when she dump you but since you fund her lifestyle, she allowed you to continue dating yourself.

Be wise

Some girls are mean sha . Just try and meet her one on one and ask her if she still interested with the relationship and if she says yes, then you can show her ur evidence.


Ur babe is just wasting your time.

You are very correct. Me trying to chat her more is just to get more evidence. She might spill more than she has done already. I don't think it's an act of weakness. I have the picture of the guy she said they're trying to work things out. I saved it immediately she sent it to me (the stranger) knowing fully well that she will do "Delete for All"

BestAccessories:


That show you're immature and not ready for the truth you just heard.

Doing so, you give her opportunity to manipulate and feed you with shit.

If she is committed to you, she will not tell the stranger (You) that she isn't in a relationship.

When she stop showing care towards and about you was when she dump you but since you fund her lifestyle, she allowed you to continue dating yourself.

Be wise

argent412:
Some girls are mean sha . Just try and meet her one on one and ask her if she still interested with the relationship and if she says yes, then you can show her ur evidence.


Ur babe is just wasting your time.

Are you kidding?

Can you do this to your guy? If Yes, why? If No, Explain better?

Other men dey queue dey wait

Bros no be only you dey naa

As a man, once you're able to fvck any girl you approached, you already won. All the calls, the efforts, the outings and the shoppings are all aiming towards sex. Shey you don fvck her? Oya breakup.

It's either you're damaging her kpekus or breaking her heart. If you're not doing any of these two things, you're the woman in the relationship.

For God's sake which man leaves his phone with a b!tch just because he wants to prove that he's faithful? What rubbish is that? It's a sign of "weakness." She should be the one doing that to prove that she's a wife material. Even if you don't have any side chick, you dare not let her know. In fact, you'll need to pretend that you have many girls disturbing you, if not she'll just rubbish you. Girls? Hmm

Again, I can bet my left ball that money was the key factor you used in getting her. The way you kept stressing how you buy her this and that, shopping for this and that, I can say money was a major factor in getting her. Shey you don fvck her? Oya, leave her.

She's in for the cash, she doesn't like you like you think. Reason why I don't always succumb to the "make money and girls will follow you notion." Money will get you girls but it won't get you their loyalty. No girl turns down the idea of a man coming to meet her people except she doesn't love him, which is the case here.

Finally, I want you all reading this to know that "NO GIRL DESERVES A GOOD THING" and the earlier guys realise that, the better. That good thing you think she deserves, she doesn't deserve it because she doesn't want it.

What she wants and deserves are pain, cry, games, cheating, lies, manipulations, STDs, and every form of one discomfort or the other.

If you can do all these without laying a finger on her, you're EVERY GIRL'S DREAM MAN.

Forget what they say online

Exactly what I plan on doing. I will definitely meet her and talk to her, then bring up the evidence. Thank you

argent412:
Some girls are mean sha . Just try and meet her one on one and ask her if she still interested with the relationship and if she says yes, then you can show her ur evidence.


Ur babe is just wasting your time.

primesoccer:
You are very correct. Me trying to chat her more is just to get more evidence. She might spill more than she has done already. I don't think it's an act of weakness. I have the picture of the guy she said they're trying to work things out. I saved it immediately she sent it to me (the stranger) knowing fully well that she will do "Delete for All"

If getting more would make you happy, go ahead.

But to me, it would be a complete waste of time confronting her with it.

If she loves you, she isn't committed to you. You can love and not be committed but you can't be committed without loving.

Obviously you have your own self doubt about the whole relationship with her that's what prompt you to go get a new line and start pretending to be what you're not with her.

Time to move on with your life brother.

primesoccer:
Thanks for your comment. But try to read before rushing to comment. Thank you.

you tested her and she said she doesn't have a bf

The fact that she opened up to a total stranger is mind boggling. It won't bother me so much if it was a friend or acquaintance.

That my friend is next level.

Whatever you do, don't show her the evidence. She can manipulate you into believing you lead her on and all that.

Only, and I repeat, only show her the evidence when your reputation is on the line.

Trust me,

Been there, done that.

Wait for me, let me buy you a good sofa and rent an empty room for you so you can really think deeply like a philosopher on why she would do something like that.

Nonsense!

Stop begging or pressuring a lady to marry you.

A girl who love you will even be asking when are you seeing my parents?