Is he your father

Auntyesther:
If he isn't spending on you now be calm he is saving money to come marry you... This is what the egocentric alpha males and the wife materials on social media are going to tell you. But ma, if you can cope with that character in future then keep up with him if not, give him the marching order!

Op (giving the command): about turn - quick march!

Bf: begins marching out of Op's life ...left right left right left right left right left right left right...

Issues everywhere

mharyamikeola92:
Pls help me move this to front page.

I am a working class lady and I hardly demand things from whosoever I love.

There is this guy that I ave been dating for years now. I don’t know what to call his behavior, whether it is stinginess or the other way round.

I noticed that whenever he comes visiting, he doesn’t bring anything and I get to cook and takecare of him. I was forced to talk 1 day.

The last time he came visiting, he brought bread and other stuffs along which he ended up eating all by himself. I decided not to cook or do anything but I couldn't take it so we went out to buy stuffs. I needed to use POS and I forgot my phone at home. So I begged him to transfer 5k to the lady and that I was going to transfer back to him when we get home. We ended up using the money to get chicken, pepper and other stuffs.

On getting home I demanded for his account details in order to transfer the money back and to my surprise, he gave me and I transferred the money.

My major concern is that this guy has never given me common N10 and he is working. I don’t know if he's worth settling down with cos I fear for my future. Will he be able to give if he has more? This is the guy that is already telling me to come meet his mum cos she wants to see me.

Pls no insults, just advice.

Ubunja's disciple

mharyamikeola92:
Pls help me move this to front page.

I am a working class lady and I hardly demand things from whosoever I love.

There is this guy that I ave been dating for years now. I don’t know what to call his behavior, whether it is stinginess or the other way round.

I noticed that whenever he comes visiting, he doesn’t bring anything and I get to cook and takecare of him. I was forced to talk 1 day.

The last time he came visiting, he brought bread and other stuffs along which he ended up eating all by himself. I decided not to cook or do anything but I couldn't take it so we went out to buy stuffs. I needed to use POS and I forgot my phone at home. So I begged him to transfer 5k to the lady and that I was going to transfer back to him when we get home. We ended up using the money to get chicken, pepper and other stuffs.

On getting home I demanded for his account details in order to transfer the money back and to my surprise, he gave me and I transferred the money.

My major concern is that this guy has never given me common N10 and he is working. I don’t know if he's worth settling down with cos I fear for my future. Will he be able to give if he has more? This is the guy that is already telling me to come meet his mum cos she wants to see me.

Pls no insults, just advice.

A Stingy boyfriend is a big red flag. Run

Humility017:


bro to be honest will you approve your sister marry this kind of a person?

Relationship is a 2 way street...... Some ladies always expect to receive, but never give........

All they feel they can offer is sex...... No be both of them dey enjoy the sex........

NMotorwerks:
This Guy has no pride, 5K? Please run, not ahusband material.

I tell you please replace that pride with Shame.

how can you be dating a girl and you won't be able to send her a mere recharge card??

whenever I go visits my female friends my cousins too let alone my girlfriend i always make sure I buy something along at least fruits and others

mharyamikeola92:
Pls help me move this to front page.

I am a working class lady and I hardly demand things from whosoever I love.

There is this guy that I ave been dating for years now. I don’t know what to call his behavior, whether it is stinginess or the other way round.

I noticed that whenever he comes visiting, he doesn’t bring anything and I get to cook and takecare of him. I was forced to talk 1 day.

The last time he came visiting, he brought bread and other stuffs along which he ended up eating all by himself. I decided not to cook or do anything but I couldn't take it so we went out to buy stuffs. I needed to use POS and I forgot my phone at home. So I begged him to transfer 5k to the lady and that I was going to transfer back to him when we get home. We ended up using the money to get chicken, pepper and other stuffs.

On getting home I demanded for his account details in order to transfer the money back and to my surprise, he gave me and I transferred the money.

My major concern is that this guy has never given me common N10 and he is working. I don’t know if he's worth settling down with cos I fear for my future. Will he be able to give if he has more? This is the guy that is already telling me to come meet his mum cos she wants to see me.

Pls no insults, just advice.

Hhh

The guy has done nothing wromg. He comes to visit you from lagos. Na u pay him tfare. Working class ladies of today are a shame. They earn money and want u to still feeding them.

tabithababy:
Op, I beg you , forget the guy

Or prepare to feed him, his kids, his family and side chicks from your own money

He keeps seeing you as a fo'ool.... Am very sure you are giving him free sex, money, food and even calling him with your money

Loove ooooo

Free sex??
Is she a commercial sex worker?

The man could be studying your character as well,wanted to know if you could love him sincerely without any materialistic attached.

EfonAlaaye2023:
Op is he from ijebu town? ijebu man that studied business administration/Economics na double wahala o

including banking & accounting

Don’t let anyone deceive you. There is nothing nice about a STINGY PARTNER.


I didn’t say boyfriend, I said partner. Be it male or female.

A partner that you are even seeing regularly, should be able to give you something. No matter how little.

It is not parasitism, it is common sense. No one is independent in the true sense of it. If you were so independent, you both wouldn’t have the need for each other.

That same guy will be begging another girl to send acct number. You’ll be there doing wife material. Okay na!

For how long have you been dating the guy?

Vega100:


It is because of people like you I now pay every lady I f*uck, and now see all like sex workers, na still because of people like you to see wife done hard me, despite how hard I try!!!
E no go better for all the women like you when don make every girl look like common prostitutes, e no go better for all of una one bit, the God i serve go punish all of una finish and make it also hard for you to see any good thing in this life.

Amen!!!

Guy, you don make my day.. Gone are the days of free sex... Even my girlfriend dey tax me codedly after sex... Though there are few that can give it to you cos of love

You are dating an alfa male
Probably their leader on nairaland

Nne you are on your own

mharyamikeola92:
Pls help me move this to front page.

I am a working class lady and I hardly demand things from whosoever I love.

There is this guy that I ave been dating for years now. I don’t know what to call his behavior, whether it is stinginess or the other way round.

I noticed that whenever he comes visiting, he doesn’t bring anything and I get to cook and takecare of him. I was forced to talk 1 day.

The last time he came visiting, he brought bread and other stuffs along which he ended up eating all by himself. I decided not to cook or do anything but I couldn't take it so we went out to buy stuffs. I needed to use POS and I forgot my phone at home. So I begged him to transfer 5k to the lady and that I was going to transfer back to him when we get home. We ended up using the money to get chicken, pepper and other stuffs.

On getting home I demanded for his account details in order to transfer the money back and to my surprise, he gave me and I transferred the money.

My major concern is that this guy has never given me common N10 and he is working. I don’t know if he's worth settling down with cos I fear for my future. Will he be able to give if he has more? This is the guy that is already telling me to come meet his mum cos she wants to see me.

Pls no insults, just advice.

You know what

Getting married to that guy may not be a good idea because you alone will shoulder the family responsibilities with out remorse from him

He is not loving and not caring, for God sake what are doing with him again

Any way, if he can be good at love making, manage him till you get a replacement

He is not even ready for marriage unless you are the one forcing him

Pls be sure before you commit yourself

He doesn't have to zeal to make things work so he is satisfied with having things work for his partner

mharyamikeola92:


I really don’t lyk going out..But I don’t know how some1 will travel from Lagos to Osun without buying common bread

For him to travel as far as that to check on u, that means he loves you. He may not know that what he is doing is actually wrong because he is use to it and nobody has correct Him based on that act.
Telling him you can’t continue with his attitude, then see may be he will change..

Vega100:


It is because of people like you I now pay every lady I f*uck, and now see all like sex workers, na still because of people like you to see wife done hard me, despite how hard I try!!!
E no go better for all the women like you when don make every girl look like common prostitutes, e no go better for all of una one bit, the God i serve go punish all of una finish and make it also hard for you to see any good thing in this life.

Amen!!!

Bros wetin happen na

Shey dem collect your babe?

He's just too stingy, Guys we should 4get abt he's saving money to marry her....I was dating a lady back in Abj but whenever am going visiting I get food stuff and even take her out on a date

Lexusgs430:



Relationship is a 2 way street...... Some ladies always expect to receive, but never give........

All they feel they can offer is sex...... No be both of them dey enjoy the sex........

bro let me tell you...this

a man must take the lead...he should give first prior expecting a lady to reciprocate

You can't be in a relationship with a woman and don't give her money or gifts...
woman often reciprocate when she genuinely loves you, so first give to her and watch how she foolishly fall for you....

..
No guy is stingy..
He's either broke, or..
U ain't worth spending on...

have you ask him for any financial assistance to try him and he refuse? How can you be dating a man you want to settle down with all these years and he has never given you N10 as you claim? i should be blaming you here for showing him you have and want to spend.Thats the mistake so many of you do thinking spending on a man will make him love you.Am a man and knws how weird we can act attimes, dont be surprise he is spending it on another babe he is planning to marry. well if all your assertions are true, then it's best you quit and move on....Money may not be everything in a relationship, but everything is MONEY!

tabithababy:
Op, I beg you , forget the guy

Or prepare to feed him, his kids, his family and side chicks from your own money

He keeps seeing you as a fo'ool.... Am very sure you are giving him free sex, money, food and even calling him with your money

Loove ooooo

my dear this happened to me ooh..as my brain come reset ,I come grow thick skin..noI man fit fool me again..ooh..if you know support me I go just dey flow with you like dat ,nothng from my side evn if u wan die.die alone with ur broke and stingy ass

Is your boyfriend your employer?

Op, na dem run o



i want to believe this is what my mom went through in that man hands. he go change, he go change na em make her suffered in her marriage till date


I'm not Rich now but I still do little for my babe and she recognized it, knowing that I will do more when I get close or get to the peak

damn that niggar is a lengend we need guys like him in the country

Ishilove:
DUMP HIS STINGY ASS. Love is giving and if he is too stingy to give then he isn't worth it. The best way to handle mofos like him is stop giving him. When he comes to your place, give him cold water to drink. When you go to his place, make sure you eat well before reaching there. Don't buy him gifts. Call him on WhatsApp call (don't use your credit to call).

Don't spend a dime in his stingy ass and give him as hard as he gives you. Tit for tat.

OP don't listen to her!!
Love is the most important thing..
In as much as he love you very dearly and never cheat on you. He is yours for life!!!
May you get married to him. Amen!!
Gift will come later!!

Bride Price loading...

Yungsym:
He's just too stingy, Guys we should 4get abt he's saving money to marry her....I was dating a lady back in Abj but whenever am going visiting I get food stuff and even take her out on a date

Thanks bro...
exactly.
God forbid I will be dating a lady and I won't give her gifts at least or visit her empty.

My dearest sister run for your life. Or you should start demanding little from him to know is really attitude toward give and take.