mharyamikeola92:
Pls help me move this to front page.

I am a working class lady and I hardly demand things from whosoever I love.

There is this guy that I ave been dating for years now. I don’t know what to call his behavior, whether it is stinginess or the other way round.

I noticed that whenever he comes visiting, he doesn’t bring anything and I get to cook and takecare of him. I was forced to talk 1 day.

The last time he came visiting, he brought bread and other stuffs along which he ended up eating all by himself. I decided not to cook or do anything but I couldn't take it so we went out to buy stuffs. I needed to use POS and I forgot my phone at home. So I begged him to transfer 5k to the lady and that I was going to transfer back to him when we get home. We ended up using the money to get chicken, pepper and other stuffs.

On getting home I demanded for his account details in order to transfer the money back and to my surprise, he gave me and I transferred the money.

My major concern is that this guy has never given me common N10 and he is working. I don’t know if he's worth settling down with cos I fear for my future. Will he be able to give if he has more? This is the guy that is already telling me to come meet his mum cos she wants to see me.

Pls no insults, just advice.

Humility017:


if he can't give her a penny now when married he won't do either.

what you can't tolerate in marriage don't take it into your relationship.

don't understand why you guys are defending this...dude is stingy and it is not for marriage.

jayson87:
This is pure arrant nonsense.

You go single till christ comes with this yeye assertion

Vega100:


[s]It is because of people like you I now pay every lady I f*uck, and now see all like sex workers, na still because of people like you to see wife done hard me, despite how hard I try!!!
E no go better for all the women like you when don make every girl look like common prostitutes, e no go better for all of una one bit, the God i serve go punish all of una finish and make it also hard for you to see any good thing in this life.[/s]

Amen!!!

Lexusgs430:



So in essence, you want to buy her love?

olaniyilukman:
My dear lady, I will humbly advice you to exercise alot of patience with him. In my own view, the guy is watching all what you are doing for him and he decided to keep mute about the development, he might have been discussing your issue with his friends as well and might even be proud of you in proxy. Such guy do take care of girls walahi, I swear you will enjoy him to the fullest if you exercise alot patience...

eni4real:
Are they married??
Why should he be playing a husband or Fatherly role now??

eni4real:
You think all those guys that are doing Father Christmas now, will be responsible in Marriage??
Life is not simple Arithmetic!!

timmybabyface:




You sound like a broke nigga ! Is there anything bad in buying stuff when visiting your partner or take good care of her when needed !!

Yomit71:
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tabithababy:
Op, I beg you , forget the guy

Or prepare to feed him, his kids, his family and side chicks from your own money

He keeps seeing you as a fo'ool.... Am very sure you are giving him free sex, money, food and even calling him with your money

Loove ooooo

Auntyesther:
If he isn't spending on you now be calm he is saving money to come marry you... This is what the egocentric alpha males and the wife materials on social media are going to tell you. But ma, if you can cope with that character in future then keep up with him if not, give him the marching order!

mharyamikeola92:
Pls help me move this to front page.

I am a working class lady and I hardly demand things from whosoever I love.

There is this guy that I ave been dating for years now. I don’t know what to call his behavior, whether it is stinginess or the other way round.

I noticed that whenever he comes visiting, he doesn’t bring anything and I get to cook and takecare of him. I was forced to talk 1 day.

The last time he came visiting, he brought bread and other stuffs along which he ended up eating all by himself. I decided not to cook or do anything but I couldn't take it so we went out to buy stuffs. I needed to use POS and I forgot my phone at home. So I begged him to transfer 5k to the lady and that I was going to transfer back to him when we get home. We ended up using the money to get chicken, pepper and other stuffs.

On getting home I demanded for his account details in order to transfer the money back and to my surprise, he gave me and I transferred the money.

My major concern is that this guy has never given me common N10 and he is working. I don’t know if he's worth settling down with cos I fear for my future. Will he be able to give if he has more? This is the guy that is already telling me to come meet his mum cos she wants to see me.

Pls no insults, just advice.

eni4real:
You think all those guys that are doing Father Christmas now, will be responsible in Marriage??
Life is not simple Arithmetic!!

Orlaoluwayimika:


OP pls don't listen to this advise ooo.
For how long would he be watching. This is a pure case of a stingy guy.

I am a prudent spender but there are certain things that are absurd.
A reasonable guy would not be travelling that far without small hand pack and would still expect ur fiancee to feed u all through ur stay.

O gidi gan fun.
I would only understand if he is not working even if u earn more than him, he shld show some form of responsibility but in this case, he is stingy as f*ck.

I think to him he's doing u a favor by being ur spouse
OP my advise is u open to him about what u think about him and hear is response and watch his attitude if he changes but I doubt he would and if he doesn't then the ball is in ur court.

pocohantas:


There is nothing fatherly about caring for your own! If the girl is unproductive and parasitic, I will personally tell him to dump her. If she is doing her best to please you, then you should please her too! These husband/wife roles na wetin dey make relationship sweet. It is what makes relationships memorable.

Let me tell you something, the worst thing that can happen to anyone is to have a partner who can survive without you. The minute they attain that, you become useless. Lots of Nigerian partners are useless!!

frozen70:


Any way, if he can be good at love making, manage him till you get a replacement

nairalanduseles:


Always expecting ...

It cost money to travel

The gesture alone is enough

But greedy lazy girl always expecting

samwash:
A working class dating a girl & can't even spend on her. This is not a test to kwn if the girls actually loves he & can stay with him when suitation occurs.
What is love in a relationship without giving.
Some pple thinks dating or relationship is all abt sex, it comes with responsibilities.
What is that lady is in a financial mess , the boy friend can't even bail her out,not to talk abt one of her family member needs financial help, what will the BF now do in such suitation.
Lady, the signs are clear, the hand writing o bold enough, make ur choice , you destiny is in your hands .

EfonAlaaye2023:
Op is he from ijebu town? ijebu man that studied business administration/Economics na double wahala o

nairalanduseles:


Always expecting ...

It cost money to travel

The gesture alone is enough

But greedy lazy girl always expecting

ambient:


Nne run! A guy that loves you will want to spend on you even though its little...working or not.pls dont settle for less your kids will suffer oooo

samwash:
A working class dating a girl & can't even spend on her. This is not a test to kwn if the girls actually loves he & can stay with him when suitation occurs.
What is love in a relationship without giving.
Some pple thinks dating or relationship is all abt sex, it comes with responsibilities.
What is that lady is in a financial mess , the boy friend can't even bail her out,not to talk abt one of her family member needs financial help, what will the BF now do in such suitation.
Lady, the signs are clear, the hand writing o bold enough, make ur choice , you destiny is in your hands .