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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by omooba969(m): 10:37am On Apr 02, 2020
tabithababy:
Op, I beg you , forget the guy

Or prepare to feed him, his kids, his family and side chicks from your own money

He keeps seeing you as a fo'ool.... Am very sure you are giving him free sex, money, food and even calling him with your money

Loove ooooo

@bolded,

What do you mean by that - is he supposed to be paying for sex, ain't they both enjoying it?

Nonsense & buratai cool

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by BluntTheApostle(m): 10:37am On Apr 02, 2020
mharyamikeola92:
Pls help me move this to front page.

I am a working class lady and I hardly demand things from whosoever I love.

There is this guy that I ave been dating for years now. I don’t know what to call his behavior, whether it is stinginess or the other way round.

I noticed that whenever he comes visiting, he doesn’t bring anything and I get to cook and takecare of him. I was forced to talk 1 day.

The last time he came visiting, he brought bread and other stuffs along which he ended up eating all by himself. I decided not to cook or do anything but I couldn't take it so we went out to buy stuffs. I needed to use POS and I forgot my phone at home. So I begged him to transfer 5k to the lady and that I was going to transfer back to him when we get home. We ended up using the money to get chicken, pepper and other stuffs.

On getting home I demanded for his account details in order to transfer the money back and to my surprise, he gave me and I transferred the money.

My major concern is that this guy has never given me common N10 and he is working. I don’t know if he's worth settling down with cos I fear for my future. Will he be able to give if he has more? This is the guy that is already telling me to come meet his mum cos she wants to see me.

Pls no insults, just advice.

That he works doesn't mean that he is a millionaire who can afford to let 5k go just like that.

Have you bothered to check how much he earns per month, and how much he spends on transport fare, house rents, and miscellaneous items?

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by ChiefRocker(m): 10:38am On Apr 02, 2020
tabithababy:
Op, I beg you , forget the guy

Or prepare to feed him, his kids, his family and side chicks from your own money

He keeps seeing you as a fo'ool.... Am very sure you are giving him free sex, money, food and even calling him with your money

Loove ooooo
Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by stanisbaratheon: 10:38am On Apr 02, 2020
Nature is not fair at all on the male folks.


A guy can date a lady and spend on her on a regular without complaining even for a day.

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by nairalanduseles: 10:38am On Apr 02, 2020
0taPiaPia:


Bros easy Abeg.. the guy sha no try oh.. he should have said " babe transfer 3 or 2k and keep the balance"..


Nope it is his

It's not right to have that mentality

If my girl ask for 20 dollars and I give her

She will pay back

It's just the way it should be

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by ussy09(m): 10:38am On Apr 02, 2020
tabithababy:
Op, I beg you , forget the guy

Or prepare to feed him, his kids, his family and side chicks from your own money

He keeps seeing you as a fo'ool.... Am very sure you are giving him free sex, money, food and even calling him with your money

Loove ooooo
My brother love is blind grin grin
Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by Nobody: 10:39am On Apr 02, 2020
mharyamikeola92:


I really don’t lyk going out..But I don’t know how some1 will travel from Lagos to Osun without buying common bread
My dear Sister discuss the issue with him. Tell him about the things you feel uncomfortable with about the relationship. We are from different homes you know, he might be the type that does not like carrying too much loads. His response should guide you to your next step of action. And such attitude is typical of women. Did he travel from Lagos to Osun via his personal car or commercial vehicle?

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by Mccullum: 10:39am On Apr 02, 2020
I think you systematically made the guy who he is to you, you failed to apply the training of letting him to know that man must be responsible for the needs of a woman by asking him money as if you you are in insufficient fund situation, he may be stingy though, it is should be noted that you encourage that greediness in him.

SUGGESTION
Before making decisive action, adjust your attitude with him by asking for assistance - financially and morally, that is by requesting for money in a systemic way, morally by pretending as you are ill and needs his attention and financial support in a pleasant manner, by counting like five cases of the drama, his response will expose his true picture to you either it's your way of relating with him causes his greediness or not, after discovering his character according to your own sense of justification, you can arrived at your final decision either to continue with as your permanent partner or part ways.

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by Austineva(m): 10:39am On Apr 02, 2020
AfroKnight:
See this babe. Are you not a human being like other men who have been paying their girlfriends’ bills since time immemorial?

You too take up the responsibility of this man. Or are you a lesser being?

Nonsense. You no get talk.

This guy has only stepped aside and allowed you to be responsible for your own bills. Why does that scare you? Cover your face in shame.
grin grin. How I wish I can be that stingy but I don't know, anytime I try, it doesn't work on me. I tell u
Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by Idzitari1(m): 10:39am On Apr 02, 2020
The earlier the better, run for dear life or else u will end up regretting
Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by cr7lomo: 10:39am On Apr 02, 2020
pocohantas:
Don’t let anyone deceive you. There is nothing nice about a STINGY PARTNER.


I didn’t say boyfriend, I said partner. Be it male or female.

A partner that you are even seeing regularly, should be able to give you something. No matter how little.

It is not parasitism, it is common sense. No one is independent in the true sense of it. If you were so independent, you both wouldn’t have the need for each other.

That same guy will be begging another girl to send acct number. You’ll be there doing wife material. Okay na! grin grin

Please how is he stingy?? I don't know the kind of mentality and re.tartded brains most of u naija girls portray... U asked for him to borrow u money, and u give him bk and u get angry... Has he ever demanded for money from her?? That is the question... We men have been doing this from time memorial and we don't complain.. she earns and he earns, what is her business with his funds when she is not his wife... Was she expecting him to provide for his visits ...OK , will she b the one to provide for drinks and food if she visits him?? The problem is that most if u Nigerian girls have never visited abroad...it's easy to know una type... Visit me, I pay...visit u,u pay...that is the he way foreigners do...unless ur partner decides to pay... Foreigners hardly buy gifts for their partners... companionship and loyalty is all they need ... Not weather u spend money or not...

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by James4bright(m): 10:39am On Apr 02, 2020
tabithababy:
Op, I beg you , forget the guy

Or prepare to feed him, his kids, his family and side chicks from your own money

He keeps seeing you as a fo'ool.... Am very sure you are giving him free sex, money, food and even calling him with your money

Loove ooooo

So to you sex should be purchased with money? Prostitutes sha.

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by pocohantas(f): 10:39am On Apr 02, 2020
nairalanduseles:




You need to stop this

This sense of entitlement has to stop

U 're in a relationship not for gifts


Rather for companion

Awww. Some of you are just human dildos. I have a friend with this same mindset. She was housing one fckboy in PH the last time I checked.

God forbid I fall for that mind-game from men. Same men that expect you to cook, be submissive, have a womb, birth healthy babies, respect his whole family, take them as yours, maybe before yours sef, tend to him when he eventually begins to pack up- they always pack up first...etc

Companionship kill you there! You be puppy?

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by psalmuelwater(m): 10:40am On Apr 02, 2020
mharyamikeola92:


I really don’t lyk going out..But I don’t know how some1 will travel from Lagos to Osun without buying common bread
I don't really like buying stuffs on the road while travelling, so i can travel from lagos to borno and not buy anything. My parents and everyone around me know this. That shouldn't be a standard to know if he is stingy. How many years have you been together? How come he has never given you 10naira, is that even possible?

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by Junkelie: 10:40am On Apr 02, 2020
It could be a test. Meanwhile you promised to transfer back the money, thank God you kept to it. If stingyness is the only problem he has, he doesn't cheat on you, then you got nothing to worry about. He will take good care of you when he eventually marries you

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by pmoye(m): 10:40am On Apr 02, 2020
As long as I do not support ladies seeing guys as ATM, I also can't stand guys who take advantage of ladies who care for them.

Relationship should be give-and-take, and by that I do not mean money. There must be something a babe is contributing to my life for me to spoil her silly. And the moment I see that the lady only wants to use me as her ATM, I will immediately lock up. And it doesn't matter if it is 1,000 naira or 1,000,000 naira she is asking me for. From experience, a man is only as good as being a source of cash. And the moment you stop don't that, the babe is leaving you for sure. So, I don't even start it in the first place.

The same goes for a guy. If a guy only takes from a babe without giving back he is never going to change. You can quote me on this one. So it is better you spare yourself the needless investment and move on with your life. You are only as good as the things he benefits from you. And from the way you painted it it seems as if you're the one forcing the relationship. Don't force it, it will always end in tears.

Money should not be the foundation of relationship or friendship, but it can be the end of it.

I'm sorry about your experience. And I am sure the dude too will have a thing or two to say about it if we are able to ask him.



mharyamikeola92:
Pls help me move this to front page.

I am a working class lady and I hardly demand things from whosoever I love.

There is this guy that I ave been dating for years now. I don’t know what to call his behavior, whether it is stinginess or the other way round.

I noticed that whenever he comes visiting, he doesn’t bring anything and I get to cook and takecare of him. I was forced to talk 1 day.

The last time he came visiting, he brought bread and other stuffs along which he ended up eating all by himself. I decided not to cook or do anything but I couldn't take it so we went out to buy stuffs. I needed to use POS and I forgot my phone at home. So I begged him to transfer 5k to the lady and that I was going to transfer back to him when we get home. We ended up using the money to get chicken, pepper and other stuffs.

On getting home I demanded for his account details in order to transfer the money back and to my surprise, he gave me and I transferred the money.

My major concern is that this guy has never given me common N10 and he is working. I don’t know if he's worth settling down with cos I fear for my future. Will he be able to give if he has more? This is the guy that is already telling me to come meet his mum cos she wants to see me.

Pls no insults, just advice.

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by iPOOPinURmouth: 10:40am On Apr 02, 2020
if he never asked you for cash why complain. when did boyfriend become atm. i give girls money not because i am compelled to do so, i just give because they need it. if i notice u dont need it why should i give u

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by omooba969(m): 10:40am On Apr 02, 2020
DonEd:
A man that cannot give to u and claims to love u is a big liar.

In ur case, it ought to be a symbiotic relationship cos at least u r earning ur own money.

Hon, flee for ur destiny not just ur life.

Have you got another man for her or will you be prepared to marry her if she finds it difficult to get an ideal partner?

I wonder if you guys think b4 y'all open your mouths for some nauseating opinions. cool

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by jaxxy(m): 10:41am On Apr 02, 2020
pocohantas:


There is nothing fatherly about caring for your own! If the girl is unproductive and parasitic, I will personally tell him to dump her. If she is doing her best to please you, then you should please her too! These husband/wife roles na wetin dey make relationship sweet. It is what makes relationships memorable.

Let me tell you something, the worst thing that can happen to anyone is to have a partner who can survive without you. The minute they attain that, you become useless. Lots of Nigerian partners are useless!!



You think ladies that are cooking and cleaning your houses will be responsible in marriage?

Since you know life is not arithmetic, why don’t you go to a brothel and pick one lady there. Stop disturbing our ears with wife material talk.

I prefer a partner who can live perfectly without me bt choses not to. Doesn’t mean I’m useless tho grin

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by ojuu4u(m): 10:41am On Apr 02, 2020
mharyamikeola92:
Pls help me move this to front page.

I am a working class lady and I hardly demand things from whosoever I love.

There is this guy that I ave been dating for years now. I don’t know what to call his behavior, whether it is stinginess or the other way round.

I noticed that whenever he comes visiting, he doesn’t bring anything and I get to cook and takecare of him. I was forced to talk 1 day.

The last time he came visiting, he brought bread and other stuffs along which he ended up eating all by himself. I decided not to cook or do anything but I couldn't take it so we went out to buy stuffs. I needed to use POS and I forgot my phone at home. So I begged him to transfer 5k to the lady and that I was going to transfer back to him when we get home. We ended up using the money to get chicken, pepper and other stuffs.

On getting home I demanded for his account details in order to transfer the money back and to my surprise, he gave me and I transferred the money.

My major concern is that this guy has never given me common N10 and he is working. I don’t know if he's worth settling down with cos I fear for my future. Will he be able to give if he has more? This is the guy that is already telling me to come meet his mum cos she wants to see me.

Pls no insults, just advice.
at least you yourself see the red flag clearly, its visible even to blind.
Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by BarrElChapo(m): 10:41am On Apr 02, 2020
Rgade:
Get a job? undecided
No?

Did you even read the post before commenting. Damn angry
Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by pocohantas(f): 10:41am On Apr 02, 2020
cr7lomo:


Please how is he stingy?? I don't know the kind of mentality and re.tartded brains most of u naija girls portray... U asked for him to borrow u money, and u give him bk and u get angry... Has he ever demanded for money from her?? That is the question... We men have been doing this from time memorial and we don't complain.. she earns and he earns, what is her business with his funds when she is not his wife... Was she expecting him to provide for his visits ...OK , will she b the one to provide for drinks and food if she visits him?? The problem is that most if u Nigerian girls have never visited abroad...it's easy to know una type... Visit me, I pay...visit u,u pay...that is the he way foreigners do...unless ur partner decides to pay... Foreigners hardly buy gifts for their partners... companionship and loyalty is all they need ... Not weather u spend money or not...

Oya, go and marry from abroad na. Why are you people coming home to marry?

C’mon shut up. Silly set of sex dolls

They don’t give anything, but they want everything. Abroad kor, overseas ni.

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by 0taPiaPia(m): 10:42am On Apr 02, 2020
alexistaiwo:
Read five pages of mostly trashy comments from my fellow guys and yours take the cake.
People like you are the reason women see relationships as a poverty alleviation programme.

What is the boyfriend concern if one of her family members need financial assistance, is he the grand patron of her family? ]

grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin @ the bolded




Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by ifyy07(m): 10:42am On Apr 02, 2020
That guy is an og one create of beer for him wherever he is....op why in the first place will you try to deceive the guy into paying the bills when you told him you are going to return the money....you lot are so manipulative. You don't deserve him....next time be honest

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by Nobody: 10:42am On Apr 02, 2020
He thinks like I do. Why spend any money at all on a woman who can decide to leave you early tomorrow morning because one of her exes came back from his drug runs in Malaysia and she thinks he is a better prospect? Will I get a refund?

The first cash outlay that any man should make on any woman not his mother is her bride price. It is only after that, that the man is duty bound to shoulder all the home expenses.

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by Anubiri(m): 10:43am On Apr 02, 2020
Just use The Blue Moon Bracelet and thank me later


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TUkvA3z9M9o
Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by pocohantas(f): 10:43am On Apr 02, 2020
jaxxy:


I prefer a partner who can live perfectly without me bt choses not to. Doesn’t mean I’m useless tho grin

You probably missed the implicit meaning of that statement. It means, you should give value to your partner. If you don’t and they learn to do it themselves, maybe outsource it...

You are useless.

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by Kayfowobaf(m): 10:43am On Apr 02, 2020
My sister the basic essence of love is to give, even the bible says it better. For God so loved the world that he gave... Emphasis on the word loved and gave.

A relationship that claims there is love, and there is no giving between the two parties, it is joking relationship.

If you don't give your time(attention etc), give respect, and giving(monetary, helping etc) in any relationship abeg japa!! He won't be able to change when you finally get married.

Run for ya life, my two cent advice.
Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by Nobody: 10:43am On Apr 02, 2020
mharyamikeola92:
Pls help me move this to front page.

I am a working class lady and I hardly demand things from whosoever I love.

There is this guy that I ave been dating for years now. I don’t know what to call his behavior, whether it is stinginess or the other way round.

I noticed that whenever he comes visiting, he doesn’t bring anything and I get to cook and takecare of him. I was forced to talk 1 day.

The last time he came visiting, he brought bread and other stuffs along which he ended up eating all by himself. I decided not to cook or do anything but I couldn't take it so we went out to buy stuffs. I needed to use POS and I forgot my phone at home. So I begged him to transfer 5k to the lady and that I was going to transfer back to him when we get home. We ended up using the money to get chicken, pepper and other stuffs.

On getting home I demanded for his account details in order to transfer the money back and to my surprise, he gave me and I transferred the money.

My major concern is that this guy has never given me common N10 and he is working. I don’t know if he's worth settling down with cos I fear for my future. Will he be able to give if he has more? This is the guy that is already telling me to come meet his mum cos she wants to see me.

Pls no insults, just advice.

I know these kind of men wella.

Run for ur life.

Or live wit him for the rest of ur life, but bear in mind that u will always take care of urself and possibly ur children for the rest of ur life.
Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by Sammy011(m): 10:44am On Apr 02, 2020
Most people have spoken the truth here and I agree with few of them. Since this is not a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship, I will ask these few questions:
Do you guys communicate well?
Do you think he loves you?
Hope you are not desperate in getting married and you showing him your desperacy by being acting a nice lady?
Have you visited him before?
Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by nairalanduseles: 10:44am On Apr 02, 2020
pocohantas:


Awww. Some of you are just human dildos. I have a friend with this same mindset. She was housing one fckboy in PH the last time I checked.

God forbid I fall for that mind-game from men. Same men that expect you to cook, be submissive, have a womb, birth health babies, respect his whole family, take them as yours, maybe before yours sef, tend to him when he eventually begins to pack up- they always pack up first...etc

Companionship kill you there! You be puppy?

You are so rude and disrespectful

You can never attract any man

You will only attract your kind

You sound very bitter and frustrated

Shoe get size

Me and you can never be in the same category

You stink

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by stello(f): 10:44am On Apr 02, 2020
Ishilove:
DUMP HIS STINGY ASS. Love is giving and if he is too stingy to give then he isn't worth it. The best way to handle mofos like him is stop giving him. When he comes to your place, give him cold water to drink. When you go to his place, make sure you eat well before reaching there. Don't buy him gifts. Call him on WhatsApp call (don't use your credit to call).

Don't spend a dime in his stingy ass and give him as hard as he gives you. Tit for tat.




You nailed it ��

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