donstan18:

See this one oooo...

So because he was bold enough to take his money back as agreed without any atom of shame, you are pissed?

Why were you surprised he took it back?


Was that not your agreement with him?

What a bold man he is, if men can be that bold to you women, we won't have much complaints from men.


Nonesense and POS.

Did you read the whole post, or you just picked up on that one incident? They have dated for years. In all those years, the only thing the guy has brought her is a loaf of bread, which he ended up eating up. The guy doesn't seem normal.

Freelane33:
Husband snatcher . Queen of the coast

leave me alone

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pocohantas:


Travel abroad to marry who? How many young foreign girls marry you guys? The only women in the world that can tolerate you egoistic community pricks, you still won’t treat them well.

Oya, where is your own foreign wife?

US and co. Have a lot of single ladies who have good exposure and are responsible. Not like Naija ladies who are just like a lion, looking for guys to devour.

You asked about my foreign wife. My foreign girl will chat or call you if you can drop your contact.

Local breed!

SammyChi1988:
Please, leave him... His just using you. His stingy and wicked. I think his keeping another lady...

Na girls like you dey become spinster for life, I guess you are 40+ and still single

Don't worry he's testing you. He's testing how well you will be able to cope when he starts spending on frivolities and you'll be the one bearing all the family expenses.

So far you're doing well, 250 yards of wife material.

You think it's only him you're feeding now? You will soon start feeding his extended family and even girlfriends by the time he starts taking small loans from you to spend on them and won't repay you one Kobo. Don't ever make the mistake of thinking he will change after marriage, he will only get worse.

Adorablemeee:
Please break up with him immediately. You can't change a stingy man. I am stucked with one for 12 years now. Please run as far as your legs can carry you. Love has nothing to do with this. You will realise later that you can't cope and it might be too late. I'm regretting mine. Please run ooooo

This could be you in a few years time

Ishilove:
DUMP HIS STINGY ASS. Love is giving and if he is too stingy to give then he isn't worth it. The best way to handle mofos like him is stop giving him. When he comes to your place, give him cold water to drink. If there is no light, give him lukewarm water. When you go to his place, make sure you eat well before reaching there. Don't buy him gifts. Call him on WhatsApp call (don't use your credit to call).

Don't spend a dime in his stingy ass and give him as hard as he gives you. Tit for tat.

Tit for tat.. I am ashamed of you Ishi..
Is that how I trained you my wicked Child..
Smh.. All hope isn't lost...
Its Well..

Petyprincess:
I can't cope at all!!

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I’m not leaving you alone because I came alone and not going to leave alone

Millenniumlady:
leave me alone

My dear find ur way o!
You're dealing with a shameless man
For you to demand for his Acc, he he gave it to you, means the fellow is foolish!!!
Tufiakwa!!!!

from what u said, you did not say the guy was cheating on you or he smokes or drinks alcohol. u didnt say the guy was a lazy person or he engages in shady business or act. u didnt say the guy is an atheist or he goes out with bad company. the only problem you are having with him is his failure to spend on, which makes u different from the stories u hear from your friends how their b/f spend on them. My dear, dont leave him, thank God u said u r gainfully employed. May be God is preparing you for the future when u eventually get married to him. mark my words, this experience of urs is a blessing in disguise. the guy has no choice, he will change or rather will improve as time goes on even when u pple get married. dont stop, keep doing what is best from u to him. every lady has her own story to tell. this is yours, manage it.

It's bad as a guy visiting bae without buying anything, you just come empty handed , eat and go continuously.

If you can talk to him about it do and make your decision.

If you eventually marry him and he loses his job, his type won't bother looking for job, because he has someone who doesn't mind if he brings anything to the table.

Freelane33:
I’m not leaving you alone because I came alone and not going to leave alone

Note.... i didn't snatch anyone's husband

I was going to say this is a typical Naija girl's phrase. But having read ur story, I understand you and position.
Your boyfriend is ,for me,irresponsible and doesn't seem to know certain things.Giving in a relationship is a two-way thing,not one-sided.Talk to him about it.In short,tell him. bluntly that he's stingy.Then ,study him whether he changes. If he doesn't ,dump him like a worn out coat.

pocohantas:


Odiegwu. Na people wey no know una dey follow una mouth. Naija guy dey love? Toor!

So Na naija girls de love?? Boys are becoming wiser now... Most girls are like soccer players...the moment they see interest from a bigger club...they Japa...then all money spent on her will go down the drains ... Wise men save money for future wives and not girlfriends... A lot of men destroyed their future cos they decided to show love to their gfs at one time only for the gf to dump him afterwards...men are wiser now... Y should I kill myself for one fool when ladies are littered everywhere like pure water... It's easier for a man to get a woman than for a woman to get a man ...

That guy is not stingy anty, he is that type of guy that will only give whenever u ask fa!

mharyamikeola92:


Thanks

Your guy may be the natural stingy type. . He won't change. He probably boasts to his friends that he has this 1 girlfriend that does not ask him for money.

Next time he's coming, ask him to buy you a meatpie.

We are generous to people we love because it makes them happy. We want to see them happy.
It also makes the giver happy.

Stinginess isn't a good trait as it will make you miserable. One of the joys of a marriage is each party spoiling the other. You give him a meal treat whenever he comes, that makes him happy. It won't be bad if he brings a Shoprite loaf of bread or 2kg of turkey wings.

Such thoughtfulness lights up a marriage.

Yes but you’re about to snatch one . In the process already , so what do I call that prehusbandsnatcher then lol

Millenniumlady:
Note.... i didn't snatch anyone's husband

pocohantas:


Travel abroad to marry who? How many young foreign girls marry you guys? The only women in the world that can tolerate you egoistic community pricks, you still won’t treat them well.

Oya, where is your own foreign wife?

Lol u still dey sleep, wen u wake up e go don too late

I have a clique of friends, all married to pretty young white ladies. All happily married. Not to mention of several others I've seen.

Black men are like gold to white women. You know why? We know how to treat our women right.

timmybabyface:
You better ruin ! You will never enjoy any relationship with such man lol

Another spinster in the making if not a long time OG in the spinster game... she is a devil advocate, run away from such girl she is evil

omooba969:


Seems you never jam craze man wey get options ehn...

Yeye dey smell !D

that's the problem, ladies, be confident about urself, let him go, it will hurt u, but can't forget you. Have some dignity girl. You are not valued that's the game.

mharyamikeola92:


I really don’t lyk going out..But I don’t know how some1 will travel from Lagos to Osun without buying common bread

has he fvck u? If no, that's why is still doing that.

Madam you already have one piss off of why the relationship is not the type you want and intend spending the rest of you with,so why ask question before you quite.my dear am a lady too,it is obvious there is one side of the relationship you are still enjoying which you are not telling us.madam no dey manage relationship what you can not treat with your spouse during courtship and dealth with it,it as good as quit.shikena.

Freelane33:
Yes but you’re about to snatch one . In the process already , so what do I call that prehusbandsnatcher then lol

He is a man not a kid and can make decisions for himself sometimes you have get tried of eating egusi and try okra

Humility017:


I tell you please replace that pride with Shame.

how can you be dating a girl and you won't be able to send her a mere recharge card??

whenever I go visits my female friends my cousins too let alone my girlfriend i always make sure I buy something along at least fruits and others

why?

mharyamikeola92:
Pls help me move this to front page.

I am a working class lady and I hardly demand things from whosoever I love.

There is this guy that I ave been dating for years now. I don’t know what to call his behavior, whether it is stinginess or the other way round.

I noticed that whenever he comes visiting, he doesn’t bring anything and I get to cook and takecare of him. I was forced to talk 1 day.

The last time he came visiting, he brought bread and other stuffs along which he ended up eating all by himself. I decided not to cook or do anything but I couldn't take it so we went out to buy stuffs. I needed to use POS and I forgot my phone at home. So I begged him to transfer 5k to the lady and that I was going to transfer back to him when we get home. We ended up using the money to get chicken, pepper and other stuffs.

On getting home I demanded for his account details in order to transfer the money back and to my surprise, he gave me and I transferred the money.

My major concern is that this guy has never given me common N10 and he is working. I don’t know if he's worth settling down with cos I fear for my future. Will he be able to give if he has more? This is the guy that is already telling me to come meet his mum cos she wants to see me.

Pls no insults, just advice.

See James 5:16 if you're a Christian.

Discuss it with him and help him learn it. He might not see it to be anything. At a point in everyone's life, we have to learn, re-learn and unlearn. And then take your decision from his willingness to change.

Here's not the place for the advice you're seeking.

The truth must be said here. The relationship that would lead to fruition must be open ended from the outset. I am a man, but I am not in support of such parasitic attitude. If he's not working, that is different, but you said he has a job too.

However, if you love him, sit him down and say to his face everything he's doing that you don't like. He may not even know that he's doing wrong thing. But, in the event that he refuses to change, then you need to seek for God's direction on next step to take.

Hmmm, if he is not generous towards u now that you are dating, with all ur shapes and figure still intact.,my sister dump him, because he will not change when u marry him, ���,

Hmmmm next thing is how can we met but remb sit at home is still going on any way she base in osun state i knw her she is a good gal lol just kidding op he thinks ur pay is more than his own so anytime he cums back do it no money no food for a lazy man u are nt a fool too

Vega100:


I now understand why u looking for a a new Boyfriend Bestie,

Well being serious on this one, that guy is a no good!!! I'll strongly advise you break up with him! End it, don't make the mistake of marrying him, a guy that has never spent a kobo on you, will definitely reciprocate the same in marriage and that will not last.
A man that claims to be in love with someone to marry, should be responsible enough to share things he has, and vice versa (the woman should be able to as well)
Now this is on the premise that you also share what you have with him.
But if it happens to be a case where you are also treating him the same way, then I'll say both of you fit yourselves, and deserve to be together!, unfortunately na una kids go suffer am.

Before you leave him though, it will be good you tell him why u leaving, so he can hopefully learn and improve on his subsequent relationships because needs to learn the place of responsibility to be a husband!..

If I may ask, what state are you and how old are you?

Ahahahah so you’re okro. Hmmmm I rest my case . To the bro In questioned , okro is very dangerous oooo

Millenniumlady:
He is a man not a kid and can make decisions for himself sometimes you have get tried of eating egusi and try okra

pocohantas:


You probably missed the implicit meaning of that statement. It means, you should give value to your partner. If you don’t and they learn to do it themselves, maybe outsource it...

You are useless.

What do you say when a mistress out there does it better, thereby making the man look in her direction instead of his wife's...?

omooba969:


Payment in the context of sex is inappropriate, so you ain't making any sense whatsoever.

If I can’t understand sarcasm...Abeg shift