I knw ladies demand alot sometimes
But at least make we dey try our own little part too na haaaaba

LadySarah:


[s][/s]You sound stupid. Stop exposing it[s][/s]
.

You sound so bitter. He's not the guy that broke your heart by furking your female bestie.

THREADS CLOSED ... .she has a man now .

mharyamikeola92:
Pls help me move this to front page.

I am a working class lady and I hardly demand things from whosoever I love.

There is this guy that I ave been dating for years now. I don’t know what to call his behavior, whether it is stinginess or the other way round.

I noticed that whenever he comes visiting, he doesn’t bring anything and I get to cook and takecare of him. I was forced to talk 1 day.

The last time he came visiting, he brought bread and other stuffs along which he ended up eating all by himself. I decided not to cook or do anything but I couldn't take it so we went out to buy stuffs. I needed to use POS and I forgot my phone at home. So I begged him to transfer 5k to the lady and that I was going to transfer back to him when we get home. We ended up using the money to get chicken, pepper and other stuffs.

On getting home I demanded for his account details in order to transfer the money back and to my surprise, he gave me and I transferred the money.

My major concern is that this guy has never given me common N10 and he is working. I don’t know if he's worth settling down with cos I fear for my future. Will he be able to give if he has more? This is the guy that is already telling me to come meet his mum cos she wants to see me.

Pls no insults, just advice.

.
Are you very sure he is gainfully employed? Some men are like that. They do not spend a dime on ladies but take from them instead. I have a friend like that and after he got married for about 11 yrs now, he has not given a kobo to the wife for meals, neither has he paid there daughter's school fees for once. You need to decide what you want. Would you be able to come by financing the house alone in future without getting tired?

I think he is just not a responsible man and most likely not changed. Pray God give you a better man that can support whatever you do no matter how little.

He is wrong for collecting that money back knowing fully well he will eat of the meal and has been eating in your house before.

He is Agro-d-quencher. Just passing time to get you hooked into marriage. BE WISE

Stop calling this guy names

Joyrise:
.
Are you very sure he is gainfully employed? Some men are like that. They do not spend a dime on ladies but take from them instead. I have a friend like that and after he got married for about 11 yrs now, he has not given a kobo to the wife for meals, neither has he paid there daughter's school fees for once. You need to decide what you want. Would you be able to come by financing the house alone in future without getting tired?

I think he is just not a responsible man and most likely not changed. Pray God give you a better man that can support whatever you do no matter how little.

He is wrong for collecting that money back knowing fully well he will eat of the meal and has been eating in your house before.

He is Agro-d-quencher. Just passing time to get you hooked into marriage. BE WISE

edoboy74:


Lols that’s how losers conclude. Go get a job my dear and take responsibility for once

So says a KID

Ogediluv:
All the men here won't tell u the truth, they will support their fellow man. That is how one visited me last year and spend one week in my house, he came with just bread and ate the rest of the things on his way coming. I feed him well,[/b] and of course the other side too[b]. But after one week when he was leaving, he didn't drop a kobo for me, knowing fully well that I wasn't doing anything serious then just a salary of 20k a month, and he is working in a very reputable company with a good pay. So I confronted him after he left and told him what he did I never like, guess what? He begins to lament that I love money, that I'm abusing him coz I gave him food whereas I didn't, he said all manner things. My dear, I ran for my dear life. How a man treat u in a relationship is definitely how he will treat u in marriage.

your heavenly father will reward you for your [/s]fornication[s] righteousness.

mharyamikeola92:
Pls help me move this to front page.

I am a working class lady and I hardly demand things from whosoever I love.

There is this guy that I ave been dating for years now. I don’t know what to call his behavior, whether it is stinginess or the other way round.

I noticed that whenever he comes visiting, he doesn’t bring anything and I get to cook and takecare of him. I was forced to talk 1 day.

The last time he came visiting, he brought bread and other stuffs along which he ended up eating all by himself. I decided not to cook or do anything but I couldn't take it so we went out to buy stuffs. I needed to use POS and I forgot my phone at home. So I begged him to transfer 5k to the lady and that I was going to transfer back to him when we get home. We ended up using the money to get chicken, pepper and other stuffs.

On getting home I demanded for his account details in order to transfer the money back and to my surprise, he gave me and I transferred the money.

My major concern is that this guy has never given me common N10 and he is working. I don’t know if he's worth settling down with cos I fear for my future. Will he be able to give if he has more? This is the guy that is already telling me to come meet his mum cos she wants to see me.

Pls no insults, just advice.

As long as sex is not involved.
The relationship is okay.
But if you are sleeping with him..then,its a pity.

tabithababy:
Op, I beg you , forget the guy

Or prepare to feed him, his kids, his family and side chicks from your own money

He keeps seeing you as a fo'ool.... Am very sure you are giving him free sex, money, food and even calling him with your money

Loove ooooo

Ashawo. Which one be free sex again?

spiceadole:



As long as sex is not involved.
The relationship is okay.
But if you are sleeping with him..then,its a pity.

Ashawo mentality

Bizibi:
and how did you know

I have dated real leeches so I know the terrible ones but I have seen cool and wonderful ladies who were friends with me but married now.

There are ladies that don't like asking for money but they just want that once in a while outing or some gifts even though they can foot the bill or buy one for themselves.though there are stingy ones but the good ones should not be taken for granted.

God bless you real good

iamarealman:


Ashawo mentality

That's your business.
No sex
No spending.
Everybody spend your money for yourself and hold your body.
Best relationship.

Evercurious:


Pls stop all this stupid and flimsy excuses for ones wickedness and stinginess . Go get a life pls cos it's obvious some of you dont deserve to be loved.. You just come around to drain one emotionally, financially and all round

Eyah, sorry.

I did suspect earlier that you were emotional rather than rational when you quoted the OP. But now, my suspicion is confirmed.

The guys that turned you into such a bitter hag need to be crucified upside down.

All of you should hear from the guy first before judging him. . Even the girl is not perfect.

Sixfeetbelle:


Dont be a hypocrite. There's a difference between a generous man and a man who isn't. Some men can give money to a student or a beggar on the street because that's their nature. It means nothing to them to give out. Even when visiting girls that are just mutual friends, they'll buy something for them, not to mention their own gf.

The man is stingy. If he wasn't, a little giving gesture from him would prove otherwise. No one is asking him to pay her monthly stipend or take her out but once in a while, #70 nairn bread won't hurt.

Airhead.

There is nothing wrong with a woman being responsible for her own bills. Is she a beggar? No. Then let her be responsible.

This babe is stingy, herself and the sad thing is she feels entitled to a man’s money. Where is her dignity? Where is YOUR dignity? Perhaps you mean to tell me that you cannot survive if a man doesn’t pay your bills? Don’t tell that is the case.

Head is not for wig alone. Use the brain inside that head abeg.

[quote author=spiceadole post=88029835]
That's your business.
No sex
No spending.
Everybody spend your money for yourself and hold your body.
Best relationship

I will give you the money, but I’ll treat you like a slave. I will be a chronic cheat, I’ll give you no attention and if you cheat, I go beat hell out of you. How about that??


Best relationship hahahahahahahahah

I hate many Nigerian girls. Them dey do like say na their papa u dey work for. “You want me to give you the money your daddy couldn’t spend on you”?

spiceadole:

That's your business.
No sex
No spending.
Everybody spend your money for yourself and hold your body.
Best relationship.

No wonder men has the right to assault you girls. (No man go spend money on you, at the same time tolerate your nonsense). I pity your brain. No go work. Dey wait for who go spend money on your wide pkekus

MOnkeyBabe:
if I were you,I would marry him kiakia.a biRD in hand is worth 2 in the BUSh.as for me,I didnt waste time to make him mine at 24.im very SuBmissive and humble through God'sGRaCe.i like him perfectly with all his flaws.i think you have time to while away though.to each their own.if not you wont be here asking questions.

It's well with you. But I guess some people still have got something called CHOICE which obviously you dont have.. Submissive and loyal indeed..

Dats bad...talk to him bae.

mharyamikeola92:


I really don’t lyk going out..But I don’t know how some1 will travel from Lagos to Osun without buying common bread

True

tabithababy:
Op, I beg you , forget the guy

Or prepare to feed him, his kids, his family and side chicks from your own money

He keeps seeing you as a fo'ool.... Am very sure you are giving him free sex, money, food and even calling him with your money

Loove ooooo

[quote author=RisenPhoenix post=88021411]

Why is that compulsory? She did not even give him tfare. If the tables were turned and she was the one who visited him, not only will you expect him to feed, fete and celebrate her, you will still complain if he fails to pays far and above the normal tfare to and fro with data subscription and repeated phone calls to make sure she got back home.

So what changed here? Is it because the gender is reversed?[/quo

Dat guy is a parasite

mharyamikeola92:


I ave my own job and a well paying job..I don’t need a man to b dere financially but is there a big deal in a man buying gifts for some1 he claims to love not necessarily money

wowow, dear lady. I get irritated with very stingy individuals, both guys and girls. Am a guy and I suggest if you love him and would love to go ahead
to settle down with him in marriage, please kindly address this issue by asking him whether it is part of his character or he is trying to know the kind of lady that you are. Then, if you discover is part of him kindly walk out of the relationship, this man will find it difficult to spend his money on you in marriage. Stinginess is a virus and very contagious. That is my humble opinion.
However, before you do the above, buy him a gift you know that he loves and observe his reaction to see if he will change any other he is visiting you. If he does not change by buying you a gift sit him down and tell him to his face that he is very stingy and you are not comfortable with it as a part of his lifestyle.

BluntTheApostle:


Eyah, sorry.

I did suspect earlier that you were emotional rather than rational when you quoted the OP. But now, my suspicion is confirmed.

The guys that turned you into such a bitter hag need to be crucified upside down.

Lol... I jump am pass

RisenPhoenix:


Why is that compulsory? She did not even give him tfare. If the tables were turned and she was the one who visited him, not only will you expect him to feed, fete and celebrate her, you will still complain if he fails to pays far and above the normal tfare to and fro with data subscription and repeated phone calls to make sure she got back home.

So what changed here? Is it because the gender is reversed?

There's nothing wrong if he decides to do that once in a while. Now she's earning and not asking him to solve her problems. All that is expected of him is to show financial responsibility. What stops him from spoiling her sometimes

Test ke.A stingy guy is a stingy guy

sophtcopy:
Well he may be stingy as you presumed
And
He may not be stingy as it seems. He may just be testing you to know if you're a real white wife materia ...anywhichone, only time can tell

Evercurious:



Lol... I jump am pass

That is what you should rather be doing instead of jumping into conclusions.

mharyamikeola92:


I really don’t lyk going out..But I don’t know how some1 will travel from Lagos to Osun without buying common bread

If you the one traveling to see him will you have bought anything?

mharyamikeola92:
Pls help me move this to front page.

I am a working class lady and I hardly demand things from whosoever I love.

There is this guy that I ave been dating for years now. I don’t know what to call his behavior, whether it is stinginess or the other way round.

I noticed that whenever he comes visiting, he doesn’t bring anything and I get to cook and takecare of him. I was forced to talk 1 day.

The last time he came visiting, he brought bread and other stuffs along which he ended up eating all by himself. I decided not to cook or do anything but I couldn't take it so we went out to buy stuffs. I needed to use POS and I forgot my phone at home. So I begged him to transfer 5k to the lady and that I was going to transfer back to him when we get home. We ended up using the money to get chicken, pepper and other stuffs.

On getting home I demanded for his account details in order to transfer the money back and to my surprise, he gave me and I transferred the money.

My major concern is that this guy has never given me common N10 and he is working. I don’t know if he's worth settling down with cos I fear for my future. Will he be able to give if he has more? This is the guy that is already telling me to come meet his mum cos she wants to see me.

Pls no insults, just advice.

Stop saying I'll pay you back if get angry at paying back. If won't give you if don't say that, just leave him. But getting angry because you did what you two agreed is just ridiculous

RisenPhoenix:


Why is that compulsory? She did not even give him tfare. If the tables were turned and she was the one who visited him, not only will you expect him to feed, fete and celebrate her, you will still complain if he fails to pays far and above the normal tfare to and fro with data subscription and repeated phone calls to make sure she got back home.

So what changed here? Is it because the gender is reversed?

There's nothing wrong if he decides to do all of that. Now the lady here work's and earn's her own money. The least this guy can do is spoil her sometimes moreover the lady has been doing same, but he isn't doing any of those. These types in marriage will expect the woman to slave herself and fend for the family just because she's hardworking & independent

he never take you go cinema, shopping, beach?

Dump his broke ass.

Sorry bro, its not all men spends lavishly on women like you. but if you happens to be woman, I'm sorry for you too

You should get a job all human are equal in the western world most women pay more bills