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Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by SweetCunt97(f): 4:50pm On Apr 15, 2020 |
VivleBriella:That's a deadbeat boyfriend right there o. Do noy give the man any shishi again! Don't tolerate what you don't like.. What rubbish is that one? What kinda lazy siblings him get? Babe yiu deserve better jor. Why can't he support you? Abi na yiu toast am? 15 Likes |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by Paxie55: 4:56pm On Apr 15, 2020 |
Nawa oo. Don't you think you deserve Better? And he's even feeling entitled. Shameless men of this generation ![]() 13 Likes |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by Paxie55: 4:57pm On Apr 15, 2020 |
SweetCunt97:Asin eeh. Things deh happen o. 3 Likes |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by frozen70(f): 7:19pm On Apr 15, 2020 |
VivleBriella: You guys are still dating not as if he is married to you and you have borrowed him such a huge amount to settle his brothers and you said he is a bread winner, What makes you think he the bread winner or bread Baker of his family Were you giving him such money with the hope of getting married or with the hope of getting it back and if you don't get it back then marriage is definitely going to take place I hope you know that his family will not give him chance to marry until he is done caring for thier own families Well if you think you want it to lead to marriage, stop borrowing him money start saving so that even if he marries you, you can face your own family and he will face his fathers family if that will be the case Secondly bread winners don't borrow to take care of his siblings, he does that from his own pocket At your age, you are too young to carry family responsibilities and he will eve get mad at you that you cared less about his family, what about your own family menbers, don't they need help ❓ Anyway is your choice, but use this lock down as excuses and start complaining that you don't have money, continue singing it to his hearing and start requesting for the ones you have already given him Once you see money with him start your own family complains so that you can retrieve your money Don't be surprise if he doesn't marry you at last probably its your good heart that made him to be with you for three years so thst he will keep obtaining from you Nonsense ❗ How can someone that borrows from you be a bread winner How am I sure his family knows that you are the one giving him those money or do you think he will tell them its from you No ❗❗, he will not 15 Likes |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by Stacyomolola(f): 7:31pm On Apr 15, 2020 |
Paxie55:EXTREMELY SHAMELESS MEN OF THIS GENERATION worst is that he wont even marry her cause he would have use all resources on his family and would be feeling entitled to her sponsoring the marriage ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() 13 Likes |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by Jullima(f): 7:33pm On Apr 15, 2020 |
jaksmillioniar:Did you read the post? 14 Likes |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by Nobody: 7:42pm On Apr 15, 2020 |
One of those stories ![]() Pitch women against men and disappear or pitch men against women ![]() Babe, abeg come help me find work in this your company o. They seems to be paying well ![]() Me too I need money ![]() I'm a friend from afar ![]() 6 Likes |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by Paxie55: 7:43pm On Apr 15, 2020 |
Stacyomolola:Lol. True. She will marry him, sponsor the marriage and be feeding him and his family and upon that, he will be feeling entitled to her money with the dangerous ego of an average stupid Nigerian man. It's terrible. 18 Likes |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by Saintmary(f): 7:49pm On Apr 15, 2020 |
VivleBriella:OMG!!!! At 24, already feeding a man and his entire family ![]() 18 Likes
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Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by Inyayiz: 7:56pm On Apr 15, 2020 |
Saintmary: I off small 4 Likes |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by Bola146(f): 7:57pm On Apr 15, 2020 |
DominusPrime: Gbam! 2 Likes |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by bukatyne2: 7:58pm On Apr 15, 2020 |
Ishilove: You think it is shameless for a man to borrow from his woman? Or any woman at all? 2 Likes |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by bukatyne2: 7:59pm On Apr 15, 2020 |
yeyeosoronga: I thought I have read it all! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by Ishilove: 8:01pm On Apr 15, 2020 |
bukatyne2:It is shameless to borrow from his woman without returning. 14 Likes |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by Ishilove: 8:02pm On Apr 15, 2020 |
yeyeosoronga:100likes 8 Likes |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by bukatyne2: 8:10pm On Apr 15, 2020 |
VivleBriella: What does your boyfriend do to make money? Why are you calling your relationship parasitic? Are you saying your boyfriend does not DO ANYTHING for you in your relationship for the past three years? 2 Likes |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by Saintmary(f): 8:12pm On Apr 15, 2020 |
Paxie55:And he will still cheat, with lots of women. He figures that if she's so desperate to keep him by becoming his ATM, she'll put up with anything 20 Likes |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by Paxie55: 8:14pm On Apr 15, 2020 |
Saintmary:Lool. True 7 Likes |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by Saintmary(f): 8:21pm On Apr 15, 2020 |
VivleBriella:My dear, since you have money, go to the market and buy 15,000 ring, go down on your knees and propose to your 'girlfriend'. That 500k, you should have spent it on wedding and groom price. Nairaland girls rushing to your wedding to take pictures be like 4 Likes
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Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by Saintmary(f): 8:23pm On Apr 15, 2020 |
Inyayiz:As in ehn I just weak
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Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by Lamanii22(f): 11:35pm On Apr 15, 2020 |
You better dialogue with your legs... You're only 24, a blessed 24yr old lady ti owo e ji si owo(you even make money at an age like that).... In fact put the relationship on hold! 10 Likes |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by bjbjbj: 1:46am On Apr 16, 2020 |
Walk away 2 Likes |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by cococandy(f): 4:33am On Apr 16, 2020 |
There’s nothing wrong in marrying someone who’s struggling with the intention of being independent and genuinely working to be independent. I always say no one can provide for you like you can provide for yourself. Few man can provide for you 100% and it’s the same with women. So why are you letting him make you feel like you’re doing something wrong for not wanting to carry his family burden? The main problem I’m seeing here is not that he borrows money from you. It’s that he’s borrowing it to support other people. That shows poor management on his part. 14 Likes |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by mrblessed(m): 8:02am On Apr 16, 2020 |
There is always a contrived fuss when a man is at the receiving end, but if it is a woman, it suddenly becomes the man's obligation. You have got two problems: a man who is the breadwinner of his family and his seemingly endless borrowing disposition. My instinct tells me that, you resent his family's financial standing and, of course, will latch on any spurious reason to bolt. More so, the bleating of bimbos of Nairaland are united -- as always -- in an overwhelming demand for termination of the relationship. Be my guest! 8 Likes |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by bukatyne(f): 8:05am On Apr 16, 2020 |
cococandy: Very true And the fact that he is borrowing to sustain/feed them. Not a one off project or sickness. 3 Likes |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by Jaymoon: 8:53am On Apr 16, 2020 |
@op, I would advice you run o, in the long run love is not always enough to sustain you in the relationship. My elder sister is in this kind of relationship with her husband family, my sister the story long o, my sister is regretting it daily, the marriage has crumble due to pressure and her inability to bear children,the story long oh, my sister. Dear op don't waste your youthful age on parasitic relationship borrow leg and run, a word is enough for the wise. ( Aboro die lan so fun omo oluwabi to ba de nu adodin di.) 12 Likes |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by ednut1(m): 9:12am On Apr 16, 2020 |
This is wrong. Flee and japa. They would never stop depending on him |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by Mariangeles(f): 9:18am On Apr 16, 2020 |
bukatyne2: How is she his "woman"? Has he married her? Investing your resources in uncertainties is not a wise thing to do 6 Likes |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by LordKO(m): 10:12am On Apr 16, 2020 |
Don't allow anyone to either guilt-trip you to continue to self-slave for him or guilt-trip you to marry him, not because he's a family breadwinner. But because behind anyone with sense of entitlement is an abuser - especially emotional and psychological abuses, and they're worse than physical abuse. Extricate yourself from his entanglement and look elsewhere for another man, if you value your sanity - of course, purge yourself of same attribute (egoism) that breeds it, if you possess it, now that you know how draining it could be on someone on the receiving end. Don't bother talking him out of his irritating attitude with an intention to continue with him, because he can easily take to pretence. Even if he changes (for good), let it be for the benefits of another woman who may come into his life, this is because of the following reason; If he later becomes financial successful in the future more than you, he'll always remember more of the moments you refused to self-slave for him while forgetting the greater moments you gave in to his self-interest desires - people with entitlement mentality are like that. So, he'll continually resent you when he arrives financially. The scenario playing out between the two of you is exactly the major type of scenario that usually results to "I was there for him/her when he had nothing but now that he's arrived, he's abandoned me." When someone utters this statement, it doesn't always mean that they weren't useful to the other person in their trying time, like most people do erroneously believe or make it seem, rather an egoist can hardly be pleased - loyalty in particular and faithfulness in general aren't their fortes. When they arrived financially, they tend to remember more of the time their benefactors refused to give in to their shenanigans while forgetting their benevolence. Egoism/self-interest (greed, selfishness and self-centeredness) is a vice. Any close relationship between two people, or more people, where the parties involved don't mutually have altruistic interest towards each other can never produce mutual happiness and inner peace for everyone involved - in other words, anyone close to you who doesn't have altruistic interest towards you is a frenemy, and vice versa. The only way to have a relatively harmonious relationship with someone with sense of entitlement is if s/he is more prosperous than you from the inception and continually remains the same, and provided that they value whatever bond that connects two of you while you, of course, remain conscientious. There's nothing wrong with being humane, like you seem in the relationship, and there's nothing wrong with partners expecting goodness from each other. But there's everything wrong with his entitlement mentality - he has egoistic interest towards you. 28 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by cococandy(f): 11:15am On Apr 16, 2020 |
bukatyne: For sure. A one time or few times financial boost is not an issue (at least to me). But the continuous dependence and more so not on his money is what’s worrying. 3 Likes |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by Acidosis(m): 11:26am On Apr 16, 2020 |
Everything seems to be a problem in this world. Don't marry first born because of family burden; don't marry last born because they're lazy; don't marry bread winner.. bla bla. Why don't y'all just stay single? BTW, I don't see a correlation between your topic and your concerns. Your boyfriend is not a breadwinner. He's a broke, lazy, a manipulator, and a chronic 18 Likes |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by ibkayee(f): 12:16pm On Apr 16, 2020 |
Harllaby:Comments like this are why whenever guys say that females who earn/have access to a substantial amount of money are too proud or will rub it in his face I take it with a grain of salt. 5 Likes 1 Share |
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