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Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by Mariangeles(f): 1:26pm On Apr 16, 2020 |
LordKO: Louder please! |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by purpinkx(m): 5:01pm On Apr 16, 2020 |
oyoolima: How can I like your post twice? Not just for the sarcastic and witty delivery, but the neat, clean text format. 4 Likes |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by Nobody: 6:40pm On Apr 16, 2020 |
SweetCunt97:You dey para walahi... |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by 2buffagain(m): 7:29pm On Apr 16, 2020 |
SweetCunt97: These days, no be even first born dey carry load again like OP mentioned. Some first borns dey part of the problem, dey reach for last born money. No too be their fault, but one thing I have seen time and time again is that when family members see that you have money, they become complicit with the knowledge that you will always help them when they come calling. You have to shock them with "No" sometimes. Some family members even just refuse to find work or match their expenses when they see that you are their cash cow. 4 Likes |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by bukatyne(f): 7:35pm On Apr 16, 2020 |
cococandy: Some families pick someone as the martyr or beast of burden and evidently ruin their lives. I know someone who was like the best of burden for her family till her siblings invited her to buy land in an out skirt area and she realized she was a fool for years. The OP's boyfriend / ex is supposed to break the chains of his family else, he has just started. |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by bukatyne(f): 7:41pm On Apr 16, 2020 |
Mariangeles: 1. If this man came her to ask how to spoil his woman (OP) on her 25th birthday, would you tell him that they are not married? 2. Hmmmmmm. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by adexpa(m): 7:55pm On Apr 16, 2020 |
SweetCunt97: It is foolishness n lack of information that makes a young guy believes his family has entitlement right to depend on him n if such person is not serious he will never amount to anything in life cus by the time that job he is living on is gone n he doesn't have any savings to fall back on, those families will still blame him that he never done anything for them the time he has or he never done enough for them. Until you are fully stable, you are not encourage to shoulder anyones responsibility ....that thing kills young Africans.... Feeding their families... Lazy people Dear fine girl, run for your life cus the marriage will be hell fire for you... Don't think it will be better. 3 Likes |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by Mariangeles(f): 8:01pm On Apr 16, 2020 |
bukatyne: Would the OP celebrate her BOYFRIEND on his birthday? 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by Themarkethere: 8:04pm On Apr 16, 2020 |
VivleBriella you are not talking again. You where thinking you would be advised on how to cope with marrying a breadwinner not knowing you are the actual bread winner. They are telling you now, you will not hear? You have even concluded how your names will be on wedding card, "VivleBriella". With which money will he marry you with? The one you will borrow him? Now that all odds are still in your favour don't make a U-turn while the sun shines. You have wasted three youthful years already, you still want to try thirty more? Poverty your parents didn't bequeat you, you want to go and inherit outside? suffer never tire you? 11 Likes |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by AFONAMARO: 8:30pm On Apr 16, 2020 |
VivleBriella: You need to quit this relationship ASAP. Your man is already pushing his family's responsibility as well as his to you, and this is a very bad sign. No responsible man with good intentions nags his girlfriend (not wife) for not assisting his family. You may also need to decline any further monetary assistance from him to ascertain if he's in love with your or your money. If he wants to die carrying a load that's obviously bigger than him, then he should carry it alone and keep you away from it 1 Like |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by VivleBriella: 8:47pm On Apr 16, 2020 |
LordKO Oyoolima Bukatyne Adexpa Themarkethere Afonamaro Sweetcunt97 Paxie55 Frozen70 Inyayiz Jaymoon Thanks for the contributions everyone I didn't go mute, I just didn't think replying everyone individually's the right way.. I've decided to let him go, it's not like he hasn't done anything for me since we started dating, he used to buy me things when we initially started(first 2 months) but I usually insist on footing the bills, cause I didn't want him to see me as a leech, guess he got used to me footing the bills and left me to myself, he's extravagant to some extent, give him 100k today and in two days, he doesn't have a dime on him anymore, usually can't stand seeing him broke, hence, always giving in to his demands but I've had enough cause he already told me point blank he can't marry me during an argument, cause I'm not supportive and submissive.. And to the bloke who thought vivlebriella's for wedding cards, no, it's not, it's just some random nick I thought bout to open an account with but thanks for your contribution, it's appreciated. 13 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by 2buffagain(m): 7:46pm On Apr 17, 2020 |
VivleBriella: Solid decision! 2 Likes |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by frankkydee(m): 8:08pm On Apr 17, 2020 |
VivleBriella: In as much as being supportive to your partner, it shouldn't be at the detriment of their sanity and well-being. The write up applies to both gender and i think the best thing to do in this kind of situation is to call his or her attention and take heart to heart with the partner but if he/she feels there is nothing bad in being a leech then, you sure know you done for. You can't carry someone else's problem and leave your own behind. We all have one or two things we are aiming in life. Don't allow anyone to take advantage of your generosity for foolishness. |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by ImaIma1(f): 10:14pm On Apr 17, 2020 |
SweetCunt97: This one is even lastborn |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by ImaIma1(f): 10:18pm On Apr 17, 2020 |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by ImaIma1(f): 10:26pm On Apr 17, 2020 |
mrblessed: No matter how you try to twist the grammar, the truth remains that she is carrying more than what she should. Is it only the man that has a family?Why can't he be upfront with them and tell them he doesn't have the funds? Instead, he is borrowing from his girlfriend to put up a front and act like he has at her own expense. Even making her feel like she's not doing enough...feeling entitled to her money. 5 Likes |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by Saintmary(f): 7:59am On Apr 18, 2020 |
ImaIma1:
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Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by crackkhaus: 9:09am On Apr 18, 2020 |
VivleBriella:SweetCunt97 says no one is perfect, and since he did not put a gun to your head before you gave him money, then you should have given him a chance and try to salvage your relationship. I'm just telling you what someone else said, it's not my opinion. I like that you left the opportunist. No one should ever remain with a partner who drains their finances or feels entitled to their money, male or female... ![]() 6 Likes |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by SweetCunt97(f): 9:32am On Apr 18, 2020 |
crackkhaus:It's fir the best. That type will whine and whine and emotionally blackmail you into giving him money. He should go get creative like his fellow mate and not get comfy on a woman's sweat. 3 Likes |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by crackkhaus: 9:38am On Apr 18, 2020 |
SweetCunt97:I agree. But you should have said the same thing here https://www.nairaland.com/5800075/need-advice-no-insults-please#88558030 3 Likes |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by SweetCunt97(f): 9:43am On Apr 18, 2020 |
crackkhaus:Reverse is the case. Right from time immemorial women spend men's money and the man should b a man and know how to handle the situation. Her crime is being extravagant but this male in question has older sibling leeching off him and him leeching off the op. 1 Like |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by crackkhaus: 9:49am On Apr 18, 2020 |
SweetCunt97:There.. That's all I came to expose here - the Nigerian woman's psyche. Thanks for being a good sport. Cheers... 8 Likes |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by SweetCunt97(f): 10:38am On Apr 18, 2020 |
crackkhaus:It is what it is. You may wanna deny it but it is what it is. As u expose Nigerian reality your account increase? Or you got into Harvard or Yale? Puhleeeses 2 Likes |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by veave(f): 10:51am On Apr 18, 2020 |
I wanted to advise you but I have a feeling you'd not take any of the good advises giving to you up there so bye. Enjoy your relationship. |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by crackkhaus: 11:07am On Apr 18, 2020 |
SweetCunt97:Deny it? Lmao.. Far from it. Getting you to expose your psyche which is in fact the psyche of a lot of you, was simply to let the readers know that women like you who still complain of being taken for granted and subjugated by men, should NEVER be taken seriously because you deserve it. You can't decide to remain perpetually on the receiving end of a man's finances because he is a man and you're a woman, and still expect to be respected as a human being or treated as more than property. Na una dey do una self... ![]() 14 Likes |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by Nobody: 12:22pm On Apr 18, 2020 |
crackkhaus: So u actually believe women sit down to enjoy their men's money? Hian! 1 Like |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by crackkhaus: 3:16pm On Apr 18, 2020 |
sassysure:Not sit down literally, but you should know what I mean. It's an unarguable expectation by women that a man is meant to take care of them financially. Whether you're sitting down doing absolutely nothing or working hard but still expecting to enjoy his own money, is all besides the point. You can see how I made that chic above admit it - I did that because of the nonsense she quoted me to post on that link. It was much like this same situation but in reverse and you can see how her reaction to both is totally opposite to each other. 5 Likes |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by Nobody: 3:27pm On Apr 18, 2020 |
crackkhaus:Don't take these people serious ![]() Haba ![]() ![]() The gal may be 14yrs old with phone forming big babe. That's the only way I don't burst when I read some posts here. If u see the pictures and age of these people, u rather respect yourself. Some are yet to write weac ![]() 4 Likes |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by crackkhaus: 3:34pm On Apr 18, 2020 |
sassysure:Audio big babe ![]() |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by SweetCunt97(f): 3:57pm On Apr 18, 2020 |
crackkhaus:So when God gave man his Gender and social role he gave man pass to treat women less? Why is it about money this money that? Men got what they contribute while women too. Both need each other to survive.. That women are not d money makers and family head does not mean they not important and don't contribute their quota to d system. Anyways I won't argue with u anymore... 3 Likes |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by crackkhaus: 4:26pm On Apr 18, 2020 |
SweetCunt97:Money makes the world go round... He who pays the piper dictates the tune... Etc. Etc.. I thought you were all about the reality of things? Now you're talking about God. When was the last time you opened a Bible? Abeg rest... ![]() 12 Likes |
Re: What Comes With Marrying The Breadwinner Of A Family? by 2buffagain(m): 4:35pm On Apr 18, 2020 |
SweetCunt97: These days women too are making money. What are you doing? I personally don't consider broke girls who are looking for men to support them. Barring special occasions in life i.e childbirth, I would rather she go make bank and keep her brain sharp. We can pay for maid and cook when we want to relax from domestic chores. Also, I like nice gifts too. It's not meant to be one-way. Power couple 4 life. It is what it is. Your gender mates are planning to be doctors, engineers, lawyers, and successful business people. Yet you are there planning to be an utter Loser and dependent failure. ![]() Go there and get some inspiration for your life https://www.pinterest.ca/theroot/black-female-ceos/ 1 Like |
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