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Cowbell521:
If den bon u well make you come any wie I dey for Abj.... see dis small gel....

If you no enta barracks, call bastard! Who U be?

Ur papa and mama na wetin for Abuja? Chop sand? Dis gel go put herself for trouble Oo

Given enough attention bro. You ought to have cum by now, haba. Abeg shift

[quote author=VivleBriella post=88472091]Good day everyone

I've been a guest for a couple of years now, created an account to seek advice

Don't be rational.
You seeking advice on nairaland means that
you don't want to take a decision you will regret sooner or later, it's very good and it means that you are not rational.

First, in a relashionship a partner most always reveal how he or she feel averytime again and again, so tell him your thoughts both the negative and positive feelings you get from the situation and how you think he should be handling his families needs, give him ideals to manage the situation.
If he buys it good for both of you if he
doesn't you can take your final decision of culting the relationship for you life, feelings, and futures sake.
Good luck....

SweetCunt97:
Given enough attention bro. You ought to have cum by now, haba. Abeg shift

hahaha I tink U wan fite me for Abuja b4 na.... Chai.. I for show U sey no one fit buy dat Job. He big pass U

I for Bleep U make U cum but I no dey chop leftover from Wale and Chidi

VivleBriella:
Good day everyone

I've been a guest for a couple of years now, created an account to seek advice

My dear nairalanders, does it always end well marrying the Breadwinner of a family? He's the last born with 4 elder siblings but they all depend on him.

This is the first red flag. This won't be a red flag if the guy has a lot of money to take care of everyone.

VivleBriella:

Yes, I knew he was the Breadwinner from day one but I thought with time, everyone else will be able to stand on their own, but it hasn't happened yet, we've dated for 3yrs now and he doesn't support me financially. I don't complain but he feels entitled to my money and when I get tired of him asking me to lend him some money and decide to say no, he nags and tells me I'm not being supportive enough.

Another giant red flag! 3 yrs. is more than enough to know anyone. You're the only one entitled to your money! To him and his family, you're their ATM. He's not your husband, so I don't know you always feel you need to finance him and his family! Wake up from your slumber!

VivleBriella:

This is driving me really crazy cause he reminded me of how unsupportive I've been to him and his family, he's driving me insane, you can't possibly put the responsibility of your family on my shoulders, that's crazy and insensitive, over the years, I've borrowed him nothing less than 500k which I know for sure he's never giving back.

Stop the spending spree like a mugu! If he loves you he will understand. Let him spend on you for a change! If he refuses to spend on you, RUN AWAY. It is NOT your responsibility to take care him and his siblings! Make sure you collect 500K as soon as possible! The whole thing is crazy. I can't believe you have been enduring this bullsh*it this long!

VivleBriella:

Is it normal to be in a parasitic relationship whereby the female remains the host that's being fed on?

A parasitic relationship is wrong no matter how you look at it. Two people in a relationship should

VivleBriella:

I'm only 24 while he's 31.

Run! You've so much life ahead of you! There are good men out there who deserve you!

From experience as a woman you can map out the blueprint

And not only will you have a legacy together you’ll have something everyone else will be envying

Never loan what you can’t write off sometimes and if he messes up collect money It’s not everytime you play this card o but he won’t forget That he had to give you money notice I didn’t say partial or full depending on the grandness of the embarrassment the trick is you can only play this card once in the whole relationship. The loan is free because of love sometimes men don’t respect the lender if you don’t keep him accountable. that’s all don’t shout in the street o just between you two.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kxX1OdqTBNc

Have you tried putting yourself in his shoe, let's say the table was turned and the guy is now the person supporting supporting your family. Would you be happy if he should say something like this about you and your family. I guess it would have been a normal for a guy to support his girls family but not the girl supporting the guy's family, you should willing support him or quit the relationship than bringing his matter up here for strangers to dissect on it.

Funny comments here

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Get used to it or get out of the relationship if it's not okay with you..I'm not going to pamper you with words cos at the end of the day,you will only heed to the advice that will justify your conscience.. afterall many men are in this shoes,they bear the burden of the the girls family and some are not even appreciated..yet ladies cry out when then spend on their man...you cant count how many ladies some guys have lent money to and still they (ladies) still feel entitled,claiming "he's the man".so lady,do anything that rocks your boat..its your relationship..DECIDE!!!

I always say that giving is masculine sha

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VivleBriella:
Good day everyone

I've been a guest for a couple of years now, created an account to seek advice

My dear nairalanders, does it always end well marrying the Breadwinner of a family? He's the last born with 4 elder siblings but they all depend on him.

Yes, I knew he was the Breadwinner from day one but I thought with time, everyone else will be able to stand on their own, but it hasn't happened yet, we've dated for 3yrs now and he doesn't support me financially. I don't complain but he feels entitled to my money and when I get tired of him always asking me to lend him some money and decide to say no, he nags and tells me I'm not being supportive enough.

This is driving me really crazy cause he reminded me of how unsupportive I've been to him and his family, he's driving me insane, you can't possibly put the responsibility of your family on my shoulders, that's crazy and insensitive, over the years, I've borrowed him nothing less than 500k which I know for sure he's never giving back.

Is it normal to be in a parasitic relationship whereby the female remains the host that's being fed on?

I'm only 24 while he's 31.

Free the guy...

Some relationships aren't worth staying in....

He's using you.

Being a bread winner isn't the problem. Depending on you for that money is.

VivleBriella:
Good day everyone

I've been a guest for a couple of years now, created an account to seek advice

My dear nairalanders, does it always end well marrying the Breadwinner of a family? He's the last born with 4 elder siblings but they all depend on him.

Yes, I knew he was the Breadwinner from day one but I thought with time, everyone else will be able to stand on their own, but it hasn't happened yet, we've dated for 3yrs now and he doesn't support me financially. I don't complain but he feels entitled to my money and when I get tired of him always asking me to lend him some money and decide to say no, he nags and tells me I'm not being supportive enough.

This is driving me really crazy cause he reminded me of how unsupportive I've been to him and his family, he's driving me insane, you can't possibly put the responsibility of your family on my shoulders, that's crazy and insensitive, over the years, I've borrowed him nothing less than 500k which I know for sure he's never giving back.

Is it normal to be in a parasitic relationship whereby the female remains the host that's being fed on?

I'm only 24 while he's 31.

You can't create money out of thin air.

If he doesn't have the money, he doesn't aether money.

rockstarB:

Prostitution is older than your generation, and it will continue till the end of time. Men of integrity dont borrow from their women and not return it. There is no shame in borrowing from your woman, the shame is when you refuse to return it and keep on borrowing because you sure know how to play the victim! Using reverse psychology to collect money from women.

Abeg, komot for road. You can introduce him to your sister.

jaksmillioniar:
so u want to marry him and keep him alone dats wicked. his older one dont have today dont mean dey wont have tomoro.let ur heart be clean

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I just like your maturity in presenting the situation

Lol..
Even u huh??
Dat..i do always look out to your comment ehn..
Why..not tell the girl to talk it out with the guy??
Leaving him now will hurt that guy..

Lamanii22:
You better dialogue with your legs... You're only 24, a blessed 24yr old lady ti owo e ji si owo(you even make money at an age like that).... In fact put the relationship on hold!

Let me tall you this,by design it is taboo and course for men to be depending on women,woman can help when she knew that her man has been trying for her before,No man suppose to put his hope on women income.

Fire on the mountain - RUN! RUN !! RUN!!!

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VivleBriella:
Good day everyone

I've been a guest for a couple of years now, created an account to seek advice

My dear nairalanders, does it always end well marrying the Breadwinner of a family? He's the last born with 4 elder siblings but they all depend on him.

Yes, I knew he was the Breadwinner from day one but I thought with time, everyone else will be able to stand on their own, but it hasn't happened yet, we've dated for 3yrs now and he doesn't support me financially. I don't complain but he feels entitled to my money and when I get tired of him always asking me to lend him some money and decide to say no, he nags and tells me I'm not being supportive enough.

This is driving me really crazy cause he reminded me of how unsupportive I've been to him and his family, he's driving me insane, you can't possibly put the responsibility of your family on my shoulders, that's crazy and insensitive, over the years, I've borrowed him nothing less than 500k which I know for sure he's never giving back.

Is it normal to be in a parasitic relationship whereby the female remains the host that's being fed on?

I'm only 24 while he's 31.

You are in for a long ride if he actually borrows from you for his family. It's not a bad thing to marry a bread winner at least God always bless a giver. Yes only God can bless you because most family members usually have sense of entitlement and I tell only few repays in future.

When you marry a chronic breadwinner like yours you must put on your seat belt for a long ride. I called him chronic because he borrows for them.

Look at the prospect, seriousness and behaviour of his so called siblings, if its encouraging then it's a good investment.

In such relationships you dont declare all your assets because of his irrational behaviour.

However, if you mind is telling you "egungun becareful you don dey go express" ... you know what to do.

What is your mind telling you?

VivleBriella:
Good day everyone

I've been a guest for a couple of years now, created an account to seek advice

My dear nairalanders, does it always end well marrying the Breadwinner of a family? He's the last born with 4 elder siblings but they all depend on him.

Yes, I knew he was the Breadwinner from day one but I thought with time, everyone else will be able to stand on their own, but it hasn't happened yet, we've dated for 3yrs now and he doesn't support me financially. I don't complain but he feels entitled to my money and when I get tired of him always asking me to lend him some money and decide to say no, he nags and tells me I'm not being supportive enough.

This is driving me really crazy cause he reminded me of how unsupportive I've been to him and his family, he's driving me insane, you can't possibly put the responsibility of your family on my shoulders, that's crazy and insensitive, over the years, I've borrowed him nothing less than 500k which I know for sure he's never giving back.

Is it normal to be in a parasitic relationship whereby the female remains the host that's being fed on?

I'm only 24 while he's 31.

Mehn! U borrow guy 500k?
Babe can I DM, can I have your number?
Me I have my own money ooo I'm not a leeh or gold digger. at least I have up to 300k in my account, we can start from there I won't disturb.
Above all I'm not a bread winner.
Nobody send me for my family self.
I don't feel entitled, I just love a working class lady like u

Fake story..

VivleBriella:



Smiles
I never rubbed anything on his face, I only refused helping when it was getting out of hands.

Like he rightly pointed out to you.. Tell the man how you feel. Communication is very vital in a relationship. If you can't face your man up front and tell him what's disturbing you then that relationship is not a healthy one. The Man is really insensitive. Before i advise you to quit I'll advise you to be bold, and table it out with him. Tell him your mind, tell him everything. You're obviously young that's why he's manipulating you. It's time to stand up to him. If he yells get out of the relationship. There're many good men out there.

DominusPrime:
This will continue as long as you tolerate it. My simple advice? Walk away.

The probability that he will marry you is very slim

VivleBriella:
Good day everyone

I've been a guest for a couple of years now, created an account to seek advice

My dear nairalanders, does it always end well marrying the Breadwinner of a family? He's the last born with 4 elder siblings but they all depend on him.

Yes, I knew he was the Breadwinner from day one but I thought with time, everyone else will be able to stand on their own, but it hasn't happened yet, we've dated for 3yrs now and he doesn't support me financially. I don't complain but he feels entitled to my money and when I get tired of him always asking me to lend him some money and decide to say no, he nags and tells me I'm not being supportive enough.

This is driving me really crazy cause he reminded me of how unsupportive I've been to him and his family, he's driving me insane, you can't possibly put the responsibility of your family on my shoulders, that's crazy and insensitive, over the years, I've borrowed him nothing less than 500k which I know for sure he's never giving back.

Is it normal to be in a parasitic relationship whereby the female remains the host that's being fed on?

I'm only 24 while he's 31.

Run far away from that leech. Don’t make the daft mistake of marrying him.