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Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by Vickiyxx: 2:55pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
babythug:Thank you so much for the support , your words really made me feel strong and happy. To be frank with you I don’t have any skill , no vision in Life my life is messed up. I hope it’s not too late for me |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by KevinDein: 3:00pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
What a weird story, weird family. Mum encouraging daughter with two kids from two different men and married to none to go and get a third child. Been masturbating since you were 8. Dad calls daughter a fat cow, daughter barked back at dad. Just a proper toxic environment. 1 Like |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by babythug(f): 3:11pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
Vickiyxx: You can squeeze water out of this rock my dear! The past is now the past and the best is just right round the corner! Do you have any education at all? What are your interests? Bead making, hair dressing, hat maki, make up/head tie artistry? |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by Nobody: 3:15pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
Your mother isn't responsible for the choices you made. Accept responsibility for your actions but don't dwell on your mistakes. Focus on yourself and your kids, and move forward. 4 Likes |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by Vickiyxx: 3:16pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
Harllaby:Thanks for the support my first daughter is 10 years old and am trying my best to give them the best upbringing and I always pray for them that they will become greater than me. None of them should follow my footsteps. Yes I think she is the course of my dilemma because all the churches I have been to is only her name being mentioned and not any other person. When we were young she made us believe that my father mother is a witch that she wanted to kills my younger sister when she was a baby and we grew up believing our grandmother is a witch and we never liked and had nothing to do with her. But I had my first shock of my life when I decided to get closer to God and I joined this church in 2012 that was when I found out my mum is the course of my problem , I first I had doubts taught maybe the pastor is fake or something , I change church same thing , and I have been to so many churches and it still her. in 2017 I disliked going church so I completely stopped attending church and just returned back this February 2020 .The latest church I joined this February is winners chapel had my deliverance still is her name. So from 2012 till 2020 they keep mentioning her name nobody else in my family even the grandmother she made us believe is a witch , I never heard her name being mentions. Are those all pastors fake or what? And when I was 8 she gave me her wedding ring to wear and I lost it . I did not know about all this until one time I asked her where’s is her wedding ring but have never seen her wearing one , she said I was the one that lost it . It’s very strange . I have a lots to write but English is not good enough for me |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by KevinDein: 3:19pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
Vickiyxx:You can start by tapering down on the porn and masturbation. Addictions that give quick dopamine rush like gambling, drug, porn etc, are very capable of demotivating you as you tend to build your life around them. And no, your mum isn't responsible for your misfortunes. Taking responsibility for your wrong decisions will be a good start for you. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by Vickiyxx: 3:27pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
KevinDein:Thanks but I have been trying since to stop this addiction but it hasn’t been easy. Last time I did 3 months without watching porn of masturbation but when the feeling start coming again , I started doing it like every single day sometimes 3-4 times a day , I cries about it because I want to stop but I don’t know how. Ok if she is not responsible for my dilemma then I will have to stop going to churches and become atheist because I can’t keep going there when they are lying to me . I think being a atheist will be better choice for me 1 Like |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by argent412(f): 3:35pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
If they add those ur grammers you dey speak, it will not even form pigin. DanseMacabre: |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by DanseMacabre(m): 3:53pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
argent412: Noted. |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by yvelchstores(f): 3:55pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
It's a pity how your life has been. And you sound like it's over for you. Well it's not, besides you are just 28. I don't think you and your sister having kids outside wedlock is coincidence. One thing you must understand is that when you are delivered of any evil habit or force, the demons wait for an opportunity to go right back into your life. YOU HAVE TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR LIFE AND BE DISCIPLINED. Your mother did that to you, so are you going to let it be the end of you? You go to church and at a point you hate being there, KEEP GOING! YOU MUST BE DISCIPLINED. The more you spend time with God's words, the more there is an exchange, a metamorphosis, a transformation. If you do not spend time long enough with the word of God, you can't come out of whatever shackles has you bound. As it is, if you won't do this for yourself, do it for your daughters because whether u like it or not, right now you seem helpless to yourself and as such can't do much for your girls. First of all, become a serious person, serious with yourself, serious with God. Get a grip of your life. Start from somewhere. No one can help u till u DECIDE TO HELP YOURSELF 1 Like |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by Ishilove: 3:56pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
Nkan beh o. Op oya you sef go for deliverance and stop having unprotected sex. That is an open door for the enemy. |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by yvelchstores(f): 4:00pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
KevinDein:in as much as I will like to agree with you, I can't say her mum is not responsible because I haven't prayed about it to know if indeed op is manipulated spiritually. Life is spiritual. What I can say is, her mother encouraging her to have more children out of wedlock is too strange to ignore. Plus they chased away the man who was responsible for the first pregnancy when he wanted to do the right thing. Very weird I tell you. |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by LilMissFavvy(f): 4:00pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
You got pregnant for two different men . This fact alone shows that you have never lived a decent life, stop blaming your mother, or did your mum also cause you to father kids from two men? . How can you insult your biological father because he got angry with you? How many fathers would be happy to have a daughter like you? Even if your claims about your mum is true, is your dad whom you insulted also guilty? You are very wrong to cut off from your family, the earlier you apologise to your father and also make peace with your sister, the better. 1 Like |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by crackkhaus: 4:10pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
nana228:Enough said. 7 Likes |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by Winneygirl(f): 4:21pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
The situation with you and your sister is a result of poor parenting. However, you are an adult and you should be responsible for your life. Jumping from church to church will not solve your problems. If you spent that energy working odd jobs, you will gradually become a financially independent person. Your mother did not make her money by jumping from church to church. She worked for it. You too, work for your own money. . Lastly, I believe your attitude is very poor. You resent your family, you hate your sister and you insulted your father. Is this the attitude of a good person? |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by Vickiyxx: 4:39pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
LilMissFavvy:My parents cause it because when my first baby daddy wanted to come and do introduction , they were against it especially my dad , if they had accepted him maybe by now we would have been together and all of my children will be from him. I insulted my father to reset his brain by reminding him if I am not married till now it was because he rejected my baby daddy and he has no right to insult me. Am sorry but I will never apologise to any of them because I owe them no apology |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by adexpa(m): 4:43pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
You have taken step already, either the reason is true or not, all you need now is to sit down and evaluate how you and your children will be surviving. If you can reach the daddies of your children for monthly child support while you are also hustling to get small small money. Beware of friends you will mingle with and be serious with the way you spend your money. If any man wants to come in again, make sure you take your time before finally accept. Be prayerful too and be weary of fake churches and pastors. Be wise and be careful, you will be fine at last |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by Hathor5(f): 4:44pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
If you feel that your family is too toxic and you need some time apart, take your time. It may help you to make peace with them. If not, at least you will have peace on your own. I wouldn't trust any church telling you what they have told you about your mother. Be careful not to be used by them because you are in a difficult situation and they may use your need to belong for their own purpose. And like some others said, take responsibility for the decisions you have made too. I wish you the best of luck. |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by sisisioge: 4:45pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
We thank God for NL that allowed you the forum to speak up. Now that you have spoken, go into the world and live right. 28yrs heavy duty with 2 kids for different fathers living at her parents house until last month...chai...think about it. Would you want one of your kids to grow into a woman widening in her fathers house at 28yrs with 2 kids for two different baby daddies. Whew! Your sister even thought its ok to emulate you! On a bright note, disowning them will give your the opportunity to appreciate your situation and stimulate some real good thinking regarding choices is good that you've left, taking May God make your parents happy again. |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by Vickiyxx: 4:46pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
Winneygirl:When she is using my destiny how will I get a job ? I have been trying since 2011 but nothing . I don’t just sit and folds my hands and expecting everything from my parents, I have been trying to be depend when I used to live with them but nothing was working. I am now depend living alone with my children , looking forward to start something doing but I don’t even know where to start from. |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by Vickiyxx: 4:48pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
adexpa:Thanks so much |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by Vickiyxx: 4:49pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
Hathor5:Thanks so much 1 Like |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by Hathor5(f): 4:49pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
Vickiyxx: How do you have time and space to do it 3-4 times a day with your kids around? |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by Vickiyxx: 4:50pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
Hathor5:I live in a two bedroom house |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by Harllaby: 5:12pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
nana228:True! I don't want to sound too harsh to her at first. She need people like you around to dish her truth about reality of life, but she is deeply entrenched in her harmful religious belief and it's affecting her sense of reasoning. |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by Winneygirl(f): 5:34pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
Vickiyxx: The origin of your problems lie in your mind. If you keep believing that someone is using your destiny, it means that you believe you will be unable to achieve anything until they 'release' your destiny. Therefore, you will never give your best effort. Discard the notion that your Mother is after your downfall. You have never been up in the first place. Stop going to churches where they focus on witchcraft, witches, enemies. You will only remain in bondage. Free your mind. Tonight, think of where you can go and ask for a job. Even if it is to fetch water for someone and get paid, wash clothes, clean someone's house. Tomorrow morning, get up and go look for the job. This is where you should start. 2 Likes |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by Nobody: 5:48pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
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Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by LilMissFavvy(f): 6:13pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
Listen to yourself, your father should have accepted your baby daddy when you were just 18yrs, bla bla bla. If you closed your legs and brought a husband at let's say Age 25 would your dad have stopped you from getting married? Answer is no, but you got pregnant at tender age, and expect a loving father to be happy that such happened. My kind of father would have done worse than your dad, take it or leave it. I had sisters mind you. You set poor example for your sister to follow, now you mock her. Mind you, i believe in the existence of witchcraft, I know that powers exist, but a Christian who cannot overcome a simple thing as masturbation, even after becoming a baby mama, jumping from church to church, is a very very unserious human being, you claim you began masturbation at 9yrs, at 28 you are still doing it, is your pussssy controlling your brain, or your brain should control your pussssy. Different churches have mentioned your mother alone, so why are you now keeping enmity with your father and sister? What did they do to you? Try and make peace with your dad and sister. As for your mum, use wisdom in dealing with her. Many people have household enemies, face spiritual battless, yet are successful and living decent lives. Drop that dirty masturbation habit. Vickiyxx: 1 Like |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by Lamanii22(f): 6:39pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
Sundrus: I swear to God... Her own problem really shook me.... She should swallow her pride and accept help. |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by DonEd(m): 7:26pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
DanseMacabre: You need to grow some sense. Everything shouldn't be about how good u r and how others are not. Empathy son. Empathy |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by bukatyne(f): 7:27pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
Vickiyxx: If you have no skill and no education, what kind of job do you hope to get? |
Re: I Ave Cut Ties With My Family by DanseMacabre(m): 7:38pm On Apr 21, 2020 |
DonEd: All ist verruckt. |
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