babtoundey:


What are you helping them with? You want to help them stop being who they are? Is introversion a kind of disease of the brain or a tumor that disturbs the bearer and needs to be cured by your intrusion? That you are what you are; outgoing, sociable and garrulous or what have you doesn't make you an inch better than another who is not. Being extrovert doesn't exclude you from the challenges the introvert face and being introvert doesn't denied you the privileges extrovert enjoy. What counts is how you you can learn, master and manage your mental disposition to attain your targets.

Juell:

Bros the mistake most of u "extroverts" make is thinking there's something/everything wrong with being an introvert. Being judged for who you are is what turns most introverts off. I remember when I a kid, I was most times quite, but my younger bro was the outspoken type. So, people like relating with him cos he's "outspoken". What I do then was to totally cut off from such people. I grew up not relating with most of my father's people.

Karleb:


This is exactly what I am saying!

How do you expect people to relate with you when you don't relate with them?

More often than not people will relate with others that are ready to reciprocate the gesture, even you.

What could have really saved you then would have been asking your brother how he does it, I'm very sure he would have happily taught you what no Introvert can teach you because he had the real experience not some copy paste solutions.

Now you don't even relate with your own relatives. Image!

This is why I strongly suggest this thread should be opened up to all especially extroverts because of people like you, people who have real life problem.

Please note that the problem I'm talking about is low Social Awareness.

Karleb:


This is exactly what I am saying!

How do you expect people to relate with you when you don't relate with them?

More often than not people will relate with others that are ready to reciprocate the gesture, even you.

What could have really saved you then would have been asking your brother how he does it, I'm very sure he would have happily taught you what no Introvert can teach you because he had the real experience not some copy paste solutions.

Now you don't even relate with your own relatives. Image!

This is why I strongly suggest this thread should be opened up to all especially extroverts because of people like you, people who have real life problem.

Please note that the problem I'm talking about is low Social Awareness.

Karleb:
You're comparing Cat and Dog I'm comparing human and human.

Karleb:
You're comparing Cat and Dog I'm comparing human and human.

Xzbit91:


I used that caparison for lack of a better analogy, but that's besides the point. Human beings are not a monolith.

Juell:

They don't think deep that's another of their downside.

Juell:

They don't think deep that's another of their downside.

Hakeem12:
wouldn't say they don't think deep, maybe just not all the time or over think like introverts do. For instance, where I work, I watch a group of introverts brainstorm all the time. I roll my eyes knowing at the end of the meeting, I'd make a suggestion, explain it and the solution is chosen. One other thing that annoys me about them is wanting to get together for meetings for even the little things without considering people who may not be that social.

Usorohtheman:
I believe this lockdown is actually favouring the introverts.

Juell:

U're right, they're mostly not patient enough to listen.

DonOms:


I wouldn't put it in those exact words because introverts too do have lives - work, friends, religious groups, social circles in some form and what have you. And we can't really do all that in the proper way now, can we?

Having said that, yes, Introverts will thrive and perform better during these period. And I dare say that the extroverts have a lot to learn from us at this time because we're all in the Introvert's 'comfortable situation.'

An extroverted colleague of mine was complaining to me how he is going insane being inside his house. I had to give him helpful tips on "how to not lose your mind during lockdown."

@Karleb,

I couldn't help but mention you having read all your comments here. While your intentions appear righteous, you're getting the whole idea of this thread wrong. Like I said above, Introverts have a lot to teach extroverts during this time. So it would make sense to also say that when things are normal, extroverts can teach introverts a lot too, right? Not exactly sir (I'm assuming you're a man).

The world we live in today is "made" for extroverts and introverts have been 'struggling to find their place' in a noisy world. So why do you think we need extroverts to guide us? It's not a case of finding yourself immigrate to France and getting the locals to teach you French (That's your take), It's a case of being disposed to low noise and your new neighbour blares his woofer to your hears. You don't go to your neighbour to teach you how to adapt to loud music, that neighbour didn't have to adapt at any point, he was born to listen to loud music. You find a fellow introvert who had adapted and learn from him.

So, while you may mean well, this thread is not for what you think. But it's good to have you come around and learn a thing or two on how to cope with lockdown. *winks.*

babyfaceafrica:


So why do you think we need extroverts to guide us?



Extroverts guide who?.. How can noisemakers guide people?.. Individuals who are lousy, not patient, and noisy.. Guide introverts?... Only an introvert or probably an ambivert knows how to guide an introvert.. You can't teach what you don't know

Juell:

Nah, it doesn't work that way. My parents siblings knew I'm quite outside cos people don't understand me, but at home I'm very loud cos they know me and accepted me for who I am. But those outside will just assume he's quite and will not even make an attempt to reach out first. Funny enough some of them later see me with those I'm comfortable with and will shocked and be like "so u can talk like this". In summary what I'm saying don't make an introvert feel like him being an introvert is socially wrong, cos if you do dat he'll withdraw further back into his shell. For me no one helped me to become outspoken or out going and I didn't beat myself up cos I wanted to be out going. And I've met a lot of introverts and still meeting them, all I do is study them and try to pick their interests b4 you know it we're flowing like we've known for ages.

Olarewajub:
It seems that most introvert are funny and with a good sense of humour. They tend to exhibit this trait when they are in the means of their close associates.

U1:


I can relate with the bold, bro. The second sentence captures what I was trying to state in a post here some time ago. Some of us can seem like extroverts when in the right company.

I could remember when I was in secondary school many years ago. Most of my classmates initially thought I didn't like relating with people, except a few that used to sit close to me. Two to three years later, they were somewhat shocked about the talkative I had become. The same thing happened during my university days.

It's not even really about people reaching out first in all cases. There are times you'd try to relate and you would probably get a cold response, if any. That right there can send an introvert back into their shell!

U1:


I can relate with the bold, bro. The second sentence captures what I was trying to state in a post here some time ago. Some of us can seem like extroverts when in the right company.

I could remember when I was in secondary school many years ago. Most of my classmates initially thought I didn't like relating with people, except a few that used to sit close to me. Two to three years later, they were somewhat shocked about the talkative I had become. The same thing happened during my university days.

It's not even really about people reaching out first in all cases. There are times you'd try to relate and you would probably get a cold response, if any. That right there can send an introvert back into their shell!

CsRockefeller:
After over 25 years, I wish I wasnt an introvert.

Men!!....... I'm tired and exhausted. Even when I try to go out of my way to make friends or meet people it never ends well.

Dont wish to be one ever again.

CsRockefeller:
After over 25 years, I wish I wasnt an introvert.

Men!!....... I'm tired and exhausted. Even when I try to go out of my way to make friends or meet people it never ends well.

Dont wish to be one ever again.

Juell:

U were born that way , no one chose to be an introvert/extrovert. It's all about working on ur weaknesses and developing more of strength. Like for, I'd rather have the right company around me than be all alone, I hardly enjoy my own company. Relating with people has become easy for me.

cochtrane:

All of this self-pity is unwarranted. You need to start thinking of your qualities more from a strong or work-in-progress standpoint than from a weak one. No one is immune to being tired or exhausted or lacking energy. Studies have shown repeatedly that that has little to do with your personality type than it does with your self-motivation, inner drive or determination to succeed. To think that not being introvert (or even extrovert) is the way out is a highly erroneous route to take. Maybe if you are not human, then that's your way out; but I'm digressing.

There is a lot out there in the world to face regardless of one's personality type. Everyone handles it differently. Those who are talkative talk to calm their nerves, even when they feel anxious. Those who aren't talkative on the other hand, stay quiet to calm their nerves. Different people, different reactions to the stimulus called environment. Learn to handle your own reaction well and you shall thrive.

J0nyb0y:
who else often forget things easily?, get irritated/angry over silly things and have problems expressing my feelings because i think no one would understand me

Karleb:
Let me group Introverts into two groups:

Group 1: These ones have sold their soul to the eternal goddess of silence. They'll rather not talk even if talking was necessary. These are the types that can stay indoor for a year if they have the necessary amenities.


Group 2: These ones like quiet but not always, they secretly wish to be like their talkative friends. Some of them were even extroverts as a kid but only became introvert during adolescent.

They enjoy their me time quite well but they'll often come out of their shell from time to time to catch with the latest in their neighborhood.



I have no business with group 1 but I'm mostly concerned about the second group. They are the reason why I'm doing what I'm doing here.

Karleb:
Let me group Introverts into two groups:

Group 1: These ones have sold their soul to the eternal goddess of silence. They'll rather not talk even if talking was necessary. These are the types that can stay indoor for a year if they have the necessary amenities.


Group 2: These ones like quiet but not always, they secretly wish to be like their talkative friends. Some of them were even extroverts as a kid but only became introvert during adolescent.

They enjoy their me time quite well but they'll often come out of their shell from time to time to catch with the latest in their neighborhood.



I have no business with group 1 but I'm mostly concerned about the second group. They are the reason why I'm doing what I'm doing here.