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Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by Demolaemperor00: 7:55am On Apr 24, 2020 |
You didn't do anything bad I had similar experience when I was younger at the age of 16years I was living with my sister and her husband but not same mother my step sister..the way her husband treated me was so harsh I had to do all the work at home,I wasn't given quality education he called me evil spirit he said am the one doing him..I had to to take care of the house and thr children before going to school... I left the place after a year I wasn't treated right at all..but thank God now am now a graduate pursuing my Masters I also have business I'm doing... But what your mother don't know is that the girl have few years to use with you whether your mother treated her well or not shes going to reach where God destined her to reach but what your mum has done will never be forgotten by that child...and karma will always catch up no matter what it might not necessary catch up with ur mother directly but her children cuz who knows where her children can find themselves sit ur mum down, tell her all these things tell her nobody knows tomorrow and please and please be nice to that girl at all time she will never forget the effort you made on her....to your brother sit him down and talk to him 5 Likes |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by pocohantas(f): 7:56am On Apr 24, 2020 |
cococandy: They don’t have sense na. 1 Like |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by Davidtolu1: 8:07am On Apr 24, 2020 |
In this situation brother ....I would advice you to not interfere in this matter if you really want that small girl to be okay.... You can only protect the girl when you're around what if you go out or you're out of the country .... Just tell your mom that she should remember that Karma is real and how will she feel if her own children are been treated that way if they were in Similar situations...... Just be prayerful and hope that she would change .. |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by jornwhite: 8:15am On Apr 24, 2020 |
cococandy: At times i really wish creatures called women can really ration there emotional space with some atoms of reasoning, b4 God & human, tradition and law what is wrong with bringing in a whole human to the family, these is even a child here, not some mistress or 2nd wife The logical question here is how does the presence of that child affect the mom/wife ... what benefits or enjoyment did the woman of the house stand to lose it hurt so much women don't think everytin is clouded by there emotion. if you are not in support then say what is bad is bad, instead of generating an excuse. 5 Likes |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by Freeeanijor: 8:19am On Apr 24, 2020 |
OchoL:You have no right to insult his mother that way. He only asked for solution not insult, be guaided. 3 Likes |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by pocohantas(f): 8:26am On Apr 24, 2020 |
kodix: Man wey get sense. Some people think life is white and black or by typing epistles online to appear humane. 1 Like |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by Chidiiro: 8:27am On Apr 24, 2020 |
I suggest you talk to your mum in a calm manner.Ask her what issue she's got with the child.... 1 Like |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by cococandy(f): 8:32am On Apr 24, 2020 |
jornwhite:rude. Sexist. Disrespectful. But I’ll ignore this part , b4 God & human, tradition and law what is wrong with bringing in a whole human to the family,Nothing wrong with bringing a human being into the family. However it’s a big responsibility and the person/s who will take on that responsibility has to agree before you go ahead to do it these is even a child here, not some mistress or 2nd wifesigh The logical question here is how does the presence of that child affect the mom/wife ...with all your non-emotional reasoning and logical mind, you can’t figure this one out? Can’t figure out how a new child might disrupt an established daily routine, house flow, changes in finances etc. You probably “logically” think that people who have kids just wake up and go about their business. Nothing needs to be done to make sure the kids are okay throughout the day. Got it. what benefits or enjoyment did the woman of the house stand to loseMaybe time? money? Stress of raising another child? A child quickly approaching puberty and needs a fully committed mom figure now more than ever ? But what do I know? Shows that you folks have no understanding of what raising a child entails. That’s why you under value the work women do in child rearing. it hurt so much women don't think everytin is clouded by there emotion. You’re the one not thinking. Rather being emotional. But I guess since you’re a man you must be logical . what’s bad is bad and the OP mom has no right to be mean to the kid. Is OP’s problem now solved because I said it? Or does he need actual solution? You be logical and tell us. 4 Likes |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by INDUSTRIALFAN(m): 8:36am On Apr 24, 2020 |
Dganji:of recent, my siblings and I had to come together to talk to our mum about her attitude ( not similar situation though... Very different) and initially as Africans, we thought it might be rude but now we know better. Correcting your mum is not rude. Cautioning her is not disrespectful. Do what you must to ensure that little girl is safe and has a Happy childhood. 1 Like |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by INDUSTRIALFAN(m): 8:40am On Apr 24, 2020 |
OchoL:you're telling someone else that his mother is thrash and you think you're not one yourself? Keep your nonsense talk yo yourself if you can't respect his mother where he is present. 2 Likes |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by majamajic(m): 8:53am On Apr 24, 2020 |
Sterope: What's your solution ma ? |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by majamajic(m): 8:57am On Apr 24, 2020 |
BSomebody: Even your own wife can be guilty of this , women do treat another person's children differently , stop talking as if u are not aware pls , I do see them , I do see maids around me , this do happen , don't try to act as if u are saint , 1 Like |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by majamajic(m): 9:00am On Apr 24, 2020 |
Bradiyung: Yes but our mums , sisters and wives are guilty of this, don't act like you don't know , women don't treat another children from another women same like their children , I see it everyday , pls I don't have una time , awon saints 1 Like |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by majamajic(m): 9:01am On Apr 24, 2020 |
imanray37: U are blind to see it around u , saint ! |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by geosegun(m): 9:03am On Apr 24, 2020 |
OchoL: The OP asked for an advice and not to abuse his mother. How could you use such uncouth words. You showed similar signs of behaving same way. It is obvious you may not be able to control your emotions and hence, your hatred. 3 Likes |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by Sterope(f): 9:04am On Apr 24, 2020 |
She has a mother. majamajic: |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by Sommydisaster(m): 9:08am On Apr 24, 2020 |
M00N: Good morning Nice one, I still applaud you for your writing and your changes towards life 1 Like |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by majamajic(m): 9:08am On Apr 24, 2020 |
Sterope: Do u read where he said , she can't go back to her mum cos that will be worst? Besides she has been adopted, the Op like am seeing it will be around 19yrs , he can't act violently to his parents yet , mine is he should continue to love and care as time goes on things will be better , he can't fight his mum |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by Sterope(f): 9:14am On Apr 24, 2020 |
How is it going to be worst? The op mentioned the environment, he didn't say her mother wad going to aybise her. majamajic: |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by jornwhite: 9:21am On Apr 24, 2020 |
pocohantas: LOL ! n sum1 z yu graduated ! just like factory overhead, a man past & a woman past deals directly & has a huge impact on marriages, bringing in a bastard frm either sides is not the same as adopting a relative,niece or siblings. my point is if any of d couple decides to bring in his/her relatives it just an extra mouth to feed & cater for no direct emotions involve buh bringing in a biological child from past might resonates some unpleasant memories, it varies tho & depend on parties concern. You are fond of looking for excuses & justification for any wicked act perperuated by women,wateva .. buh nex time compare situations that are similar. 2 Likes |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by pocohantas(f): 9:29am On Apr 24, 2020 |
cococandy: You are wasting your time on those ones. The logical part of their brains would only function if the table turns. Sometime ago, a woman on this same NL complained of how her husband hates her son-his stepson, despite agreeing to have the boy come live with them initially. All our NL warlords agreed with the man. Implored the woman to take the child elsewhere or BEG the husband. Every woman that agreed with them was a wife material. I remember someone asked them, would you guys say same if tables turn? Will you not remind us how women are wicked to step-kids. Show me a Nigerian man that would watch his wife bring in a child without his consent- then play daddy duties and you have successfully shown me the 9th wonder of the world. The 8th wonder should be the woman who birthed him. 3 Likes |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by cococandy(f): 9:34am On Apr 24, 2020 |
True that. Nothing really new. pocohantas: |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by queenitee(f): 9:35am On Apr 24, 2020 |
crackkhaus:My mother. My younger cousin living with us, since he was 13, he's 17 and my mother still be complain we are sending him on too much errand and all(somebody that washing plates and feeding the dogs are his only job.) It's not like his mother is a wicked person. She's transferring her guilt on to the girl. Maybe she had always been the wrong party whenever herself and the girl's mother fought and seeing the girl makes her guilty and she has to act that way so as not to dwell on her guilt. Or the girl's mother is the wrong one here and he's simply transferring the hatred on to the girl. In this first case, she can make amends, see the girl's mother and correct her ways, it will ease her guilt. And/or anytime she sees the girl and she feels guilty, she can simply chose to see treating the girl right as a way of correcting her wrongs instead of dwelling on her guilt. And if it's the girls mother who's wrong here, she should understand that the girl is a different person from her mother(that's why kids don't turn out like their parents in all ways and why kids of the same parents are different from one another.) And also accept the fact that the girl's mother might not or would not come to apologize which is fine because she do not want to carry that burden of hatred forever in her heart, it's too much burden to carry honestly. And if it's the fact that her husband didn't discuss the adoption with her, then her anger should be directed at her husband and not the girl. The girl can't possibly discuss the adoption with her, only her husband can. So whatever the case might be, she needs to accept the fact that the girl has no fault whatsoever 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by geosegun(m): 9:36am On Apr 24, 2020 |
OchoL: I just went through some of your comments and I could see you probably exhume such a bad attitude in your discussions. So you are not worthy of any advise whatsoever, kid. Also, from your comments, I could deduce you are probably not a female? hence you probably lied about your gender? But, If you truly happened to be a female, then I pity the young man that will marry you. You'll probably make his life a heck of a hell. This is the last time I will respond to your rants. 3 Likes |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by INDUSTRIALFAN(m): 9:37am On Apr 24, 2020 |
OchoL:as usual... You can only rant behind a screen... Lool... Inconsequential nutsack 2 Likes |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by pocohantas(f): 10:01am On Apr 24, 2020 |
cococandy: Pls, Ignore that thing desperately seeking your attention. People are isolating and bored- his situation isn’t uncommon. 1 Like |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by cococandy(f): 10:04am On Apr 24, 2020 |
pocohantas: 1 Like |
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