My husband and I have been married for almost 2 years now. He is a very good man . He is not a cheating type. The only thing is he likes sex so much that he always wants to have it everyday. I am tired. This lockdown has even increase the issue.

Please how can one cope? Is there any married lady that has experienced this. How did you handle it?

I'm not married yet but I'd like to think you're lucky you're the only one he's having sex with.

Maybe now that you know, incorporate other fun activities into your lives that can give you some space.

Maybe binge watch some series, especially during this lockdown.

Julietsim:
My husband and I have been married for almost 2 years now. He is a very good man . He is not a cheating type. The only thing is he likes sex so much that he always wants to have it everyday. I am tired. This lockdown has even increase the issue. Please how can one cope. Is there any married lady that has experienced this. How did you handle it

Well, it's a good thing that your husband finds you sexually attractive and doesn't hide his feelings.

If he wants sex everyday and you can't handle it, there are other freaky things you can do to spice up the relationship. Encourage him to kiss and handle you more instead of the main sex and with time, he'll get used to it. You can also tell him when you're too tired to have sex or when you're uninterested. No big deal...

But make no mistake, a man with a high sex drive will demand for it most times, so you need to also get used to it. It's part of your marital rites.

Romanoff:
I'm not married yet but I'd like to think you're lucky you're the only one he's having sex with.

Maybe now that you know, incorporate other fun activities into your lives that can give you some space.

Maybe binge watch some series, especially during this lockdown.

what do you mean by saying she is lucky? is the man supposed to start having sex with other ladies apart from his wife..because people do it does not mean it is the norm.

Advice him to get a second wife, so you can be relieved of your DUTY!!

You must learn to like it ni o please.

Julietsim:
My husband and I have been married for almost 2 years now. He is a very good man . He is not a cheating type. The only thing is he likes sex so much that he always wants to have it everyday. I am tired. This lockdown has even increase the issue. Please how can one cope. Is there any married lady that has experienced this. How did you handle it

Give it to him in the morning, afternoon and night.

Morning - Missionary style

Afternoon - Doggy style

Night - Cowgirl style

Midnight - just give him some mouth action and you are good to go.


Nobody should quote me. This is not a serious topic

Ohh.... God pls help married women o, it's like nigerian husband's are so unfaithful to an extent that those commenting are telling the woman to be grateful that her husband still finds her attractive, or is having sex with her alone. So a Nigerian man is not supposed to be having sex with his wife alone or find her attractive, huh!

Iamundisputed:


Well, it's a good thing that your husband finds you sexually attractive and doesn't hide his feelings.

If he wants sex everyday and you can't handle it, there are other freaky things you can do to spice up the relationship. Encourage him to kiss and handle you more instead of the main sex and with time, he'll get used to it. You can also tell him when you're too tired to have sex or you're uninterested. No big deal...

But make no mistake, a man with a high sex drive will demand for it most times, so you need to also get used to it. It's part of your marital rights.

U don't understand. Having sex everyday can be tiring. It also affect the Virgina. U think it is easy for women? It is not. I sometimes have pain because it is too much. We didn't have sex until we were married. I never knew he was like this.

Sex sex sex......

Lack of it causes wahala, too much of it causes wahala.

What I have learnt is, no matter how much it gets, if its done right, you won't get tired of it.
Have you talked to Oga, about the pain you feel ?
Maybe its your mindset ?
You could try opening your mind to enjoy it too, it would make a lot of difference.


If you see it as a chore, or "disturbance", you would end up feeling pain, because its not been done with the right frame of mind


Please tell oga to read my post here, you can read it too, it would help.

https://www.nairaland.com/5727914/not-been-able-sex-yet#87318647

Julietsim:


U don't understand. Having sex everyday can be tiring. It also affect the Virgina. U think it is easy for women? It is not. I sometimes have pain because it is too much. We didn't have sex until we were married. I never knew he was like this.

Julietsim:
My husband and I have been married for almost 2 years now. He is a very good man . He is not a cheating type. The only thing is he likes sex so much that he always wants to have it everyday. I am tired. This lockdown has even increase the issue. Please how can one cope. Is there any married lady that has experienced this. How did you handle it

I believed sex should be enjoyed between both parties involved, so discuss with him why you can't have it everyday like he wanted it. He has high sexual urge but he should be reasonable with his sexual partner so that both can come to concord on how to go about it. It shouldn't be done in a selfish manner.

Your husband is controlled by his bodily urges, it's a sex addiction and you have become his personal sperm disposal unit if you don't take a stand. His type will still cheat, watch pornography because it's always in his imagination. I can see some women think their only role is to service Oga just because he paid your bride price and made you a Mrs!!! You are a woman, someone's daughter with human dignity! If you like continue submitting because you want to please him to your own unhappiness. Sex is not everything in marriage. Nne don't kill yourself, dat everyday own is a very big No!!! To me, if u don't have strength explain to him if he gets angry allow him to get angry in peace he will be alright las las, no be today dem don begin dey get angry on matter like dat

Married women who who experienced this, please advice me. I am getting tired

you cant have your cake and eat it too... this man does not cheat and instead likes to get his groove on with his wife. you should be happy and find ways to reward him for his fidelity (as we all know many men out there cheat). actually, you should be undressed and ready to "receive" as soon as he comes home, as a thank you gesture for being a good man.... unless you would prefer he goes out sexually frustrated because his wife cant cope with sex daily?

SOLUTION: why dont you instead try to make this sex enjoyable for the both of you? open up to him, tell him what you like, tell him what you fantasize about, let him do the things that YOU like too.

Julietsim:
Married women who who experienced this, please advice me. I am getting tired

Your husband na my type....


You said he is a good man, maybe he will listen to you if both of you can decide to be making love like thrice in a week....Talk to him...he is a good man that will understand your feelings and not been selfish ...

The solution is simple, just get a hot and sexy maid in the house, he won't bother you again.

bdchange:

what do you mean by saying she is lucky? is the man supposed to start having sex with other ladies apart from his wife..because people do it does not mean it is the norm.

so if d man decide to have sex with another woman,will heaven fall?

She have to count herself lucky cos the guy is only doing it with her,some guys will not complain they will just go out n satisfy themselves low-key n d wife won't know

Julietsim:


U don't understand. Having sex everyday can be tiring. It also affect the Virgina. U think it is easy for women? It is not. I sometimes have pain because it is too much. We didn't have sex until we were married. I never knew he was like this.

u didn't have sex b4 marriage,meaning d guy waited to own it rightfully n now u are complaining again....u are a confusionist

I have updated my answer above, you can check it, it can help.

Julietsim:
Married women who who experienced this, please advice me. I am getting tired

Jesuisbelle:
Your husband is controlled by his bodily urges, it's a sex addiction and you have become his personal sperm disposal unit if you don't take a stand. His type will still cheat, watch pornography because it's always in his imagination. I can see some women think their only role is to service Oga just because he paid your bride price and made you a Mrs!!! You are a woman, someone's daughter with human dignity! If you like continue submitting because you want to please him to your own unhappiness. Sex is not everything in marriage. Nne don't kill yourself, dat everyday own is a very big No!!! To me, if u don't have strength explain to him if he gets angry allow him to get angry in peace he will be alright las las, no be today dem don begin dey get angry on matter like dat

u are not willing to give it to him everytime despite d fact u are married....hope if he seeks solace outside u won't complain oooo.cos it's like not giving someone enough food n still telling him not to get it outside

Bola146:
You must learn to like it ni o please.

abi oooo

Jesuisbelle:
Your husband is controlled by his bodily urges, it's a sex addiction and you have become his personal sperm disposal unit if you don't take a stand. His type will still cheat, watch pornography because it's always in his imagination. I can see some women think their only role is to service Oga just because he paid your bride price and made you a Mrs!!! You are a woman, someone's daughter with human dignity! If you like continue submitting because you want to please him to your own unhappiness. Sex is not everything in marriage. Nne don't kill yourself, dat everyday own is a very big No!!! To me, if u don't have strength explain to him if he gets angry allow him to get angry in peace he will be alright las las, no be today dem don begin dey get angry on matter like dat

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*speechless*

bdchange:

what do you mean by saying she is lucky? is the man supposed to start having sex with other ladies apart from his wife..because people do it does not mean it is the norm.

I understand that. It's what the society has become.

Julietsim:


U don't understand. Having sex everyday can be tiring. It also affect the Virgina. U think it is easy for women? It is not. I sometimes have pain because it is too much. We didn't have sex until we were married. I never knew he was like this.

who asked whether you had sex or not before wedding. guilty conscience

LilMissFavvy:
Ohh.... God pls help married women o, it's like nigerian husband's are so unfaithful to an extent that those commenting are telling the woman to be grateful that her husband still finds her attractive, or is having sex with her alone. So a Nigerian man is not supposed to be having sex with his wife alone or find her attractive, huh!

welcome to Africa......

Julietsim:


U don't understand. Having sex everyday can be tiring. It also affect the Virgina. U think it is easy for women? It is not. I sometimes have pain because it is too much. We didn't have sex until we were married. I never knew he was like this.

What is making you averse to making love with your husband as much as he wants/as possible?

1. Tiredness?
2. Pains? Is this due to dryness or the styles?


What exactly is the issue then we know the solution and/ or engagement for compromise.

Julietsim:


U don't understand. Having sex everyday can be tiring. It also affect the Virgina. U think it is easy for women? It is not. I sometimes have pain because it is too much. We didn't have sex until we were married. I never knew he was like this.

Madam, I never claimed it was easy and you're the one asking for advice. I only told you to distract him with pre-intimacy and also understand he has a high sex drive.

If you also tell him you're tired, he won't kill you...

You are a human being with feelings, not a machine. You should not feel compelled to do it anytime and every time he’s in the mood.
You both have to discuss this and reach a compromise. Marriage is not a visa to sexual bondage

Welcome to Africa means what? A wife married to an uglyyy beefy Nigerian man is expected to be faithful and still find such a man attractive, yet men cannot stick to their wife. Is it a curse or something? Because I don't believe that it means Africn men have a higher libido, or special libido

Osobi32:
welcome to Africa......

Be ready for 3 days straight, he will give u chance

I'm here to learn and read comments

This is serious