I love my wife but I have been hurting her for years. In fact I had make her look like a devil in the eyes of my parents and siblings. I will not hide any truth from you because right now, I am trying to find a solution on how to win my wife's heart back.

I womanize a lot. I have a particular side chick that my wife is even aware of down our street. I love this girl with the whole of my heart. Anytime am with her I feel contented. I sponsored her through school with her younger brother and I also set up a provision store for her mum. I so much love this girl and infact I stopped having numerous chicks because of her. She is everything a man can wish for. She pampered me like a baby and she is an expert on how to sex a man and make him draw spits. I invested alot on this lady and never cared for the mother of my children.

The first and the last time I beat my wife was the day she called my girlfriend to insult her and I was with the girl that night. She put it on speaker. I went home and beat my wife blue black. Though I regretted my action and apologized to her.

Since then I didn't hide my extramarital affair from my wife. My girl will call and I will speak freely in the presence of my wife. She won't say pim. I wanted this girl to be pregnant but she just wouldn't be.

After, I started frustrating my wife so that she can leave the house and the girl can move in, but no matter what I did to my wife, she will never talk. I stopped having sex with her and and she never for once complained. I started taking my girlfriend to family function in place of my wife, still my wife was not affected. I siezed her shop key and gave to this girl as her graduation gift. My wife did not talk and she didn't leave my house. I planned all evils but she wasn't affected by it.

This my side chick is now pregnant with another man's. I have threatened her to abort the baby that I will forgive her and marry her, but she said am too old for her. When she and her family was collecting and spending my money, she didn't know that I am too old then.

Now am tired of fighting for someone that can never be mine. I want to face what's mine. Can you imagine that I just realised that my first born will write WAEC this year. Am so ashamed of my self. My wife has become so old and very slim. I wanted to hug her, but I don't know where to start from. It's been years we last had a physical body contact. We don't even sleep in the same room. The kids are looking at me like a stranger. I can't even crack jokes with them.

Please help me, how do I start and what should I do to win my family love back? I promise to do whatever you tell me to.

Now am tired of fighting for someone that can never be mine

What if your family also feels tired of fighting for you ?

Anyway, its going to be hard.
No amount of advice would help you.
I wanted to type a long epistle, but it can be summarized thus : show them love

Just show them love, genuine love and stop womanizing .
Sit down, think and learn to genuinely value what you have.
If you don't enjoy the way your wife has sex with you, communicate and tell her what you want.
Ask God for forgiveness too, because you've messed up big time.
Also go to the hospital for STD tests, don't add STD to the list of troubles you have given that woman.

Just in case you don't know, one of the best way to become unfortunate in life, is treating a good spouse bad..
Please be good, kind and show love

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I doubt this story joor...u mean u did all that to her and she's still with you

I can't imagine the kind of depression your wife is going through.
It's not like you actually realised your wrongdoings, it's because you were jilted by your side chick that's why you're here crying.

just go on your knees and beg for forgiveness

When I see what some women go through in the name of being a wife, I thank God for my life. God forbid bad thing.

The only reason why you’re going back to your wife is because your side chick has failed you. You are a disgrace please. Your wife will have the last laugh in Jesus name. God will heal her wounds and place her above all her enemies.

Yes, she may forgive you, but you must definitely face the consequences for your actions.

So you remembered you want your wife's heart back after the lil girl played you? A lil bit too late, don't you think? It's one thing to make a mistake, regret it and apologize and another to come back after you had no more options. I would like to ask your wife why she stayed with you through it all.

Where all those red pill hawkers sef Market don show o...

If quarter of this your tall tale na true you don caaast be that. Mtchew.

Just date her best friend lol

Castrate urself is the best thing you can ever do to her at the moment

imagine the life you lived

You have no business getting married. Why didn't u allow this ur wife marry the other guy that truly loved her? Why did u put sand in their garri? Na una own cross sha... Carry ur damn cross.

Man!!!
You will burn in hell

That woman will never forgive you

She has taken her kids as her husband,the reason she isn’t moved is because she has conditioned her mind that she is a widow so what ever you do won’t hurt her anymore.

You better pay her off and leave that woman to live the rest of her lives with the kids happily

After all you have done to the poor woman, you now want her to over look all and accept you back. NO WAY...

After inflicing emotional pain, psychological trauma and midnight tears on her, you want her to love you back....NO WAY...

I hate it when people treat those that love them badly and just want everything to be wiped away just like that....

May God compensate your wife and your poor children.

May God increase your wife and bless her that she forgets you completely for life....

Hmmm

Most people will read this and conclude it's impossible or can never happen lol.

Things dey happen for life my people. This one sef na small tori

In case ops case is true he's lucky to get his karma very quick and easy.

Truth is you're going to reap what you've sown. You probably have thought about how lonely and miserable you would end when you grow old and now wants to make amends but the damage has already been done. Even if your wife should accept you back, Those kids won't accept you wholeheartedly. Thank God they are not all grown up, you can still savage what's left.


But if your wife was related to me by now you won't have access to your kids let alone wife.

for this to come out of you - i wonder how terrible your wife's version will be.

i normally don't judge people but men! u r a terribly evil person.


you are lucky you didn't kill her with your wickedness - cause if she had died - men you will have some terrible karma that will last you till 7th reincarnation of your soul.

funny thing is - you did not even desire this change because you personally realized your evil deeds and decided to change - No! you want to change because you have been mugu-ed and dumped by your so-called girl friend!

besides how do you even expect that your ashawo gf to marry you whn she is seeing all you are doing to your legal wife! abi you think say girls no get sense?

useless old man!

It's not your fault she must have done something to make you do all that.

Can you walk us through your marriage so we can pick her faults and nail her?



The gospel according to nairaland pickmesha.

Fake story, only a maddd woman would tolerate all this. Because a woman with brain who should experience half of this, is supposed to divorce you or gang up with her children and make life miserable for you, till you develop high BP. Is it now that you are an old man that your wife should accept you back? After you have wasted your years and youth on side chicks? You should be abandoned to loneliness in old age, you should be chased out of that house, Nigeria is a terrible country for a woman to marry into.

Ayomideayo:
I doubt this story joor...u mean u did all that to her and she's still with you

yes especially because of her kids

Abi o, Nairaland ass licker AKA men pleaser, don't be surprised a male owns that account, I can bet myself, the bastarrrrrd behind that account is a male .

Mstick:
It's not your fault she must have done something to make you do all that.

Can you walk us through your marriage so we can pick her faults and nail her?



The gospel according to nairaland pickmesha.

Onego:
yes especially because of her kids

Hmmmmmmnn

The wife tried o if this is real. After your side chick has used and dumped you like a rag, you now remember your wife? Fear God Mr Man.

Proper mugu

Onego:
yes especially because of her kids

She has nothing to fall back on. People with kids get separated everyday so that's not an excuse

Lol! My dear I don't know if OP's story is true but this isn't abnormal in Nigerian marriages. I know one with 9 kids! The husband comes and goes anytime he wants even till today. There was a time she lost so much weight everyone thought she would die, my MIL and I went extra mile for her and at the end of it all the man came back and she took him in again, now with all this coronavirus pandemic oga ran away again.

He doesn't even care how his wife and his kids will feed. I am sure very soon when he's old and grey he will start looking for forgiveness and respect.

LilMissFavvy:
Fake story, only a maddd woman would tolerate all this. Because a woman with brain who should experience half of this, is supposed to divorce you or gang up with her children and make life miserable for you, till you develop high BP. Is it now that you are an old man that your wife should accept you back? After you have wasted your years and youth on side chicks? You should be abandoned to loneliness in old age, you should be chased out of that house, Nigeria is a terrible country for a woman to marry into.

SweetCunt97:
She has nothing to fall back on. People with kids get separated everyday so that's not an excuse

yes I know what am saying

Kingsleyyx:
I love my wife but I have been hurting her for years,infact I had make her look like a devil in the eyes of my parents and siblings. I will not hide any truth from you because right now ,I am trying to find a solution on how to win my wife heart back. I womanize alot. I have a particular side chick that my wife is even aware of down our street. I love this girl with the whole of my heart,anytime am with her I feels contented. I sponsored her through school with her younger brother,and I also set up a provision store for her mum. I so much love this girl and infact I stopped having numerous chicks because of her. She is everything a man can wish for. She pampered me like a baby,and she is an expert on how to sex a man and make him draw spits. I invested alot on this lady and never care for the mother of my children. The first and the last time I beat my wife was the day she call my girlfriend to insult her ,and I was with the girl that night she put it on speaker. I went home and beat my wife blue black. Though I regretted my action and apologized to her.
Since then I didn't hide my extra affair with my wife . My girl will call and I will speak freely in the presence of my wife,she won't say pim. I wanted this girl to be pregnant but she just wouldn't be.
After,I started frustrating my wife so that she can leave the house and the girl can move in,but no matter what i did to my wife ,she will never talk. I stopped having sex with her and and she never for once complaint. I started taking my girlfriend to family function in place of my wife ,still my wife was not affected. I siezed her shop key and gave to this girl as her graduation gift,my wife did not talk and she didn't leave my house. I planned all evils but she wasn't affected by it.
This my side chick is now pregnant with another man's. I have threatened her to abort the baby that I will forgive her and marry her,but she said am too old for her. When she and her family was collecting and spending my money ,she didn't know that I am too old then.
Now am tired of fighting for someone that can never be mine,I want to face what's mine. Can you imagine that I just realised that my first born will write WAEC this year. Am so ashamed of my self. My wife has become so old and very slim. I wanted to hug her ,but I don't know where to start from. It's been years we last had a physical body contact. We don't even sleep in the same room. The kids are looking at me like a stranger,I can't even crack jokes with them.
Please help me ,how do I start and what should I do to win my family love back? I promise to do whatever you tell me to

You love your wife, you love your ex-side chic in addition to all the other women?

You love your wife and treated her shabbily all these years?

You know that's not possible right?

You know your wife, you know what will make her tick.

Realizing ones mistake is always the right direction for correcting such mistake.
There is no better time than now so you can choose to right all your wrongs and bring your family together again.

Call your wife to a private meeting and seek for her forgiveness. If she forgives you then automatically the kids will forgive you also(mothers has a way with the kids, the direction mothers take the kids mostly follows).

Try as much as possible to win her back and never you loose focus in regaining your home.

Hmmmm.......too bad.

Mstick:
Lol! My dear I don't know if OP's story is true but this isn't abnormal in Nigerian marriages. I know one with 9 kids! The husband comes and goes anytime he wants even till today. There was a time she lost so much weight everyone thought she would die, my MIL and I went extra mile for her and at the end of it all the man came back and she took him in again, now with all this coronavirus pandemic oga ran away again.

He doesn't even care how his wife and his kids will feed. I am sure very soon when he's old and grey he will start looking for forgiveness and respect.

phorget:
Realizing ones mistake is always the right direction for correcting such mistake.
There is no better time than now so you can choose to right all your wrongs and bring your family together again.

Call your wife to a private meeting and seek for her forgiveness. If she forgives you then automatically the kids will forgive you also(mothers has a way with the kids, the direction mothers take the kids mostly follows).

Try as much as possible to win her back and never you loose focus in regaining your home.

Nope, he needs to win the kids back too individually before attempting a family reunion.

He failed them also. From his post, he didn't care about them either.

SweetCunt97:
She has nothing to fall back on. People with kids get separated everyday so that's not an excuse

it is especially when she don't have any family to depend on

Kingsleyyx:
I love my wife but I have been hurting her for years,infact I had make her look like a devil in the eyes of my parents and siblings. I will not hide any truth from you because right now ,I am trying to find a solution on how to win my wife heart back. I womanize alot. I have a particular side chick that my wife is even aware of down our street. I love this girl with the whole of my heart,anytime am with her I feels contented. I sponsored her through school with her younger brother,and I also set up a provision store for her mum. I so much love this girl and infact I stopped having numerous chicks because of her. She is everything a man can wish for. She pampered me like a baby,and she is an expert on how to sex a man and make him draw spits. I invested alot on this lady and never care for the mother of my children. The first and the last time I beat my wife was the day she call my girlfriend to insult her ,and I was with the girl that night she put it on speaker. I went home and beat my wife blue black. Though I regretted my action and apologized to her.
Since then I didn't hide my extra affair with my wife . My girl will call and I will speak freely in the presence of my wife,she won't say pim. I wanted this girl to be pregnant but she just wouldn't be.
After,I started frustrating my wife so that she can leave the house and the girl can move in,but no matter what i did to my wife ,she will never talk. I stopped having sex with her and and she never for once complaint. I started taking my girlfriend to family function in place of my wife ,still my wife was not affected. I siezed her shop key and gave to this girl as her graduation gift,my wife did not talk and she didn't leave my house. I planned all evils but she wasn't affected by it.
This my side chick is now pregnant with another man's. I have threatened her to abort the baby that I will forgive her and marry her,but she said am too old for her. When she and her family was collecting and spending my money ,she didn't know that I am too old then.
Now am tired of fighting for someone that can never be mine,I want to face what's mine. Can you imagine that I just realised that my first born will write WAEC this year. Am so ashamed of my self. My wife has become so old and very slim. I wanted to hug her ,but I don't know where to start from. It's been years we last had a physical body contact. We don't even sleep in the same room. The kids are looking at me like a stranger,I can't even crack jokes with them.
Please help me ,how do I start and what should I do to win my family love back? I promise to do whatever you tell me to

U messed up big time,,just start all over again ,,,leave all those gehs outside,get close to ur children it's very important..hug ur wife,,and be responsible..

Just change to a better person