Minemrys:

n0t cheating, using the guy as a mugu.

It is not until you have physical intercourse with another person before you know you have cheated. Once you start entertaining another person into your thoughts, especially when it is sexual, you have started cheating.
From the OP's post, you can see she has deep sexual fantasy about the guy, and if the guy (Joe) hung around a bit, she'd have had sex with him.

Na from clap, dem dey take enter dance

bjnice:


Wow, I had similar experience late last year, I met this beauty personified lady in UI, for postgraduate class. Before we say jack she don dey close to me, unknown to her I'm also eyeing one of our coursemate which she met twice through me. We chat and she informed she has a guy, but funny enough I have access to classified information from her without even asking. Initially I try to make moves to ask her out but not serious but one day she told me I will make a good boyfriend, by this time my formula don catch the other course mate, me just bone, the next day I mistakenly said to her love you and she responded back love you too. I was shock but I just overlooked. Some days later my babe birthday was just few days so I just post her picture on WhatsApp status in anticipation oh, if you see the response this girl give, clearly shows that I have hurt her emotional, thought we are still friends but boundaries has been drawn since it is clear she can have me. So the behavior of your friends show that they have feeling for you despite being in a relationship.

You've said it all.

Lamanii22:
You broke his heart... He has no reason to continue the friendship... Having you in his life is like having a chicken, the chicken he was suppose to eat and now somebody else has eaten it....

Wisdommmmmm ��

Aunty wan friend zone person pikin. Put yourself in his shoes, what would you have done

the joe guy has taught it in his mind that u gonna be a heart breaker....omo ya japa

Cheap girls everywhere



Face ur man or face your nyansh

the first to comment like fetish.too much.
the second.to comment is teaching other girls bad styles.

and I don't HV anything else to add just.follow why good ppl tell u.so u won't regret i know not every cute.girl is with brain in there head.but some ugly girls has brain more than one.

If you love him, then leave the other friend for him, is either you are in or out.

Suzzi23:
Hi guys. Please I need advice.

There is this guy in my department. Let's call him Joe. He is good looking and very intelligent. He also has this very nice voice and good vocabulary. Initially we were just normal casual classmates, we greet, exchange notes and all that, nothing serious. I've always found him attractive but have not found him special in any way because I've met lots of guys like him in my University.

But few months ago he started becoming more friendly towards me. We got talking and we realized we shared a lot in common. He asked me if I was single and I told him I was. This was the truth because I wasn't dating anyone then.

Few days after another guy I was very close to asked me to be his girlfriend and I agreed. I'm in love with this guy. He is very jovial, intelligent and he knows how to treat me well. I know he loves me because I've known him for a while and he has treated me with love, affection and respect. It's always fun being around him and I enjoy his company.

Despite now being in a relationship, I still continued spending time with Joe. We shared a lot of deep intimate info about ourselves with each other. I have never felt more comfortable talking to someone before. Talking to him always made me feel good. I felt I could be vulnerable with him. He was very honest and didn't hide the dark aspects of himself. He wasn't the type to pretend he was a good person. And he wasn't. He had done a lot of bad things in the past and he wasn't afraid to talk to me about them. And although this might sound weird I liked the fact that he wasn't the typical "moral individual" I was used to meeting. I liked the fact that he had a dark personality that only me knew about. He said things to me that made me begin to explore myself and my sexuality in ways I didn't even imagine that I could. He was always fond of teasing me and never hesitated to correct me if I did anything wrong. I loved that kind of honesty.

As we talked more Joe opened up to me that he was attracted to me and had feelings for me. He would flirt with me and I'd try my best not to flirt back but I enjoyed his flirting and I enjoyed his company. He asked me if I felt the same way about him and I was honest and I said I had feelings for him, because I did. He is an attractive guy and even though I have a boyfriend I can't help being attracted to him..

He then asked me to be his girlfriend and I told him I was already dating someone. He was surprised by my response. He told me he was under the impression that I was single and that's why he had gotten so close and intimate with me. But he didn't appear angry or sad. He even told me my bf was lucky to have me.

The problem now is that since that day he hasn't talked to me. When I see him in class, he doesn't even act like I exist. He doesn't reply my messages, doesn't pick up my calls and doesn't check up on me. Throughout this lockdown he hasn't even texted me once. This is unlike him. I feel very bad about the whole thing. It's almost like our relationship didn't mean anything to him and I didn't mean anything to him. I want to still be friends with him.

Always be up front. Ladies love to be tripoing .Damn i love this niqqa.. Real niqqa sh*t woooothang!!

You want to bestie-zone him haba

othermen:
Buy 7 candles, when it is 12AM, light it all. Call out his name 21 times, do these while fasting for 20days. He will talk to you.

maaaaaaaaddddddddddd o

mattfeuter:
Ah! Let’s unpack this!

You have a boyfriend/in a relationship (who you clearly said has been treating you right) that’s not enough ,

You have another guy who is a “friend” according to you but you find him attractive and have deep intimate conversations with.

You told the second guy about your boyfriend and bad man japa, now this is where it gets really interesting! So it bothered you that much that the new guy isn’t talking to you again that you had to open a thread on NL ( all these while having a whole boyfriend).


You even have the nerve to want to friend zone the other guy lol (couldn’t be me tho)

You know you’re cheating right

Real niqqa talk..Wooothang!.

Suzzi23:
Hi guys. Please I need advice.

There is this guy in my department. Let's call him Joe. He is good looking and very intelligent. He also has this very nice voice and good vocabulary. Initially we were just normal casual classmates, we greet, exchange notes and all that, nothing serious. I've always found him attractive but have not found him special in any way because I've met lots of guys like him in my University.

But few months ago he started becoming more friendly towards me. We got talking and we realized we shared a lot in common. He asked me if I was single and I told him I was. This was the truth because I wasn't dating anyone then.

Few days after another guy I was very close to asked me to be his girlfriend and I agreed. I'm in love with this guy. He is very jovial, intelligent and he knows how to treat me well. I know he loves me because I've known him for a while and he has treated me with love, affection and respect. It's always fun being around him and I enjoy his company.

Despite now being in a relationship, I still continued spending time with Joe. We shared a lot of deep intimate info about ourselves with each other. I have never felt more comfortable talking to someone before. Talking to him always made me feel good. I felt I could be vulnerable with him. He was very honest and didn't hide the dark aspects of himself. He wasn't the type to pretend he was a good person. And he wasn't. He had done a lot of bad things in the past and he wasn't afraid to talk to me about them. And although this might sound weird I liked the fact that he wasn't the typical "moral individual" I was used to meeting. I liked the fact that he had a dark personality that only me knew about. He said things to me that made me begin to explore myself and my sexuality in ways I didn't even imagine that I could. He was always fond of teasing me and never hesitated to correct me if I did anything wrong. I loved that kind of honesty.

As we talked more Joe opened up to me that he was attracted to me and had feelings for me. He would flirt with me and I'd try my best not to flirt back but I enjoyed his flirting and I enjoyed his company. He asked me if I felt the same way about him and I was honest and I said I had feelings for him, because I did. He is an attractive guy and even though I have a boyfriend I can't help being attracted to him..

He then asked me to be his girlfriend and I told him I was already dating someone. He was surprised by my response. He told me he was under the impression that I was single and that's why he had gotten so close and intimate with me. But he didn't appear angry or sad. He even told me my bf was lucky to have me.

The problem now is that since that day he hasn't talked to me. When I see him in class, he doesn't even act like I exist. He doesn't reply my messages, doesn't pick up my calls and doesn't check up on me. Throughout this lockdown he hasn't even texted me once. This is unlike him. I feel very bad about the whole thing. It's almost like our relationship didn't mean anything to him and I didn't mean anything to him. I want to still be friends with him.

Before I read comments may I ask haunty this question . You guys were this close as you claim and he never knew when you started dating and that you are dating? I am trying to understand...

life is too short for one to be but in friendzone fa,,don't you want d guy to experience love ,,my dear leave d guy to d guy i owe u one crate of beer you sabi.....

Anuty, we sabi ur type for school den

Suzzi23:
Hi guys. Please I need advice.

There is this guy in my department. Let's call him Joe. He is good looking and very intelligent. He also has this very nice voice and good vocabulary. Initially we were just normal casual classmates, we greet, exchange notes and all that, nothing serious. I've always found him attractive but have not found him special in any way because I've met lots of guys like him in my University.

But few months ago he started becoming more friendly towards me. We got talking and we realized we shared a lot in common. He asked me if I was single and I told him I was. This was the truth because I wasn't dating anyone then.

Few days after another guy I was very close to asked me to be his girlfriend and I agreed. I'm in love with this guy. He is very jovial, intelligent and he knows how to treat me well. I know he loves me because I've known him for a while and he has treated me with love, affection and respect. It's always fun being around him and I enjoy his company.

Despite now being in a relationship, I still continued spending time with Joe. We shared a lot of deep intimate info about ourselves with each other. I have never felt more comfortable talking to someone before. Talking to him always made me feel good. I felt I could be vulnerable with him. He was very honest and didn't hide the dark aspects of himself. He wasn't the type to pretend he was a good person. And he wasn't. He had done a lot of bad things in the past and he wasn't afraid to talk to me about them. And although this might sound weird I liked the fact that he wasn't the typical "moral individual" I was used to meeting. I liked the fact that he had a dark personality that only me knew about. He said things to me that made me begin to explore myself and my sexuality in ways I didn't even imagine that I could. He was always fond of teasing me and never hesitated to correct me if I did anything wrong. I loved that kind of honesty.

As we talked more Joe opened up to me that he was attracted to me and had feelings for me. He would flirt with me and I'd try my best not to flirt back but I enjoyed his flirting and I enjoyed his company. He asked me if I felt the same way about him and I was honest and I said I had feelings for him, because I did. He is an attractive guy and even though I have a boyfriend I can't help being attracted to him..

He then asked me to be his girlfriend and I told him I was already dating someone. He was surprised by my response. He told me he was under the impression that I was single and that's why he had gotten so close and intimate with me. But he didn't appear angry or sad. He even told me my bf was lucky to have me.

The problem now is that since that day he hasn't talked to me. When I see him in class, he doesn't even act like I exist. He doesn't reply my messages, doesn't pick up my calls and doesn't check up on me. Throughout this lockdown he hasn't even texted me once. This is unlike him. I feel very bad about the whole thing. It's almost like our relationship didn't mean anything to him and I didn't mean anything to him. I want to still be friends with him.

Joe no wan be ya friend......na by force?

I also had this experience with a girl and it's saddening. If you click on my moniker you will see the story. But I finally managed to Bleep her sha thanks to ubunja miseducation

J111333:
For wanting to friendzone that innocent but smart dude, you probably won't make heaven.

she will never make heaven.

Everybody is here cracking their brains to give advice while I’m here wondering how much OP was paid after the write-up.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iaXqqhNh5TM

othermen:
Buy 7 candles, when it is 12AM, light it all. Call out his name 21 times, do these while fasting for 20days. He will talk to you.

hahahahaahah lwkmd ....u cracked me up bro.... in fact I De follow u asap

humilitypays:
Joe must be a Nairalander because Nairaland guys seems to be the wisest guys on earth when it comes to women matter and romance, any lady that succeeds in chopping a Nairaland guy mugu or friendzoning a nairaland guy deserves an award, kai

Guy na truth you talk I swear! I've learnt from people experience and mistakes like this on nairaland and I've took it upon myself never to repeat those mistakes.

GeneralPula:
You, self.. Wetin you dey find? You don sign contract with Chelsea, you wan cum Dey do training with Manu.

You had better face your contract.



PS: And although this might sound weird I liked the fact that he wasn't the typical "moral individual" I was used to meeting. I liked the fact that he had a dark personality that only me knew about.

No, it’s not weird. Girls loves bad boys. Nah reality.

God bless you, I thought i was the only one that saw this

What kind of confused being is this one! These ladies don't know what they want...

I fear who no fear woman ooo

Haba, having feelings for two men and your boyfriend treats you well? Whatelse do you want She is a potential cheat.

He is my type cos I can't be a casual friend to a girl I feel for....

that guy is me,why will I be talking to you when you have someone? he was talking to you and sharing all those because he feels you are single and that's what you told him,you take it as casual friendship, he don't look at it that way,he is for real,its not easy for a man to stay around a lady sharing lots of information and not have affection for,he avoid you because he wants to Start's with another lady,cos if he keeps you,he might Miss his time to get a girlfriend because of you,so please be with your guy.thank you.

Eberechi24:

True sha. The guy no want to be friend zoned, the lady should understand that. I don't know what you all have against male bestie.

What is it? Tell me, wanna know

Switch your current bf places with Joe and close your eyes for a moment and assume he have a bestie as the OP Suzy, how will you feel?

Millenniumlady:
Use the both guys to your advantage


Keep joe guy for assignments and handout test and other class stuff



While use the new guy for your finances phones,clothes,eateries wigs


And please stay in school hostle that way non of them can bother you with sex cause they can't gain access to girls hostel and you ever visit any of them reduce your sexual conversation with joe guy and learn to keep your phone private.....Hope it helps

Olosho giving tips to an upcoming olosho

my eye don clear today sef for nairalands
get one girl wey dey carry me waka for school like sey im her body guard, after this lockdown and school resumed I no fit dey follow am again and she know my girl is not here ....

lefulefu:
i like this joe dude.he is a wise dude.he cut off from u as soon as he knew u were dating someone.thats what a reasonable man does.u should also cut off from him and quit bothering him.no be by force to do bestie .

no mind am- he wants to use poor Joe as a rehabilitation center whenever his boyfriend breaks her heart- he will go for verybal consolation without giving him some- then when they boyfriend come begging, he will put him back in the friend zone- OP you are a bad girl

Are you writing poem or story because a guy refuse to talk to you and you wrote all these I hail ooo

Millenniumlady:
Use the both guys to your advantage


Keep joe guy for assignments and handout test and other class stuff



While use the new guy for your finances phones,clothes,eateries wigs


And please stay in school hostle that way non of them can bother you with sex cause they can't gain access to girls hostel and you ever visit any of them reduce your sexual conversation with joe guy and learn to keep your phone private.....Hope it helps

Chai see one Gold Digger!