piamily:
I’ve had this experience with a guy that likes me so much and has chased me for about five years but yet I don’t find him attractive . What do I do I such situation? Should I give in ?

chased you for 5 years�

Once I fxxk a Lady... my interest in her dies by 50%

I don’t know why...

Even if I toast her for 10years... the day I climb her, I start losing interest

piamily:
I have noticed men especially African men loose interest when a lady becomes interested in them even just a bit. I really don’t get it.

Do men expect women to hate them even when the men love the women? Cos I don’t understand if it should be mutual or not

Your views please

Because we dont want what happened to adam repeat it self again thank you.

Did dangote daughter show interest and we no gree?
Men get class na.

piamily:
I have noticed men especially African men loose interest when a lady becomes interested in them even just a bit. I really don’t get it.

Do men expect women to hate them even when the men love the women? Cos I don’t understand if it should be mutual or not

Your views please

Cause women are monsters and should remain like that. A woman acting nice or pretending to like a guy is a big scam and has a hidden intention.
When monsters act like angels who do you expect the angels to act like

piamily:
I have noticed men especially African men loose interest when a lady becomes interested in them even just a bit. I really don’t get it.

Do men expect women to hate them even when the men love the women? Cos I don’t understand if it should be mutual or not

Your views please

We are used to being disliked by women.

piamily:
Okay. There’s thing guy I met one time last year. So he came up bold and said he was interested in a relationship. He didn’t even waste time. I was impressed . Normally I was supposed to dish out my “naija shakara girls style” you know, but I didn’t . After some days I agreed to date him.

I found out he’s easy going so I decided to give in and be mutual with the love and attraction etc. as soon as I got interested, he withdrew.

I noticed it . I don’t understand why a man will do this. Was he not interested? And does he expect the woman to hate him.

I see some men complain about ladies being hard to get and now a lady didn’t play that much hard yet the man withdrew a bit. Still don’t get men sometimes sha

The "Thrill" is in the "Chase"........

....... for immature boys still trying to prove their social skills.

Sorry, just add that to your catalog of experiences.

Renida:



Trust me if I told you my qualifications and more for example you'll want to meet me if not for dating for friendship for example. ( Now imagine the many more like me, aha. ) Trust me, there's always a mixture in every crowd, and if you throw away the entire bunch because of some bad and a psyche that all is bad, you will also throw away the good along with it. Take this comment to the bank and cash in on it

why did u delete the second part , was busy with something so couldn’t finish reading. I wanted to settle down and give u a reply

This period we don't need post like this okay op

piamily:
I have noticed men especially African men loose interest when a lady becomes interested in them even just a bit. I really don’t get it.

Do men expect women to hate them even when the men love the women? Cos I don’t understand if it should be mutual or not

Your views please

But you ladies taught us

piamily:
I have noticed men especially African men loose interest when a lady becomes interested in them even just a bit. I really don’t get it.

Do men expect women to hate them even when the men love the women? Cos I don’t understand if it should be mutual or not

Your views please

And people are getting married everyday abi?
Your hypothesis holds no water to be generalised like that
Maybe you're ugly or have some issues that change your toasters minds but they don't feel the need to explain to you. They simply ghost and move on.
Some other ladies wear their toasters out and the toasters' interest diminishes and fades off by the time the ladies come around from their childishnes, forming hard to get and stupidity.
Pray your own personal person comes your way and be nice to him, don't fail to show interest and encourage him from the get go.

My girlfriend showed serious enthusiasm and unequivocal interest in me right from the very first day even before we had serious conversations, I didn't loose interest Rather I am marrying her as soon as possible

Let me tell you the parable of the lost sheep.
A shepherd once lost a sheep. He left the other 99sheep in search of that one lost sheep. He searched every nooks and crannies till he found what he was looking for.
Moral of the story: you don't search for what you have.

Because guys are like lions and the fun is in the chasing.

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piamily:
Okay. There’s thing guy I met one time last year. So he came up bold and said he was interested in a relationship. He didn’t even waste time. I was impressed . Normally I was supposed to dish out my “naija shakara girls style” you know, but I didn’t . After some days I agreed to date him.

I found out he’s easy going so I decided to give in and be mutual with the love and attraction etc. as soon as I got interested, he withdrew.

I noticed it . I don’t understand why a man will do this. Was he not interested? And does he expect the woman to hate him.

I see some men complain about ladies being hard to get and now a lady didn’t play that much hard yet the man withdrew a bit. Still don’t get men sometimes sha

Most of us have personal battles going on within our minds, something I expect you to understand.

The thing weakens me at times. I complain I can't win a girl yet I frown at anyone showing signs of chasing me. I often assume that one is an ogbanje

He may have a woman he loves than you and he intends marrying, so please dont rush humid he wants you he will go for you, Let the guy do the seeking, we love it when we do the chasing not you..Woman and wahala, na so God saved me from one that suddenly just started showing much interest in my person.

I senced some funny sharp character, I refused to give her much attention and beside I told her I already had someone.

This girl is very fine, a banker, even finer than my woman but I cannot cheat on my lady or do anything against my conscience, she later stop chatting me up and i later realised she got broke up with her bf so she needed someone to filled that gap. I thank God I did not follow that deadly trap and temptation.God thank you.oooo.

The only thing I knw for sure is dat Women can handle rejection easily unlike guys, so de go around writing stupid things like this

Zoie:
The average Nigerian man suffers from an extremely weak self esteem that needs to stay constantly bloated to stay functional.
That's why they chase after ladies who treat them like shi.t and avoid ladies who show them love. The hunt makes them happy. The thrill of having to constantly woo a woman makes them feel good. Makes them feel she is better than the one who shows love even without being wooed..even if the former is a retired runs girl.

wetin is dis one be saying. Will you be shut up.

piamily:


Wow seriously ?

Even when I’m not attracted to him?
I dunno why it’s hard for me to grow feelings for him

But u kept growing feelings for hit n run


Such is life

piamily:
I have noticed men especially African men loose interest when a lady becomes interested in them even just a bit. I really don’t get it.

Do men expect women to hate them even when the men love the women? Cos I don’t understand if it should be mutual or not

Your views please

I haven't gone through others comments to know if what am about to say/write has been said/written by another person.

The issue of loosing interest in a lady who shows an affections to a guy is something I would say is subjective. Not all guys loose interest in a lady like you generalized it to be and likewise, not all guys develops interest because a lady shows her affections.

Everything has its own price and no matter how you try to underprice it, that wouldn't make a difference! It might be there's no connection between the two(which is normal) or that the guy you are speaking about has an underlying ego which makes him think you're not worthy of his affection and all that!

Again, our culture and traditions have made it that way that a lady isn't supposed to be the one to do the chasing. So, when the chasing eventually comes from the lady, the guy may not be able to reciprocate the feelings.

piamily:
I have noticed men especially African men loose interest when a lady becomes interested in them even just a bit. I really don’t get it.

Do men expect women to hate them even when the men love the women? Cos I don’t understand if it should be mutual or not

Your views please

What will you do when you are served with the food you do not have an interest in?

All boils down to luv n lust. Wen a guy start a new relationship , he cant differentiate btw luv or lust, as d relationship continues, if its lust d interest wunt b dere again

Jim99:
@Piamily don't bother. No matter how much you play hard to get, as soon as a guy has you to to himself he automatically loses interest and goes after more prettier girls.

That's how our mind was programmed to work

Exactly women should remain monsters and never act like saints or cupids

piamily:

No the guy hasn’t even chased and chased , he just started and is doing shakara because the woman acts interested. I really don’t understand if men expect women to chase them.

Won’t he kill his ego?

madam there's difference between pursue and chase. Pursue is pidgin English

Omg!! Shoot more Lilian. You’re inspiring me right now . Thanks very much

Liliantalks:
lol he might not be short in the department sha

I hv learnt a big lesson from life , let me share with you , when I was younger i had a lot of guys coming my way , but back then I was so ignorant on what I should look for in a man , now I am older I regret some guys I let go, guys I felt we’re too short , talks too much , swaggerless , aggressive , smoker , etc . Guys i liked were hoes , I dated some but i was little or no value to them , I was there till they met another. Funny enough all the guys I wrote off r in a relationship n doing very well in their relationships ,loving there women silly , well some remain idiots lol

look for efforts , money, care and attention, that’s what really matters. Get a list of what u want in a man , and check if this guy meets 75% of it , if he does , accept him. He can still turn out to be a fool after sex o, I can’t give u any assurance, men r wicked . But that’s a step to the right direction.

Hmmm...not in our culture for women to toast men

EXACTLY

Fairview1:



I haven't gone through others comments to know if what am about to say/write has been said/written by another person.

The issue of loosing interest in a lady who shows an affections to a guy is something I would say is subjective. Not all guys loose interest in a lady like you generalized it to be and likewise, not all guys develops interest because a lady shows her affections.

Everything has its own price and no matter how you try to underprice it, that wouldn't make a difference! It might be there's no connection between the two(which is normal) or that the guy you are speaking about has an underlying ego which makes him think you're not worthy of his affection and all that!

Again, our culture and traditions have made it that way that a lady isn't supposed to be the one to do the chasing. So, when the chasing eventually comes from the lady, the guy may not be able to reciprocate the feelings.

Dobson43:



Let me tell you the parable of the lost sheep.
A shepherd once lost a sheep. He left the other 99sheep in search of that one lost sheep. He searched every nooks and crannies till he found what he was looking for.

Moral of the story: you don't search for what you have.

while he went to search for the one sheep, wolves came and ate the 99 sheep, the man comes back and commit suicide... That is reality

piamily:

Omg!! Shoot more Lilian. You’re inspiring me right now . Thanks very much

I sense a feminist being born

Goalnaldo:
The thing weakens me at times. I complain I can't win a girl yet I frown at anyone showing signs of chasing me. I often assume that one is an ogbanje

You must be possessed!