chubinwa:
This is purely a social class rift. considering the circumstances around poly graduates, it is certain that the man will not accept you.[s][/s] the only thing that can suit his pride now is money. make more money. I don't mean saving your little salary to accumulate it. I mean make money on bases, this is the only solution. [s][/s]

You guys talk as if one can just become rich overnight. This is pure delusion.

Liliantalks:
you see , we hv different aspirations in life , not everyone wants what u want , broke is relative, broke to you may not be broke to me , and their achievements and personality beats any oil company worker a million times , everybody will not be rich , but people can achieve their dreams, be average, and happy . Is like saying because there is no much money in lawyering people shouldn’t be lawyers any more .

lol, when it comes to lifestyle, Nigerian lecturers live the most stupid and dirty lifestyle; they collect bribe from students as sorting to pass them or upgrade their exam result grade.


They sleep with female students to pass them or upgrade them.

They sell poorly written copy and paste handouts and nonsense textbook at outrageous price to meet up with their dream financial life they thought lecturing would provide for them.


They join small boys in foolish school cult and also do jazz to protect themselves from students they maltreat, fail and sleep with.


So what nonsense lifestyle are you talking about here Lilian


Lecturing in Nigeria is a yeye work, Teachers are more respected and dignified than lecturers, so you better aspire to become a teacher than a lecturer if you want to live a modest life.


Go back and read my edited comment you quoted, I have friends and course mates who are now lecturers, so I know

Gbam!

Ningen:
Are you implying he rather gives his blessings to a poor and jobless degree holder than to a rich and successful school dropout?

You are totally naive to believe it's all about your educational background, its your Bank Account!



Your options —

1. She can find her voice and convince her dad that you are success and marriage material.

2. You can go back to school for a degree.

3. Elope together without his blessing.

4. Get rich quick, google 'Robbin Banks' for tips.

5. Quit and move on. ( Preferred option!!)

meetme01:


If you like yourself, make her your best friend and remain best of friends. She would love it that way and any request for support or assistance, she would be glad.

Marriage is not only about love o.

OP, pls follow this bolded advice. She might be your turning point in life.

Bsc:Babcock
MSC:convenant

Op you sef reason am na
If you were in her dads shoe what would you have done?
Besides I'm sure you would have had inferiority complex any time the lady is around you cos that girl definitely would reek of class and a high standard of living.

Even if the father oblige to you marrying his daughter it will not work because you will have no choice than to be subjective in the marriage..

My own advice is get another qualification that can get close to the gal qualification . Thou qualification no mean say you can't be richer than the gal in the future. My wife is a PHD and i have master . My wife likes academic and i like biz. So get some professional qualificaiton and I'm sure it will help you to get a bigger offer from where you're working or another place in the future. You can even do online professional course too bro. If you kick start this , her papa go know say you mean well for her daughter. thank me later

stuffs4me:
OP. even you have discriminated against polytechnics people because I'm very sure you have met countless poly girls but chose to go for a university graduate with masters sef.

No poly guy or girl wants to marry a polytechnic leaver yet you guys are the first people who complain about discrimination. Same discrimination you poly leavers are guilty of

My advice to the OP is to look for a fellow polytechnic girl and date as that girl he is chasing is way beyond his level in all ramifications.

Graduating from a polytechnic doesn’t make one to be dumb , I graduated from one of the best polytechnic in south west , You have to be very high up to beat my standard of education if you graduated from any of the glorified university in Nigeria , I study beyond my environment , it’s all about self development.... back to the subject; the guy should double up his hussle cuz all I can see here is a social class issue , if with that hnd he works at shell or dangote as a top staff , going to the girls house with a latest Mercedes Benz the story would have been different.

Like someone mention before its about your Bank account..Factory supervisor is just a modest job..If you are working with Shell or Chevron sure the father will not remember your qualification. Continue your life if the parent do not accept the relationship. Try to keep your dream bigger these could be use to push you to greater height.

landmark86:
I graduated from Osun State Polytechnic, Iree.
She also graduated from Babcock University.

We both met in 2015 during our NYSC at River State. We serve in the same PPA. She is good, lovely and caring. And to crown it all she is beautiful. I mean so beautiful.

It all started with friendship which later led to relationship. We share so many things together during our time in River State as per what the future holds.

After our NYSC, we both went back to our various base. She is based in Lagos while I reside in Osun. Immediate I finished my NYSC, I got a job with a private organisation as a factory supervisor. But she went further for her Masters in Covenant University, Otta. Despite the distance we still communicate from time to time and at times I do find time to check on her in Otta, while she also do check on me in Osogbo.

After her M.sc, her dad got her a job with a big company in Lagos.

Last year December she came to Osogbo as usual to check on me but fortunately she met my parents and my siblings at my place. They all love and accept her. When she was leaving the next day she told me that her parents told her that they want to meet her fiancé.

12th January, 2020 I travelled down to Lagos to meet her parents. When getting there I met her parents with her only sister. Her dad ask of my parents, state, my qualification and what I do for a living. I told him and immediately he stood up and told me he will never allow his daughter to marry an HND holder.

He said he can't send his daughter to a university & end up marry an HND holder. Never!!! Though my gal is not in support of that, even ever since that time till now she's not her self in that house.
I truly love her and I know she truly love me too. But her parents is the major concern.
Should I call it quit?

Please your advise is needed, what should I do?

grandpoh:
Bsc:Babcock
MSC:convenant

Op you sef reason am na
If you were in her dads shoe what would you have done?
Besides I'm sure you would have had inferiority complex any time the lady is around you cos that girl definitely would reek of class and a high standard of living.

Even if the father oblige to you marrying his daughter it will not work because you will have no choice than to be subjective in the marriage..

They are glorified secondary schools.


You didn't even mention MIT, Harvard, London school of Economics, Cambridge, Sandford University, Oxford, ordinary Babcock and Covenant they enter with poor JAMB result, Nigerian youths are truly dumb

Nairaland is not a place for you to seek a professional advice. There are just some bunch of idiots looking for who to devour. Although there some reasonable people among them.

stuffs4me:
OP. even you have discriminated against polytechnics people because I'm very sure you have met countless poly girls but chose to go for a university graduate with masters sef.

No poly guy or girl wants to marry a polytechnic leaver yet you guys are the first people who complain about discrimination. Same discrimination you poly leavers are guilty of

My advice to the OP is to look for a fellow polytechnic girl and date as that girl he is chasing is way beyond his level in all ramifications.

During my NYSC I met this guy , a poly graduate .He is cool but my problem with him is that , he so much believed that as a degree holder( A graduate of German Language) in near time I will secure a good job and then I will buy him a car and then fly him out of the country because of my education qualification.
That was how I started hating him. That if I buy a car he will be in cahrge and other nonsense .
I told him that psychologically I can't put up with his attitude and have to call it a quit.

Whatever your qualifications educationally, your account balance makes the difference.
Your problem here is with the status financially not education qualification.
Even if you are a drop out like mark Zuckerberg or bill gates and your account is speaking in million dollars, her father will receive you with plenty of celebrations.

wman:


It's the same thing abroad too. Most of them marry within their social class and their race. You hardly see white girls from rich homes marry black men unless they are well-to-do.

I believe prince Harry married his class abi

shegzydave:

embezzled money����

If you get the opportunity you go embezzle too and beside no be everybody de embezzle, we have some cool dudes who are business mogul

humilitypays:
lol, when it comes to lifestyle, Nigerian lecturers live the most stupid and dirty lifestyle; they collect bribe from students as sorting to pass them or upgrade their exam result grade.


They sleep with female students to pass them or upgrade them.

They sell poorly written copy and paste handouts and nonsense textbook at outrageous price to meet up with their dream financial life they thought lecturing would provide for them.


They join small boys in foolish school cult and also do jazz to protect themselves from students they maltreat, fail and sleep with.


So what nonsense lifestyle are you talking about here Lilian


Lecturing in Nigeria is a yeye work, Teachers are more respected and dignified than lecturers, so you better aspire to become a teacher than a lecturer if you want to live a modest life.


Go back and read my edited comment you quoted, I have friends and course mates who are now lecturers, so I know

Baba lecturer pass lecturer ooo.... I know one that travels abroad almost every 3 month to deliver lectures in top universities outside. He uses a Benz sef. As a very young Civil Engineering lecturer sef he still owns his own company and he his getting contracts from state government sef. It just depends on packaging jare and how the individual can maximize his potential. Even little UG girls are dying for the man. He his a star lecturer.

Exodora:

During my NYSC I met this guy , a poly graduate .He is cool but my problem with him is that , he so much believed that as a degree holder( A graduate of German Language) in near time I will secure a good job and then I will buy him a car and then fly him out of the country because of my education qualification.
That was how I started hating him. That if I buy a car he will be in cahrge and other nonsense .
I told him that psychologically I can't put up with his attitude and have to call it a quit.

I'm a poly graduate looking for a sweet young Bsc holder to be in a relationship with and I promise not to be in charge. Just spoil me small with money and I'm all yours

Thiwalade:
O. P, don't look down on yourself. If they don't agree to your Union, just use this as a fuel to succeed. I am where I am today because someone once said to me "what can you do with this course you went to study". I love these kinds of energies, it makes me vexed in my spirit and my determination becomes exceedingly great. I will stop at nothing until I see doubters eat their words. Be determined!

Sorry sir.
What course do u read?

MadeMan01:
Certificate ain't worth shit. The main thing is what can you do are you capable. Look at your girl with her master's, she can't get a job on merit and depends on daddy's connection. You are an HND holder and have gotten a job on merit in a factory. Try now to improve yourself, get better job and possibly relocate where there are opportunities. Osun is isolated. Not much opportunities m regarding marriage. Never force a girl to marry you when her family is against it. If anything happens to her, you are in shit. You know your people, they will accuse you of charming or hurting her.
Just do an honest appraisal of your self. Can you provide the girl with the level of comfort she enjoys in her father's house. If no, set her free. Look for babe in your league that will respect you when you rise through economic strata instead of a girl who will nag you while struggling to maintain her father's standard.

The Oracle has spoken.

Ybaby:



The father cannot tell him he has nothing going o for him.....father gave him an abbreviated portion of the whole gist. Akin Alabi Nairabet went to Poly... no father is rejecting him because he has now gone to Harvard too.

You are still making the same mistakes that you made in your previously postulated comments!

You are still assuming and second guessing what the lady's father is thinking which might be totally wrong!

Let's follow through with what the OP said....there are people like that lady's father who have such mindset about a poly graduate!

I have studied quite keenly your trail of comments....hence these are my observations/queries...

You have spoken about the school their future children might attend...what about the peace in that marriage?
Will having a Harvard degree or the kind of assets like Akin alabi guarantee a peaceful and loving marriage?

Furthermore,Has anyone including you bothered to ask what the lady actually wants?
For Christ sake,this lady is neither a teen or a child...she is a full grown adult who can make her decisions without any kind of interference from her parents despite taking their daughter to one of the expensive schools in the country!

This is NOT a business transaction or a job employment that requires a paper qualification to enter.....this is about MARRIAGE!
She is the one that will decide OP's next step and not whether he is a Harvard graduate or if her prospective suitor is an aliko dangote!

One of the reasons why some ladies in naija are yet to get married is because they are looking for a future hubby with a Harvard certificate or a reputable businessman just to please her parents!

My guy go and make money and return back. Qualifications is just a paper, don't be deceived with it.
The man wants a future for her daughter, he only used that to keep you away from her daughter.
But if you make a real money, the man will be proud of you.

That is why we the igbos don't take sheet, na hustle. Whenever fortune smiles on you, your enemy will relocate.

emmaodet:
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Sir, please don't let us keep deceiving the younger ones behind us. Don't let us keep beat round the bush and talking with half mouth.
Let us say it out BOLDLY that Marriage has never been about Love But Money, Personal and Selfish interests.
Please, let us quit the lies and know that there is Nothing called Love.
Love is only used and called when a Broke and Poor lady wants to Scam a rich or stable guy into Marriage,, anything outside that is Balderdash

I totally accept your submission. Can't stop laughing. It's through though.

jaxxy:


You are correct, I didn't say he shud go there with such expectation from his wud be inlaws bt help comes from anywhere.. many sensible guys have help their babes step up. Bt its not by force

The gal herself shud have been asking the guy what his plans are and how he's actualising them. I didn't hear any such discussion taking place and that's strange.

Let me explain something. Men donot menstruate or get pregnant... in a family setting what men bring is finance - the woman brings the rest. So it is natural for men to pull a woman up because she like mother nature will return is seed with harvest. She has a womb (soil) within her to carry his lineage to earth. She will trade her beauty, memory, hair, brain, body and much more to achieve this for him. Give her a seed she will give you harvest.

2. The girl is not his mother or father and any man waiting for a woman to encourage him is lazy. Women encourage men but it is not by force. Through her actions of bettering her self or her parents action of bettering her , a hardworking man would have been doing copy and paste.

2b. I did not see him encouraging the girl or talking about his plans only love as if Jesus love is not sufficient for us all.

3. Now that the girl did not encourage him and he did not encourage himself who has been rejected .....?

In life you push yourself... help comes from God.

Anyone who does not menstruate or have menstral pain waiting for helper instead of entering market to do baranda is a joke.

stuffs4me:


True talk bro.. The OP is a gold digger and the lady's dad saw his conny tricks from a mile away. Ordinary factory worker with a diploma wants to marry a lady with B.Sc and masters that works in a big company in Lagos.

The OP should go and eat his mumu love.

you guys should stop being funny. The op didn't meet her as a MSC holder and working in a top coy to classify him as a gold digger. They meet when they were just Nysc members and the relationship has been there.

micxwell:
Modified just by using the Poly and Uni dichotomy.

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igbowoman:
If I had listened to my aunt, I wouldn't have married the man I married .
She asked me to wait for suitors with cars but I married one without a car and without family wealth thank God my parents didnt object.
Today my parents are being very well taken care of.
A man that looks like he has nothing today can be something tomorrow.
My post is mainly for the young unmarried girls reading.Dont only look at a man for who he is today ,look ahead .If he has the drive to succeed and you stand by him he will make it .

Did you graduate from Covenant,Babcock,Bowen or Igbinedion?

What is your profession?
What kind of job were you doing and how much were you earning?

I bet if you were in the high social class,you won't stoop low.

openmine:

You are still making the same mistakes that you made in your previously postulated comments!

You are still assuming and second guessing what the lady's father is thinking which might be totally wrong!

Let's follow through with what the OP said....there are people like that lady's father who have such mindset about a poly graduate!

I have studied quite keenly your trail of comments....hence these are my observations/queries...

You have spoken about the school their future children might attend...what about the peace in that marriage?
Will having a Harvard degree or the kind of assets like Akin alabi guarantee a peaceful and loving marriage?

Furthermore,Has anyone including you bothered to ask what the lady actually wants?
For Christ sake,this lady is neither a teen or a child...she is a full grown adult who can make her decisions without any kind of interference from her parents despite taking their daughter to the best school in the country!
This is NOT a business transaction or a job employment that requires a paper qualification to enter.....this is about MARRIAGE!
She is the one that will decide OP's next step and not whether he is a Harvard graduate or if her prospective suitor is an aliko dangote!

Risi omo Iya alagbo will give him more peace than this lady can.

Marriage is a legal contract ... it is a business. Donot get it twisted.

People choose to love .... loving someone is a choice but marriage is a legal business contract.

Tumbulum:
you guys should stop being funny. The op didn't meet her as a MSC holder and working in a top coy to classify him as a gold digger. They meet when they were just Nysc members and the relationship has been there.

He saw her bright future jo.

openmine:

You are still making the same mistakes that you made in your previously postulated comments!

You are still assuming and second guessing what the lady's father is thinking which might be totally wrong!

Let's follow through with what the OP said....there are people like that lady's father who have such mindset about a poly graduate!

I have studied quite keenly your trail of comments....hence these are my observations/queries...

You have spoken about the school their future children might attend...what about the peace in that marriage?
Will having a Harvard degree or the kind of assets like Akin alabi guarantee a peaceful and loving marriage?

Furthermore,Has anyone including you bothered to ask what the lady actually wants?
For Christ sake,this lady is neither a teen or a child...she is a full grown adult who can make her decisions without any kind of interference from her parents despite taking their daughter to one of the expensive schools in the country!

This is NOT a business transaction or a job employment that requires a paper qualification to enter.....this is about MARRIAGE!
She is the one that will decide OP's next step and not whether he is a Harvard graduate or if her prospective suitor is an aliko dangote!

One of the reasons why some ladies in naija are yet to get married is because they are looking for a future hubby with a Harvard certificate or a reputable businessman just to please her parents!

So if ladies are looking for a successful man let the men be successful.... abi?
Marriage to a poor man is worse than no marriage abeg. What will you feed your children ......

tidalstorm:
I can see where her parents are coming from. Every parent wants a better life for his/her kid. The expenses they spent on school sef no go be small money.
With your qualifications, you might never be good enough for there daughter. Just leave the girl, work harder and try to further your education to avoid family wahala.
I think it is a social class problem, them dey feel say you no reach their class based on money.

IS A GOOD EDUCATION FROM A RICH MAN'S UNI A DETERMINANT OF A GOOD HUSBAND MATERIAL?

mechanics:
I will allow my daughter make her right choice not to bring a law that won't favour her.

Good for her. She is your daughter.

Ybaby:


He saw her bright future jo.

fucccck. How can you know one has a bright future?Everyone has a bright future but that may never come to frutition if one does not work hard.