djon78:


Women have higher tendency of being in love or falling in love more than men.
In fact they easier fall in love that's why the Bible was silent on them loving there husbands.

But men have higher tendency of not giving in to love emotions so that's why bible commanded to love.

A relationship works better when a woman loves more but neglecting that love can lead to catastrophe. Many men prefer that situation but they use it to maltreat and neglect there woman. Which leads to scenario like this topic.

We men look at these things from our own selfish position.
You marry a woman that loves you more but at the other hand still maltreat and mess up her life because she loves you more. And this is exactly the case with many Nigerian homes. Many women are in regret.

That's why many of these modern ones go for ready made men. Especially the younger ones in there 20s. They trade off there young freshness for a ready made man. At least she knows what she is getting.

anslem04:




Thanks God you know the basics, before you conclude men are selfish how about we analyse r/ships women had upperhand (i.e the men more in love) is the same "maltreat" women dish out to them .. please go research babalola & his wife.
The best form of marriage remains wife & hubby 60-40 respectively cos men manage power well than women, whoever is less in love as more power in that r/ship. such power is like an alcohol men handle it better.
I don't see how settling for a rich man, enforces a perfect marriage or home ... both poor& rich men are fallible, women only came up with "it is beta to cry in a mansion than cry in a face me i slap you" to console there being either ways both victims are not happy. we can't get it right as long as people keep using calculation & permutation to marry, more divorces will spring up just a matter of time. the way forward is for both genders to accept there roles & tolerate one another.

CHoccolaTE:


@bold,

Very big lie.

Submissive behaviour in humans is more likely to trigger bullying instincts in others.
Majority of people only respect you if they know you have some kind of power over them.

Many women are submissive but their husbands still disrespect them and bully them.

djon78:


We have to be balanced when we throw around this word of submission.

The woman should submit but what did the Bible tell the man: husband love your wife!!! How? As Christ loved the church and gave himself for her.

Men even have the tougher task, to love there wives to the extent of dieing for her.

Also note it was the man the Bible commanded to love. The woman was never given that injuction

Definitely of love? 1 Corinthians 13 vs 4 gave the characteristics of love which are:

Love is patient, kind, it's not boastful, it's not proud. It's not rude, it's not selfish etc

Which woman will you shower with all those qualities that will not worship and adore you.


Most of you quote bible to soot your own narrative. You won't love a woman as the Bible commanded you to. But you will want her to submit to you.
That's very very very selfish.

CHoccolaTE:
I keep saying it that women should never fall for the cheap scam of "marry a broke man and build him, grow with him"



Ladies, never marry a broke or stingy man, you dont live in western societies where marrying a broke man can still benefit you because while you bring money for running the house the man will cover the home front and will not boss you around. In Nigeria even when a man is broke he wants to be treated like a king, infact his feeling of entitlement increases and he starts demanding more respect.

CHoccolaTE:



What kind of pained write up is this?
I don't understand this annoyance men feel whenever women advice themselves to marry rich men. Would they advice their sisters to marry poor men or struggling men?

Men themselves are looking for working class women to marry but expect women to struggle with broke bums.

princessConfy:
seeing this post frightens me more. my relationship of 5 months is giving me headache. he said he can't give me money except I ask. I've tried to explain to him that I'm not good in asking and I don't ask because he said his ex gf used to be too demanding. now I don't know if I ask small he may think I'm pretending if I ask big he may think I'm too demanding. He will ask me to visit and when I want to leave he'll wait till we are almost at the junction before he will ask if I have T.p. anytime we have an argument he will threatened our relationship...
I don tire... cos I don't know if I should continue or quit.. relationship wahala

iamloyalty:


May ur days be long.
Op just please learn to save for the raining day.

emmaodet:


Don't get me wrong, am not annoyed. Annoyed over what? I don't have that time. Just saying it the way it is.
I only pointed out a fact from you statement that - You can only date a rich guy if he approaches you(and that is hiw far you can control the relationship or the limit of your power) while the guy reserves the right to either sleep with you and dump you after agreeing to is offer or he decides to marry you (you don't have control on who marry you, rather who you date).
And that statement above is the fact, am not lying.
You said should they advise themselves to marry date rich guys? - the real question is why should a woman from a poor home date a rich guy? Whatever happens to her societal class?
About guys also looking for working class girls - of course, what do you think? For a working class guy to marry a jobless lady? Will a lady do that too?
Most guys expectations are feasible or realizable unlike ladies.
A lady who is staying at isheri-idimu will be dreaming and hoping to date a man at lekki or VGC all in the name of scamming him with Love and Submission (who needs that anyway) just to alleviate her from poverty.
A working class guy working and staying at isheri-idimu will be looking for a working class lady within the environment and class e.g Egbeda and that is feasible.
Over and out

CHoccolaTE:



What kind of pained write up is this?
I don't understand this annoyance men feel whenever women advice themselves to marry rich men. Would they advice their sisters to marry poor men or struggling men?

Men themselves are looking for working class women to marry but expect women to struggle with broke bums.

eyinjuege:


More like pink pill

CHoccolaTE:


Which religion are you
Christian, Muslim or juju worshiper

emmaodet:


Hahahahaha

ChiccolaTEeeeeeeeee

Christian

CHoccolaTE:


I will continue telling women to only marry rich/comfortable guys. No sensible human, male or female likes poverty, no woman in her right mind will open eyes and marry a poor broke guy, sorry if you are broke maybe that's why this issue is peppering you but remember that in your religion men are supposed to provide for women in exchange for women submitting to them.

That's why women look for guys that can do a good job providing for them.women dont attack you guys when you say you want to marry submissive and obedient women so dont get defensive when they say they like rich men.

emmaodet:


Lol
Like i said before, they can only date rich guys and not marry them. Marrying a lady is the exclusive right of a man unless the man is not financially buoyant, in such case they are the ones pestering ladies to marry them.
I approached my wife then girlfriend, she accepted but during the relationship, she stylishly told me are we not settling down soon and marry? Because her sister will soon marry her bf. You see, she had the power to yes to me for dating but i had the power of saying Yes, let us marry.
Point of correction, am not broke and your comments didn't get to me at all, Nah.
Also like i said, it is only a poor man with low self esteem that will be worried women are avoiding broke men.
Women avoiding broke guys is a Blessing in disguise because in their own little way they can quietly enjoy their little money without dramas or headache.

CHoccolaTE:


Whatever mehn, I can't read this your long novel, bye.

Illuminated993:
Time to delete this account.

CHoccolaTE:


Whatever mehn, I can't read this your long novel, bye.

Fabuloski:

He has said the truth that you ladies don't want to talk about now.
You do know a lot of female folks are reading your post and I think you owe them the whole truth.

They don't get to choose who date them or marry them. Men do the wooing, and the number of rich girls is very low compared to the number of females available. This ratio is not going to get better, as a matter of fact it will worsen starting from this post covid-19 era.

CHoccolaTE:


See painment

Men hustle oo, Hustle so that you will not suffer sifia pains when women say they want only rich guys

anslem04:




Wisdom is sancrosanct esp. in choices & decision making. what do human do everyday if not choices & decision. Funnily ...wise is an adjective mostly attributed to men, the only time the bible described a wise woman she build her home ... which is why people turn to "women" easily 4 such job,women av that capacity ,its an inborne men don't have, when people ask a lady to be submissive its doesnt denote a downplay of love, its just a matter of following structured process of building a home.
World as evolve, just as ships as advance with an high-tech sat. navigator, its not only the captain thats know the paths, buh yet the captain still takes all decision in world 2020 ... why!
ability to provide bloat a man's ego buh what really makes a man feel like god is recognition, strength, respect & his records.
As a woman if you feel u are brillant, intelligent,smart & wise then neva settle for a man with a downsize of your attributes ... a man shuld be the undisputed head of the home. #God's plan

KanuSE:


She needs a young blood...she needs a young blood!

CHoccolaTE:
I keep saying it that women should never fall for the cheap scam of "marry a broke man and build him, grow with him"

Its Absolute crap, men are very egotistical even when it makes no sense, you will see them being arrogant and full of themselves. Feeling like kings and superstars on top nothing. This egotistical behaviour is pronounced when they are dealing with women because religions and African society tells them that women are inferior to them.

Ladies, never marry a broke or stingy man, you dont live in western societies where marrying a broke man can still benefit you because while you bring money for running the house the man will cover the home front and will not boss you around. In Nigeria even when a man is broke he wants to be treated like a king, infact his feeling of entitlement increases and he starts demanding more respect.

Of course this isn't a general thing but majority of them are like that, marry a broke man and still carry 100% house chores on your head and have to deal with stress of pregnancy and raising children and increase your humility to him even while feeding him and providing for him because he is busy having ego issues. Ask him to assist with housework or attempt to make decisions at home that's when he will start claiming you are rude and disrespectful and you are insulting him because he is poor.

Better marry a rich man. Or comfortable man at least. One thing I like about men is that they are not afraid to demand their rights and even extra on top of what they deserve. Women are scared to demand what they are entitled to, the same bible and Quran that made men leaders and heads of families also mandated them to provide for their families but that part of the religions is hardly focused on or discussed because it deals with what benefits women

emmaodet:


Don't get me wrong, am not annoyed. Annoyed over what? I don't have that time. Just saying it the way it is.
I only pointed out a fact from you statement that - You can only date a rich guy if he approaches you(and that is hiw far you can control the relationship or the limit of your power) while the guy reserves the right to either sleep with you and dump you after agreeing to is offer or he decides to marry you (you don't have control on who marry you, rather who you date).
And that statement above is the fact, am not lying.
You said should they advise themselves to marry date rich guys? - the real question is why should a woman from a poor home date a rich guy? Whatever happens to her societal class?
About guys also looking for working class girls - of course, what do you think? For a working class guy to marry a jobless lady? Will a lady do that too?
Most guys expectations are feasible or realizable unlike ladies.
A lady who is staying at isheri-idimu will be dreaming and hoping to date a man at lekki or VGC all in the name of scamming him with Love and Submission (who needs that anyway) just to alleviate her from poverty.
A working class guy working and staying at isheri-idimu will be looking for a working class lady within the environment and class e.g Egbeda and that is feasible.
Over and out

CHoccolaTE:
I keep saying it that women should never fall for the cheap scam of "marry a broke man and build him, grow with him"

Its Absolute crap, men are very egotistical even when it makes no sense, you will see them being arrogant and full of themselves. Feeling like kings and superstars on top nothing. This egotistical behaviour is pronounced when they are dealing with women because religions and African society tells them that women are inferior to them.

Ladies, never marry a broke or stingy man, you dont live in western societies where marrying a broke man can still benefit you because while you bring money for running the house the man will cover the home front and will not boss you around. In Nigeria even when a man is broke he wants to be treated like a king, infact his feeling of entitlement increases and he starts demanding more respect.

Of course this isn't a general thing but majority of them are like that, marry a broke man and still carry 100% house chores on your head and have to deal with stress of pregnancy and raising children and increase your humility to him even while feeding him and providing for him because he is busy having ego issues. Ask him to assist with housework or attempt to make decisions at home that's when he will start claiming you are rude and disrespectful and you are insulting him because he is poor.

Better marry a rich man. Or comfortable man at least. One thing I like about men is that they are not afraid to demand their rights and even extra on top of what they deserve. Women are scared to demand what they are entitled to, the same bible and Quran that made men leaders and heads of families also mandated them to provide for their families but that part of the religions is hardly focused on or discussed because it deals with what benefits women

ImaIma1:


People have different expectations and ways to go about achieving them. Even if a lady is not from a rich family but she gets an education, polishes herself, chooses her crowd, she can get the kind of man she seeks.

We are not talking about the kind of ladies that remain redundant and wake up everyday with no plans for the future but just looking for a man to leech on.

Not every girl will marry a struggling guy. Guys should learn to deal with this fact rather than always bellyaching when a girl points out she wants a comfortable guy.

duchaB:
No need to theorise things on here.All these opinions.
No need to analyse matters of matrimony cos it has many deep layers the mind wld never comprehend.

Marriage is mainly spiritual and karmic.

I think in life, one either has a fortunate, unfortunate or semi fortunate matrimony.

The majority of humanity gets an unfortunate matrimony, the rest get semi fortunate and very few get a fortunate matrimony.

There are people that also remarry and turn from unfiortintae to fortunate or semi fortunate matrimony.

One must just learn how to react prayerfully and consciously with intelligence to all the ugly drama of matrimony if one finds themselves in it so as to avoid causing problems for one self and others.

UyaiIncomparabl:


Better drop him like a hotplate. Surprisingly, he'll take that attitude into marriage and expect you to ask him for everything down to the nitty grittys. You'll even have to coerce him to pay the children's school fees and other miscellaneous things. Give yourself wisdom and leave.