Soar2019:


1. African parent though in some cases are not educated but they are most enlightened in the world in terms of child upbringing .. for no reason should in any case use the word ‘unwise’ for parent they may not be educated but they are enlightened
2. Business, especially in Nigeria terrain of these days is dicy .. unpredictable. I know a friend that once have a gas filling station but now down to zero cos of Nigeria ‘uncertainties’. His is not to be used as ‘bench mark’ just need to mention
3. Please for no reason should you leave your Dad home to pursue your ambition ‘you will be out of cover’ unprotected .. you may end up with bad gangs when you face ‘real life’ challenges
4. My advice. While you are working on your proposals.. and ideas .. take up your Dad advice. Tell him you will go for the masters ( after all you’ve got nothing to lose, what education does is; it ‘enlarge your capacity’ it ‘opens your inner eyes’ to see farther and clearer, ...during and while you are are working on your masters .. attend seminars, conferences, do your ‘ masters research/seminars/thesis on your business proposals .. in doing this you are using one stone to kill 2 birds
5. On a final note.. be warned! Business terrain in Nigeria is not ‘rosy’ as you think don’t get out of the ‘cocoon’ before your time .. otherwise you may not be able to fly .. develop your wings under the guidance your parent; it may not be easy but you will not regret it in the future.

You sound as terrible as some African parents,

Your right as a child is to pay attention to your parent... so if they loose direction at a point call them to other and make them see things in right perspectives instead of disobeying them and lastly if they insist on you doing there will then you will have to disobey them wisely... when I say “Disobey Wisely” you need to take precaution so as not to sin in the act of disobeying them

Friend22:


One thing about me is hate toxic comments.

Materially and in certain aspect they are ahead of us, but in terms of respect and upbringing we are better than them.

Can you imagine a child you raises with your own sweat and money suing you because he feels you can't reproach him or her.
This kind of rotten behavior is what you people are endorsing?

Spits

U are an enemy of the truth. Speak no more because no one will listen

The Bible didn’t say ‘Obey your Parents’.
What the Bible says is Honor Your Parents. We have differences in the two words .

Blackmiserable:

Just explain will not do it sir. It doesn't work like that. How do you explain to an educated father who wants you to further to Ph.D level that you want to go into something else? Two mutually exclusive preferences are not necessarily wrong. Otis just their preference and you also have yours.

I had no plans to further my studies after Bsc. In my own case my dad wants me to be a proffesor , I could just refused, but since virtually everyone at home agrees with him, I just played along, doing my business while studying. Now everybody is happy. Advanced degrees don't require as much time as lower ones.

No matter how old you are, in front of ur parents you are just a kid. Do not let this materialistic world get in between you. let them have peace of mind in thier old age. I enjoy hearing "God bless you my son" May God gives you whatever you heart desires"


The way i see it, life is simple, don't complicate it

sexylassie2:
i hardly obey my parent but they are proud of me

Newyam hear this. Her insult and disobedience no start today

zoe123:


You sound as terrible as some African parents,

Yes! But not as terrible as you may think. ‘terribly with good advise if I may say
1. My guy the path of the ‘youth’ is slippery but if you are privilege to have a father to guide/shield you as the person that asked the question then you should appreciate
2. Read my outline again .. I never said he should neglect his ambition.. I only advised him to develop his wings/ambition under his parent tutelage...while within the two years of his masters he can do, he will be more mature to handle difficult situation as they appears... that’s sounds crazy and terrible to you? lol, again I laugh aloud
2. Why in a hurry? Hmmm Why in a hurry? Why should you advice someone to leave his parent house? To hang out with ‘friends’? How will he survive ? Where will he sleep? No matter how good his intention or plan may be, it takes Timing &Process...life is not magic my guy. We must learn to follow the path of success in any given ambition otherwise we become victim of life circumstance ... success path is full of thorns and scars .. you need tenacity endurance perseverance to survive .. less I forget it’s ends in glory fame and riches but if he cannot endure for 2 years with the dad .. how will he survive the first 2 years in his adventure?

Anyway
It’s left for the person to weigh his thought again and make decision
(just my view) am not in the whole show by the way

My mum is over protective, I take most decisions on my own before letting her know. I don't want a situation where it will look as if am disobedient. Even if she tells me something and I ain't cool with it I know how to convince her to dance to my tune without disobeying her.

My opinion

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MY SUMMARY IN MUSIC.....

somebody shuu help me sing abeg, lol..



"Wherever you go...
Wherever you be...
Do not say YES, where you need to say NO!"

Baba? Lolsss



It's as simple as that!

Ire oo...

Next thread plss......

The Bible says it all: "Children obey your parents in the Lord.

WHERE DID IT SAY IN THE LORD OR ARE YOU RE-WRITING THE BIBLE?

fastseo:
In the LORD not outside the Lord


Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.

GeeJack:

Nah, Fvck that. Everyhuman will never share the same view to things so why should a child be forced to act the way the parent want? I mean the child never asked to be born in the first place so why should they obey every thing the parent say? bc they OFFERED YOU LIFE?, you owe them for bringing you into a messed up world LMAO
This is the reason I do not belive in a God cause how do you create people, say you love them then force them to do things in your own favour and threaten to punish them if they don't . What the fvck is the point?
If you wanted slaves you would have atleast made that clear.

As long as you're in this world, you're already a slave. And worse still, a slave to the devil who rules the world. But when you're in Christ, you re redeemed, having been bought with a price- the blood of Jesus Christ.

Would you rather be a slave to God who will make you a king, make you prosperous, and give you peace of mind. Or would you rather be a slave to men who will use you and eventually torture you to frustration and death?

You said He wanted us as slaves. Take your earthly father for example. He wants you to do as he says. Not just to massage his ego, but because the path he has chosen for you has been tested and trusted. It will bring you a good end.

That is how God is, and He will never force you. It's your call. And remember, God is wiser than your parents. He has lived longer than them and seen farther than they have.

You said He threatens to punish you. He is not threatening to punish you. He is only going to cast you out of the kingdom He created and into the outer darkness that existed before He created the heaven and earth.

Do you know what it means for someone as awesome as God to take a whole week to carve out a world out of darkness? It means the darkness was really bad.

So He has created a beautiful world for us. And He has his rules about who will enter this beautiful world (just like every human has rules about who will visit them in their house).

It's left for you to obey those rules, and enjoy the beauty God has put in years (six days in His sight, but 6000 years in ours) to create.

He will not bend his rules to accommodate your lack of self control. At the end of the day, its your call.

Sewa90:
Our parents are always right in their own opinion,especially my mom,she knows everything in this life,so I just go with the flow,if she says anything "Okay" is my everyday response,I don't stress myself for explanation, I already know what is right in my head

you have to stand up to them sooner rather than later

But you can obey nairaland advise?

Honour them but not in every situation. We are made different and you may be surprised that they would be proud of you later.

The bible that says Honour your parents... also said that parents should not provoke their children to anger (preachers dont teach this part).

dukeprince50:
Pls this deserve front page.
I am going through similar problem that is frustrating the hell out of me and need some advice

You are not the only one here especially when they are not your parents

The Fifth Commandment

Honour Thy Mother and Father

As many of the the Commandments that have been misinterpreted. This one is not spared. It affects every child and youth trying making a right decision.

The commandemnt original meaning is Honour Thy Motherhood and Fatherhood.. Which is directed to fathers and mothers. To behave and respect the grace given to them to become fathers and mothers and not to misguided their wards.


Many a times we here of a drunk father beating up his wife and also maltreating the kids. If this father sends his child a message e.g to go buy a bottle of beer. If the child refuses, he/she has done right.


A better explanations can be Found in the book 'The Ten Commandments' by Abdrushin

LORDofODDS:
Well sometimes, parents do make wrong decisions for their children. Just like my junior bro who is really good at playing football, finished his secondary school and he was approached by a football manager who wanted to manage him. He came with lots of offer for my bro to play abroad (USA, South Korea, Qatar and Slovakia). But my parents were against him playing. The man grew tired and left managing my bro due to frustrations coming out from my parent. Well my bro is in uni now feeling frustrated.

Just imagine! Your bro may have been earning huge wage$ by now.

GreatResearcher1:
Newyam hear this. Her insult and disobedience no start today

ofcus dats why no man gree stay wit ha. she dey lyk poison, so pipu dey run away 4rm sexylassie2

SpecialAgent:


I had no plans to further my studies after Bsc. In my own case my dad wants me to be a proffesor , I could just refused, but since virtually everyone at home agrees with him, I just played along, doing my business while studying. Now everybody is happy. Advanced degrees don't require as much time as lower ones.

[\b] No matter how old you are, in front of ur parents you are just a kid. [\b] Do not let this materialistic world get in between you. let them have peace of mind in thier old age. I enjoy hearing "God bless you my son" May God gives you whatever you heart desires"


The way i see it, life is simple, don't complicate it

Life is simple as you said, we shouldn't complicate it. I don't agree with your statement that no matter how old you are, in front of ur parents you are just a kid. Time makes distinction and changes a lot of things bro. While it is absolutely right to say: no matter how old you are, you are to obey your parents or atleast consider them, yours is just stretching obedience a little bit. What makes you a kid before them? Obedience. But you're stretching an adult's obedience a bit too far.

Time makes distinction and changes a lot of things bro. You're welcome.

druxlazu:


Mr. Poster. There are no ignorant parents in this world except a bastard who feels he knows better than his parents.

If you were allow to grow by yourself without your parents, you would become a greater bastard.

Remember, they shall forever be wiser than you. You believing you know more than them is just an illusion.

If you are a already a bastard, then you are not to blame. But if at all you look at men and women today good, you would see that the parents are behind that development since when they were 0 years old till their current age.

Please as I would always say read about Franz Kafka. His father destroyed his life.

Nooil:




As long as you're in this world, you're already a slave. And worse still, a slave to the devil who rules the world. But when you're in Christ, you re redeemed, having been bought with a price- the blood of Jesus Christ.

Would you rather be a slave to God who will make you a king, make you prosperous, and give you peace of mind. Or would you rather be a slave to men who will use you and eventually torture you to frustration and death?

You said He wanted us as slaves. Take your earthly father for example. He wants you to do as he says. Not just to massage his ego, but because the path he has chosen for you has been tested and trusted. It will bring you a good end.

That is how God is, and He will never force you. It's your call. And remember, God is wiser than your parents. He has lived longer than them and seen farther than they have.

You said He threatens to punish you. He is not threatening to punish you. He is only going to cast you out of the kingdom He created and into the outer darkness that existed before He created the heaven and earth.

Do you know what it means for someone as awesome as God to take a whole week to carve out a world out of darkness? It means the darkness was really bad.

So He has created a beautiful world for us. And He has his rules about who will enter this beautiful world (just like every human has rules about who will visit them in their house).

It's left for you to obey those rules, and enjoy the beauty God has put in years (six days in His sight, but 6000 years in ours) to create.

He will not bend his rules to accommodate your lack of self control. At the end of the day, its your call.

Rubbish we are never free we are all slaves to the contract of live and let live. Christianity is just another bundle of chains, if there was a God it won't change anything. And bros the world is not six thousand years for bleeps sakes, how would you believe in an Adam and eve story that Christians have even stopped believing.

DrBrainstorm:
My opinion

Gbam the guy is an artist right.

Ausrichie:

Rubbish we are never free we are all slaves to the contract of live and let live. Christianity is just another bundle of chains, if there was a God it won't change anything. And bros the world is not six thousand years for bleeps sakes, how would you believe in an Adam and eve story that Christians have even stopped believing.

The Bible said my people perish for lack of knowledge. And also say, wisdom is the principal thing, get wisdom, and with all they getting, get understanding. Please, show me where I wrote the world is 6000 years? I don't like when lazy readers quote me. It pisses me off.

I really Love the diverse Opinions coming from everybody, for me, I try to understand my parents point of view and what i want, to make the best decisions, ultimately the decisions for me, are mine to make, after i reflected and weigh, the implications, i understand that my parents love me, and what they say could come out of love, or great experiences which could be very helpful, and i listen, because i regards their opinions, sometimes what they say is exactly what i need, other times, its not what i need, either way, i ensure my parents feel respected, whether i do it their way or mine, i am not in competition or in a battle with my parents, because i love them too.

Even though I know a lot, even than my parents, i regard their words so much, i listen, even though i will do it my way, sometimes.

At the end of the day, listening and thinking in both my shoes and parents shoes, makes me appreciate that i have loving supportive parents, who are there even as i grow as an eagle, they made me who i am, even though sometimes i did it my way.

Nooil:




As long as you're in this world, you're already a slave. And worse still, a slave to the devil who rules the world. But when you're in Christ, you re redeemed, having been bought with a price- the blood of Jesus Christ.

Would you rather be a slave to God who will make you a king, make you prosperous, and give you peace of mind. Or would you rather be a slave to men who will use you and eventually torture you to frustration and death?

You said He wanted us as slaves. Take your earthly father for example. He wants you to do as he says. Not just to massage his ego, but because the path he has chosen for you has been tested and trusted. It will bring you a good end.

That is how God is, and He will never force you. It's your call. And remember, God is wiser than your parents. He has lived longer than them and seen farther than they have.

You said He threatens to punish you. He is not threatening to punish you. He is only going to cast you out of the kingdom He created and into the outer darkness that existed before He created the heaven and earth.

Do you know what it means for someone as awesome as God to take a whole week to carve out a world out of darkness? It means the darkness was really bad.

So He has created a beautiful world for us. And He has his rules about who will enter this beautiful world (just like every human has rules about who will visit them in their house).

It's left for you to obey those rules, and enjoy the beauty God has put in years (six days in His sight, but 6000 years in ours) to create.

He will not bend his rules to accommodate your lack of self control. At the end of the day, its your call.

Reread what you wrote. All these Christians and muslims push your advice to yourselves and not others there are many religions. The stupid thing is that the only proof you all have is a book a mere book we should throw our lives away and inherit a new because of a book with no profound proof.

The simple answer to this question is this! Nigeria was made in the image of our parents!!! Shock! All the horror, insecurity, civil war, corruption, bribery, lack of development was put in place by the actions or lack of actions of our parents who inherited this country post independence!! It is the life long duty of every Nigerian (human being) to see the limitations of their parents (God bless them, we don't hate them, but their ignorance put us in this situation) and strive past it, thus this way bettering them.

Most parents want their children to be more successful than them, the above is the only way, do NOT be limited by your parents they are the version 1.0 of you, and you must provide version 2.0, so as your child version 3.0 and so on....that is how "a people" develop and move forward.

lanchy:
The simple answer to this question is this! Nigeria was made in the image of our parents!!! Shock! All the horror, insecurity, civil war, corruption, bribery, lack of development was put in place by the actions or lack of actions of our parents who inherited this country post independence!! It is the life long duty of every Nigerian (human being) to see the limitations of their parents (God bless them, we don't hate them, but their ignorance put us in this situation) and strive past it, thus this way bettering them.

Most parents want their children to be more successful than them, the above is the only way, do NOT be limited by your parents they are the version 1.0 of you, and you must provide version 2.0, so as your child version 3.0 and so on....that is how "a people" develop and move forward.

You need a brand new car for this. Allah. Our parents generation failed and if we don't strive to be better than them we would be another set of losers too.

Despite the failures of our parents, i still admire and respect them, but we have to find our paths while at the same time, respecting the processes that shaped our parents and their experiences, without them, we are not here today

Blackmiserable:


Life is simple as you said, we shouldn't complicate it. I don't agree with your statement that no matter how old you are, in front of ur parents you are just a kid. Time makes distinction and changes a lot of things bro. While it is absolutely right to say: no matter how old you are, you are to obey your parents or atleast consider them, yours is just stretching obedience a little bit. What makes you a kid before them? Obedience. But you're stretching an adult's obedience a bit too far.

Time makes distinction and changes a lot of things bro. You're welcome.

Well, let's agree to disagree, Even the first born in our family shows utmost respect to him. Despite his age & power, my dad can still scold him and he listens. And when it comes to professional & modern advice, my dad even listens to me( The youngest) talkless of my brothers.

Zayda007:
Your right as a child is to pay attention to your parent... so if they loose direction at a point call them to other and make them see things in right perspectives instead of disobeying them and lastly if they insist on you doing there will then you will have to disobey them wisely... when I say “Disobey Wisely” you need to take precaution so as not to sin in the act of disobeying them

That's it !!, but lots of people here fail to see that!!!