Kobicove:


OP, your parents are very wise.

Marrying someone with whom you share cultural orientation saves you a lot of stress later on

Thiwalade:
... I'm always surprised at issues arising from tribal differences. Isn't it confounding that our parents will allow us marry "rich" people from another tribe but when it comes to the average person, all laws immediately come into foray. Tribe should be one of the least things to look out for in a spouse. Humans are the same, though our environment influences our morals, social life and character. In my humble opinion, the environment which is primarily the family one grew up in is a better precursor of an individual's values. A fellow tribesman/woman can be your downfall as well as your pillar of support. Evil knows no tribe, religious beliefs, family, country or whatever denomination you may be from. The earlier we start seeing people as individuals instead of tagging "yoruba person" "aboki" "omo igbo" to their heads, the better for our country.

In addition,

You only limit yourself if you let yourself be blinded by tribe even your own family can frame you up. A complete stranger can be the helper of your destiny. Many have lost valuable people due to nonsense tribal sentiments.

We are never born to hate on a particular tribe or people but it's often learnt from our parents or a general misconception arising from one person's experience of another from a tribe. Let's not allow a person's experience guide how we treat our fellow humans.

Be cautious, trust no one because evil knows no color or religion.

Righteousness89:
Don't Argue with ur parents

Listen to what they have to say

Respectfully tell them your Reasons for deciding on her..

Be Ready to take full Responsibility for your decision

But before you get Married, Ensure you are Divinely led to your Spouse.. don't marry by mere sight! There is more to Marriage than mere sight..

Lastly and Most Important flee Fornication..

Wait until you are Married before you seek to Enter Jerusalem...

Marriage is Honorable with the bed undefiled

I Rest my Case

topedoski:
@ 33yrs ur parents still decide who u mingle with?
Well u still have 6 more years to be a fool forever

Ereolamide:
Op leave your spouse, marry your mother instead and if you feel that'll be incestuous, then marry your female cousins.

Since your mother is so keen on you marrying from your tribe, satisfy her by going many steps further with marrying your relatives, so you won't have any problems whatsoever in your marriage.

nyzeo:
I am 33 and I come from a state from the south south. I met a girl in Lagos 4 years ago who is from the south east and we have been very good friends ever since then.

I have developed very strong affection for her over time and we started dating. We really love each other now and we have have finalized plans to get married anytime between this year and early next year.

The issues now is that my parents are insisting I marry from my state, somebody who speaks the same language. It has caused me to have issues with my mother because she is the orchestra of all this tribal bigotry.

Please lala and house memeber make una advice me abeg. I have found someone who truly complements my life I really sincerely love this lady. Thanks

Renida:
At 33 your life is still being run by external parties.


First, leave your parents house dude and be a man. If you stand on your own, you will command respected it's your orders that will be followed. And not the other way around.


Also, stop going to ask for favors from your parents. Till you stop, you continue to be subject to their decisions


Also I just checked your time line the past 6 years and your comments are filled with the rants of a spoiled child. Perhaps you need people to make decisions for you afterall



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naijamerican:


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omoiyamayor:
When your parents died and you are not happily married,who do you blame,the dead?

nyzeo:
You're Akwa Ibom. Let me speak to you as an elder. Dismiss that love immediately and go do your mother's bidding. I won't state my reasons. You were told o



Please I would like to hear from you.. Whts the advice.. You sound like you have somthing really interesting to say.. Am curious.. Please speak out..

bamidelee:

Village people

Ereolamide:
Op leave your spouse, marry your mother instead and if you feel that'll be incestuous, then marry your female cousins.

Since your mother is so keen on you marrying from your tribe, satisfy her by going many steps further with marrying your relatives, so you won't have any problems whatsoever in your marriage.

nyzeo:
I am 33 and I come from a state from the south south. I met a girl in Lagos 4 years ago who is from the south east and we have been very good friends ever since then.

I have developed very strong affection for her over time and we started dating. We really love each other now and we have have finalized plans to get married anytime between this year and early next year.

The issues now is that my parents are insisting I marry from my state, somebody who speaks the same language. It has caused me to have issues with my mother because she is the orchestra of all this tribal bigotry.

Please lala and house memeber make una advice me abeg. I have found someone who truly complements my life I really sincerely love this lady. Thanks

GreatResearcher1:
Children obey your parents in the Lord for this is right. Honor your father and mother for this is the first commandment with promise.

Abalado:
So na mama still they control u at ur age.... Mama pikin

PHijo:


When the so called Arab Sudanese were raped non Arab women. The primary purpose of their act was to "dilute" the other 'race'.

It is uninformed people that think ethnic mixtures is a form of being exposed. The worst bigots in human history always applied inter ethnic or inter religious reproduction as form of control and subjugation. The Korean/Chinese women who were taken for the imperial army of Japan were called 'Comfort women '.

Imperial Japan encouraged their army to father children with women they felt were culturally inferior to them. As long as people are being treated unjustly or consider others to be inferior, they have no business getting married to themselves.

The average Igbo is still a Biafran at heart, why marry your enemy when you have not healed from the trauma of the Nigera-Biafra war?
It is plain stupidity.

That parents are open or tolerate an inter ethnic marriage does not mean both or one party in the union does not have an ulterior motive.

Even poor people can have ulterior motives. Some people marry others to have access to certain places and positions.

Denko2721987:
Awka ibom and Ibo marriages dont always end well most especially becos of the love lost between the older generation. There is this hidden hatred between them that I don't seem to understand.. The younger ones don't have issues but the bad blood from the old generation still lingers on, runs deeps and eventually sows discord among the younger generation.. Its shame anyways becos when the whites start been racists against us, its largely becos we do not also love ourselves.

Kobicove:


OP, your parents are very wise.

Marrying someone with whom you share cultural orientation saves you a lot of stress later on

SweetCunt97:
Tell your parents to go hug transformer.

RTSC:

Peter Obi married from akwa ibom though.

bid4rich:




I disagree on this because mine is completely the opposite direction. I married outside my tribe and we have been fine and happy. Say something else...

gypsey:
kill your parents, problems solved.




Good luck!