Monishaa:


It's not easy and those who find them should cherish their spouses (if they are happy with them) instead of making themselves feel superior by comparison to those who were not lucky enough or simply chose otherwise. Some people should be careful with their arrogance and sense of superiority, our lives are very fragile, you don't know tomorrow. Anything you have been given, can be taken from you in the blink of an eye.

merahki:



I am literally falling in love with many Nairalanders these days, for their posts
From so many angles, many, many women, some men, all beautiful, empathetic and intelligent souls. I feel blessed anytime I come across really posts reflecting these qualities. When you see love in posts, you just know. It is accepting and kind and non-judging.
I am becoming Agapelistically or filialistically polyamoral


(That probably makes no sense but it does, to me )

mrblessed:
These are women of other cultures and society, not minding that the Op successfully sneaked in Genevieve to create an appearance that a Nigerian is a member of the group. While it is true that not every women desire marriage, it is also true that a lot of African women are eager to get married and build a family. But the truth remains that if Genevieve meets a "good" today, she wouldn't think twice before embracing the institution of marriage.

Why are we so obsessed with how the western world shapes their value, the way they live, to the detriment of our culture. Marriage, no matter the degree of unceasing campaign to make undesirable, is one of the highly respected institutions in Africa. The African society holds everyone accountable -- men and women -- and pressure to maintain a home is distributed, maybe not evenly, to both gender. We have great value for marriage in Africa, and the breakdown of the institution in the west is not something to be emulated.

merahki:

I am literally falling in love with many Nairalanders these days, for their posts
From so many angles, many, many women, some men, all beautiful, empathetic and intelligent souls. I feel blessed anytime I come across really posts reflecting these qualities. When you see love in posts, you just know. It is accepting and kind and non-judging.
I am becoming Agapelistically or filialistically polyamoral


(That probably makes no sense but it does, to me )

emmaodet:


Ariz a
Hmmmmmmm

Monishaa:


Western women, African women, white women, black women, small women, tall women, loud women, shy women, extrovert women, outspoken women, quiet women, all women.

Your marriage culture has been shaped by Westerners a long time ago. You still live in Victorian England.

merahki:




(Hehehehehehehehehehehe) after reading the whole post

@ the bolded, if Geneveive is looking for Emerald and is seeing only gravel, are you begrudging her the choice to live, and really live despite not meeting Emerald yet, and refusing to simply, settle for gravel because Emerand is too elusive and gravel is all holy even if very bland? Must she break down in order for you to admire what is a strong and confident and honest trait? Must she pick (or be picked ) by gravel and prove she is a Hebrew woman in order to make it on your “woman who matter list”?
Either way, good morning dear Sir
We shall all be all right

cococandy:
I don’t want to address the raging parts of your post. I believe we are aiming to keeping a level head on this topic. Devoid of rants.
So let me address the core of your total posts which is that this thread is anti-marriage.

What in your opinion makes it anti-marriage.
Where has it said women shouldn’t get married.

Fine here’s where I’m coming from, women often get ridiculed for not being married (However they came to be unmarried). They are made to feel like whatever else they have going on for them matters little unless they have a man and a ring to show for it. Which is why a thread like this is important to encourage women to have value in themselves whether married or not. Showing lady icons who went on to achieve good things they can be proud of means a woman can be valued member of the society whether she’s married or not.

That is not the same as saying that women should avoid marriage. Why are you redefining the topic?

Mind you if any other contributor on this thread says all women should avoid marriage, I disagree with them on that (Just in case you are curious about my stance).

Now why do you think the thread is about telling women not to marry. Because it shows women who did well without being married?

fieryy:


And how exactly was your example one of hypocrisy?! If anything, it only highlighted the fact that you still don't or choose not to understand the phrase 'Live and let others live'!
How is some ladies saying 'I don't want to date broke men' yours or my business?!

In fact, the use of 'I' suggests the OPINION being very subjective, an advice is also subjective and it's left to me to either accept, or criticize, or ignore, especially if I didn't ask you for any.

But advising people based on your personal opinions, selling them out as FACTS? Ridiculous and WRONG. Once it becomes an opinion sold out as facts, it's no longer a 'Live and let others live', it's you projecting your opinions on others.

If I remember correctly, I told her to start linking out her source. If she wants to advise me, I need her to underline her facts opinions with legit sources, statistics etc

Arthur2021:
let's agree to disagree,you are not half as smart as a donkey thus we can't continue this discussion.
I am against people's choice or advising people to date/marry poor men(even if that is solely not my business and I don't meddle in both men/women choice of partners) when I only cited an example then goodbye!

fieryy:


The thing is your example was stupid and you're not half as important as you think. Otherwise, why the f would you think anybody cares about the choices you are for and against?

Romangalactic:

Continue quoting and highfiving yourself manydifferentmes

bukatyne:


'Freedom' to have several sexual partners and kids out of wedlock.

It is not about to marry or not.

I responded directly to someone's comments and elaborated further.

There are women of substance like Florence Nightingale (Mother of modern nursing), Susan B. Anthony etc. who knew their calling/purpose would be affected by marriage system of the time and dedicated their lives to fulfilling that calling hence the fruits we see today.

They did not see their 'singleness' as an opportunity to 'sleep around' and have one or two kids which is what I said promotes promiscuity and immoral kids.

merahki:



I am literally falling in love with many Nairalanders these days, for their posts
From so many angles, many, many women, some men, all beautiful, empathetic and intelligent souls. I feel blessed anytime I come across real posts reflecting these qualities. When you see love in posts, you just know. It is accepting and kind and non-judging.
I am becoming Agapelistically or filialistically polyamoral


(That probably makes no sense but it does, to me )

Bojack:
Nice thread, still waiting for unmarried men

cococandy:
Grammar again

mrblessed:
Hmm. So much contagious energy. I never implied she should settle down with someone below her preference, what I opined is her undisguised wish to be "wifed" by a man. Therefore, it amazes me how you completely ignore such unambiguous line while launching your missile. Even she had to, she won't be the first person to make such sacrifice for "love." Men and women do it almost on daily basis.

Bojack:
Nice thread, still waiting for unmarried men

merahki:

Africans who have swallowed the Bible and Koran in their entireties, complaining about western and other cultures shaping our views
Oh the supreme Irony

Romangalactic:

Continue quoting and highfiving yourself kaamisha/monishaa/eghee

merahki:
Well in solidarity to the Motherland I hissed when I got to Eliza’s own

Arthur2021:
you people blame society always for not making your choices. If you continue to depend on society opinion of you that's your problem.

I know many unmarried ladies from nigeria in their 30s and 40s and no one bullies them for it.

People's opinions will always be there,waiting for their approval before making a choice is you ladies problem.

Since society did this or that, if you are waiting for society to embrace your choices then wait for eternity. Because in as much as you have the right to your choices they have the right to see things as they see

Vyolet:
Op, you forgot to include Rita Dominic, she has never been married and we don't know if she has a child yet.

fiery:

Also, at the end of the day I have every right to choose and decide whatever characteristics I want in a man. I have the right to turn a man down however I deem fit without having to explain myself! So if some ladies don't want to date broke men, how exactly do you want to force them to?!

MEN ALSO HAVE THE RIGHT TO CHOOSE AND DECIDE WHATEVER CHARACTERISTICS THEY WANT IN WOMEN. THEY CAN TURN DOWN WHOEVER THEY WANT WITHOUT HAVING TO EXPLAIN THEMSELVES.

IT'S IMPOSSIBLE FOR YOU TO WANT YOUR OWN RIGHTS TO DO ANYTHING, BUT THEN TRY TO DENY MEN THEIR RIGHTS OF WANTING ONLY LIGHT SKINNED WOMEN, VIRGINS OR WORKINGCLASS WOMEN.

OTHER WOMEN HAVE THE RIGHTS TO WANT BROKE MEN, AND ADVOCATE MARRIAGES TOO.

MODERN DAY FEMINISTS WANT TO BE THE ONLY ONES ABLE TO CHOOSE? WE WILL NOT ALLOW THAT .

Zabiboy:



Its a proven FACT.
All the women the OP used had at least a child irrespective of their decision not to get married
Linda ikeji has a child
Genevieve has a child
Okonji-iweala has a child
Cardi B has a child
Nicky-minaj left music to focus on family
Tiwa savaga has a child...
All the women above can do without marriage (some are even divorcees)....yet they knew that having a child is IMPORTANT....
So if you still believe a woman can be fulfilled without a child ( hers/adopted), then go ahead and be that woman..
GL

cococandy:


The fact that you’re drawing a parallel between crimes and the choice to stay single tells all the reason why a thread like this is necessary.

You folks say you don’t shame single women. But that’s all you do.

Acidosis:


Marriage is more than just a right. It's an institution encouraged by many societies to attain a disciplined way of life. Asides the moral or religious angle which many of you seem not to like, marriage somehow protects the right of children, for example, in the event of death of a spouse.

Anyhow sha, I understand your point.

SweetCunt97:
being alone and lonely are different things?

gowonmaharajah:
I don't subscribe to this,baby.you can't simply relate this to our own Africa.no,it can not just work
stop feeding us with all this western bullcrap.