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Re: I Am 20 And My Mom Wants To Throw Me Out. by stanliwise(m): 10:35pm On May 16, 2020 |
Myhusband:The guys is insane jare |
Re: I Am 20 And My Mom Wants To Throw Me Out. by dokiOloye(m): 10:35pm On May 16, 2020 |
Theundertaker:At 20yrs,most ppl are still in year 1 or 2. That is if they're lucky to have gotten admission early and have ppl who can sponsor their education. There's a very big difference b/w 20/21 to 28yrs. 1 Like |
Re: I Am 20 And My Mom Wants To Throw Me Out. by Nobody: 10:36pm On May 16, 2020 |
My mom never did this to me but faced with such a scenario my natural reaction would be: I didn't ask you to bring me into the f**king world b**ch... You push me any further and I might have to defenestrate you. You wouldn't want that now, would you? I feel your pain OP. Long as this isn't something made-up stuff. Trust me. |
Re: I Am 20 And My Mom Wants To Throw Me Out. by PastorFire: 10:36pm On May 16, 2020 |
obowunmi:Is this the best you can say? Just ask yourself. |
Re: I Am 20 And My Mom Wants To Throw Me Out. by franzis(m): 10:36pm On May 16, 2020 |
na just that little matter wan make you comot for house, if i tell you half of wetin my papa do me you will drop tears for me but i didnt leave till i knew i was ready and capable of fending and taking care for myself ,its not that easy and rosy on the outside , to rent and pay for a house or even squat with someone isnt easy, feed 3 times a day even worst when you dont have any cooking skills, nepa bill join , you go wan look nice too. 9 Likes |
Re: I Am 20 And My Mom Wants To Throw Me Out. by Classworked(m): 10:37pm On May 16, 2020 |
SweetCunt97: A person may leave his parent's house by will , because of necessity or because of a desire for freedom a parent may not grant. Leaving by will means the young individual packs up , moves out and struggles to earn a living without the support of his parents. Leaving because of necessity means the individual has to get an apartment in a different town because he doesn't want to stay in his school's hostel (for formal education) or his master does not provide shelter for apprentices (for skill acquisition) . In this case family provides support and the lad may visit during festive periods. Technically, the Lad is still a dependent of his parents but doesn't live with them. Infact all NYSC students live alone for one year until their service year elapses and they cannot find a job. That's how graduates who once lived alone return to their parents . Those who leave because of freedom leave to partake in illicit activities or to live together with the love of their lives especially when their parents wouldn't welcome such cohabitation. ***************************************************************************** "The west" is vague and broad. In the United States, Students who leave "by will" usually do so because their parents cannot afford the cost of tertiary education. They get Students loans which they go to school with and live to pay for the rest of their lives if they do not get a big break. Such Loans are not available in Nigeria and many of those who take such Loans abroad would rather a Nigerian system where a member of their extended family sponsored their education. An intelligent young man whose father owns a duplex in the town he works would rather a neat car than a 500k rent a year. Such wise person will build a house faster because he has utilized his scarce resources and at the same time enjoyed free food , free accommodation and restriction from cohabitating with a lover who may drain his resources. That's a wise economic decision. I don't have a formal statistic to back this up but as a person from a family with few properties to rent and lease, I'll tell you that the best group of people to rent one's real property are Salary earners and people above the age of 25 in entrepreneurship. Through out my 10 years of understanding the landlord business there was no under -30 tenant from a poor family who paid his second rent on time. It's not about saying you paid rent at the age of 15. The first rent is the easiest to pay. If you do not meet your landlord 1 week after its expiration, then you have no reason to shade those who have patience and a long term plan of leaving their parents when they "Can really" stand on their own. It's not about leaving your parents , the poor and innocent Almajiri kids you all despise left their parents at even younger ages. The big question is if Nigeria offers same opportunities as the West. One wonders why we doubt the ages of our sportsmen. 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Am 20 And My Mom Wants To Throw Me Out. by PastorFire: 10:37pm On May 16, 2020 |
ylaa:You seem a nice person. Can you be my first friend from Nairaland please?. |
Re: I Am 20 And My Mom Wants To Throw Me Out. by WeRblessed(f): 10:38pm On May 16, 2020 |
I dont know how it works in Nigeria, but after 18 years you should stop being your parents' responsibility. Therefore, you need to move out, rent your own apartment, pay your own car note and insurance. Your parents should have already removed you from their health insurance if you are not currently in college. In fact, some parents will literally pack your things ready waiting for you on your high school graduation day. The next day, you need to move out. Dont ask me why please. Such is life. 1 Like |
Re: I Am 20 And My Mom Wants To Throw Me Out. by chioma2020(f): 10:39pm On May 16, 2020 |
Oluromantic: Everyone has the right to his own opinion. |
Re: I Am 20 And My Mom Wants To Throw Me Out. by Naijaarchive(m): 10:39pm On May 16, 2020 |
Don't think of leaving yet o.... Just endure it for now... Mothers can be like that at times sha.... Las Las when she finds the money she will appease you... Mine does |
Re: I Am 20 And My Mom Wants To Throw Me Out. by stanliwise(m): 10:40pm On May 16, 2020 |
HarryDuce:Almost everything is commercialized this days o. Now we don’t know what is real, moderators and bloggers are out there to use our energy to get traffic 1 Like |
Re: I Am 20 And My Mom Wants To Throw Me Out. by stanliwise(m): 10:41pm On May 16, 2020 |
WeRblessed:Are you in Nigeria? Or have you lived anywhere close to Nigeria? It doesn’t work like that in this part of world where good job, opportunity is extremely scarce and gross poverty is the legacy our government has left for us. 3 Likes |
Re: I Am 20 And My Mom Wants To Throw Me Out. by Nobody: 10:41pm On May 16, 2020 |
samicine: Sit ur mum down n explain things to her. Remind her of all those years she beat n starved u for crimes u never committed. If she insists, I'll advise u to find a way n leave the house for her. Where is ur dad? |
Re: I Am 20 And My Mom Wants To Throw Me Out. by SeriouslySense(m): 10:41pm On May 16, 2020 |
Exactly stay at home for now, because I see bad stories of young men mixing with bad friends, who put them into trouble, just focus on yourself and be developing your skills, if you have a place where you can be alone at home, that is even better, go to a private place and start improving your amazing skills or do more research online about jobs and skills sets, and start planning what you need to develop and know, if you have something outside that develops you, go and develop. |
Re: I Am 20 And My Mom Wants To Throw Me Out. by Sorrento: 10:41pm On May 16, 2020 |
vanida6:See the dumbass face 3 Likes 1 Share
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Re: I Am 20 And My Mom Wants To Throw Me Out. by Nobody: 10:41pm On May 16, 2020 |
samicine don't leave that house unless she physically kicks you out. Insults are nothing but words, just let it enter through one ear & commot for another. You need to develop a thick skin. Do not allow ur emotions to trick you into leaving home at such a young age. 1 Like |
Re: I Am 20 And My Mom Wants To Throw Me Out. by Joefat: 10:42pm On May 16, 2020 |
This is the reason why I don't like to dey watch Yoruba movie... It been dey kind fustrating sometime.. |
Re: I Am 20 And My Mom Wants To Throw Me Out. by VanillaIyce(f): 10:43pm On May 16, 2020 |
samicine:I am not in your shoes right now but I assure you, I have worn it before,if you have to give her the 2k from your 19k please do..this is not the time to move out,it's not funny out there with anty coro and hardship. |
Re: I Am 20 And My Mom Wants To Throw Me Out. by stanliwise(m): 10:44pm On May 16, 2020 |
PrecisionFx:Oga that sit and discuss doesn’t always work o. The best time to tell her is when she least expect it. |
Re: I Am 20 And My Mom Wants To Throw Me Out. by SeriouslySense(m): 10:44pm On May 16, 2020 |
Exactly, emotions are dangerous, always stay connected with the logical and greater reasoning. SpecialAgent: |
Re: I Am 20 And My Mom Wants To Throw Me Out. by HarryDuce(m): 10:44pm On May 16, 2020 |
stanliwise:Abi oh. But I chose to answer, just incase. |
Re: I Am 20 And My Mom Wants To Throw Me Out. by GreaterFuture1(m): 10:44pm On May 16, 2020 |
African Mothers damaging their Children. One day we would have a Long talk about this 2 Likes |
Re: I Am 20 And My Mom Wants To Throw Me Out. by dokiOloye(m): 10:45pm On May 16, 2020 |
cruzydal:The only sense you made was in your 2nd sentence. How can you say you love what d mum is doing? Do you know emotional abuse can damage people for life and make them unable to have normal relationships with people forever? 1 Like |
Re: I Am 20 And My Mom Wants To Throw Me Out. by WeRblessed(f): 10:46pm On May 16, 2020 |
stanliwise: Oh wow. I thought it was like that everywhere including Nigeria. |
Re: I Am 20 And My Mom Wants To Throw Me Out. by miketayo(m): 10:46pm On May 16, 2020 |
vanida6: Who is this one, u didn't read or u didn't understand d story? 1 Like |
Re: I Am 20 And My Mom Wants To Throw Me Out. by Nobody: 10:47pm On May 16, 2020 |
You r dumb asf, You can’t write properly and you are bold enough to call someone you don’t even know from adam a thief. You cunt. vanida6: |
Re: I Am 20 And My Mom Wants To Throw Me Out. by officialfysh(m): 10:49pm On May 16, 2020 |
The course you’re studying should be able to help you manage situations like this 1 Like |
Re: I Am 20 And My Mom Wants To Throw Me Out. by Slimranky(m): 10:49pm On May 16, 2020 |
You still have a living mother, well that means you're Lucky, I lost my mum at a tender age dunno what motherly love or hatred feels like,all the same we all have been accused wrongly for stealing in one way or the other,so don't think too much,cos thinking na problem, just reason the solution which is getting your own apartment,your respect go dey when you don Begin pay house rent, you Go see say all those babe's for your street wey no dey come around go begin visit you...Meanwhile do you smoke weed I get one last jumbo I dey smoke now,come kiss before I go smoke am finish |
Re: I Am 20 And My Mom Wants To Throw Me Out. by stanliwise(m): 10:49pm On May 16, 2020 |
VanillaIyce:There is a point of not giving her the 2k and that point is what is called integrity. Integrity = to your life. If you fail at integrity you may never get anywhere in life, it is fine when you avoid trouble but when at the expense of your integrity then it is worth you keep the trouble. Op should just stand his ground that he didn’t steal the money and he knows nothing about it, if the mother wants 2k, he can help but not giving her 2k to confirm her suspicions. If you go this route you will have a lot of things that would trap you in the future especially when it involves your mom trusting you. E.g inheritance, recommending you to someone etc 4 Likes |
Re: I Am 20 And My Mom Wants To Throw Me Out. by valemtech(m): 10:49pm On May 16, 2020 |
BigJoe19: Bros at 20 I was already a graduate and doing my Nysc,You have lived with your mum for 20yrs u should know her better than us,more soo they must be a reason she is always pointing accusation finger on you when things get missing,pray and work . |
Re: I Am 20 And My Mom Wants To Throw Me Out. by espn(m): 10:51pm On May 16, 2020 |
Oluromantic:I agree with you...this kind of lady always push guys to do what they are not suppose to do... 1 Like |
Re: I Am 20 And My Mom Wants To Throw Me Out. by Nobody: 10:52pm On May 16, 2020 |
Well done. Not many of your age mates even think of working to earn some money. However maybe you need to stay with your Dad a little cos as it is your current environment is not healthy for you |
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