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Re: Please Help Look Into This Family Issue (I'm Loosing My Mind) by Justiceleague1: 10:38pm On May 17, 2020 |
GodPunishBiafra: I can imagine the colour of your heart.... To imagine 59 people "liked" this post is horrible 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Look Into This Family Issue (I'm Loosing My Mind) by wellmax(m): 10:39pm On May 17, 2020 |
Your mum basically has a big problem. Deeper Life is not het problem. I wasn't born but raised Deeper Life and my family is a lovely one, relates well with all family and neighbors, regardless of religion affiliation. Your parents are the type that bring disgrace and disrepute to the church and the body of christ. I as a member of the church is ashamed of them. May God grant them genuine salvation, peace with God and peace with themselves. by Ope88 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Please Help Look Into This Family Issue (I'm Loosing My Mind) by toffyz(m): 10:40pm On May 17, 2020 |
Are you really sure you're same mother and father? |
Re: Please Help Look Into This Family Issue (I'm Loosing My Mind) by ABIODUNOLAOPA1(m): 10:41pm On May 17, 2020 |
Your sister's husband kept quiet hearing his wife's kid brother beat his wife up?. That man is a weakling. Not even my wife's senior brother will do that to my wife and kids and get away with it. The men married to you and your sisters are d one to end d nonsense from that tout of a boy. The three of them should arrange a day with good koboko and catch him unaware and treat his fuckup, flog him till he pass out, and he will never misbehave again. Beating your sister was a good opportunity to treat his madness. The in-laws should mobilise and taim d idiot. He can not do anything to harm any of you after d beating, give him stern warning. 3 Likes |
Re: Please Help Look Into This Family Issue (I'm Loosing My Mind) by bigtt76(f): 10:44pm On May 17, 2020 |
Sad but you guys need to pray for your dad and if possible, let him stay with you girls for a while before deciding on what next to do. Calling his siblings would only aggravate things since they don't have any love for him. Also for you and your siblings protection, keep in house any squabbles you may have. Don't invite awon aye into your issues. God is with you all. Ope88: |
Re: Please Help Look Into This Family Issue (I'm Loosing My Mind) by jaxxy(m): 10:45pm On May 17, 2020 |
Ope88: U said u dad abandoned his family( parents and siblings) cos he was a Christian( deeper life) to be precise so during all this family and health problems what has the church he so much adored and followed do to takecare of his wellbeing mentally and spiritually?? How come the church has also abandoned him? So who are his support system besides u gals and ur irresponsible mum? The way we practice Christianity is quite funny smtmes. How can the home be in so much chaos?? Ur younger brother was not guided properly. Ur mum is an responsible person. All u can to is look after u dad, start from admitting him in a hospital to recuperate, then when he’s sound in mind and body he shud address the family in a meeting and sort out any pending issues. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Please Help Look Into This Family Issue (I'm Loosing My Mind) by Nickymichy(m): 10:46pm On May 17, 2020 |
You shall know the truth and the truth will set you free...be a Bible reading Christian not a zombie Christian.. pray for holy spirit to guide you..d fact dat you have relatives that are moslems doesn't mean u should desert them....I wonder how some Christians read and understand Bible... so sorry to say...so many Christians are zombie Christian honestly.... 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Look Into This Family Issue (I'm Loosing My Mind) by wellmax(m): 10:47pm On May 17, 2020 |
Bestinstinct: And not again, people blame their failures on the church. Pastor Kumuyi is on radio and internet every week, show us ONE message he has preached that support these accusations to the church. People has personal issues, yes the church should and can help them. But stop blaming your misfortune on the church. Is every mad man on the street a product of the church you so accuse? 5 Likes |
Re: Please Help Look Into This Family Issue (I'm Loosing My Mind) by Kobicove(m): 10:47pm On May 17, 2020 |
People have problems in this world sha! |
Re: Please Help Look Into This Family Issue (I'm Loosing My Mind) by Tominix(m): 10:49pm On May 17, 2020 |
Ope88:What side at ogun |
Re: Please Help Look Into This Family Issue (I'm Loosing My Mind) by kingthreat(m): 10:50pm On May 17, 2020 |
One of you ladies should find a way to get your dad to stay with you. Happiness could actually heal him. When your father gets back to normal, he has to make a move. He has to sell that house. That son is a fucktárd. Any threat he makes against you guys should be recorded on phone. He's heading to ruin. No doubt. |
Re: Please Help Look Into This Family Issue (I'm Loosing My Mind) by malvisguy212: 10:50pm On May 17, 2020 |
PrimadonnaO:you have said it all mam this is the problem many Christians face, to holy to notice there sin, everyone a sinner as long as they are not attending there church.. This is what you get when you look at your FAITH instead of looking up to Jesus the Author and finisher of our FAITH. LET GOD BE TRUE AND EVERY MAN A LIAR. 2 Likes |
Re: Please Help Look Into This Family Issue (I'm Loosing My Mind) by ogorwyne(f): 10:51pm On May 17, 2020 |
Op I'm sorry about your dad. Your dad needs help. You and your sisters should try as much as possible to get his sanity restored. Take him to a psychiatric hospital then get him out of that troublesome environment. I nor wan talk about that your brother. Na better nuisance. He needs help too before it is too late for him. Everything will be fine soon ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Look Into This Family Issue (I'm Loosing My Mind) by Newmans: 10:53pm On May 17, 2020 |
The truth is your family need help, I recommend everyone their for psychiatric evaluation, that is that, the ur brother need help he need a counselor u need to get him one or recommend it to him. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Look Into This Family Issue (I'm Loosing My Mind) by lozanni(m): 10:54pm On May 17, 2020 |
GodPunishBiafra: No thanks to his mum who had spoilt him. Your Dad suffers from a form of dementia and a close eye needs to be kept on him to avoid his being permanently lost. Your Dad needs to write his will fast to avoid endless litigations and problems when he passes .I also hope you ladies were not mean to your brother when he was younger because of the attention that was being given him as an only son, as this might explain his resentment towards you all |
Re: Please Help Look Into This Family Issue (I'm Loosing My Mind) by wellmax(m): 10:54pm On May 17, 2020 |
Such a pity. Op doesn't like her parents church. You have the right to. And I blame your parents for that. Now the parents are behaving irrationally and we rush to blame the church. I have heard everytime about fanatics, in as much as such people will always be in every congregation, there is no time that Deeper Life teaches fanaticism. Their/Our messages are all over the internet, point to any that is fanatical. The family is dysfunctional because you have allowed the enemy to take the front seat, but we overlook our carelessness and blame the church, afterall their name says Deeper. It's such a wrong mentality. I have been in this church for over 30 years and I haven't seen what the internet people paint them to be. If you have seen, then they were never really born again. 5 Likes |
Re: Please Help Look Into This Family Issue (I'm Loosing My Mind) by Image123(m): 10:58pm On May 17, 2020 |
jaxxy: It's a rather strange and sad story, quite surprising too. Deeper Life is a big church with millions of members, i don't think i would blame the church for this. i happen to know a couple of deeper life members, and i think i know their doctrine and teaching too. For one, they're not the dream exalting type, they're not the cursing type, they are not hideous everywhere, they don't label people witches like that. The family just seemed to have got lost in a big church unfortunately. 4 Likes |
Re: Please Help Look Into This Family Issue (I'm Loosing My Mind) by apexc2573: 11:00pm On May 17, 2020 |
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Re: Please Help Look Into This Family Issue (I'm Loosing My Mind) by VicM6: 11:01pm On May 17, 2020 |
las las ur younger bro will eliminate each of u guys one by one. Op, use ur brain now while u last.... Take ur dad out nd leave ur bro nd ur mom alone all 2geda... abt d house of a tin, 4get dat one o.... My dad built a 2bedroom flat in d village nd dis is making 9yrs i set my foot in dat compound... fear village people... I go build my own house. your mom is just a shadow of her self... Time will surly tell |
Re: Please Help Look Into This Family Issue (I'm Loosing My Mind) by Casper21: 11:06pm On May 17, 2020 |
Pls op, just pay me for transport fare, i live in lekki phase 1,I'll surely leave my house and visit that your junior brother and una mum. I'll make sure that boy bleeds heavy blood while your mum I'll flog her with dry wood till she starts crying. This is the kind of people i so much hate in this world. People who cause other people depression. God bless you and your elder sister oo. I'll advise you take care of ur dad for the meantime till he gets better. And if he gets better pls dnt send him back to ur mum okay? When I'm done with the beating then he can return 6 Likes |
Re: Please Help Look Into This Family Issue (I'm Loosing My Mind) by Casper21: 11:07pm On May 17, 2020 |
Weathered: Lol learnt new word |
Re: Please Help Look Into This Family Issue (I'm Loosing My Mind) by GerogeI(m): 11:08pm On May 17, 2020 |
What you are of writing here is a classical case of Odiepus Complex, roaming unchecked. Girls love their father to a fault, and absolve him of all blames. It is due to early association of sexual homornes in children. The boys love their mothers, listen to her alone and are favour by her. If this natural tendencies are not balanced out by parents in the childrens early life, the family will always be divided between Boys for mothers, and Girls for fathers. Especially after girls become women and have their own voice. They often over excercise that voice, thinking they are emancipating their father from some bondage. But ultimately, what you are doing is unbalancing the relationship your parents have built over years, in a very short time. If your are an Engr, I will just say you are creating a massive smount of entropy. Let me state a few facts here without even checking your family details. 1. Your father has dementia or Alzheimer's, this is common in old age, especially among men. It has nothing to do with your mother controlling him. 2. Every man yields some level of control to his wife. Just like you control your husband to some extent. This is a conscious decision that is mutually beneficial for the couple involved, especially at old age. Your father could care less if his wife controlled him or not at his age. His focus is rather the progress of his children. 3. In African setting, the man is usually older than the woman. Hence, as they age, more control falls yo the woman. By interferring with this power shift, you and your sisters make it more difficult for your mother to take care of your father. The right pattern is that, your all support your mother who in turn takes care of your father. 4. Taking care of your aged parents is not a kids play. It can challenge your new family and hubby, and is not easy for your mother alone, talkless of with a hooligan son involved. So get the right perspective and help your family. 5. Your father, having Dementia or even Alzheimer's , means you and your sibblings might be genetically pre-disposed, so start, planning for you old age. 6. Stop playing divide and rule in your family so that, it might actually work the way your father had it planned. His wife in charge as he waned. To run that house your mother needs not just material support, but moral support. A few "hey mum, thanks you are really taking care of Daddy". And suggestions of new mordern things and treatments. Bottom line, your father is sick, with age related disease. It has nothing to do with your mother. Better get him medical help, and stop blaming your mother for her life, which she lived in good consonance with your father, and which might have been dictated by your father abintio. They made their choices, fullfilled their responsibilities. Can you confidently say you are doing a better job with your own children. Get a grip and move on with your own life, fullfilling your responsibilities with them. As young people, we often do not understand that our aging parents are loosing capacity which we must plan consciously to help them adapt to, otherwise their quality of life deteriorates. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Please Help Look Into This Family Issue (I'm Loosing My Mind) by frank41(m): 11:09pm On May 17, 2020 |
Ishilove: Or else He will beat Her again. Teach him alittle lesson. 9 Years no be here! |
Re: Please Help Look Into This Family Issue (I'm Loosing My Mind) by rejoke(f): 11:11pm On May 17, 2020 |
please keep your dad from that house.. he could be suffering from Alzheimer's disease which is a progressive disorder that causes brain cells to waste away (degenerate) and die. Alzheimer's disease is the most common cause of dementia — a continuous decline in thinking, behavioral and social skills that disrupts a person's ability to function independently. 2 Likes |
Re: Please Help Look Into This Family Issue (I'm Loosing My Mind) by anayolity: 11:12pm On May 17, 2020 |
I wanted to type something but this is a public forum.... I link you up with who go humble your brother.... |
Re: Please Help Look Into This Family Issue (I'm Loosing My Mind) by HarunaWest(m): 11:13pm On May 17, 2020 |
Ope88:So you elder sisters husband just close mouth dey look....not me. |
Re: Please Help Look Into This Family Issue (I'm Loosing My Mind) by apexc2186: 11:14pm On May 17, 2020 |
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Re: Please Help Look Into This Family Issue (I'm Loosing My Mind) by Arewa1408: 11:14pm On May 17, 2020 |
Ope88: Dont listen to People, Taboo, culture etc. Its because ure in Nigeria naa. So many parents live with their female Children abroad and no one sees anything wrong in it. Take your dad home and take good care of him. Leave your brother, mum and the property to them. However, let themn know youre ready to communicating and discussions when they are ready. 2 Likes |
Re: Please Help Look Into This Family Issue (I'm Loosing My Mind) by HarunaWest(m): 11:16pm On May 17, 2020 |
Ope88:You still call that sort of woman Mum...Abuse her children and abandoned her husband..Layer she sef go talk say she be good christian..She is deceiving herself. Telk her that. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Look Into This Family Issue (I'm Loosing My Mind) by anayolity: 11:16pm On May 17, 2020 |
HarunaWest: As in ehn person wey I go use one night contact my guy make catch am for street tie am out inside booth ....go somewhere go drop first. |
Re: Please Help Look Into This Family Issue (I'm Loosing My Mind) by Myhusband(m): 11:16pm On May 17, 2020 |
I used to watched this in Igbo movie, never do I believe it existed in real life and my own region? it's long begone that Yoruba practices gender inequality even though giving one child attention happened to be a culture among some Yorubas, my mom as a ref point Op, seek Spiritual redress on this matter first before any actions. you don't use physical to handle spiritual if you don't want to be consumed you need to be spiritually fit to overcome this family weird life. seek spiritual redress from a genuine prophet, I believe it would come out fine. someone somewhere might be using your brother as a cane to discipline your home, it might even be an insider |
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