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What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Nobody: 11:43am On May 19, 2020 |
Good morning guys What do you think is wrong about the Nigerian/African style of parenting? To me, I think Nigerian/African parenting is the best but African parents think they are always right even when they falsely accuse you which I don't think is right. What else do you guys think? Let's discuss. 27 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Nobody: 11:50am On May 19, 2020 |
Child Abuse and over sabi 147 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Lionessza6(f): 12:06pm On May 19, 2020 |
1.I think a lot African parents ( mothers in particular), tend to treat their sons as mini-kings who can do no wrong in their eyes. This is where the culture of Male entitlement starts from; the upbringing. The boys grow up with a sense of superiority that somehow absolves them of certain responsibilities. 2. Staying in toxic relationships for the children. In many cases,the children end-up worse off psychologically ,than kids coming out of two healthy parents living separately. 3. The "if Kevin can do it ,you can do it too ".mentality. you have a lot of parents who see the neighbour's kid doing well selling bread ,& they start pushing their own children towards that trade or career without assisting them in what they are really good at so that they too can be a shining example in their own right. You see the results of this in many African markets ,everyone sells the samethings ,hardly will you find people who produce the products or selling something that is not readily available. 294 Likes 9 Shares |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Nobody: 12:12pm On May 19, 2020 |
cclalasticlala |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Ejenavi18(f): 12:16pm On May 19, 2020 |
Some parents think they're are always right not knowing things have evolved and times are changed now. In some situations a child might make a better judgement of things than the parents. But with our African mentality, parents can never be wrong! 138 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by ukaface(f): 12:18pm On May 19, 2020 |
African parents can never go wrong. They know it all,you can't correct them, because such would be termed disrespectful. 91 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Snaagg(m): 12:20pm On May 19, 2020 |
Lionessza6: So in other words, women themselves are the instigators and gatekeepers of the same misogyny they cry & complain about?? Interesting ![]() 171 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Lionessza6(f): 12:24pm On May 19, 2020 |
Snaagg: LMFAO, true. It's indoctrination, a cycle of negativity that only takes one generation to fix in the family . It's like human trafficking, you find out that some of the people that were once victims tend to end- up being traffickers themselves. 45 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Nobody: 12:27pm On May 19, 2020 |
Ejenavi18:exactly. |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by vastolord4(m): 12:30pm On May 19, 2020 |
It also depends on the parents upbringing. My dad was brought up by his uncle who lived in the USA so his thinking differs a bit from the typical African parent. Just imagine the mixture of the African and western upbringing on my dad. He was strictly strict but also saw things from my point of view after scolding me though. 21 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Amanee(f): 12:49pm On May 19, 2020 |
Everything abeg From the forceful religion to the heavy discipline to maiming of dreams to the ignorance... I keep praying that I never raise my child the way I was raised 93 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Nobody: 12:51pm On May 19, 2020 |
Snaagg: I’ve said it before that patriarchy and misogyny still thrives today because women are directly and indirectly encouraging/supporting it. 25 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by crackland: 12:54pm On May 19, 2020 |
Una own children go still complain about una own style of parenting. Just wait small... ![]() 121 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by bukatyne(f): 12:56pm On May 19, 2020 |
Lionessza6: Toor ![]() 1 Like |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by bukatyne(f): 12:57pm On May 19, 2020 |
vastolord4: The Africanness can't die, can only be watered down ![]() 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by bukatyne(f): 12:59pm On May 19, 2020 |
crackland: As in! You think 'I am not going to do this, I will be more patient, more woke' and gbam! you are doing it. ![]() NL will still be alive. ![]() I enjoyed my mom's parenting style with very minor tweaks though. ![]() 19 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by bukatyne(f): 1:03pm On May 19, 2020 |
Lionessza6: @ bold: I believe this is very true and I think the advise 'stay for your kids' in a toxic situation is demonic. The danger with leaving apart is that the children might be willing to walk out in amendable situations and/or the kids not knowing how to function properly in a marriage because no examples and they are not willing to learn. 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Lionessza6(f): 3:54pm On May 19, 2020 |
bukatyne: Both situations are not desirable ; single parenthood & enduring a toxic relationship for the kids. They both come with their own risks & heartbreaks ,but I would still choose my own happiness and peace of mind over any family structure that makes me feel like a hostage. A happy mother is a caring ![]() 7 Likes |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by bukatyne(f): 3:56pm On May 19, 2020 |
Lionessza6: It takes a lot for a woman single due to divorce to that happy, rounded mother her children needs. Besides, you can't control what your husband decides to teach the child. For instance, an adulterous husband or abusive one can pass that trait to the children. I would rather people look well well before getting married. 5 Likes |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Lionessza6(f): 4:01pm On May 19, 2020 |
bukatyne: Ofvourse it will be difficult at 1st,but having the courage to get the divorce is a sign that she is ready for the challenges ahead. & like I said it wont be easy,especially if the relationship was extremely abusive & it went on for years. |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Lionessza6(f): 6:07pm On May 19, 2020 |
bukatyne: I see you edited the post. @ the bolded ...I totally I agree with you. 3 Likes |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Nobody: 6:11pm On May 19, 2020 |
lalasticlala abeg na! |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Hathor5(f): 6:41pm On May 19, 2020 |
Too quick to punish and often too harshly. Makes children lose trust in them. 13 Likes |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by crackland: 6:45pm On May 19, 2020 |
bukatyne:You know.. ![]() The thing is, unless you want to be a 'yes son', 'okay son', 'whatever you want son' kind of parent, there'll always be something you do that will cause a child to think you're not doing it right. 18 Likes |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by babyfaceafrica: 7:14pm On May 19, 2020 |
Has its advantages and disadvantages...... |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Galactico4ever(m): 7:24pm On May 19, 2020 |
Using my parents as case study,I'll say missing a lot of PTD meetings&visiting days,too much pressure to make it in life and always comparing you with your mates who are financially doing better than you + forcing you to get married at a certain age. 11 Likes |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Help4anthony: 9:51pm On May 19, 2020 |
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Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Kobicove(m): 9:52pm On May 19, 2020 |
I think it's wrong to force kids to be overly religious 6 Likes |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by joshjc(m): 9:52pm On May 19, 2020 |
I don't have anything to say about it,all I have to say is 2020 is really a strange year, Ashley young and Kanye have grown hair 2 Likes |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by sanemind2(m): 9:52pm On May 19, 2020 |
So many things oh |
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