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Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Ytea(f): 9:52pm On May 19, 2020 |
The African elder/superior culture. 3 Likes |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by sweet7oyin(m): 9:53pm On May 19, 2020 |
the poverty mentality 1 Like |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by prodigyy(m): 9:53pm On May 19, 2020 |
Poor sex education 15 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by airminem(f): 9:53pm On May 19, 2020 |
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Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by jericco1(m): 9:55pm On May 19, 2020 |
The only problem with African parenting is that it has been smeared by the putridity of Western training ![]() 4 Likes |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Reex12(m): 9:55pm On May 19, 2020 |
mine was too strict and controlling. Always comparing ur success to others,so annoying but I guess it only drove me to become best 1 Like |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Coolcalmcollect(m): 9:56pm On May 19, 2020 |
they are the worst in the world, they feel they brought us to this world, took care of us and so we owe them. like who asked them to fork without condom in the first place...I hate my parents parenting method. suffering to Dem means training...any small thing "I suffered to send you to school" who send you to born me before....get the fork out 24 Likes |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Realdeals(m): 9:57pm On May 19, 2020 |
Their tyrant and emperor style, the believe that they know all, their way is always right. As a parent now, I'm ensuring a situation where my children can question my actions, this I believe itself, is learning and teaching. 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Jullima(f): 9:57pm On May 19, 2020 |
Controlling 2 Likes |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by incogni2o: 9:58pm On May 19, 2020 |
With the way i see what whites are turning into. Nothing is wrong with our style jare 11 Likes |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by lichocho(m): 9:58pm On May 19, 2020 |
Very good ooo..no be white people wey dia pikin go de shout for dem like say dem be mate...I remember d say I try shout for my mama,d look d woman give me alone format my brain.. 6 Likes |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Prof0fficial: 9:59pm On May 19, 2020 |
good points |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Abetterperson: 10:00pm On May 19, 2020 |
where will I even start they are big sex hypocrites: Joy when I was ur age I didn't know what kiss is.. Am 55 and I still don't know they do it child abuse: if u have ever lived in a rural area u will understand religious freaks: God will fix everything, I mean everything. God will fix hunger, cancer, std, hunger, pimples.. everything bad role model: let's just say the truth Nigeria parents are bad role model. don't argue with me how many of you can look at your parents and say"that's what I want to be" answer 1/1000 16 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Gvnl(f): 10:01pm On May 19, 2020 |
Lol. You are so right. ukaface: |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Yonce(f): 10:02pm On May 19, 2020 |
Lionessza6: I think your first point is very generalized and a little on the extreme side. 2 Likes |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by ofemigeorge(m): 10:02pm On May 19, 2020 |
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Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by packman: 10:03pm On May 19, 2020 |
The style still remains the best style... Can't have my child arrest me... Never ![]() 6 Likes |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Kay25(m): 10:03pm On May 19, 2020 |
What is wrong in African parenting is lack of communication...Their children tend to hide their feelings and even if they know they just shut themselves up because African parents tends to behave like emperors in their home. 20 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by djlyrics(m): 10:03pm On May 19, 2020 |
Telling the children outdated folklore that bear no meaning in the 21 century in the name of passing morals. 4 Likes |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Nobody: 10:03pm On May 19, 2020 |
I love African style of parenting where you beat a child and the child automatically have sense. Oyibo children talk to them anyhow cause they lack beating. 10 Likes |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by GboyegaD(m): 10:04pm On May 19, 2020 |
From what I saw around me growing up, hypocrisy is the major challenge with African style of parenting. It is do what I say not what I do. 7 Likes |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by ofemigeorge(m): 10:05pm On May 19, 2020 |
Simply put....African parents don't encourage creativity, exploration, experimentation, freewill. , thinking outside the box, and lastly boldness ( this one to them is rudeness or disrespectful). 17 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by MissYusraah: 10:06pm On May 19, 2020 |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by manduwem(m): 10:07pm On May 19, 2020 |
My opinion... Yes there r some grey areas that still need to be looked at in terms of African parenting. But what little gud inside me today came by my Dad stamping his feet down (to the nnoynace of my mom severally) that no son of his wud grow wild. Compared to my jnrs my upbringing was barracks style BC I'm his first born. At 32 now I still see n understand his eye n body language language, something I see children don't even recognise in their parents. 6 Likes |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Yonce(f): 10:08pm On May 19, 2020 |
jericco1: You are 100% right. People are getting heavily influenced by the parenting styles introduced by the western media. Which is ironic because the eastern world aka Asia have very similar parenting styles to Africans and those people fight to limit their children from western exposure. They know what's up! ![]() 8 Likes |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by manduwem(m): 10:08pm On May 19, 2020 |
My opinion... Yes there r some grey areas that still need to be looked at in terms of African parenting (especially in the communication area) But what little gud inside me today came by my Dad stamping his feet down (to the annoynace of my mom severally) that no son of his wud grow wild. Compared to my jnrs my upbringing was barracks style BC I'm his first born. At 32 now I still see n understand his eye n body language language, something I see children don't even recognise in their parents. 1 Like |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by naija4life247: 10:11pm On May 19, 2020 |
Fabulouzjoseph: Child Abuse is Oyinbo's phrase of encouraging indiscipline among toddlers. If Bobrisky parents had use igbati, ifoti, iforun, igbaju, igbati, igbarun, igbadi, iladi and other models of brain resetting slaps as at when due, we won't have a nuisance like that in our society like these useless White pigs. Imagine going home, to tell your parents that you are gay. Two to three ifotis and igbajus, your brain will reset. 9 Likes |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Farki: 10:11pm On May 19, 2020 |
Beating a child rather than trying to understand and correct the behaviour. Some parents just beat because they want to take out their frustration on an easy target. I have seen mothers beat newborns for crying, babies can't talk what else is a baby supposed to do? ![]() Male child/first born favoritism, where some people more children than they intended because none are male. It's like they see girls as bastards or half children. Another one is discouraging kids from having relationships and being completely mute on the topic of healthy relationships. Then as soon as the children leave the house they pester them about marriage. How is someone supposed to get married on time when they would be punished for even being 3 feet away from the opposite sex? Finally the emphasis on money and status over empathy. This is good because it gives kids a drive to succeed but can lead to the success getting to their head. It causes 'do you know who I am/my father is' mentality and fuels the engine of corruption. Ah I almost forgot, read your books and become a doctor/lawyer/engineer because that's where the money is, anything else and you are a failure. Even dare to mention going into sports, music, acting, politics and worst of all farming which make more money than ever these days and you will get disowned. 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by naija4life247: 10:13pm On May 19, 2020 |
prodigyy: Oyinbo people that teach their children how to fucck, for how long do those children stay in marriage? 3 Likes |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by KanwuliaExtra: 10:14pm On May 19, 2020 |
In some ways. But in most? Negative! ![]() I keep only 20%. The rest I throw in the garbage. ![]() The ability to adapt to various circumstances and the cultural heritage(the arts). FINISH!!!!! African upbringing stands for: Patriarchal DOGMA? Chauvinistic MEDICRITY? Nauseating MISOGINY? Religious VODOOISM? Lackadaisical WORK ETHIC? Domestic, physical and sexual ABUSE? Gender INEQUALITY? Spiritual POVERTY? Cultural PREJUDICE? Lack of SELF PRIDE and REPRODUCTIVE CONTROL? Ethnic and religious BIGOTRY? Intellectual and Financial ILLITERACY? Control FREAKISHNESS? Relationship/marriage ROLE CONFUSION? Sense of ENTITLEMENT? Poor COMMUNICATION SKILLS? Inability to GIVE AND APPRECIATE LOVE? Materialism and VANITY? Amoral HYPOCRICY? Virginity RITUALISTS? Homophobes and Sexual DEVIANCE? LAWLESSNESS? Psycho-Social MISFITS? Poor ROLE-MODELLING? Political SYCOPHANCY? Lack of personal PRINCIPLES? Civil COWARDICE? Corrupt GENETIC POOLING? Unpatriotic PSYCHE? Low SELF-ESTEEM? Poor COPING MECHANISM? Hell To Da No! ![]() Tufiaaaaaakwa I say!!! 8 Likes |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Lotusflowerbomb: 10:15pm On May 19, 2020 |
Verbally abusive, narcissistic, controlling, overprotective and manipulative. That's how best to describe some of them. 7 Likes |
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