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Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by afroxyz: 8:51am On May 20, 2020 |
Yet the Europeans you guys are trying to emulate have high rate of divorce which has ripple effects on parenting exemplified by delinquency, single mamahood, gangs, drugs etc. Why? Because the average European thinks for himself and not the group or community which is what African values are about. Just like the Asians, we put the situate individual happiness within the context of the job or community. This is what our parenting teaches us. I am.nor wholly in support of some aspects of African parenting, but I would chose it anyway over that of the europeans. Got to Briton and see how a 13-year old would be insulting his parents and still call the cops on them. And youexpect that sort if person to be a responsible parent. Hell no! 2 Likes |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Perfectbeing(m): 8:54am On May 20, 2020 |
Can someone open a thread on "What do you think is wrong with the American (Western style) of parenting?" too 2 Likes |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by afroxyz: 8:58am On May 20, 2020 |
Lionessza6: If a war is about to break out, who would be enrolled in the army: a man or a woman? Why do u think if you kill women and children it is termed a war crime but not the same with men? |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by afroxyz: 8:58am On May 20, 2020 |
Perfectbeing: Don't mind these house slaves |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Lionessza6(f): 8:59am On May 20, 2020 |
afroxyz: What does this have to do with the post you quoted? |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Perfectbeing(m): 9:03am On May 20, 2020 |
afroxyz:Such a pity. |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by afroxyz: 9:04am On May 20, 2020 |
Lionessza6: If you and your brother approach your prents for money, whose request would be handled first? If war is about to break out, who would be enrolled in the army: a man or a woman? Why do u think if you kill women and children it is termed a war crime but not the same with men? |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by afroxyz: 9:05am On May 20, 2020 |
Lionessza6: If you and your brother approach your parents for money whose request gets treated first? |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Lionessza6(f): 9:15am On May 20, 2020 |
Karleb: Again ,you misunderstood me. I never claimed that there arent boys that know how to do hoouse chores & all, my own brother & husband are examples of men who have no issues with it. . But a lot of African families groom the boy to see women as their servants& " personal help ", he is taught life skills that go beyond house chores; providing for himself & not needing anyone else to stand up for them. & again I didn't say ,but a lot. It's not rare to hear boys at University level saying things like " I need to find a girlfriend ,I'm tired of washing all these clothes every weekend " ![]() 1 Like |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Lionessza6(f): 9:16am On May 20, 2020 |
afroxyz: I need your point here . 1 Like |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by jadyclem(m): 9:21am On May 20, 2020 |
Christthesaviour:To me, the African style (nigerian style) of parenting is the best. It teaches the kids values, respect, discipline, tradition etc. In fact, they let you understand as a child that life is in stages and in life there is hierarchy. One very important thing that good African parenting teaches most kids is that there is a consequence for every action - whether good or bad. Compare how our society was back in the days when parents weren't that lax in bringing up their kids and now where there's a great nonchalance in parenting as a result of copy copy, you would see that kids back in the days grew up with more values, respect, ambition, etc, than kids of this present generation. Our society seem to be failing because parents are losing their influence on their kids because of lax parenting style. We want to be seen as progressive so we seem to be copying the parenting style of the developed world that is not even working out for them. You've heard of kids over there talking back at their parents, calling cops on their parents and doing many sort of wild things that's making their parents feel helpless and frustrated. Come and try such nonsense with an African parents and see what will happen to you.The parents are the porters with the responsibility to mould their kids (clay) into fine shapes (responsible adults) and when the clay stay resisting the good intention of the porter and the porter seem helpless in making the clay conform, there's bound to be a serious problem. Our society is getting more f**ked up and morality, responsibility and accountability are on a huge decline because our parenting style is getting more relaxed. African parents need to wake up and go back to status quo. Listen to your kids and sometimes respect their opinions but always make them understand that you're the boss for now and make them understand what's up. A good parent will always seek to give the child the best and mould the child to be the best and those are some of the things the African parenting style has shown. So to me, the African style of parenting is the best and if we must shape the lives of our kids into responsible adults, we must stick with the style of parenting that's working for us and stop copying the style of parenting abroad that is not even working out for them. 3 Likes |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by decuteGenius: 9:23am On May 20, 2020 |
crackland: You know it! Things will always change 1 Like |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Hypocrit: 9:31am On May 20, 2020 |
African parenting style is not bad with the exception that it lacks communication freedom. But i don't understand the terms 'we are in the 21st century'. Are we supposed to throwaway the last centuries because we are in a new century. If that is the reason you hate the african parenting style, then you don't have a reason. Many people still don't understand that the present ineffectiveness of the african parenting style is due to the stronger influence of the society which is being influenced by the western culture, this is true as we are getting more corrupt as we climb the generation ladder (this generation cannot be compared to our fathers' and forefathers' generation in terms of morality). I love freedom; it is good and one thing every man should be allowed to exercise, but we should not be blinded to the fact that freedom is positively and strongly correlated to social vices. |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Solz24(m): 9:34am On May 20, 2020 |
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Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Vyzz: 9:36am On May 20, 2020 |
No matter how the behave
I think iz better than the western way, where they do not flog kids.
I am happy I was flogged
What would I have become if the didn't add that extra delicacy in Training me 1 Like |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by godofuck231: 9:37am On May 20, 2020 |
Lionessza6: 1.I think a lot African parents ( mothers in particular), tend to treat their sons as mini-kings who can do no wrong in their eyes. This is where the culture of Male entitlement starts from; the upbringing. The boys grow up with a sense of superiority that somehow absolves them of certain responsibilities. your mother know he value of a man hats all |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Lionessza6(f): 9:39am On May 20, 2020 |
godofuck231: I think you felt you needed to comment even though you really didn't have to ![]() 1 Like
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Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by lakeside79937: 9:40am On May 20, 2020 |
African style of parenting is abuse 1 Like |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by passionate87(m): 9:58am On May 20, 2020 |
African parents over flog their children,these end up psychologically traumatized them 1 Like |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by theone3010: 10:05am On May 20, 2020 |
Christthesaviour: No matter how we try to validate everything African with that of the Western world, we will only kill what should have hold us together. Today our African wedding is not recognized until the white wedding is conducted. This should not be so. Yes, there are certain aspects of parenting in Africa that should be reviewed. 2 Likes |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Iamdeagle: 10:15am On May 20, 2020 |
No one way is better. Understand that time is evolving and you the parent should observe your child carefully and apply what works for each child. I see nothing wrong in flogging a child when every other means of instilling discipline fails. And there is nothing also wrong in apologising to a child you disciplined in error. All these debates are not going to make us better parents if we don't engage the children constructively. You beat/flog. You engage the child on why that action had to be taken and how it can be prevented. You apologise if you were wrong. Most people that speak against flogging a child are usually not active in the child's life. A parent leaves home when the child is asleep and come back when the child had gone to bed. Sometimes they only interact only on weekends. And trust me, children could be very manipulative. They can put on the best behaviour when they want to impress you and turn into a little monster the next minute. As a parent pick out the good from both methods and use it to train your child. It's not a one size fits all approach. 3 Likes |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by danilmo: 10:42am On May 20, 2020 |
smiliyB: OK. don't worry u ll re-edit this post wen ur daughter gets to teenage. meanwhile that relationship style u called African is the best. if my parent didn't scare me from sec.sch relationship/dating, I would av been one of the randy guys around. maybe I for don give one odd girl belle self wey go scatter my career. |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Mira4Ashawo(f): 10:45am On May 20, 2020 |
[s] Mizwisdom:[/s] |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by kazyhm(m): 10:55am On May 20, 2020 |
Farki: Lies......you just feel what you watch on western TV stations are a better way to live.....but guess what..?.....you're being deceived and I guess you're enjoying the deceit. |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by danilmo: 10:57am On May 20, 2020 |
smiliyB: All this plenty talk has kept African parent going and longer maritally. our oversabi on how to train children will show in few years to come wen the product of our training will show. I only fault them for shutting us up wen we ask Y questions and lack of sex education..Marital pressure too , although u know their wish is for good, u apply sense while u work with the pressure. others like good beating , show respect and lot more is cool and has kept some of us upright. |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Nobody: 11:04am On May 20, 2020 |
theone3010:WORDS ON MARBLE. |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Farki: 11:04am On May 20, 2020 |
kazyhm: Please where is the lie in my post? ![]() |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Marine50(m): 11:07am On May 20, 2020 |
Christthesaviour:Very ash parents, they make have low self esteem like they help u in giving birth to u, like u begged to be born. 1 Like |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Nobody: 11:55am On May 20, 2020 |
Mizwisdom:I can father you You didn't get my point, I was only saying that it was one of the attitude's of African mother. |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by paul100(m): 11:59am On May 20, 2020 |
oluwaseyi0:Very possible. |
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