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Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Mizwisdom(f): 1:03pm On May 20, 2020 |
bamidelee: Not generally. Let me ask you, did your mother do same? cos mine and the peeps who grew around me didn't. So maybe some tribes but even my Igbo neighbors didn't do that so maybe mainly around the poor 1 Like |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Mira4Ashawo(f): 1:04pm On May 20, 2020 |
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Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by DexterousOne(m): 1:23pm On May 20, 2020 |
Perfectbeing: This will also be an interesting topic to discuss Its good ti compare and contrast |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by DexterousOne(m): 1:27pm On May 20, 2020 |
jadyclem: In the 1950s/1960s The western world was also having more kids that were well raised and responsible as well... The global degenerate values we see today could be to blame for declining values There are A LOT OF THINGS WRONG with the way A typical African parent raise his kids If you look at the Western or Oriental way You will also see A GOOD NUMBER OF ELEMENTS you better NOT imbibe In your kids It's all about balance and being a responsible parent (which I daresay that many African parents are not responsible) |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by DexterousOne(m): 1:31pm On May 20, 2020 |
passionate87: Well said |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by AlexyA(m): 2:33pm On May 20, 2020 |
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Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by onedayatatime(m): 2:36pm On May 20, 2020 |
Christthesaviour: It breaks my heart to read many comments here about their upbringings. Mine wasn't perfect as well, but I'm grateful to God that I've both of my parents as they are, and my Mum and Dad are someone I look up to in some aspects of life. I'll urge anyone reading this to never let the experiences of the past ruin the best you can give to the coming generations. They count on your love, support and kindness to thrive in the world. None of this should define the love you give to your children. I try to put myself in the shoes of some commenters with terrible experiences, it was very sad. I wish I could meet everyone of you in person that went through a heavy trauma in their upbringing and let them know that they are loved. I experience a fair share of beating at school, tutorials and co, and it was really be rough. My mantra now is to love and respect every human being regardless of class, race, ethnicity, religion or gender. Am I perfect? no, but I'm working daily to be the best version of myself and I'll do this till I breathe my last. Let us endeavor to do better than the generations behind us, so that our beloved country Nigeria will be a place to live in. The reflection of a society is shown in the lives of the present generation of children. For those who can still politely correct their parent for their errors, please let us do these in love, no matter how stubborn they may be. It may be just one word or actions that will spark a new beginning that we all cherish. Let us never relent on this. Like some people rightly said, parenting is a tough job and I'm of the opinion that it is even harder in the 21st century that we are in, with some many things happening in the society. It is the job of the parent to morally form the life of the child in spite of the many moral decay of the society, and this should be done with love, discipline and respect. Parent and children should both tend to love and embrace each other weaknesses. Seek forgiveness where there is wrong and learn to balance life in mutual self giving. As a Christian and a man, I hold these thoughts in high regard and I know I'll be judged on the last day on how how I manage (with my potential spouse) our household. Please, let us not fail the coming generations, they count on us to give them the best life that there is, regardless of what the past may be. God loves you! 2 Likes |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Coolcalmcollect(m): 2:57pm On May 20, 2020 |
rawfact:you're a fool if you still think cos someone brought you to this world means they Lord over you. face front and cough your advice like Corona to the people on the other side, it's not needed here. 1 Like |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by ayoola27: 3:00pm On May 20, 2020 |
packman:Bro..pls ur link isn't working |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Nobody: 3:10pm On May 20, 2020 |
Mizwisdom:Your tribe differs from my tribe, I can only speak for my tribe. Pele |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Mizwisdom(f): 3:42pm On May 20, 2020 |
bamidelee: I'm asking you because I'm familiar with your tribe. In your tribe whoever is the only one of a particular gender is pampered so there's nothing you can tell me about your tribe I don't know ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Mira4Ashawo(f): 3:43pm On May 20, 2020 |
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Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by iriakanns(m): 3:57pm On May 20, 2020 |
Lionessza6:your brain they function well abeg. 1 Like |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by themaestro08(m): 4:06pm On May 20, 2020 |
Christthesaviour: I disagree with this ignorant assertion. |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by abbey621(m): 4:16pm On May 20, 2020 |
scott04: Come on let's not pull statistics out of our ass! Do you have real evidence to support your statement? |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by abbey621(m): 4:20pm On May 20, 2020 |
smiliyB: I still see it as love, the most annoying people in your live are usually the ones who loves you the most. Living overseas, I've seen kids move out at 18 and their parents check up on them maybe once or twice a year, this leaves room for rogue behaviors. I guess in everything we should avoid overdoing it....A mother asking when will her daughter get married is asking so out of love and fear. As a caring mother she must act accordingly but as a fearful mother she knows time is very short and she wants to hold her grandkids....Surely this kind of a pest is forgivable? ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by packman: 4:26pm On May 20, 2020 |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by themaestro08(m): 4:38pm On May 20, 2020 |
babyfaceafrica: I am literally interested to know the advantages, do you mind mentioning them? |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by babyfaceafrica: 4:53pm On May 20, 2020 |
themaestro08: Experience. |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Nobody: 4:56pm On May 20, 2020 |
Mizwisdom:Is this your research topic? If yes, print your questionnaire hit the street. I won't stoop so low to your level. |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by jadyclem(m): 5:21pm On May 20, 2020 |
DexterousOne:Remember I used the word 'good parents '. Every good parents must do whatever it takes to ensure that their kids grow up to become responsible adults. One major aspects of African parenting style that I think should be curtailed a little bit is correcting a kid with anger and excessive beating. We should all know when discipline intended for correction has turned to an abuse. Dat's one of the major drawbacks of African parenting style to me that should be adjusted. Most of the other things the good African parents do to bring up their kids are ok by me. Besides, every parent has a very short time to influence their kids positively before they turn into adults, so one need to do whatever it would take to ensure that the kids turnout better than the parents. |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Mizwisdom(f): 5:23pm On May 20, 2020 |
bamidelee: Lol tell me you don't call your elder sister "Anti mi" ![]() 1 Like |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Sixfeetbelle: 7:08pm On May 20, 2020 |
Going through this thread, you'd agree with me that one thing is clear. Many are of the opinion that African parents are not always right. Shouldn't they be cautioned/criticised/scolded when their opinion is counter-productive to our personal lives as their children? ![]() Cc Nuel4 |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Mira4Ashawo(f): 7:23pm On May 20, 2020 |
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Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by scott04: 7:24pm On May 20, 2020 |
abbey621:look around you our politicians,yahoo,million boys, police turned beggars,sars,army,marlians and cultist everywhere are all enough evidence to show that everything is wrong with our style of parenting. the baba of all is poverty mentality and low self esteem installed in us by our parents. they also dont encourage creativity......... |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by bukatyne(f): 7:28pm On May 20, 2020 |
naija4life247: @everything including the hormones will go back to default configuration. |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by DexterousOne(m): 7:38pm On May 20, 2020 |
jadyclem: Tho there are other aspects I dont agree with when it comes to "African parenting" I have to say that you are making a valid point At the end of the day........ Some reform is what is needed Not a complete throwaway |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Ishilove: 7:58pm On May 20, 2020 |
Am I the only one whose parents did not treat the sons as 'mini-kings'? My younger bro, a man in his 30s will pick a broom and sweep the entire house if he comes visiting and meets the house in disarray. He cooks, he cleans, he baths 3 times daily or even more. That doesn't sound like a man who was treated like a king by his parents so I wonder where this generalisation is coming from |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Hathor5(f): 8:15pm On May 20, 2020 |
abbey621: Do you know anyone who called the cops on their parents? I don't. Nigerians repeat this story over and over again like it is a normal occurrence abroad but when you ask them if they know anyone, they don't. I was having the same discussion with someone a few weeks ago and asked this question and he said that a Nigerian dad married to a white lady had problems because he kicked his two-year-old so I asked if the 2-year-old-son was the one to call the cops. ![]() ![]() I saw the responses you were given and how you asked for statistics so maybe you should lead by example and give us the statistics of children abroad calling the cops. ![]() |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Hathor5(f): 8:17pm On May 20, 2020 |
afroxyz: Is this why nothing works in Nigeria? |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by Hathor5(f): 8:19pm On May 20, 2020 |
chuksbogus2001: Maybe if you stop surrounding yourself with deplorable people, you will see that it is not the case in most families. |
Re: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by DeAlphaMale(m): 8:36pm On May 20, 2020 |
Yonce:Yeah most likely but not on the majority aspect... Just as in Africa or Nigerian precisely some parents are not the drilling type and end up raising weaklings and spoilt kids |
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