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Mizwisdom:



Are you in Africa? what do you mean by there's nothing abnormal in telling his Mother/Father he likes a girl. Is that the reason he goes to school? the child is clearly distracted and this will cause poor academic performance. It's not normal in our culture. He's not even a teenager but he's bold enough to tell his parent that he likes a beautiful girl

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Mizwisdom:




The world is corrupt especially with easy access to internet and white culture. My advice is for you to censor what he watches, ask his Teacher to monitor him, give him enough house chores to humble him, increase his daily assignments, buy him more books and encourage him to build a reading culture instead of exposing him to internet and television. You should regulate his exposure to them

guess ur thought are corrupt miz, nah like him dey like d girl, make unah no kill d lil man spirit

Mizwisdom:



Are you in Africa? what do you mean by there's nothing abnormal in telling his Mother/Father he likes a girl. Is that the reason he goes to school? the child is clearly distracted and this will cause poor academic performance. It's not normal in our culture. He's not even a teenager but he's bold enough to tell his parent that he likes a beautiful girl

shut up.
Your own that you were disvirgined at the age of 8 nkor?
Hypocrite speaking

Theconglomerate:
Single mother things perhaps Or Maybe the dad is a bully

maybe dad is a Randy Orton ni

Mizwisdom:




The world is corrupt especially with easy access to internet and white culture. My advice is for you to censor what he watches, ask his Teacher to monitor him, give him enough house chores to humble him, increase his daily assignments, buy him more books and encourage him to build a reading culture instead of exposing him to internet and television. You should regulate his exposure to them

the truth is all those trait are innate, it just human culture that suppress them. If you are good with kids then you will know how manage them effectively. They won't speak because generally it is more like a taboo but it doesn't mean they are not aware and I feel it a blessing if you are close enough for them to open up to you.

Robnectar:



maybe dad is a Randy Orton ni

Robnectar:

if he chooses to share such feelings with his dad, d man will surely encourage him more

Give him pointers on what to say to her

crackland:

Give him pointers on what to say to her

lol,... like u knw self, papa will give him more scope and swag to approach d girl

Theconglomerate:

lwkmhere

Orestino:
You grab! I remember sending a love message to my class teacher and I remember getting really jealous when I heard she was getting married some years later!

mumu me

believe me, many people are in your shoes... at that age we didnt understand the concept of what we were going through... but nevertheless it was a real attraction.

i think it is hypocrisy that people look down on children saying they like someone, but at every parties since you were 5yrs old, they will call someone's daughter your gf, lol! wasnt it the same BS they said about Tiwa's sons and Davido`s daughter a few days ago?

Xcelinteriors:

Please tell me the things to tell him because I don't know. I really plan to flog that stupid feeling away from him when we get home

SMH.

Then get ready to lose your son to his peers, TV and the internet.

You’re projecting your adult feelings on a child. ‘Like’ at that age is often innocent and it isn’t sexual.

If it’s sexual, will beating him stop him from liking the girl? Isn’t the best thing to do is start his series of sex education? What will beating him accomplish? You haven’t taught him anything, he will do what he will do and hide it from you.

Ask him what he means by “like”, if it’s sexual, it’s time for him to start his sex education.

I had my first genuine feeling for a girl in primary 4. I don't know why you are acting sanctimonious.

Tell him no and give reasons.

My words: "There is nothing abnormal about a 9year old boy liking a girl"

The mother should even be more afraid if he were already a teenager.

Mizwisdom:



Are you in Africa? what do you mean by there's nothing abnormal in telling his Mother/Father he likes a girl. Is that the reason he goes to school? the child is clearly distracted and this will cause poor academic performance. It's not normal in our culture. He's not even a teenager but he's bold enough to tell his parent that he likes a beautiful girl

Xcelinteriors:
So this morning I was in the office with my son and he said mum, there's something he want to ask and I should promise not to get angry and I told him to ask anything

Then he drop the bombshell, he said there's this girl he like in his class, I opened my mouth for like few seconds and don't know what to say. I asked him how did he know he like the girl and he told me since the day he stepped into that school he has developed feelings for the girl. Inside me I was shouting blood of Jesus but pretend everything is fine

I said ok can you tell me why you like the girl? He said the girl is intelligent and beautiful. I did not even know what to tell him honestly but am not happy at all and I really want to deal with him when we get home. Please mummies and daddies, how do I handle this

There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with what your child is feeling. He is having his first childhood crush and beating him will discourage him from opening up to you. Your baby is very vocal, unlike us who expressed our feelings by constantly cussing and fighting with our crush.

What you should do is gently discourage him from exploring his tender feelings for his classmate. Just let him know that liking the girl is not bad, but let it end there. When he is older he can be friends with her but for now good girls and boys must always 'mind their business', get good grades and become useful members of the society

Mariangeles:


Would you rather your son told you he likes a girl or not?

I definitely prefer he told me, d reason why I said earlier the boy is a smart one and it should be handled carefully

Blakjewelry:
the truth is all those trait are innate, it just human culture that suppress them. If you are good with kids then you will know how manage them effectively. They won't speak because generally it is more like a taboo but it doesn't mean they are not aware and I feel it a blessing if you are close enough for them to open up to you.

Lol I'm sure you know that I was once a kid, I also had lots of friends, neighbors and school mates and there's nothing about the mind of a child that is foreign to me. Children are not the same, it depends on what they're exposed to and of course the lineage. You might see some mothers bathing in front of a 7 year old boy, I know this has happened in one family I know.The boy might not react in front of his mother but he has been exposed to something which he will look for in the bodies of other females especially now with the type of music videos on screen. This is not an innate reaction but an impression he has acquired due to exposure . Innocence is a quality in childhood that we all treasured but now if you see kids playing together they discus boyfriend, girlfriend, even sex because of the unclothedness they see on screen.

Do you know that if you go to some villages you will still see pre teens walking around in pant but in cities even a two year old child will be uncomfortable bathing in public or wearing pant alone.

We have become Americanized, what is normal there has now become acceptable here smh

Robnectar:




guess ur thought are corrupt miz, nah like him dey like d girl, make unah no kill d lil man spirit

Kids are not innocent again o if you give him chance he will want to practice what he watches on music videos and films he watches with his parents phone. No more innocent kid o. Unless you don't usually listen to them talk to each other.

Mizwisdom:


Kids are not innocent again o if you give him chance he will want to practice what he watches on music videos and films he watches with his parents phone. No more innocent kid o. Unless you don't usually listen to them talk to each other.

lol, very true though

Xcelinteriors:

Please tell me the things to tell him because I don't know. I really plan to flog that stupid feeling away from him when we get home

Huh? Flog him that what happened? You really need orientation o madam.

Mizwisdom:



Lol I'm sure you know that I was once a kid, I also had lots of friends, neighbors and school mates and there's nothing about the mind of a child that is foreign to me. Children are not the same, it depends on what they're exposed to and of course the lineage. You might see some mothers bathing in front of a 7 year old boy, I know this has happened in one family I know.The boy might not react in front of his mother but he has been exposed to something which he will look for in the bodies of other females especially now with the type of music videos on screen. This is not an innate reaction but an impression he has acquired due to exposure . Innocence is a quality in childhood that we all treasured but now if you see kids playing together they discus boyfriend, girlfriend, even sex because of the unclothedness they see on screen.

Do you know that if you go to some villages you will still see pre teens walking around in pant but in cities even a two year old child will be uncomfortable bathing in public or wearing pant alone.

We have become Americanized, what is normal there has now become acceptable here smh

There are some truths in your words.

Mizwisdom:
Lol I'm sure you know that I was once a kid, I also had lots of friends, neighbors and school mates and there's nothing about the mind of a child that is foreign to me. Children are not the same, it depends on what they're exposed to and of course the lineage. You might see some mothers bathing in front of a 7 year old boy, I know this has happened in one family I know.The boy might not react in front of his mother but he has been exposed to something which he will look for in the bodies of other females especially now with the type of music videos on screen. This is not an innate reaction but an impression he has acquired due to exposure . Innocence is a quality in childhood that we all treasured but now if you see kids playing together they discus boyfriend, girlfriend, even sex because of the unclothedness they see on screen.

Do you know that if you go to some villages you will still see pre teens walking around in pant but in cities even a two year old child will be uncomfortable bathing in public or wearing pant alone.

We have become Americanized, what is normal there has now become acceptable here smh

why dont these village preteens suddenly lose their minds, since you believe that seeing nudity changes kids?!?!?

so children (and ADULTS) in Africa have been walking around naked for generations and seeing naked bodies for generations and generations, but there was nothing wrong with it, but suddenly Americans are doing it and African children are doomed?! African children have been exposed to nudity way before Americans kids did.

sadly in all the above you have written, you have not said anything about how a 9yr old child saying he likes someone makes it wrong. if that said child said he likes his friends (boys) that he plays with, would you now say the boy has homosexual tendencies?!

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Mizwisdom:


Kids are not innocent again o if you give him chance he will want to practice what he watches on music videos and films he watches with his parents phone. No more innocent kid o. Unless you don't usually listen to them talk to each other.

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Mizwisdom:



Lol I'm sure you know that I was once a kid, I also had lots of friends, neighbors and school mates and there's nothing about the mind of a child that is foreign to me. Children are not the same, it depends on what they're exposed to and of course the lineage. You might see some mothers bathing in front of a 7 year old boy, I know this has happened in one family I know.The boy might not react in front of his mother but he has been exposed to something which he will look for in the bodies of other females especially now with the type of music videos on screen. This is not an innate reaction but an impression he has acquired due to exposure . Innocence is a quality in childhood that we all treasured but now if you see kids playing together they discus boyfriend, girlfriend, even sex because of the unclothedness they see on screen.

Do you know that if you go to some villages you will still see pre teens walking around in pant but in cities even a two year old child will be uncomfortable bathing in public or wearing pant alone.

We have become Americanized, what is normal there has now become acceptable here smh

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You have a smart boy... who confidently trust you and ready to learn from you... be a parent with love and not a bully scarecrow.

Once you scold.him... you will shut him out of your life and then you have successfully left his growth in the hands of fate and not yours as parent.


This is the stage to know your boy is grown and needs lots of talking to... lots of enlightenments open up to him and let him choose his ways.

I learnt smoking wasn't good from my parents at age six... even though i have a lot of uncle that smokes in their rooms and even use to send me to buy cigarettes.

They even tried making me puff at that same age i tried but all i did was coughing seriously.. but one thing was clear to me.. that smoking wasnt good way of life. It stuck with me and growing up seeing friends who smokes either by choice or ego i just smiled at their ignorance. But i never condemned. It was a choice i learnt very well from my parents.

Mizwisdom:



Lol I'm sure you know that I was once a kid, I also had lots of friends, neighbors and school mates and there's nothing about the mind of a child that is foreign to me. Children are not the same, it depends on what they're exposed to and of course the lineage. You might see some mothers bathing in front of a 7 year old boy, I know this has happened in one family I know.The boy might not react in front of his mother but he has been exposed to something which he will look for in the bodies of other females especially now with the type of music videos on screen. This is not an innate reaction but an impression he has acquired due to exposure . Innocence is a quality in childhood that we all treasured but now if you see kids playing together they discus boyfriend, girlfriend, even sex because of the unclothedness they see on screen.

Do you know that if you go to some villages you will still see pre teens walking around in pant but in cities even a two year old child will be uncomfortable bathing in public or wearing pant alone.

We have become Americanized, what is normal there has now become acceptable here smh

Tell me you don't have a childhood crush

Xcelinteriors:

Please tell me the things to tell him because I don't know. I really plan to flog that stupid feeling away from him when we get home

Please don't try it! Don't flog him. Why should that even cross your mind?
Talk to him, but flogging him will create problems you might not want...

Ishilove:

There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with what your child is feeling. He is having his first childhood crush and beating him will discourage him from opening up to you. Your baby is very vocal, unlike us who expressed our feelings by constantly cussing and fighting with our crush.

What you should do is gently discourage him from exploring his tender feelings for his classmate. Just let him know that liking the girl is not bad, but let it end there. When he is older he can be friends with her but for now good girls and boys must always 'mind their business', get good grades and become useful members of the society

MrBrownJay1:
something is seriously wrong with YOU, if you want to deal with your son because he likes a girl at 9yrs old...

Haha thank you! I thought I was the only one who figured something seemed odd.

Talk to your kids! Kids of these days are much more smarter and mature than kids have ever been.

A child came to you as a parent to express his thoughts? You should even be happy he came to talk to you in the first place, some won't. Talk to him, but don't hurt the kid

I hope you didn't flog that boy when you got home coz if you did, you have closed every form of closeness he has with you. Just correct him with love.

Xcelinteriors:

Please tell me the things to tell him because I don't know. I really plan to flog that stupid feeling away from him when we get home

You see why Nigerian parents wouldn't be close to their parents? You don't need to flog h instead, educate him on how it is normal to have such feelings however, teach him why he shouldn't let that get into his head and help him focus on himself first.

It is very natural to like a girl at age 9 even before that age.

His hormones are setting in.

Just tell him the consequences of listening to his hormones

Let me add that your son trusted you and should not have -what do you mean by deal with him??

He confided in you - be his mum and help him understand what is happening to him - be careful before you push to confide in his friends and pornography..... deal with him bawo

N a w a o .... Naija parents are trigger happy sha

Robnectar:




lol,... like u knw self, papa will give him more scope and swag to approach d girl

Ayii! Men ooh. Which kain human species una be? Why would a father be encouraging such thing on a boy this young?