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Re: My 9yrs Old Son Asked Me If It Is Right To Like A Girl At His Age by KevinDein: 8:35pm On May 20, 2020 |
Did my primary 2 in yobe, a 7 year old and I can remember I did like a Fulani girl who was much taller than I was, she was probably 9, she was beautiful, and slim. Still have that memories. Don't know if it's wrong or right so I'll just read comments. |
Re: My 9yrs Old Son Asked Me If It Is Right To Like A Girl At His Age by MrBrownJay1(m): 8:37pm On May 20, 2020 |
Youngsage: thats the main issue here.... most parents should want their children to be comfortable and feel safe in being fully honest with them and telling them anything, without being afraid to receive a beating. no wonder so many children are confiding with housegirls/boys and gateman. 2 Likes |
Re: My 9yrs Old Son Asked Me If It Is Right To Like A Girl At His Age by uboma(m): 8:42pm On May 20, 2020 |
Xcelinteriors: Flogging him will only make him worse in the future. You failed to give us a background of your lifestyle. What kind of movies do you view at home? Does he join you in viewing these movies? What about his father? Is he playing an active role in his son's life? You should ask your son to describe the kind of feelings he has for the girl in his class. This is the only opportunity you have to redirect your son on the right path. 1 Like |
Re: My 9yrs Old Son Asked Me If It Is Right To Like A Girl At His Age by uboma(m): 8:46pm On May 20, 2020 |
Mizwisdom: Telling his mother how he feels about the girl shows his innocence. Shutting him down, flogging him will only make him get worse in the future. 2 Likes |
Re: My 9yrs Old Son Asked Me If It Is Right To Like A Girl At His Age by Uneed2talk: 9:54pm On May 20, 2020 |
Xcelinteriors:People still think sex education is only for the boy child. The boy has his mind filled with things he has seen from movies and other channels. He thinks when a boy sees a beautiful girl, it's a normal thing for him to declare his feelings, he doesn't know there are right ages and circumstances for boy to meet girl. This is why his mind needs to be redirected by you. You let him know the feeling he has is not the right one, not even strong enough for what he perceives. Madam what he has is crush common among today's kids. Hope you have not allowed your emotions to make him withdrawn ever from you as far as sexualities are concerned. If you still need what to say to him, send a mail to uneedtotalk40@gmail.com. |
Re: My 9yrs Old Son Asked Me If It Is Right To Like A Girl At His Age by Robnectar(m): 9:56pm On May 20, 2020 |
Sixfeetbelle: you think u would notice as a wifey? |
Re: My 9yrs Old Son Asked Me If It Is Right To Like A Girl At His Age by Sixfeetbelle: 9:59pm On May 20, 2020 |
Robnectar: I pray not to cause na fire and brimstone I go raise for house that day on top father and son. 9 year old catching feelings and toasting girls?! Walahi |
Re: My 9yrs Old Son Asked Me If It Is Right To Like A Girl At His Age by Robnectar(m): 10:07pm On May 20, 2020 |
Sixfeetbelle: u won't even notice d conversation btwn father and son, just take am easy |
Re: My 9yrs Old Son Asked Me If It Is Right To Like A Girl At His Age by MRosario(m): 10:11pm On May 20, 2020 |
Xcelinteriors: You sound very trigger happy, what is a "bombshell" about a 9 year old liking his mate. This is a very sensitive age for your boy, and your actions will determine a lot in his future. I beg you in the name of God, do not lay a hand on that boy. Haba! Aunty you fall hand o! You want to deal with him because he likes a girl , you're not even saying anything about teaching him sex education, the first thing to come to your mind is to "deal" with him. You sef reason am na! 1 Like |
Re: My 9yrs Old Son Asked Me If It Is Right To Like A Girl At His Age by Sixfeetbelle: 10:13pm On May 20, 2020 |
Robnectar: You're right that I won't notice the conversation but he's still my son and his behaviour and association with other kids will cue me in on what's up. And if when asked he mentions his father,... Hehehe. Let that day come first |
Re: My 9yrs Old Son Asked Me If It Is Right To Like A Girl At His Age by Robnectar(m): 10:15pm On May 20, 2020 |
Sixfeetbelle: sounds like u will raise hell that day |
Re: My 9yrs Old Son Asked Me If It Is Right To Like A Girl At His Age by EmmySparky(m): 11:26pm On May 20, 2020 |
lucky you...your child opens up to you...just talk to him about how to deal with the feelings..don't try to be harsh o...u might push him away 2 Likes |
Re: My 9yrs Old Son Asked Me If It Is Right To Like A Girl At His Age by cooooooks(m): 11:32am On May 21, 2020 |
Are you mad? Not only is that evil, but he also will NEVER trust you again. Xcelinteriors: |
Re: My 9yrs Old Son Asked Me If It Is Right To Like A Girl At His Age by cooooooks(m): 11:35am On May 21, 2020 |
What is there to 'correct'?? This is just as bad. Don't over-react to this, it is a natural process. Just check in with him every week or 2 weeks in passing. greatme2good: |
Re: My 9yrs Old Son Asked Me If It Is Right To Like A Girl At His Age by cooooooks(m): 11:39am On May 21, 2020 |
And he will grow up thinking of girls/women as the 'other'. HE is unlikely to believe in gender equality. Just because you were too stupid and shy to talk with your son about your son's real feelings. Even if you tell him to forget about the girl. What makes you think he will? What should he do when he likes somebody else? Ishilove: |
Re: My 9yrs Old Son Asked Me If It Is Right To Like A Girl At His Age by cooooooks(m): 11:40am On May 21, 2020 |
What happens if he still likes her? What happens when he likes somebody else? Do you think he will share such info with you? You are pushing him to the internet which will ultimately lead him to porn. Orestino: |
Re: My 9yrs Old Son Asked Me If It Is Right To Like A Girl At His Age by Ishilove: 11:46am On May 21, 2020 |
cooooooks:Stop foisting adult complexities on little kids. Kids have their own way of handling strong emotions. |
Re: My 9yrs Old Son Asked Me If It Is Right To Like A Girl At His Age by Nobody: 12:48pm On May 21, 2020 |
Enoch07: So because he told her. Is it now better he tells his friends and they advice him wrongly rather than her so she can show him the way 1 Like |
Re: My 9yrs Old Son Asked Me If It Is Right To Like A Girl At His Age by Nobody: 1:13pm On May 21, 2020 |
Mizwisdom: Regulating his exposure won't exactly help. When he gets into Uni he would want to try it all. Don't get me wrong, its important to regulate his exposure but increasing house chores and assignment won't work. When he grows up he will tend to hate his mother. @OP now is the time to teach your child sex education...you clearly haven't done that. Tell him the basics and don't lie to him. Tell him that sex is sweet but its only for married people. Tell him he should not allow a girl see his dick and not put finger in any girls thing. Tell him the truth now its still early, because if you don't and school resumes, His friends will notice his crushing and start giving him advice. If your son goes to a 'big man school', tell him everything you should now he is talking to you. Create time for him everyday and tell him to gist you everything and congratulate him for listening to your advice. Also start praying for him more than before. Your boy is arriving puberty and would soon start crushing on girls anyhow, anything you do now will determine whether he draws close to you or runs away from you, OP try not to push him away now unless it will take God for him to come back. I'm talking from experience ooh I was about 10years when I came out open like your son and my parents lied,they kept mixing up things for me, telling me all sorts of lies. As soon as I found out they were lies I stopped listening to them and starting doing things my way. It was soo bad that my first sex was in Js2 1st term. Also Don't always resort to flogging when he breaks rules now he is small. Sometimes sit down and talk to him, if you flog him everytime, he would start resenting you with time. Even if you must flog him sit down and talk with him and tell him why you did it. I don't know why I'm pouring out my heart like this but please do the right thing let your son not turn out like me a few years back. Treat him right and you will not regret it... About regulating his exposure, monitor what he watches and also what you watch when he is around. If you are a fan of Telenovelas and the likes, don't watch it when he is around. If you pursue him inside to watch it yourself, he will be curious and he will come back later to watch 'that thing mum doesn't want him to watch...' And after watching, he will want to experiment. Sorry for the long read. Have a lovely day and goodluck with raising your children 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My 9yrs Old Son Asked Me If It Is Right To Like A Girl At His Age by Prof0fficial: 1:23pm On May 21, 2020 |
build his moral Standard |
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