vikkimimi:
Suing him won't help you make things easy, instead they'll get so bad!
Why not try going through elders within your family, like your dad's parents or even a pastor he respects in his church.....it'll be better this way even though it might take longer time than necessary for the truth to come out.

Take things easy, it's best to

Victornezzar:
Wow

OP just go back to the person who revealed this to you.... Tell her to trust you and do not leak the identity of the person to your Father

LilMissFavvy:
Don't Sue him now, wait till you are fully independent/financially buoyant before you sue him. Also, after you sue him, you will be totally alienated and hated by your family, ARE YOU READY FOR THESE? You will need emotional support, as you would be emotionally shattered, you will need some open arms to fall into cuz no man Is an island, so maybe you should consider suing him after marriage. One thing is certain, and it's the fact that he will definitely open up with the use of force, since he has rejected the peaceful measures you used.

Ohizman73:
I really felt your heart ,which quite a number of people can't fell on your agitations.so unfortunate as this is a case of deep rooted causes.How people can because of their actions jeolopadize peoples lives. Both your dad and your real mum.first reading all the treads your case is complicated and so you have to tread softly , cautious and remain focused.so as not to compound the issue and fall victim to another different scheme entirely.already you have been distraught and withdrawn from social life. Even finding love is difficult for you.had it been you learnt earlier on before you moved out of your dads house. You would have searched for some records and clues to assist your search. Studying your dad he is a person that would take the secret of your mum to his grave.then that your distant relative is your only hope. But you hahave to act fast what if the person also dies. You alone cannot be involved in this puzzle , time, energy and resources have to be spent.there has to be tracing of your dads geneology and place of origin etc.and you have to provide some facts that would assist in your search.or else you should forget.it is like you are looking for a pin in a haystack.without vital facts from you the case is a dead end even the best private investigators here in Nigeria whold run into a brick wall and keep on deceiving you and run your resources.if you have some vital facts that would assist.you can contact me and I would do my possible best.the first question I would ask do you have proof your mum is alive.or part of the investigation is to find out.cheers.

purplecoco:
Wow, this is sad. I hope you find your mother. Don’t you have any other relatives from the Family that could help? Someone you could trust to tell you about her

purplecoco:
Wow, this is sad. I hope you find your mother. Don’t you have any other relatives from the Family that could help? Someone you could trust to tell you about her

Godlovesyou28:


I know my dads brothers and sisters (I have been calling them on phone)but they keep saying I should go back to my parents and get the answer from them... They also keep asking how I knew; and I tell them its just how am being treated to protect the identity of the person that told me.

purplecoco:
They seem to know so much and won’t tell you, but I’ll suggest you do this search hunt on your own. It might sound scary, but you have to be strong and alert. I’m sorry you have to go through this. Don’t give up yet

Godlovesyou28:


My father will kill if I go that public.

Godlovesyou28:


I am am a replica of my dad even more than all my siblings. I don't think I was adopted since I have older siblings.

Godlovesyou28:


The person referred me back to my dad to get the identity of my real mum.

aeion:
Because you don't know the circumstances surrounding her leaving and not returning, don't make the conclusion that she dumped you for your wicked stepmother to raise, at least not yet. I pray you're able to get a head start in locating her.

Mariangeles:


Did your father ask you who the revealer was?

Mariangeles:


If you have older siblings, it explains it to an extent; you might have been a product of infidelity on the part of your dad, your stepmother accepted you and took it out all on you.

Godlovesyou28:


I was told by the person that my real mum's dowry was paid and returned afterwards.

Mariangeles:


I don't think she's wicked, otherwise she'd have told and reminded her countless times that she's not her mother and for her to go look for her real mother.
Besides, she was likely cheated on.

Godlovesyou28:


I am not super rich but comfortable and can handle legal fees. Marriage is not an option for me because I made up my mind as a child that I will never marry. I don't want to digress from the point, I just want to say that I don't need any open arms except my real mothers own and can handle the financial burden. I am already an alien in my family so no sweat.

Godlovesyou28:


I have been to my village twice (my grandpa's burial and sisters traditional wedding)since I was born and we never spent up to 48hours on both visit. We were also lucked up in my dads house (especially me), we only come out supervised and closely watched since my dad say everyone there is a witch or wizard. Come to think about it; I should trace that village. Please are you private investigator? If yes please may I know how you can assist and the financial implications.

Godlovesyou28:


I don't know what the story is; and I clearly do not care how I came... Am here now, and need to know who my mother is.
But for the record, the relative told me that my father paid my real mother's dowry when he Briefly separated from my step mum but returned it afterward after sending her out to bring my step mum back. I do not care what the history is; I just want to know my real mum.

Godlovesyou28:


I am not super rich but comfortable and can handle legal fees. Marriage is not an option for me because I made up my mind as a child that I will never marry. I don't want to digress from the point, I just want to say that I don't need any open arms except my real mothers own and can handle the financial burden. I am already an alien in my family so no sweat.

LilMissFavvy:
I just took time to read your thread and responses, I must confess that I am touched. I observe you even spoke well of the parents who treated you badly at childhood, it shows you have a good heart, thanks be to God that you came out of it. I don't know if you have engaged in a legal battle before, talkless of a type like this, it is not a joke, especially with the outcome, it is you versus your entire family. Believe me you need emotional backup, lest you will break down on the long run, already i saw where you mentioned talking about ''committing suicide'', hope you are not a type that sees suicide as an option, hope it was just a mere threat. I have seen a little case of family legal issues, it is not easy, be careful. Fact is, WHATEVER IS THE MEANS THROUGH WHICH YOU ENTERED THIS WORLD, YOUR DAD OWES YOU A DUTY OF TELLING YOU WHO YOUR MUM IS, IT IS YOUR RIGHT. Since you claim to have explored all available avenues to find out the truth, I advise you try spiritual means, we still have few prophets who can see the past, and speak the truth. I don't mean native doctors or satanic agents. If the spiritual route fails, then you can go ahead using the courts. By the time your parents are threatened with a compulsory DNA, they will speak the truth without waiting to carry it out.

You said you do not want to marry, is it a personal decision? Or is this decision as a result of the hurts and trauma? If it's the former, fine, but if it's the latter, I advise you open your heart for love.

Karleb:
When you find her, what're you going to do? Huh!

She left you. She didn't care for you, didn't nurture you and all.

Forget her! She doesn't worth all the tears and stress.


Besides, she should be the one looking for you.

Ohizman73:
I asked a simple question do you have proof that your real mum you are searching for is alive.or part of the mystery involved is to also find that.these are two things entirely.As the matter involved is very tactical. Without you relating some critical information the case would run into a brick wall.then since your dad and the person who told you are the only persons involved vital information about them is essential. So as to make extensive research behind their backs. Without all these information no amount of resources put in the search would yield any result.then you have to be willing to spare Man hours travelling together to identify some crucial landmarks.from studying the reads it is like your people never want you to find your real mum in the first place. Then if you as you have discovered such. They have also prepared that they would frustrate all your said efforts. And go at any length to protect their interests to the last. And it seems your dad is power and rich that he is feared. That is why his relatives refer you back to him.it would be exciting and challenging getting to the root of your matter.as to why your mother knowingly she had a child somewhere and not make even secret attempts behind your dads back to contact you.even much later.there must be some answers.but you have to be composed , relaxed and brace up . Trying to sue your dad and step mum would frustrate you the more. Which y intend. You have to camouflage yourself and pretend you are not interested again in the issue.then cautiously get to the root point.they know you are on your own, with no headway.were you not the one who said your siblings have ganged up against you.