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Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by GeneralPula: 3:41pm On May 21, 2020 |
Nonsense question.. Like say Nigerian women no dey abuse men for marriage.. 5 Likes |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by bukatyne(f): 3:41pm On May 21, 2020 |
ariefadenco: True. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by Dyt(f): 3:41pm On May 21, 2020 |
WiLdFLame:
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Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by cooltola(m): 3:42pm On May 21, 2020 |
not really , some women have no where to go so they stay put and endure till they endure no more. Some are too embarrassed to tell a family member and will keep the beating to themselves. Some are hoping their husbands stop , some do not want a divorce 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by awoo47: 3:42pm On May 21, 2020 |
Dyt:tbh, is either a guy is a serial cheater or he behaves lyk dat u jus have to pick one... Nd while will u frown at him nd smile to other guys?? except u get ulterior motives 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by A305: 3:45pm On May 21, 2020 |
Unconsented BDSM |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by famouscargo4u: 3:45pm On May 21, 2020 |
2) Fear of being a single mother. 2) Cultural dictates of endurance. 3) Love for the man. 4) Societal stereotype and stigmatisation. 4 Likes |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by awoo47: 3:45pm On May 21, 2020 |
Takotsubo:its simply for d children... if d woman has boys, it'll be difficult to leave. as wen d guy grows up he'll certainly love his mother nd hate d dad... Nd dey can't kill d father so d son can takeover wen he's of age |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by Dyt(f): 3:45pm On May 21, 2020 |
awoo47: Well When he abuses me nko I was mentally and psychologically disturbed I tried to leave but he wouldn't I wasn't happy Hence my frowning all the time We lived together and it was a tough one When he calls he feels the vibe at the background, he waits for me to get home to start asking why I am not happy at home and when I tell him, he starts to cry and pounces on me for not being happy with him I was strong enough to walk away 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by perdollar(m): 3:47pm On May 21, 2020 |
they av nothing else to offer |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by MXD5050: 3:48pm On May 21, 2020 |
CHEATING AND LIES ARE NOT THE REASON WHY MARRIAGES AND RELATIONSHIPS END BUT LACK OF LOVE, SEX AND MONEY Marriage is supposed to be a union that should last until death do the both partners apart. And relationship should reach its set goals which often time happens to be marriage. But why do these unions break? There are three main reasons why these agreement within two adults doesn't reach its desired goal. *Lack of love: This most times is the reason why marriages and relationships end. Because so many people do not understand what love really is. They feel it's just a feeling for an opposite sex not knowing love has nothing to do with feelings. Love is a choice and a drive that drives us to understand and respect someone for a life time. When people attach love to feelings or emotion they tend to use words like this in future " I don't feel anything for him or her again" love must be a career you must build it, it must have some set goals as one of its qualities. You cannot love someone and cheat on that person except you confuse feelings for love that is why people would say they love their wife or partner yet they cheat on them. Some have even gone as far as saying love is not a yardstick not to cheat, you can still love your partner and cheat. Well, such persons confuse love for feelings. *Lack of good sex: When this is jettison in marriage, it tends to promote infidelity and can cause a misunderstanding. Sex is very important in marriage. Constant ignoring of sexual activities in marriage has led so many marriages to break up. Sex helps to relieve stress, it creates bond, it procreates and it is the zenith of fun among married couples. So many couples has suffered as a result of poor sexual activities. So many women has failed to apply some techniques to get orgasm because they have seen sex therapy as secondary in marriage building. So many can hardly explore their wives sexually. When sexual climax is not being achieved in marriage, a sex therapist should be involved immediately. Over looking it is synonymous to over looking your union. *Lack of money: They say "money can't buy love" yes that is true but money can keep love. Have you heard that poor people are vulnerable? Husbands have been taken away from their wives and wives have been taken away from their husbands mainly because of lack of love, sex and money. The heart of a woman desires good things and a proud man is he that have provided for his wife. One must not steal to have money to keep a relationship or marriage but must learn the philosophy of how to make money. Balanced view of money in marriage or relationship is vital. Seeing a professional counselor to help you get a balance view of money would help strengthen your union. Poor financial mismanagement has ended so many marriages in court seeking for the termination of their marriage contract and have pushed other partner to seek for financial solution in someone else. Do not be quick to blame them because money in itself cannot buy love but can keep love. Issues with finding love, having a healthy sex life and understanding the philosophy of money can be normal and proffering a solution to it is that which does not demand medical attention except when it has gotten out of behavioral approach but requires the person to be patient and complete a counseling process not from a pastor, lawyer or a medical doctor but a qualified counseling psychologist. Consult a professional counselor via WhatsApp on 0806 472 9707, Instagram on @mrbigt2020 with a fee of two thousand naira or six dollars. It's a choice, you either talk to a counselor now or end up talking to a medical doctor when it becomes a 50/50 chance medically or a lawyer when you can no longer fix the issue or when it becomes life threatening. Or talk to a pastor when you have been brain washed to believes that your case is spiritual and you need deliverance. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by awoo47: 3:48pm On May 21, 2020 |
Dyt:if beating enter then it's best to run ooo why will u even accept bk.. if ure dating any guy nd na only slap... Japa to avoid stories dat touch wen u marry, although it's not a guarantee. But a man dat can slap a girl he hasn't paid bride price for will certainly turn am to slave wen he has paid d slave fees |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by abbey621(m): 3:48pm On May 21, 2020 |
bukatyne: Vehemenetly refuse what exactly? Ever noticed that the chances of an independent woman with lovely qualities being physically or verbally abused reduces drastically when compared with a woman that is not? This is true in any society and more true in 9ja. How can you put all the bills on one man's head and still expect him to maintain his sanity for decades? This is why I'm a strong advocate of women contributing minimum 30% to the household bills, GET A DAMN JOB and STOP USING RAISING KIDS AS AN EXCUSE, worse comes to worst start an online business. When we remove monetary issues from the equation, 70% of all maritial problems are gone....I dare anyone to prove to me otherwise! 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by Larcardii(f): 3:49pm On May 21, 2020 |
Dyt:how do u guys love toxic people??......like I don't get 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by Antoeni(m): 3:49pm On May 21, 2020 |
When a woman is Blind and Desperate to be Addressed as MRS 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by Hezmatosky: 3:50pm On May 21, 2020 |
Leaving your marriage is a dent in a woman's life. I have seen a sweet family after many years of marital violence. Think twice bfor leaving |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by Dyt(f): 3:51pm On May 21, 2020 |
awoo47: Well I wouldn't pick any And yes he possessed both traits |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by abbey621(m): 3:51pm On May 21, 2020 |
cooltola: Then such a woman has only herself to blame! We need to remove this mentality from our 9ja women that marrying a man means marrying a provider. Most women have no financial plan, no get out of jail card, nothing, it's either marriage works or they die there....SHAME! 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by Dyt(f): 3:52pm On May 21, 2020 |
Larcardii: How would you know one is toxic without having a relationship.... Like I don't get it 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by okoroemeka(m): 3:52pm On May 21, 2020 |
What you have to understand is that most women marry out of desperation to escape poverty and deprivation from their family,so an abused woman is trapped between the devil and the deep blue sea,they dare not go back to her father or brothers house because there are women married in and it is a combustible mix 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by perdollar(m): 3:52pm On May 21, 2020 |
A305:porn addict |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by loloskigbaski: 3:53pm On May 21, 2020 |
The best for a woman who is suffering physical abuse is to separate for the time being but not to divorce |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by Prenonjebose: 3:53pm On May 21, 2020 |
MICOBIN:Nice piece. Those 4 points are really destroyers. Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling. Many marriages are enmeshed in one or all of these |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by tunjilana: 3:55pm On May 21, 2020 |
Most Nigerian women stay in it for the financial security marriage gives. It is only in Nigeria that a woman will endure cheating and domestic abuse but same woman cannot endure her husband being broke and having to feed him for 2 years 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by SOJOSEPH(m): 3:55pm On May 21, 2020 |
Do you also hear them when they ague too. Is it only physical abuse you have noticed? What of verbal abuse? Emotional abuse? Where I used to stay, I have had a neighbour that tool it upon himself to report domestic violence to authorities and that was the end of the abuse. Nobody will help you here. Take action and report the couple. Their actions are training the children to be abusive. Their children may end up marrying your own children. Take Action Now. Dont wait for the Obituary Notice: GONE TOO SOON 5 Likes |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by fergie001: 3:57pm On May 21, 2020 |
Ladycewhy:Exactly, the same thing.....I think its our mentality. I don't judge whether its right or wrong, the prayer is just not to get into that kind of situation. |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by ukorjoe(m): 3:58pm On May 21, 2020 |
There are a number of ways for a man to assert his authority in the family, beating his wife isn't one of them. Women endure marriages like for either for their religion, their children's sake, or their love for the man. Women always hope that the wife-beating spirit in their husbands leave them, but they suffer for long before marital maturity possesses the men. Men that beat women need a different orientation. |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by Nwaonyishi69: 3:58pm On May 21, 2020 |
Are you talking about what happens in Nollywoods or in real life. I think the tread should rather read 'Why do, this generation of Nigerian women, enjoy abusing their husbands'? |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by Saintmary(f): 4:02pm On May 21, 2020 |
Kaien:Is it up to that?
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