Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by Nobody: 6:51am On May 22, 2020 |
tobicool:
I almost taught you were referring to me. Lost my Dad too, read computer science and dislike masters. But I dream big and dislike company work. I am a serial entrepreneur. Incase you need a change in boyfriend, I am available. Na be the better version. Yes, I'm referring to you. You be my boyfriend |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by babyfaceafrica: 6:51am On May 22, 2020 |
yommen:
She seems to have a good standard but he is below it. She tries to encourage him to upgrade himself. Wish I had someone like her. She doesn't know there is a thin line between nagging and encouragement.. You can't nag someone to sucess 1 Like |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by Nobody: 6:52am On May 22, 2020 |
bamid2: Girl you really need to stop trying to mound him into what you want him to become. There comes a time in a man’s life when he is absolutely confused about what to do with his life especially in his 20s. You know his strengths and weaknesses. Support his ambition and pray for him. From what you have written, he seem like a good cool, calm and patient guy with a good heart. There is no perfect guy anywhere. Hypergamy isn’t bad but you can have a sit down and ask for his aspirations and from there work things out. If he is hardworking, smart, patient and humble please don’t discard him. Cheers Thanks, my bf is very cool and quite soft hearted. He can't fight with me for more than a day. |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by Jentilia(f): 6:53am On May 22, 2020 |
I think people who quotes her whole post just to type their advice are the main problem here ![cry](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cry.gif) 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by Nobody: 6:53am On May 22, 2020 |
DrDax:
Will you marry me?
Every man needs a woman who will push him out of his comfort zone.
Your boyfriend is in a deep slumber. He is waiting for a miracle or some luck, which does not happen everyday. Maybe your breakup will wake him up! May God help him.
How about my offer? Oya now, let's choose wedding date. What about next weekend? |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by AfroKnight: 6:55am On May 22, 2020 |
Evercurious:
You see.. When you meet gold diggers, naa unaa go come here complaining as if there's no tomorrow
Op, leave that guy alone and go your way. He is not your type as you can see that he just wants to be an average or below average guy.. People ll call you a NAG just like this one above.. Svar your strength and encouragement for another guy that is on the same page with you. Which your ex isnt as you can see. FASHI THAT GUY ,MOVE ON AND BUILD YOUR OWN SELF.. SOMEONE WORTH YOU LL VALUE YOUR EFFORTS MAKE FRUSTRATION NO SET IN.. Let her spend her negative energy on herself. A reasonable woman would know that nagging her man to do something beyond his finances at that time, is foolish. She would rather contribute ideas to help increase his income in the SHORT TERM and they’d move up from there. The OP is clueless herself. All she knows is the final result and not the process. She’s just a nag. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by 77up(m): 6:56am On May 22, 2020 |
flyingpig:
Na your type go quick jump out from your husband deek and sit on another deek because he "ain't ready to do all you want" ![undecided](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/undecided.png) Olosho will always look for more accomplish ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) i don't take their lots serious. 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by MedicH: 6:56am On May 22, 2020 |
inside life |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by Nobody: 6:57am On May 22, 2020 |
rajiedreez: You sound like you're trying to control him instead of guiding him. How are you improving your educational status yourself His discipline is in the area where MSC is almost least needed, he needs to know programs not MSC now. Only if he wants to go into management full-time that when he needs MSC. With your MSC clamour you are sending him to the wrong direction ( my opinion though) You are not proud of him because he's not making enough so you can't show him to your people Its obvious you two needs different things in life I'm through with MSC for quite sometimes now, I'm processing travelling, applying for scholarships, applying for jobs. Its not compulsory he do Msc, mine is he should do something, might be learning a skill, improving his skills, setting a business up,start processing travelling. Not just earn and spend 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by LaJoe2: 6:58am On May 22, 2020 |
Well, your so ambitious and have big dreams, etc. How is that going for you? How much do you currently earn monthly? Do you have a Masters? Do you have a thriving business? How come your presumably doing well yet collecting his 1k, 2k Inspite his condition?
Answer these questions truthfully before I proceed to make my point.
3 Likes |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by Adekunlebright(m): 7:00am On May 22, 2020 |
Don't relax, keep praying & advicing him,
he will change since you z u loves him.
But if he didn't change, move on with your life,
never force ursev into marriage, don't start wat u can not finish. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by loko50(m): 7:00am On May 22, 2020 |
I dedicate this song (numb, by liking park) to your boy friend:
I'm tired of being what you want me to be Feeling so faithless, lost under the surface I don't know what you're expecting of me Put under the pressure of walking in your shoes
Caught in the undertow, just caught in the undertow Every step that I take is another mistake to you Caught in the undertow, just caught in the undertow I've become so numb, I can't feel you there Become so tired, so much more aware By becoming this all I want to do Is be more like me and be less like you
Can't you see that you're smothering me? Holding too tightly, afraid to lose control 'Cause everything that you thought I would be Has fallen apart right in front of you
Caught in the undertow, just caught in the undertow Every step that I take is another mistake to you Caught in the undertow, just caught in the undertow And every second I waste is more than I can take!
I've become so numb, I can't feel you there Become so tired, so much more aware By becoming this all I want to do Is be more like me and be less like you
And I know I may end up failing too But I know you were just like me with someone disappointed in you I've become so numb, I can't feel you there Become so tired, so much more aware By becoming this all I want to do Is be more like me and be less like you I've become so numb, I can't feel you there I'm tired of being what you want me to be I've become so numb, I can't feel you there I'm tired of being what you want me to be 1 Like |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by Nobody: 7:01am On May 22, 2020 |
There is a thin line between a lady advising her bf/husband and his mother advising him. Quit trying to be his mother. Guys hate that shit.
It appears to me that you are ashamed of your bf. You don't want to show him to your parents because you are not impressed with him and Your parents may not be impressed with him too.
All I see here is a lady trying to make his guy become wealthy overnight as a result of external pressure from friends and family members. Your advise to him is not borne out of true love, but a deep seated desire in you to show off as the gf/wife of a big boy.
Madam, leave him alone and stop making his life a hell on earth. Walk away! 5 Likes |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by LaJoe2: 7:02am On May 22, 2020 |
Millenniumlady: Girl this is 2020 and if a man ain't ready to do all you want then boy bye. Keep that up till you turn 50. Madam Iron lady! 1 Like |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by Nobody: 7:09am On May 22, 2020 |
lokoventurex1: Well done OP. Don't mind the different bashings. Well, you might have goofed in one of your responses (where you said you will find a fine guy and have children with). But regarding nagging and controlling your guy is not true. I saw a post of yours in the travel section where you were asking about how much funds needed to travel to Canada. This made me believe your story. You're a young intelligent Lady and I really admire your courage .
Like what some few guys said here, since it's obvious you still like your man. Ask him the kind of business he would want to do sideways with his managerial position at his office. If he doesn't change say two or three months from now, outweighs your options. Don't ever bring the case to Nairaland. Many block heads full here.....
Try use your IELTS to a province in Canada. I know you've gathered some money, even though you didn't mention it here. I'm surprised some persons are saying what have you done or what can you bring to the table?
This is beyond love talk. If your man cannot have at least a 500k side business even despite his 90k monthly salary, then I'm sorry for him . I'm even surprised he has a car and rented a 600k flat. How come no one is talking about that ? I had to read your thread from the beginning to the last, your guy has the highest faults. Although, don't be too desperate settling down next year. They're more things you could still achieve before marriage.
If only I had a woman like you ehen, man would have gone far...
Thanks, I think you are the only one that understand me here. I have family that care about me, I'm the last child of 4. If I decided not to work for the rest of my life, I will eat, it is money that I will not have. They will buy me food, buy me creams, buy me all my needs, but it is money that I will lack. But him, he's the first child with siblings still in sec school. With this, if I'm hustling 20%, he should hustle 90% because he has more responsibilities. Not to talk of the fact that I am applying for scholarships, I have my Masters already, I'm processing travelling, I have several skills from sewing to digital skills, beadmaking (waist beads, and simple designs). I have my business proposals already, the reason I'm not doing those things as business is because I'm pursuing something greater, and once I get it, I'm going to have my industries on those things. I don't have money to start my sewing business for now, and I can't bring machine outside and start collecting #1000 on sewing a dress with metric pattern. Before I sew, I sketch, draft pattern, then sew, it's not like the normal sewing. And for me to earn from it, I would need it to be well branded so that top people would patronize me. As for him, I'm not forcing him on anything, I just want him to do things he rants about to me, not like he should do my choice 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by Dareabiala(m): 7:10am On May 22, 2020 |
Miss ambitious... The "unserious" guy still gets you data o. You know where all the money is but you're still chasing shadows. Why not work on yourself and let your success speak for you. If you have a business that can generate you just 500k PAT in a month. Then your bf will take you serious. 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by Nobody: 7:14am On May 22, 2020 |
what have you achieved yourself? how much have you saved? why not give him the two million to start the business. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by Nobody: 7:22am On May 22, 2020 |
Alot of nagative,most of them are insulting you technically .but still yet u did not flare up. U must be a wife material. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by Ghostrye: 7:22am On May 22, 2020 |
Wait oo. you are in your early 20s and you say you are getting old. Ma'am I think you should focus on you for the moment, this is the time for you to expand yourself and become who can stand on her own two feet without having to rely on a boyfriend before you can picture your future being okay. You should build yourself, get things going aright try to plan for a scinerio where your future still plays out even when a boyfriend/husband is not financially involved. I know this might annoy some ladies here, but you are still young you have about five more years to steer your life in the right way Focus on yourself and try to build your boyfriend too, if you notice in a year or two that he doesn't have a drive to be great, leave and find someone else who can match either your greatness or your love, but at that time it wouldn't matter which is which because you'll already be self-sufficient. My2cents 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by femi4: 7:22am On May 22, 2020 |
benzene00:
mumu
I'm sure you didn't read anything up there ladies in this millennium don't like to read |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by Intoboy(m): 7:24am On May 22, 2020 |
It appears you love him vigorously,you hav vividly been imposing your ideas ad how you feel he shud live his life,he might hav a different plan, probably different from wat u want..sit him down and ask him wat his plans are,if you really love him like you claim to letting him go is not really advisable, assist him in any way possible ad pray for him.
Its not easy tho 1 Like |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by fabulous0156(m): 7:27am On May 22, 2020 |
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Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by FGonline: 7:27am On May 22, 2020 |
Crazeman03: Differ from trying to mold him to what you want and your advice. Have you tried to ask him what he really want instead of telling him what you want of him. Did you try to help him and support him financially. Adivicing someone is different from supporting him. yes She was talking as if she gave him capital for business and she refused |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by Marshalemmy(m): 7:33am On May 22, 2020 |
For how long have u been with this guy that u want to mould him and chiseled him in your own image? Truth is u r very controlling and domineering n I fear if this relationship will lead to marriage. Your guy in unique n independent minded can't u see that? Pls allow the guy choose with path in life n stop that "my family" stuff. The fact that your mum pushed your dad doesn't mean u can do same with your BF.
Summary: go find a man that will accept your domineering attitude |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by Mayflowa(m): 7:36am On May 22, 2020 |
Acmepreneur: This my guy is not serious at all.
I used to tell myself change is the only permanent thing in life bla bla bla. And I really believe that once you take the right steps, you can be anything you want to be. This made me to be very soft with people.
When I started dating my Boyfriend, I really was not choosy or judgy. I accepted him without a second thought. I'm not the type of lady that actually do all those lady stuff, I'm a very serious person and I don't play games at all. My BF is very cool, like not bad looking, normal behaviour etc and I like him a lot.
I'm a very ambitious person, with an extremely big dreams, my boyfriend is also hard working, but I'm not seeing any future at all with his career/prospects/life. When I say I'm with big dreams, it's means I'm working on discovering (new innovations), planning big business that would compete with top brands etc. I'm that big in dreams.
My children is also very important to me, I don't plan for their sufferings at all. I'm an introvert, I find solace in my aspirations, dreams. I have books I work out those formulas (I mean how I would execute my business plans), I research a lot, think a lot etc
Our fight now
Since day 1, I do tell him to do this and that. I really hate company works, so I would tell him to have savings, and be building something sideways where he works. Also, I wanted him to do Masters, since he said he would love to travel out, he's always saying he hates Nigeria bla bla bla. His dad also wanted him to do Masters, but he's in the crew of Masters is a waste of time, and he can't do Masters in Nigeria bla bla bla
Baby try this business, he would say he doesn't have money, he needs 2 million to start a business etc.
Meanwhile, he doesn't have money to travel out of the country to do Masters, nor 2m to start any business. So I would tell him to manage what he has first, and that would propelled him later, but he likes to talk like illiterates that Masters is meaningless.
Meanwhile, while that is true, those things are just like investment, you don't know when you will see an opportunity to use your Masters certificate, and since he studied computer science, I told him that it can even help him get a job outside Nigeria when he leaves, that it can be useful there. I understand the situation of the country, but not having masters doesn't mean you will get a job as well, so why don't you just have it.
My bf would shut me off, and also his dad, the dad even asked him to take job at the federal university where he works, but my bf said he can't work in that place, this is a federal government job o, he would say the salary is too small and people there already knows him, because his dad is in a big office in the university.
So it won't seem like I'm disturbing him, I went quiet, but might chip it in in discussions, but I don't fight him on those things. He works in a small company, and he rose to the position of a Manager, he spent all his time in office, the little time to waste with his friends. It's a good thing but I'm not comfortable with that, the pay is about 90k, which is not enough for his expenses, also he's the first born.
Fast forward to last year, his dad died, it looks like a film trick to him, he now have to take care of his siblings and mum (mum is nurse, but retired long time ago, her pay is little because it wasn't normal retirement). Everything I was telling him finally came to pass.
He rented an apartment with His friends, he later hated it, and said he wants his own, he went to rent an apartment of 600k (he gathered it from different places and he borrowed), which I really hate and we fought on that as well. Because he could have used the money to secure his life in a better way, since his complain when I told him to start a business is that he doesn't have money bla bla bla
He will not apply for better jobs as well He's practically doing nothing to grow, and would say he hates Nigeria and he would like to leave, but he can't even apply for scholarships or even google schools.
So this 2020, Jan 1, I started fighting him, that I'm not going to continue with him like that, that he should go apply for MSC, start a business or just do something. He now started saying that he has responsibilities which are his siblings, I told him this is the nonsense, he would do till the year ends, we will fight and later resolve it.
He won't even talk about it, or get reminded, he makes me feel Hus boss is using him. I have told him several times how he would be used and dumped, in fact, he makes me say negatives sometimes, and that's because I have seen people that get dumped while working with companies and they fall back to grass, my mum won't even accept him because he works in a company, small company, not cocacola or big companies. My mum hates company works like shits because we've heard and seen people falling to zero due to company jobs.
The problem 1. He says I'm disturbing his life, and not allowing him to rest
2. I'm not happy with him living that way, with no future, no investment, hes not building himself while working, hes not doing courses, not learning any skills, and I think its too risky. His current salary is not enough for him, not to talk of me collecting part of it. But he gives me money though, has not been more than 1k, 2k and data subscription which I really appreciate.
3. I can't introduce him to my family because I want him respected. Truth is I don't know what he would say to impress my parents because I'm not even impressed with him. And I want him to be superloved and respected. I believe in first impression would last very long. He has introduced me to his family and all friends
4. He never ask me about my own life, aspirations, advice me etc, I'm always the one to do that. Yesterday he had the gut to tell me I'm not caring because of just two days of not showing care
5. Corona has turned his company outside down and he's highly affected. Just like all what I was telling him finally happened, and he has nothing to fall back at. He has a car,
6. I can't marry him or anyone this way, and I'm getting old, though and I want marriage next year. He said he wants too, but I can't marry him like this. And I don't want to get to late twenties, and he breaks up and I start looking for husband, people would be thinking maybe I have a problem that is why I'm yet to marry, they won't know that its him that caused my delay. Plus I have a very high esteem, so I would hate to be desperate for marriage with a man or be the one to be wanting marriage so much in a relationship
7. Right now, we have temporarily break up, so I'm asking if I should break up or make up? Because he was saying rubbish last night
Note: I'm not a fan of dating and rubbish, I love him very much and I don't want to leave him at all. I don't think there's any man I can date as I do not like dishonesty at all and 95% of men are dishonest. My BF is very honest and good I'm every other aspect I hope you know there is a chance if he goes abroad for his MSc, you might not see him again. Lots of relationships have been altered this way 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by Dumetroniks: 7:36am On May 22, 2020 |
With the number of persons viewing this thread, I now believe that village people exist even if they’re silently watching in 3d ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) Madam well lemme give my own little advice even tho u don already classify me in the 95% dishonest guys out there ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png) See honestly you have grand dreams for ur man however you shouldn’t be pushing him too hard left and right. If he doesn’t want a Masters program then you should encourage him to focus on one of the trending IT fields and develop a career path in it that YOU see can fetch good money and status ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) in due time. A computer science guy can go into data analytics, cyber security, marketing, logistics and planning and so forth without needing a masters degree. All these courses can be gotten while he’s working where he is and when he’s got some few professional certifications to back it up he can get other better jobs. I know you love ur man and want him to be great for your family as per presentation levels but keep behind your mind that’s he’s no Mona Lisa painting. He might end up better than he is when you’re married. I say might here because you also need to play a part in the FINANCES than just pushing and advising him. |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by rapid101(m): 7:36am On May 22, 2020 |
Acmepreneur: This my guy is not serious at all.
I used to tell myself change is the only permanent thing in life bla bla bla. And I really believe that once you take the right steps, you can be anything you want to be. This made me to be very soft with people.
When I started dating my Boyfriend, I really was not choosy or judgy. I accepted him without a second thought. I'm not the type of lady that actually do all those lady stuff, I'm a very serious person and I don't play games at all. My BF is very cool, like not bad looking, normal behaviour etc and I like him a lot.
I'm a very ambitious person, with an extremely big dreams, my boyfriend is also hard working, but I'm not seeing any future at all with his career/prospects/life. When I say I'm with big dreams, it's means I'm working on discovering (new innovations), planning big business that would compete with top brands etc. I'm that big in dreams.
My children is also very important to me, I don't plan for their sufferings at all. I'm an introvert, I find solace in my aspirations, dreams. I have books I work out those formulas (I mean how I would execute my business plans), I research a lot, think a lot etc
Our fight now
Since day 1, I do tell him to do this and that. I really hate company works, so I would tell him to have savings, and be building something sideways where he works. Also, I wanted him to do Masters, since he said he would love to travel out, he's always saying he hates Nigeria bla bla bla. His dad also wanted him to do Masters, but he's in the crew of Masters is a waste of time, and he can't do Masters in Nigeria bla bla bla
Baby try this business, he would say he doesn't have money, he needs 2 million to start a business etc.
Meanwhile, he doesn't have money to travel out of the country to do Masters, nor 2m to start any business. So I would tell him to manage what he has first, and that would propelled him later, but he likes to talk like illiterates that Masters is meaningless.
Meanwhile, while that is true, those things are just like investment, you don't know when you will see an opportunity to use your Masters certificate, and since he studied computer science, I told him that it can even help him get a job outside Nigeria when he leaves, that it can be useful there. I understand the situation of the country, but not having masters doesn't mean you will get a job as well, so why don't you just have it.
My bf would shut me off, and also his dad, the dad even asked him to take job at the federal university where he works, but my bf said he can't work in that place, this is a federal government job o, he would say the salary is too small and people there already knows him, because his dad is in a big office in the university.
So it won't seem like I'm disturbing him, I went quiet, but might chip it in in discussions, but I don't fight him on those things. He works in a small company, and he rose to the position of a Manager, he spent all his time in office, the little time to waste with his friends. It's a good thing but I'm not comfortable with that, the pay is about 90k, which is not enough for his expenses, also he's the first born.
Fast forward to last year, his dad died, it looks like a film trick to him, he now have to take care of his siblings and mum (mum is nurse, but retired long time ago, her pay is little because it wasn't normal retirement). Everything I was telling him finally came to pass.
He rented an apartment with His friends, he later hated it, and said he wants his own, he went to rent an apartment of 600k (he gathered it from different places and he borrowed), which I really hate and we fought on that as well. Because he could have used the money to secure his life in a better way, since his complain when I told him to start a business is that he doesn't have money bla bla bla
He will not apply for better jobs as well He's practically doing nothing to grow, and would say he hates Nigeria and he would like to leave, but he can't even apply for scholarships or even google schools.
So this 2020, Jan 1, I started fighting him, that I'm not going to continue with him like that, that he should go apply for MSC, start a business or just do something. He now started saying that he has responsibilities which are his siblings, I told him this is the nonsense, he would do till the year ends, we will fight and later resolve it.
He won't even talk about it, or get reminded, he makes me feel Hus boss is using him. I have told him several times how he would be used and dumped, in fact, he makes me say negatives sometimes, and that's because I have seen people that get dumped while working with companies and they fall back to grass, my mum won't even accept him because he works in a company, small company, not cocacola or big companies. My mum hates company works like shits because we've heard and seen people falling to zero due to company jobs.
The problem 1. He says I'm disturbing his life, and not allowing him to rest
2. I'm not happy with him living that way, with no future, no investment, hes not building himself while working, hes not doing courses, not learning any skills, and I think its too risky. His current salary is not enough for him, not to talk of me collecting part of it. But he gives me money though, has not been more than 1k, 2k and data subscription which I really appreciate.
3. I can't introduce him to my family because I want him respected. Truth is I don't know what he would say to impress my parents because I'm not even impressed with him. And I want him to be superloved and respected. I believe in first impression would last very long. He has introduced me to his family and all friends
4. He never ask me about my own life, aspirations, advice me etc, I'm always the one to do that. Yesterday he had the gut to tell me I'm not caring because of just two days of not showing care
5. Corona has turned his company outside down and he's highly affected. Just like all what I was telling him finally happened, and he has nothing to fall back at. He has a car,
6. I can't marry him or anyone this way, and I'm getting old, though and I want marriage next year. He said he wants too, but I can't marry him like this. And I don't want to get to late twenties, and he breaks up and I start looking for husband, people would be thinking maybe I have a problem that is why I'm yet to marry, they won't know that its him that caused my delay. Plus I have a very high esteem, so I would hate to be desperate for marriage with a man or be the one to be wanting marriage so much in a relationship
7. Right now, we have temporarily break up, so I'm asking if I should break up or make up? Because he was saying rubbish last night
Note: I'm not a fan of dating and rubbish, I love him very much and I don't want to leave him at all. I don't think there's any man I can date as I do not like dishonesty at all and 95% of men are dishonest. My BF is very honest and good I'm every other aspect my dear it just an advice take it or u live or better still say I want to destroy ur relationship e no concern me but d truth is, if u end up with dat guy u ll live to regret it all ur life. some times I love u is not enough but being a better person for ur husband/wife and kids. ok bye 1 Like |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by deeva1: 7:37am On May 22, 2020 |
The main problem here is that your mum would never allow u to marry him because he works for a company which has also conformed ur mindset to see any workng class as a trash,so u are trying to make him pleasurable and acceptable for ur mum and self.Secondly, I dnt think u care abt what gives him fulfilment and joy or consider what he want/aspirations which cud be that job/profession.. u can av all the money in ur account and still not fulfilled..A woman can marry a rich business mogul and still not happy in the marriage.. Money is good but life is beyond money..Pray to God for direction..I wish u all the best 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by babyfaceafrica: 7:38am On May 22, 2020 |
Richsquad: Unfortunately he isnt really motivated and maybe ur pressure is even much on him..give him a lil space to think and get back on his feet,meanwhile be open to meeting other guys but NO SEX with them yet until u are sure ur bf isnt going to change. Goodluck..
Checkout my sig guys feet,meanwhile be open to meeting other guys but NO SEX with them. You are advising cheating... Issorite .... If she wants to meet other men.. Let her break up!! |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by CsRockefeller(m): 7:40am On May 22, 2020 |
ThinkSmarter: The problem is that humans do our intelligence have complicated life. Life is to be lived. We struggle in every point in our lives. We hardly live happy. Our intelligence are really working against our happiness. Do you that we all animals in the 1st place? Ur closely related apes and other animals are living very happy in the jungle. No education, house, no technology, no luxury ,no investment, no skill, no hospital, no social amenities, no antenatal or maternity hohospitals, yet these animals survive and live exuberant life. Our problem is ego. We have placed our personality at a level that we are struggling to maintain. We are over stressing, over working over thinking just to maintain our self acclaimed ego and impress our and people around us. People living in thatched houses want to live in a bungalow. People living in a bungalow want to live in a mansion, people living in a mansion want to live in a skycrapper, people living in a skycrapper want to live in the sea house. If you really want to enjoy life, kill your ego, maintain a modest lifestyle. Stop trying to live in the best places. Stop trying to impress people. Have confidence in urself. Too much ambition will lead u to too much stress, anxiety, depression and worst self hate (low self esteem). U will end up not enjoying your life due to too much expectations. Life will never, I repeat never work to your expectations. It's a human nature to strive, struggle to get out of their present status. Dangote and Bill Gates are never satisfied with their current status. It's a human longing. It's good to aspire for greatness but don't allow your aspirations to cost u your happiness and joy. U only got one life. And ur life is actually ticking away. In every second, u re getting closer to your grave. U re a mortal, ur days here are nnumbered. Ur mindset is ur enemy. Throttle low ur expectations and life will be cool for you. High test leads to depression, human wants and longing are insatiable.
Try and Go to YouTube and watch Sadhguru's inspiration talks. It will help you to re-engineer your inner mind. And you will start living joyfully. We all are going to die one-day remember. And whether u re an illiterate, taxi driver, bricklayer, CEO, MD, Bill Gates or a beggar, u will all die, decay and return as a manure to plants and flowers close to ur grave. U have the choice to live a life of joy or miserable life. Stop trying to fit in to a certain class that will drain your pocket, over stress u. The whites always understand life more than Africans. A white man will be living comfortably with a bicycle and bikes. A white man will be comfortable with a 1st generation golf car, but a black man wants to cruise in RR, Bougghati. Many whites left their luxury in Europe to live and explore the beauty in African jungles. Life is an adventure. It's not a race. No one comes out alive. Be patient with your boyfriend. Social, political and economic Classification is stealing our humanity and joy. We are all biological compatible until race, class and religion brought segregation. Happiness is a choice. Misery is a choice. Reconfigure your mindset. Best of luck God bless you Sir. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by Nobody: 7:43am On May 22, 2020 |
Acmepreneur: This my guy is not serious at all.
I used to tell myself change is the only permanent thing in life bla bla bla. And I really believe that once you take the right steps, you can be anything you want to be. This made me to be very soft with people... Wow! This is my dream girl. This is the type of woman I've been looking for. Babe, if you're reading this kindly reach out to me. If your boyfriend hasn't got big dreams and lacks acceleration, another guy does. And I am serious. |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by Nobody: 7:43am On May 22, 2020 |
Acmepreneur: This my guy is not serious at all.
I used to tell myself change is the only permanent thing in life bla bla bla. And I really believe that once you take the right steps, you can be anything you want to be. This made me to be very soft with people... Wow! This is my dream girl. This is the type of woman I've been looking for. Babe, if you're reading this kindly reach out to me. If your boyfriend hasn't got big dreams and lacks acceleration, another guy does. And I am serious. |