femi4:
That was Old testament, Christianity didn't start there

As Christians: Study Old testament to learn how they lived but study new testament to know how to live

Modesthy:
I had a good uncle who passed away three years ago. His wife morned him for one year. I lived with that my uncle until I got married and parked to my own house. I use to visit the house sometimes. After the morning, his wife called me and told me that I should give her more children. She has only one male child. I refused. But She said I should do it for her because she doesn't want children outside the family because she loved my uncle and our family and that she can't continue to stay with only one child.
I'm completely confused. First I'm married doing that is infidelity, sencondly, the uncle was like a father to me before his death. And I see it as a big sin.
Please somebody should help me, what do I do here? How do I handle this issue? Thanks for your candid advice.

Mindlog:


Ikuchi nwanyi (which many have done away with due to Christianity and westernization) have to involve other members of the family. You having a child with her would mean she will be more of your second wife and you will also have obligations to provide for her and the children and constantly spending time at her place and having sexual relationships with her as she is more or less also your wife.

Ultimategeneral:

Oga directly or indirectly you are her next husband that's tradition for you.
Safe if she decides to marry else where then you are free,but you owe the child a fatherly figure.

kyng:
Op the woman demanding sexx from you is wrong that would be adultery.
The right way this would be done is for to approach the family elders and tell them her opinions then they will give her as a wife to one one of the family member who is capable and can take care of her and her children.
Tell her this is the right thing to do Stop Painting the woman in bad light that she is demanding sex from him. Do you think if not for said circumstances at should would have descended asuch. She had a legitimate claim and right to have meet the man to state her predicament. Which I don't pray any living woman on earth should fall victim to.there is no better person to have met. She cannot meet elders direct mind you. It is the man in question to now tell the elders. The elders were supposed to marry her to the man so to say. It's like the elders were gambling to make the woman frustrated. So that they can now claim she has left their brother or is sleeping outside. So they can strip her of her husbands properties. Which belong to the family asuch. Now they have no option but to do the right thing And directly keeping their brothers memory alive.the right thing should have been done by the elders.

#doitright

Ohizman73:


who told you christianity did not start with the old testiment.have you read the book off levesticus (how is it not applicable to modern living).the bible and xtianity is the same,today,yestaday and tommorow.

Modesthy:
I had a good uncle who passed away three years ago. His wife morned him for one year. I lived with that my uncle until I got married and parked to my own house.

I use to visit the house sometimes. After the mourning, his wife called me and told me that I should give her more children. She has only one male child. I refused. But She said I should do it for her because she doesn't want children outside the family because she loved my uncle and our family and that she can't continue to stay with only one child.

I'm completely confused. First I'm married doing that is infidelity, sencondly, the uncle was like a father to me before his death. And I see it as a big sin.

Please somebody should help me, what do I do here? How do I handle this issue? Thanks for your candid advice.

mkoabiola:
Which movie is this?


Who wrote d script?

I need tovwatch d movie

femi4:
Christianity = Christ followers

Abraham et al other prophets weren't Christian. Its deep, I don't expect you to understand

Ohizman73:
you. Funny claiming to know the indepts. Of xtianity when you know nothing. So they were devils prophets and pagans. When Jesus went to the mountain whom did he appear with.it is people like you that deceive other people with religious antics.

wingmanIII:
You claim you see it as a big sin, so why are you asking questions? You want somebody to tell you it's not a sin?
Please leave the woman alone or if you have the cash you can do artificial insemination, that way you give her a child without sleeping with her but please get your wife's approval first.

femi4:
you still don't get it.
They were servants of God not devils. Like I said, you cant comprehend

mrblessed:
This is one of the damages European culture and Christianity has done to the Igbo culture. In the past, our ancestors have a way of tackling this challenge to ensure that the woman won't become promiscuous or bring in a child with paternity question marks. Yes, brothers do inherit wives of their departed brothers, and can procreate if and where necessary.

Sadly, our world has been turned upside down and a new culture has taken precedence. Yet some practices of the old still hold sway, like marrying more than one wife and spousal inheritance. You have two options here: either you step up and perform your family duty, or you permit her to look and satisfy herself outside, which includes the possibility of birthing a child.

dayorich:
OP, please answer all these questions if you want candid advice...

clintz:
In the Bible book of genesis 38 God kill Onan for refusing to impregnate his late brothers wife. Nigerian Christians and hypocrisy we select only what we think is right in the Bible.

femi4:
Christianity = Christ followers

Abraham et al other prophets weren't Christian. Its deep, I don't expect you to understand

sisisioge:
What a freak request! Her marriage to your uncle ended when death did them apart! Let her look for another man outside to have children with or adopt. Hian!

Ohizman73:

Good enough an ibo person here has chiped in a word on the cultural aspect and the bitter truth. it is not the womans fault to fall into such predicament of losing the love of her life at his prime. with the age ,the woman has all claim to make such request. do you know expect her at that age to go and look for a new husband. moreover she is already approaching menopause fast.it is also not her fault that she did not give birth to another child during the 12 years interval she gave birth to her only child. since you stayed with them you should know better. however this matter still lie your uncles kin. it doesnt mean sleeping with her physically ,if you dont relish the idea. you can donate sperm,

RealEzee:
explain please , cos last time I checked Abraham followed Christ keeping the law of Moses knowing it was a schoolmaster to the coming of christ in the flesh and it was counted unto him for righteousness tho.

Ohizman73:
the other question I have asked you that you have refused to answer is what happened that ur uncles wife did not have any other child between the 12 year interval that she had ur uncles only child . Is it that ur uncle had infertility problems. For now to make this request shows some light that she is fertile all along even nearing menopause.

Ohizman73:
Did he say he was disturbing the woman or did you not follow up the tread .his wife has no say or authority over this issue .that is why ibo people take marriage seriously and have great influence on whom their wards want to marry and lace of origin. There are reasons for all these, it is when things start happening that it now becomes a case of oh, if I had listened or known. A non ibo woman marring an ibo is bounded by their traditions and must comply. If she knows she is not liable to be bounded she should not marry the man. In ibo land it is the mans family she marries.then in the event of default, matters are directed to the elders.the odd the man has brought to the table is a clear and simple matter, it is nothing new. Then I had earlier asked him since he stayed with them what happened that the woman had no child between the time interval of 12 years. Then the woman is being tactical to avoid a situation whereby a hasty decision is passed on her by the elders to force any member of their brother on her.the woman is now between the devil and the blue sea. That is part of the travails of an Afro woman in losing her husband.

femi4:
Christ didn't give us the law, he gave us the summary of the law

Thou shalt love thy Lord, thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind",

"And the second is like unto it, thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself."

Abraham believed God. "Believe" is the word there

RealEzee:
so what are you saying essence, was Abraham and the ancients not followers of christ? If not then what were they?

Cos the ancient obeyed the law given to them and that was accounted unto them for righteousness just as the scripture puts in,Abraham for example, in galatians 3:6-7,23-25 had the law and followed it knowing it brought him and the ancient unto christ, they looked forward to Christ as the prophets did testify about that he was to come.
Like you said 'believe', they exercise faith in the law they had which was given them by God through prophets before Christ coming, cos all the part of the law was really pointing towards christ Sha, so what really will call the ancients if not Christians tho?

We followed christ, he in turn followed the Father, since he said he didn't come to do his will but the will of his father Sha.

Really want to get this your concept tho about the ancients not been Christians sha

Ohizman73:
the other question I have asked you that you have refused to answer is what happened that ur uncles wife did not have any other child between the 12 year interval that she had ur uncles only child . Is it that ur uncle had infertility problems. For now to make this request shows some light that she is fertile all along even nearing menopause.

Modesthy:


I'm Igbo and 37 years. She is 42 and her son is 12 years while my uncle was 51 years when he died.

Modesthy:

Nobody forces anybody on a woman in my place. The advice I need is just based on conscience because I use to see the woman as somehow a mother and my uncle as a father. And moreso I'm a Christian. These were the reason I objected. But she keep telling me that I should think about her condition of having only one child.