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Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by yinksman1: 11:02am On May 22, 2020 |
Acmepreneur: It’s obvious you are directing him to the right direction that will favor him and help him in life to achieve something good ASAP but his not listening to you which is very bad, I see him as someone that doesn’t want to listen to your advice as in any advice from you is doesn’t make any sense to him and again that’s a very bad attitude because when the bad side of it happens you will both suffer for it and it will be too late to correct it. Imagine him going for an apartment of 600k and he Can’t boast of extra 500k in his account (believe me his not thinking like a mature guy, in this hard country that everybody is looking for up to 6 different income so they can beat poverty) ..I will suggest you look for His relative that he always listen to or a close friend of him that will talk to him on your behalf so everything can be fine for you not to regret marrying him at the end |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by enemyofprogress: 11:04am On May 22, 2020 |
I know your type, always trying to act like one's mother, giving instructions. Give the guy a breathing space, he is not your baby (even though that's what you call him). He is your boyfriend and not your husband. Mtcheeeèeeeèew |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by enemyofprogress: 11:05am On May 22, 2020 |
yinksman1:supersonic trash 1 Like |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by Nobody: 11:07am On May 22, 2020 |
folake4u:Exactly sister, Thanks for understanding. The truth is for 3years, I just ship it in during playful discussion, I don't tell him specifically. I just started telling him this year and yet they think I'm nagging. Should I continue to watch him waste time without any backup plans? And continue to manage all his life when I know he has responsibilities in front of him. What if something happened to his company, I don't pray for negatives, but it happens to people, for instance, who knows corona would come. I believe in create many options for yourself, so anytime, nothing will make you think life is over since if this one stopped working, there's another thing you can try |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by enemyofprogress: 11:08am On May 22, 2020 |
adegeye38:na so una dey take snatch person wife. Kontinue you hear? |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by lielbree: 11:09am On May 22, 2020 |
X Tripitaka:Your post didn't bother me, it's the number of people that agree with u that I find gutt rentching. .. Is there hope for our youth? He just wants to lazy around his entire life and you feel that's ok? ![]() 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by Nobody: 11:11am On May 22, 2020 |
ThatPetiteChic:Amen sis, I like you already 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by enemyofprogress: 11:11am On May 22, 2020 |
jasent:bros stop this your indirect toasting jo. Ko le werk. Vickyrotex abi o ri nkan? 1 Like |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by enemyofprogress: 11:13am On May 22, 2020 |
folake4u:supersonic trash |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by folake4u(f): 11:15am On May 22, 2020 |
Acmepreneur: You're welcome sisterly ![]() 3years ke? ![]() ![]() You can't sit and fold your hand and watch him waste his life away. The truth is that Op, you ALONE have the yam and the knife in your hands and you can do whatever you want to do about the relationship. Another thing is that you can talk to a neutral person whom you're close to (from your side or even his side probably his mum and make them see reasons with him) OR better still, talk to a counselor. Lastly, pray about it. CHEERS! 1 Like |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by Cosyfaith(f): 11:16am On May 22, 2020 |
Ladies please learn to live with yourselves, get to know yourselves. Most ladies are a mirror of their present relationship. They haven't given themselves time to discover themselves. Discover what you love, what environment stresses, which doesn't. Your hobbies. Take a personal treat, get in the spa. Read wide Don't spend your life trying to live a relationship. That's why you see couples drifting apart and start uttering irreconcilable difference. A lot of women don't know themselves before hopping into relationships. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by folake4u(f): 11:17am On May 22, 2020 |
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Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by enemyofprogress: 11:17am On May 22, 2020 |
AfroKnight:God bless you jare. The tone of her story shows the way she always put her advice towards the guy. Like sey she dey fight am. Nagging girlfriend pretending to by nice mtcheeeeeeew 1 Like |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by enemyofprogress: 11:18am On May 22, 2020 |
folake4u:supersonic trash ![]() fokoke4prick ![]() ![]() |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by folake4u(f): 11:19am On May 22, 2020 |
lielbree: My brother, I just tire. Over 1k likes for gibberish talks. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by jasent(m): 11:21am On May 22, 2020 |
enemyofprogress:I am married .everything is toasting according to you. |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by enemyofprogress: 11:25am On May 22, 2020 |
jasent:married? Like sey married people no dey toast. Abeg make I hear word jo |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by Nobody: 11:26am On May 22, 2020 |
folake4u:I just read it again, I can't even take a single thing from his write-up, it makes no sense at all, yet he got all the likes, lol. People don't like reality 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by jasent(m): 11:28am On May 22, 2020 |
enemyofprogress:you must be fool.If appreciating one's quality means toasting to you that's fine.Don't quote again if you love yourself oh 1 Like |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by enemyofprogress: 11:30am On May 22, 2020 |
jasent:you must be be a Arrow, if telling you my mind means something else to you. No try me o, I go drag you for ground here |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by Xpress24(m): 11:35am On May 22, 2020 |
Davidoff2000:4 breast got me laffing Just be easy on her |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by jasent(m): 11:35am On May 22, 2020 |
enemyofprogress:Nan your papa you wan dragg for ground as you be enemyofprogress.Oh u are telling me your mind?did I seek for your opinion? Amebo..People get paid to offer their opinion but you are offering yours for free,That's because is useless. Next time keep wetin dey you're r mind to yourself. |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by enemyofprogress: 11:39am On May 22, 2020 |
jasent:eyaaaaaaaaaaaaa see person wey dey form Mr nice and responsible married man. Little thing I dey take am fall you and turned you to a tout. God punish you and your pretence. People get paid for advice, no wonder you wan give her your phone number, for her to pay you in kind. Eleribu mr adviser |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by klenton(m): 11:40am On May 22, 2020 |
Acmepreneur: if you read it again and saw over 1k likes and still couldn't make anything out of it, then your problem is worse than imagined 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by folake4u(f): 11:40am On May 22, 2020 |
Acmepreneur: Lol that's just the truth. People like living in fool's paradise. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by Sammarshall(f): 11:43am On May 22, 2020 |
That guy might never be rich in his life! 1. He doesn’t know how to manage money (e.g renting a house higher than his yearly savings) 2. He doesn’t take advice (e.g He doesn’t listen to anything you say even the good ones) Op, a sincere advice from a hardworking girl to another, 1. Love is not all the answers, I know you said you love him but have you wondered for how long? 2. This guy doesn’t have plans for his future, he’s an opposite of you. 3. He doesn’t listen to your opinion now that you guys are just dating, hahaha it will get worse when you’re married. 4. He can be good in other things but in what matters most to you, he’s not. That’s a major red flag. 5. We are in 21st century, no lady worries herself about a man, build the type of life you want and when you’re ready men will come and if you don’t see the one you like, with your money you can buy him. I’m speaking from personal experience! (A lot of handsome young guys are everywhere looking for a woman to give them a life) pick anyone you like and make yourself happy. With your money he will be loyal, most men are foolish like that..... 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by Brightgem(f): 11:44am On May 22, 2020 |
Valid worries. But you might want to rework number 6. That is a wrong way of thinking. Why are ladies so afraid of reaching their late 20s or 30. It will push you to take illogical decisions. This is your decision to make, you know heywnt change. So if he won't it's either you leave or make the changes you want yourself, make your own money, to balance what he doesn't have, but you run the risk of a man's ego harassing you. You do for them, they will say is it because you do this and that, you don't do for them na wahala. Nobody can decide for you. Sit yourself down and ask yourself questions about the future. And stop tensioning yourself about when you marry or you go enter express. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by drey076(m): 11:45am On May 22, 2020 |
My conclusion is that the guy should stay away from you OP for his best interest |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by 12inchess: 11:46am On May 22, 2020 |
From the what the OP has posted. She is the last born of her family and she has a couple of degrees.And so? She also comes from a richer family. What I can see is that she is probably not even doing a high paying job and still just collects hand outs from her family because they see her as "last born girl" However my guy is different. His family no to hold like that. Even the B. Sc he did he probably struggled to finance it. The money he makes he probably is still helping his younger ones with their education. He is an hustler and as always been one to survive and that is his reality. OP let me ask you one question. Of all the advice you've given him, how much have you achieved by yourself? By yourself I mean BY YOURSELF. Not with daddy or big sisters money. You sound like someone that has not worked one day in her life or had any reason to take any responsibility. If this guy who is an hustler is not good enuff for you because he doesn't buy into ur illogical pipe dream then why are you with him. Are you going to pay for all your visions that you have for him. Will you put in the work? Once you marry him you will not be able to run back to daddy or big brother for money. After all you've posted here, if you ask me, I think he should be the one to dump your a. s. s 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by Funkyswagzz(m): 11:47am On May 22, 2020 |
Acmepreneur: I've had experience with ppl like ur bf. Number one example is my mum and also my ex. They won't listen to what u have to say until they experience what u are trying to tell them in a negative way. The statement u made about him goin2 stay with his friends in a rented property shows that he is still growing. He has alot more to experience and trust it's gona take few more yrs before he starts getting everything right. The best way to treat such ppl is to stop advising them until they learn in a had way. I spent 3yrs with my ex trying to change her buh I realized that I'm making a big mistake. The moment I left her she went back to same things she use to do and even getting worse. I thank God today that i made the right choice. It was very hard buh I had to break up. So my dear the best thing for u to do is sit him down and talk to him make him understand that if u guys can't work hand in hand and listen to each other the relationship won't work. Heres my contact so I can tell u more on what to do. And if u need someone to talk to u can keep in touch 08106350996 |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by VictorBode(m): 11:49am On May 22, 2020 |
Acmepreneur: Lol.. cool. I'm happy for you both and kudos to him. I sensed something when you told me he wasn't lazy. Lol. Because unless he hadn't made any slight progress to become a better man no matter how small I was convinced he was lazy.. But now that you've said he's changing I see why you said he's not lazy. Also, I saw were you said NL guys are not serious. This is not true. Since you're digital marketer, you understand the importance of research and a good way to do that is in forums like this.. I'm a digital marketer and copywriter so I come here for business and to find out what people to talk about. Anyways, do you have a sister or cousin(seems the drive runs in the family) OR are you ready to have 1 Like |
Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by CptCharlesVane: 11:52am On May 22, 2020 |
First, you write really well. I thought I should chime in to share my experience in a similar situation. I’m like you but a guy, quite ambitious and love information about everything and opportunities. So, I kind of understand how disappointing it is when a partner has no desire to do the bare minimum even for their own best interest. Sometimes, it gets overbearing and demoralizing, but Love is mysterious. With time/age, I’ve come to understand that people are not the same and even if they become who you think you’d like them to be, the process of becoming often makes them lose the essence about them that made you like/love them in the first place. With my SO, I’ve never met anyone so kind and charming, always listens to me with grace, respectful and outright adores me. Even in my critical analysis I have yet to discover the special things that I do or that I am to deserve all of these. She will go to the ends of the world if it will make me happy, but she still has a mind of her own and can walk away from it all. Her peace of mind is paramount. This I realize is truly rare, and must admit that I’m so grateful for her and us, because with her I’ve realized that many times, all one needs is support and loyalty from being in love. Yet, she is so unlike me in terms of dreams, aspirations, how children should be raised, investments etc etc and I’ve also come to understand that her life experience has been different; as our experiences are what largely shapes us and many of our aspirations and ambition. Not acknowledging this usually leads people to project their insecurities (eg. fear of poverty) on others in relationships, and this is not the best way to approach relationships. So, I have come to use such motivational speeches for myself, towards my development. I have also improved my communication to make her understand my POV without making her feel inadequate while acknowledging her free will to either take or reject counsel without me becoming salty over it. I love the support I get from her anyway so it’s all good. I also decided to engage in specialized or otherwise intellectually demanding conversations with my colleagues or other friends as I’ve stopped looking to derive all my interests in a single individual, because it is just self-centered. Perhaps, these discussions are not so important in the grand scheme of things, like we’ve believed them to be. The nature of my profession leaves me mostly around highly intelligent people, but I’m not oblivious that such people can be big trouble to convince, and many times one needs to make an argument to have them do something, even mundane things. They can be very difficult when misunderstood. Thinking of myself, if roles were reversed, best believe I will and can never approach a relationship the same way my SO does. But I think it’s beautiful now when I think about it. Before we met, I would have preferred ‘someone intelligent, ambitious, hardworking etc ‘ but now, if this ideal person comes along I’ll gladly pass up on the offer, again and again. Love is powerful, and I think knowledge of building spaceships and nuclear warheads pales in comparison to kindness and honesty in relationships, even as I like learning about such things. It’s been many years now and, honestly, I wouldn’t have it anyway else. Should you call off your relationship? It’s your decision to make. If it is an intelligent and ambitious person you truly want, you should know that they also come with their bag of chips, worse is when you find yourself as the less intelligent and ambitious one. They also can in turn can project their insecurities. It’s hard to find intelligent people already, but genuinely honest and kind people are even more rare. Ginger yourself to become what you think your boyfriend should do for himself to be respected by your parents. They are your parents, not his. Besides, It becomes a win-win situation, in the event that your relationship goes south. Acmepreneur: 1 Like |
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