You are confused?!!! Really?

It means your eyes don dey for the woman body b4 so kuku do what you had wanted to do... Oshisko!

sassysure:

Cunny man die funny man bury am

Had to debunk these lies cos some people will get themselves into trouble one day after reading this

Besides, my mum was a young widow so I knew first hand this is cock and bull.

Man can do, say and believe anything bc of free pusssy

may the soul of ur dad continue 2 RIPP

Lionessza6:
Don't complicate your life,respect your wife & your marriage, and you shall have peace of mind. What she is suggesting does happen in some cultures, but the woman usually talks to the elders 1st,and they are the ones that will recommend her the right* sperm donor in the family. What she is doing is creepy,sneaky and suspicious. One is left to think she was lusting over you all this while,& your uncle was a deterrent . Maybe she wants a younger man to awaken her senses ,and her need for another child is just an excuse to lure you into her web of deceit. Becareful with such people.

I concur

Modesthy:
I had a good uncle who passed away three years ago. His wife morned him for one year. I lived with that my uncle until I got married and parked to my own house.

I use to visit the house sometimes. After the mourning, his wife called me and told me that I should give her more children. She has only one male child. I refused. But She said I should do it for her because she doesn't want children outside the family because she loved my uncle and our family and that she can't continue to stay with only one child.

I'm completely confused. First I'm married doing that is infidelity, sencondly, the uncle was like a father to me before his death. And I see it as a big sin.

Please somebody should help me, what do I do here? How do I handle this issue? Thanks for your candid advice.

And who knows if she killed her husband in order to have you?

GerogeI:
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Foreign is inferrior to our local rice. We do not want.
You will leave all the palms in Nigeria, and go to Benin to buy palm oil. Am sure you have
Cousin, nieces and nephews that are unemployed. Remember to tell them how you are part of the problem.

foreign is inferior, i wish l i have your time,sha clear,akoshibero

fulaniHERDSman:
Do not complicate your life. In life, the more simple, common and innocent, the better.

hahaha

Well is ur opinion

The truth behind this question of marrying your late Uncle's wife is this, if she marries outside the family, she will loose her husband properties to the husband family once her name is changed and her child might loose closeness to her.

The above happens in some culture in Nigeria like Benue, maybe Igbo, etc. So inorder not to be at the loosing side, that's why she is ready to sacrifice herself to the family by requesting of you to give her a child so that she remains a part of the family.

Bible wise is not a good way to follow, that's polygamy but culture wise is different, do you chose to believe God or culture? Pray about everything.

Use Condoms

clintz:
In the Bible book of genesis 38 God kill Onan for refusing to impregnate his late brothers wife. Nigerian Christians and hypocrisy we select only what we think is right in the Bible.

hmmm

Powerful

Q1: Do you want to go into polygamous marriage and your spouse supports it?
If yes...

Q2: Does your tradition support someone inheriting his late uncle's wife?
If yes...

Let her remarry(you).

Sorry for the complex issue , my advice is that focus on your family and if she could not stay with one child let her go and marry outside . Even if the family wants to push it don't pls it will affect your future . The woman has other motives

femi4:
That was Old testament, Christianity didn't start there

As Christians: Study Old testament to learn how they lived but study new testament to know how to live

If it were an issue of tithe now, your oOld Testament will be relevant especially the book of Malachi. I love Jesus, but I hate their Christians.
My dear, there is nothing wrong or evil in what the woman seeks. The Bible supports it. Your old and New Testament argument is not convincing as regards this matter.

Is like some topic in nairaland frontage that has to do with relationship ar now fabricated to get traffic.

The topic I hv read alone just this week on frontpage is out of normal, every day an unusual stories will pop up

Small pikin wey dey dance 'surugede' dance,dont he know that 'surugede' dance na evil dance..
My brother, see, these request comes with agelong consequences. If you finally consent to this request, your own family will never be the same again.
Are u ready to damn the consequences Think���

dayorich:
It is now very obvious that the Indian hemp you ingest daily into your system is already taking a toll on you.

Get well soon bro.
You are healed...

Guy you nearly killed me with the response you gave that guy
My belle wan burst with laugh

Modesthy:
I had a good uncle who passed away three years ago. His wife morned him for one year. I lived with that my uncle until I got married and parked to my own house.

I use to visit the house sometimes. After the mourning, his wife called me and told me that I should give her more children. She has only one male child. I refused. But She said I should do it for her because she doesn't want children outside the family because she loved my uncle and our family and that she can't continue to stay with only one child.

I'm completely confused. First I'm married doing that is infidelity, sencondly, the uncle was like a father to me before his death. And I see it as a big sin.

Please somebody should help me, what do I do here? How do I handle this issue? Thanks for your candid advice.

Nothing Wrong in this Mr man it's even in the Bible.I know you want to do it you only need advice. Go ahead Man

Mariangeles:


If you were not married, there would've been nothing wrong with it.

As a married man, there's nothing wrong with it as long as it is customary

DavSagacity:
Dont mis-quote Tue bible out of context. The case of Onan like you sited was different. Onan slept with his brother's wife and when it was time to release semen into her, he deliberately released it outside . So don't quote the bible the way u feel like.
It's a sin ( since he is Married ) to sleep with his uncle's wife and father a child with her. That is Adultery. it's better for the woman to remarry than trying to spoil the extended family

It doesn't appear so. I didn't live in Israel in those times but it seems that it was expected that widows be taken care of and even impregnated if the brother dies. The sin doesn't appear to be that he was committing adultery per se because the husband was dead but that he spilled the seed so she didn't get pregnant. Otherwise the Bible wouldn't have made mention of him spilling the seed but would have emphasized that he slept with his dead brother's wife. That story was always confusing to me but I was told that it was their tradition then and accepted. But it's not accepted in Christianity now I think.

What's the name of this movie?

michlins:
I have to tell you but there's nothing wrong with what she asked. She told you that she wants the child from within the family and she has stayed to mourn your uncle respectfully.


This is totally in line with our tradition as Igbo people. Even the Bible supports the idea

she should marry the guy if everyone is ok with it and continue having kids. Or get his sperm but that process is costly than amounting her. No bring bible inside here.

sircatherine45:

are the older men not probably married too?

Then he should donate sperm to her. If it's only child she wants.
Well I think it's better she remarries and have her husband all to herself rather soliciting to be a second wife and scatter someone's home.
We are no more in the olden days o things have changed.

Op, if you do it secretly, that will destroy your immidiate family. Note that her son is 12 yrs old and is not a kid. Your wife will fight her publically, you and her will never know peace. What I suggest you do is this, if you think she wants to stay in your family, cus of her son, tell her that the elders should be involved to see if any man in the family can agree to accept her. Or, she can get married outside and you can help train her son.

Knowing fully well that you are younger and your wife too is younger than her, your wife cannot accommodate her.

If you are a muslim, their women are more accommodating than christian women.

Have you discussed this with your wife? I advise, never tell her. Women don't keep secret as she might confront the woman and start calling her names and too, start suspecting you. Unless your wife wants you to wife her and as an Igbo woman, katakata will surely bust one day. Or she has started fvcking and is allready pregnant and want to hang it on you.

You coming here to report to us shows that you are seriously interested
Simple capital letter No to her would safe us more comment here.
Remember all that glitters isn’t Gold.

sassysure:

Which igbo culture?
Have u seen where it's done?
Has anybody from.your family done that?
Is it in your constitution ie ùmùnna constitution or part of the customary law?

That is how this has been going on for ages and people actually believed so and has entitlement right over it.

I don't know what you mean by constitution. In Igbo culture there's nothing like umunna constitution. It's not a town or village meeting. Igbo culture is Igbo culture with changes n adjustments from place to place. Also modernization is putting pressure on some of this cultural practices.
Have I seen it before? Yes. My maternal uncle married his dead brother's wife even though he was already married. That's known as "ikuchi nwanyi" in Igbo culture. He gave birth to about 5 children on behalf of his dead brother n the children inherited his dead brother's properties.
My paternal grandfather fathered kids for some windows in my village. It's a common knowledge but it's not a topic for discussion because those women will not tell you who got them pregnant. You can only speculate. That was the age of fear n courtesy.
These days some widows just adopt after husband's death.

Please do not give in to her demands because it will come back to bite you in the future. I also suggest you always go to see her in company of your wife to avoid her manipulating you with tears and before you know it ,you are hooked.

tunary:
No dulling o, there are so many people who renders such service temporary//permanent service, we have so many of them even here on this forum. if you can't do the job people plenty wey need am, enemyofprogress number1. even if she no fine self them go manage her like that

how you did you know my area of specialization? I help girls especially widows to weed and plant on their farms. Women especially widows deserve to be happy. I also help sad and lonely married women. Thanks for your recognition and recommendation. Please always remember me 24/7 for me to continue the good work.


Ajepako and vickyrotex if una no recognise me some other people go recognise me. Prophet has no onion in his home town. Shioioor!

[quote author=abayomilaws post=89855071]
If it were an issue of tithe now, your oOld Testament will be relevant especially the book of Malachi. I love Jesus, but I hate their Christians.
My dear, there is nothing wrong or evil in what the woman seeks. The Bible supports it. Your old and New Testament argument is not convincing as regards this matter. [/quote

Tithing is not a new testament thing, We are to give generously, God loves a cheerful giver not grudgingly or under compulsion.

Did Early Christians in new testament pay tithe?
So since you have not been paying tithe, you are cursed abi.
Abi you don't increase

Learn about New Creation Realities bro

Lionessza6:
Don't complicate your life,respect your wife & your marriage, and you shall have peace of mind. What she is suggesting does happen in some cultures, but the woman usually talks to the elders 1st,and they are the ones that will recommend her the right* sperm donor in the family. What she is doing is creepy,sneaky and suspicious. One is left to think she was lusting over you all this while,& your uncle was a deterrent . Maybe she wants a younger man to awaken her senses ,and her need for another child is just an excuse to lure you into her web of deceit. Becareful with such people.

that's it.

Modesthy:
I had a good uncle who passed away three years ago. His wife morned him for one year. I lived with that my uncle until I got married and parked to my own house.

I use to visit the house sometimes. After the mourning, his wife called me and told me that I should give her more children. She has only one male child. I refused. But She said I should do it for her because she doesn't want children outside the family because she loved my uncle and our family and that she can't continue to stay with only one child.

I'm completely confused. First I'm married doing that is infidelity, sencondly, the uncle was like a father to me before his death. And I see it as a big sin.

Please somebody should help me, what do I do here? How do I handle this issue? Thanks for your candid advice.

abeg do the thing jo. Help your uncle to finish what he started. A cousin in need is a cousin indeed. I wonder why me I no dey get this kind lock.

Ajepako and vickyrotex if una get this kind contract abeg make una call my number 07055559900. That's my direct line, only dominique has it, please don't give it to anyone especially mynd44.

And u fink this is the right platform for such advice....?? Go to ur spiritual father or ur village elders

fulaniHERDSman:
Do not complicate your life. In life, the more simple, common and innocent, the better.

You said it all...God bless you.