Oga go and learn what bank reversal means okay? After all he didn't say she sent the money back to him.

MrBrownJay1:


accept him back?! that babe is a waste of time, the brotha is the one who should forget this ungrateful woman and move on.




money that was reversed after the police came for a visit, you call that bank reversal?! ok CUNT E NEW!!!!

Bank ke

manmade:
Sue the Bank and make some cool money from them by the time you are through with the bank they will go on their own volition to beg the girl to continue the relationship with you.

OoooMmmmGggggg

Agbagbaregoo:
I just met this lady and everything seems to be clicking. she just started a business after I gingered her and I had to patronize her. in the course I transferred some money to her to patronize her far more money than she was selling the Stuff so as to encourage her. The bank debited me and I told her I sent it.

Throughout that day she claimed not to have gotten the money. Then throughout the next day same story so the third day I went to the bank to receive the statement of account. lo and behold her name was boldly written and the bank people told me she has gotten it. I got very angry and sent it to her but I didn't tell her anything I just ignored her call.

A policeman asked for her number at the bank that he will question her. throughout these period I ignored her and I was just imagining how a beautiful light skin tender looking babe will behave like this. Then lo and behold today the bank reversed the money. I can't explain the feeling of disappointment.

Now she said she doesn't want to have anything to do with me again that she doesn't want wahala for her life. She finally picked after many trials of calling and she insisted on me leaving her life.she even said she's not doing business again. I don't know what to do.

You see why God through Natural Law says you should presume people Innocent Until PROVEN GUILTY?

You Failed to give her a fair and reasonable hearing, by Failing to Hear and See her Side.

Hence when her innocence came out, she bailed from your Wickedness and you are standing Guilty!

It is better for 10 men to escape for a season, than for 1 INNOCENT Man to WRONGLY SUFFER!

sisisioge:


Before you ghosted her? See, you guys would have been each fighting with your banks instead of each other if you indeed shared it with her before ignoring her calls.

Ignoring her wasn't her only problem, he also gave her number to a policeman. Who knows how the man must have questioned her?

Bros abeg leave the young girl alone

stormborn28:
did you read where OP said the bank statement shows that the lady received the money?

It was OP's bank statement that reflected that and not the girl's statement. The Money was later reversed to the OP's account meaning that the transfer wasn't successful.. Just like when ATM debit you and not dispense cash. You will get a debit alert without seeing any money. So imagine if bank now tells you that you have collected money because your statement shows you have been debited?

hmm

queenitee:

I'm not talking about when the other party hasn't received money, but when the other party has. You mean they can still reverse it then?

yes they can, if there's a complain pertaining the transaction from any of the party be it the sender or the receiver they decide without you knowing ,sending the money back to the original sender.though mine happened with a telecom provider,so I think banks do with same logic from what the op stated in his write up.

Agbagbaregoo:
I just met this lady and everything seems to be clicking. she just started a business after I gingered her and I had to patronize her. in the course I transferred some money to her to patronize her far more money than she was selling the Stuff so as to encourage her. The bank debited me and I told her I sent it.

Throughout that day she claimed not to have gotten the money. Then throughout the next day same story so the third day I went to the bank to receive the statement of account. lo and behold her name was boldly written and the bank people told me she has gotten it. I got very angry and sent it to her but I didn't tell her anything I just ignored her call.

A policeman asked for her number at the bank that he will question her. throughout these period I ignored her and I was just imagining how a beautiful light skin tender looking babe will behave like this. Then lo and behold today the bank reversed the money. I can't explain the feeling of disappointment.

Now she said she doesn't want to have anything to do with me again that she doesn't want wahala for her life. She finally picked after many trials of calling and she insisted on me leaving her life.she even said she's not doing business again. I don't know what to do.

Sorry which bank ?

You were wrong to have ignored her call. All you need to do is to get her print her own statement for you to take to your bank and let her take yours to her bank.

A talk to her friend or her close family she respects will do the magic if you are meant to be together.

Psady:
yes they can, if there's a complain pertaining the transaction from any of the party be it the sender or the receiver they decide without you knowing ,sending the money back to the original sender.though mine happened with a telecom provider,so I think banks do with same logic from what the op stated in his write up.

Really? Just knowing about this.. So u mean if e.g, I send money from GTB to someone in FBN and there's a problem like this, GTB will contact FBN to reverse back to source account (that's in the case where the FBN account holder got the money) and in the case where the money didn't even reach FBN account, what now happens??

sisisioge:
You know you could have sent her your account statement for reconciliation purpose instead of ghosting her...a good person would give benefits of doubts airing the matter instead of bottling it up. Biko I think she's better off going her way jeje. If you could handle small matter like that, what would you do if something huge hits?

Good luck.

Na so. See dem. I am sure if given the opportunity, you would further poison the girl's mind and further destroy the relationship. As if you no de phuck up big time too. So the remedy for headache is decapitation?

middlebelter:
You were wrong to have ignored her call. All you need to do is to get her print her own statement for you to take to your bank and let her take yours to her bank.

A talk to her friend or her close family she respects will do the magic if you are meant to be together.

GBAM!

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I understand this guy from experience. It once happened to me too with a friend. I had to go print statement of account to show the said friend.
you wont believe I got a reversal that same evening despite the transaction showing successful on the statement

your take on the issue was alright tho

this also ruined my relationship with someone too

Its 70% chance of being FIDELITY bank

sisisioge:
You know you could have sent her your account statement for reconciliation purpose instead of ghosting her...a good person would give benefits of doubts airing the matter instead of bottling it up. Biko I think she's better off going her way jeje. If you could handle small matter like that, what would you do if something huge hits?

Good luck.

The lady just applied sense walahi

Uneed2talk:

Now now now she don they madd, hope she really stick to her gun and flee like someone up there said.

You sent her statement and ghosted her. When your police was interogating her and she needed you to clear some air, did you pick? When she wanted to convince you more she didn't get it with proof did you pick? How about say she wanted to suggest a way to clear things, did you pick her call? She was suspected a thief and must remain so until proven otherwise before you can have anything to do with her.

don't mind him, that's exactly what I wanted to say... imagine calling the same person "mad" only God knows what he might have said behind nairaland.

fulaniHERDSman:
Sue the bank.

Oshey.. Lawyer

You don't need to I.press Nigerian ladies with money in the first place. Don't be a fool

Send her what you owe her and move on...

Stop acting like a sissy.

Agbagbaregoo, you should not date. She's right.

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E be like say ur market go sell

You have not even related and you are claiming relationship.

MISSCONGENIALITY:
Did you read the post at all. The bank reversed the money to him after some time meaning she never got it at the first place. Next time read.
Except you are one of those guys that always see a reason to bad mouth ladies just because the women in your life didn't give you the lo e you needed.

i guess i was high on you

Agbagbaregoo:
I just met this lady and everything seems to be clicking. she just started a business after I gingered her and I had to patronize her. in the course I transferred some money to her to patronize her far more money than she was selling the Stuff so as to encourage her. The bank debited me and I told her I sent it.

Throughout that day she claimed not to have gotten the money. Then throughout the next day same story so the third day I went to the bank to receive the statement of account. lo and behold her name was boldly written and the bank people told me she has gotten it. I got very angry and sent it to her but I didn't tell her anything I just ignored her call.

A policeman asked for her number at the bank that he will question her. throughout these period I ignored her and I was just imagining how a beautiful light skin tender looking babe will behave like this. Then lo and behold today the bank reversed the money. I can't explain the feeling of disappointment.

Now she said she doesn't want to have anything to do with me again that she doesn't want wahala for her life. She finally picked after many trials of calling and she insisted on me leaving her life.she even said she's not doing business again. I don't know what to do.

Sue the bank, make noise about the case via social media, get the bank to write apology letter as part of the damages you are suing for.

On the matter of your relationship with the lady; you handled the matter poorly. Your attitude called her a thief and a liar, while you were forming self righteous indignation.

Why couldn't you meet with her to word out the matter, even showing her the account statement given you by your bank, while you ask her to bring her own account statement covering the period.

What the bank did is atrocious (why you should sue them, so that they will improve service delivery and not ruin more reputations, businesses and relationships), but your reaction to her based on what the bank was telling you was immature and mean. You didn't trust her in this "small" matter, what of when future throws more complex challenge, what if she were your wife? Going forward, learn from your mistake, don't put all your trust in technology, big corporates etc they have failed you now, they can fail you again.

Be humble, write her letter or do voice note of unreserved apology, telling her you should have trusted her. Then call her again to reiterate the apology while sincerely asking her to forgive you.

Whether she accepts or not, go visit her, and if she agrees to see you, apologise face to face.

Don't get offended if she plays hard, be humbly and consistent in being persistent over a period of time. No go de vex, you messed up, irrespective of your reason. Na so Adam been de blame Eve after he wilfully ate that fruit that year.

If she continues to rebuff you, go your way, with a clear conscience. Moreover no one wants to live "till death do us part" with someone with unforgiving spirit, because as long as life last offense to one another will still happen.

May God grant you wisdom for living. Ako na uche is the principal thing. Good luck.

Agbagbaregoo:

Put yourself in my shoes. How would you feel if they told you at the bank the person you sent money to has received it and is only playing pranks won't you be madd. Mstcheew

You should have given her benefit of doubt, would have heard her out, ok see now, the bank has reversed the money, you are now chasing her up and down. Ok you now how do you think she feels now, just let it go, you are not ready for relationship

Humanoid01:
@Agbagbaregoo

This might be a blessing in disguise, but I also agree with sisisioge. You should have shown her the evidence, then her reaction would determine your next action. I understand her decision to not continue with the "relationship".

She doesn't want any trouble, and she thinks that you'll have a hard time trusting her. No one wants to be in a relationship like that. Her mind may be made up but you should sincerely apologize. I know it's not your fault, and you shouldn't feel guilty, but just do it to let peace have its way.

Send her a text containing an outpour of your heart, include a shot of the document given to you by the bank. Do that just to rid your self of the guilt, then move on. Don't sweat it. If she's yours, she'll come back.

You're wise. Don't let anybody tell you otherwise.

You should have talked to her when you got your statement from the bank. That's where you got things wrong.

Agbagbaregoo:

No at all. I saw their chats. He asked politely

It's very wrong of you to have even given her number to a policeman in the first place. This is someone you hope to be in a relationship with or you're in a relationship with, so to speak. It's very wrong of you. It's embarrassing for her to even be called or chatted up by the police. It's something you would have resolved with your bank or with her bank and not involving any policeman. Even bringing the matter here on Nairaland is wrong because it's a very trivial matter you should have handled by yourself if you were matured enough.

Both of you are simply not meant to be together. Don't ever waste your time with her because you're not compatible. If you try it the relationship will never last. The relationship will surely break. Mark my words.

Move on with your life. This is a sign that she's not meant for you. So move on with your life and God will bring your own woman for you at the right time.

Bro as far as d bank don refund ur cash den there's no need for shalaye..move on bro.

Amanee:
If only that lady can stick to her gun and flee

She really needs to flee far away from him because she doesn't deserve him at all. They're not even compatible.

Although he meant well by trying to help her, but the way he handled the matter was wrong.

entrep88:
Truth be told, anything bank issue this days one need to be cautious in reacting. Op may have handled the situation poorly, the lady saw the red flags and decide to keep her dignity. Kudos!

Yes he handled it poorly. I think her being interrogated by the policeman hurt her ego. And it's better for her to stay away from him.