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Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Nnamdinaija(m): 9:39pm On May 25, 2020 |
[s] Kyom20: Blah blah blah SMH |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by enemyofprogress: 9:41pm On May 25, 2020 |
VickyRotex:Na dominique be the koko that one na chop and clean mouth |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Mentorme: 9:44pm On May 25, 2020 |
Nonesense! Without your father you would have spoiled before getting into university. Is in you! Stop blaming the man. 1 Like |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by VickyRotex(f): 9:44pm On May 25, 2020 |
enemyofprogress: |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Mrpojj(m): 9:48pm On May 25, 2020 |
FeliciaOja: My dear they shud combine the two joor |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Kyom20(m): 9:59pm On May 25, 2020 |
Ogaonos:Ur concerns are addressed in this article https://www.webmd.com/parenting/news/20120223/overly-strict-controlling-parents-risk-raising-delinquent-kids |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by kikelomojessy(f): 10:00pm On May 25, 2020 |
Ishaquine: Yeah, I also understand that too. But what I'm trying to say is normal instinct tells us when we are doing or want to do bad stuffs. Why wud she go to school and be all the other things then come back home and be good? |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by veraiyke(m): 10:02pm On May 25, 2020 |
You only failed to see the better side in your father's strictness. So what have you gained after all the stuffs you did? Finally, I agree parents should show love in guiding but they must also deny you certain things and if you stray blame yourself and not them 1 Like |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Ishaquine(m): 10:07pm On May 25, 2020 |
kikelomojessy:At first you feel let me just have a taste of this but before you know it you find yourself deep in it. You know being a teenager, sometimes you just want to try somethings you've never done before then with the help of some stupid friends you're done for. |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by kikelomojessy(f): 10:15pm On May 25, 2020 |
Ishaquine: Now I get you. But the fear we had growing up with my dad is different cos before u do anything stupid u must make sure it won't get to him. That's just fear cos we don't want his wahala despite my mum be all 100 over loving, my dad still made us know that there are some things u can't do in my house. I won't lie about this, my mum is so loving and o we caring, but if my mum happens to be a single mother, most of us would have been very wayward, I'm telling you this. God help us |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Nwaonyishi69: 10:18pm On May 25, 2020 |
Nonsensensical nonsense. Why you no go drown and leave your mother and other efulefus to blame your father for doing his best to make you responsible? Well, may be scarcity of topics made one tired moderator shift this lamentable script to idle minds to get engaged, total rubbish. 1 Like |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Ogaonos: 10:30pm On May 25, 2020 |
Kyom20:no b d same thing I dey talk oghene na wa for u.half strict half mentor no b d same thing as authoritative parenting as Ur link describe.but Ur link didn't explain hw to train a girl.like my reply a gave my own practical training on boys like mentoring on opposite sex.like having female friends nt having one female friend.fit make him fall in love.making Ur female friend side friends.only Ur mom Nd sister is Ur main friend.make Ur son knw DT he k needs to be confidence Nd bold Nd wise around ladies.didnt u read my writeup kyom.u jux copy Nd post link from a site.do u think pple have time to read links.abeg read my write up first then u knw there am coming from. |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Mutaultope(m): 10:30pm On May 25, 2020 |
kazyhm: I just disciplined my son by canning him for what I have warned him severally to stop doing...... the only thing my wife could do was to get angry with me for disciplining him that way ..... that was the end of our night and she went to bed |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 10:38pm On May 25, 2020 |
Can you see how everyone is against you? Not even a single comment that shows support or applaud. Look, we're custodians of our ACTIONS and INACTIONS. So, trying to heap blames on another person for your shortcomings tells that you're a highly irresponsible person. I had a strict dad whilst growing up, too. I was a very stubborn and rebellious child, but I had someone to call me to order whenever I messed up. Thanks to his constant canning, for I might have been irredeemable. Leave the blame game and self pity. Take excuses for yourself. Your parents tried enough. You just wanted to be wayward. 1 Like |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by tunize(m): 10:44pm On May 25, 2020 |
hmmm so the strictness of ur dad lead u to smoking, doing drugs clubbing and kpashing abi.. so why u nor explore with bible? jst ur choice. probably u dey like the style of all those tinz before so no excuse for ur past waywardness jst a decision. |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Ogaonos: 10:49pm On May 25, 2020 |
Mutaultope:wat Ur wife is doing is nt cool but oga don't be too strict try dey Cain am well with dignity.break e stubbornness but try give am warmness no b everything dey use Cain try mentor am too.nd dey observe am.look for a wise way to mentor am regard d opposite sex make Ur son dey open in that area.be friend to him in DT area.pray to God in these area very necessary u knw why pornography is something DT every boy is expose to Nd as a father Wen u knw e don dey reach adolescent u need advise me against immoral video Nd d danger of mastubation.because these area na where music of nwadays dey influence our youth.wen Ur son wise with d opposite sex Nd knw papa go break my neck if I give girl belle.porn no fit get am.another na to pray to God the wisdom on coaching in d wisdom of knowing good frm bad friends.both girl Nd boys.nd against drugs.because a these area music of nwadays dey get our youth.try to inspire him has u wire e yansh Wen he do naughty things 1 Like |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Ishaquine(m): 10:50pm On May 25, 2020 |
kikelomojessy:Yh, if only our moms are single mothers. The fear our dads put in us is not from this world. Amen |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by friendl: 10:59pm On May 25, 2020 |
You are a bad child ,....just giving excuses for your rubbish |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Chuky7(m): 11:03pm On May 25, 2020 |
Chicastle: Lol I have noticed this... why anyways?... |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Otiv: 11:12pm On May 25, 2020 |
God will bless you and increase your wisdom for this comment . So many of us were raised by strict parents and we turned out very good . What is the evil child talking about? crackland: 1 Like |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Ogaonos: 11:16pm On May 25, 2020 |
MrBrownJay1:thank u my brother kyom doesn't undastand.u jux don't take sides Nd attack pple atacking op u educate them not posting links DT pple don't read DT only explain it theoretical nt practical. like wat u doing is great u educating pple here on nairaland.dt. op she may have problem in parenting she might be too soft on her children because of strict parenting.to add to urs half strict/ half mentor is dt best.like me my mum was strict but I had a cousin who took time to educate take me on life.also told me Nd my sibling about d horror of cultism.nd how they operate which made me fear.dt help us during our university.in op case her dad was a disciplined man Nd most dad like hers don't explain stuff like u said.they run their home like barracks.op was not educated while receive d caining.nd I have notice parenting a girl is different from a boy.i don't knw how to parent a girl because I Neva had a sister.if someone can help me on what to do because every guy u see here fear as a dad's is to have a daughter with body counts(olosho) after labouring to make Ur family ok.which is easy for daughter's to become.because d entertainment media inspire it directly or indirectly.in terms of materialism 1 Like |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by edoairways: 11:18pm On May 25, 2020 |
Pat081:You can't use one bad fruit to generalize all if not the saying that all men are thieves would right |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Legendguru: 11:19pm On May 25, 2020 |
really |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by edoairways: 11:25pm On May 25, 2020 |
Ishaquine:I know but judging from her statement, her mother shares a blame in her waywardness, If not she shouldn't have lived that life. She choose that part of life because she was stubborn hence she should stop blaming her father. I have seen families where their fathers are close to them yet their kids lived wayward life |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by forlexxy(m): 11:30pm On May 25, 2020 |
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Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by kazyhm(m): 11:46pm On May 25, 2020 |
Mutaultope: You can see. I for one is careless about the opinion of others when I'm doing the right thing....irrespective of anyone's perspective about it......training a child is one big serious issue......the most important is synergy should exist between husband and wife in cautioning a child so that the child can be responsible but you see some women thinks with their emotion....... And I don't know how women of this generation get to this point......while I was growing up, it was my mother that beat me the most......up till the moment my father has never lay his hands on me and never condemn my mother's actions. My mother almost kill me with beatings and I'm very grateful for that. 1 Like |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Frankcallys(m): 11:49pm On May 25, 2020 |
"I drank alcohol like crazy, smoked weed, hung out with rich boys, partying, doing drugs but when I go visit my Parents, I still act like that innocent girl they have always known" You omitted the sex part and knackings wey suppose join? So you don't want us to know that side of you right? Issoke, we understand. Anyway, lucky you that your dad was not strict enough and that's why you still get mouth to blame him. Where I come from, my dad was military and old school. He would have sniffed out that bad side of you, kicked your sorry a** from here till Jericho if need be. He would drive all da way to that school and punish you in front of everyone. Smoke you out anywhere you were practicing that bad girl and put you straight! I thank God for the way he brought me and my siblings up in a strict way, if not we wouldn't have turned out right. So I disagree with all you said, your dad is not the problem or to blame, you are!
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Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by taurusdude0(m): 12:05am On May 26, 2020 |
You are correct,but ur kini go do suffer chai,smoke and drink with boy sorry fa. |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by emecheboy2(m): 12:11am On May 26, 2020 |
FeliciaOja: Strictness is different from moral values. |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by SURElee(f): 12:25am On May 26, 2020 |
It was your choice to do all those things you did. You expect your parents to handle you with kid gloves? Even the Bible says train up a child when he is young and when he is old, he won't depart from it. Straying into vices has always been in you that you had to delve into you when you had your freedom. The earlier we as human learn to accept the blame for our actions instead of shifting the blame to others, the better we will be. |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by jaxxy(m): 12:53am On May 26, 2020 |
FeliciaOja: U are only saying what sm of us have discovered years ago. “Overly” Strict parents are one of the most counterproductive parents ever. I pity such kids cos they are forced to make many mistakes. It’s almost a guarantee for all of them in such scenario and they maybe be worse than children of liberal or less strict parents. I wud also say it depends on the personality and attitude of the child. Sm conform bt many are forced to make alot of mistakes in attempt of self discovery. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Judybash93(m): 1:39am On May 26, 2020 |
after reading a lot of the comments here, I just think a lot of us here aren't fit to be parents at all... WTF Damn 1 Like |
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