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Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Kyom20(m): 6:32pm On May 25, 2020 |
tranxo:U clearly didnt read her story. Who did she say finally changed her for good? If God were to punish you every single time you made a mistake, where you be? He gives u room to make errors and forgives u wen u go wrong. If he wanted to be strict he could have killed u straight up wen u go wrong. The lesson you should take from this is that when correcting someone do it in love. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Harkyn92(m): 6:36pm On May 25, 2020 |
FeliciaOja: You can still explore without doing smoking or doing drugs. My dad is like yours and all He just created between us is a kind of enmity as anytime I remember his act towards me when I was younger I his hatred will grow in mu mind but I don't show it sha. I still maintain my coolness and keep on thinking of how myblive will be better. 1 Like |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by djon78(m): 6:38pm On May 25, 2020 |
Firstnebo: So many negative comments. Funny thing Nigerians will be claiming saints but look around the country and tell me whether it's positive or negative people that resides in it. Still they will claim the best. Nonsense They will claim faultless but are very corrupt, raising children withour character. Strictly raising children won't stop the one that will corrupt from being corrupt. My dad was very strict while growing up It affected my relationship with him for a long time I wasn't close to him And it really bothered him He even complained to my mum Although with time our relationship has gotten better We relate very well now But the strictness of many African parents Alienated there children from them It even destroys a child's creativity Compare the level of creativity and innovation of oyibos to Africans Many parents use beating and rough handling to drive away the creative quotient of there children thereby raising children that can think and reason critically out of the box thinking And this is one reason Nigeria and many African countries are backward and under developed. Because quality of humans raised don't have creative and innovative mindset. They can pass class academic work, with excellence but put them where to use there intelligence and they will be found wanting. That's why you see the types of Bill Gates, Zuckerberg, Steve Jobs were academic drop outs but still did excellently with there creative genius. But where can you find such people in Africa? 5 Likes |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by ransomed: 6:38pm On May 25, 2020 |
Never mind the rebellious INDOMIE generation. You will soon have your children to know how parenting looks like. Efulefu.. |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by schurley(m): 6:38pm On May 25, 2020 |
Only you will be held responsible for failing or succeeding later on in life... continue exploring sis |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by tete7000(m): 6:39pm On May 25, 2020 |
FeliciaOja: You life is yours, whatever you do, you reap the consequences. It doesn't matter whether your dad or mum make you do it. Take responsibility for your actions and inactions. |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by bonnyhope: 6:46pm On May 25, 2020 |
FeliciaOja: Stop making excuses for yourself, you spoilt brat Your past will definitely hunt you one day, then you will appreciate ur parents of being strict 1 Like |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Depressed101: 6:52pm On May 25, 2020 |
Slynation:I don't mean paying a total deaf ear to their disobedience. I have gone places and have read widely. I have seen things too. There are other ways to let (better ways ) to punish or correct a child.. And besting is the least of them 1 Like |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by tranxo(m): 6:52pm On May 25, 2020 |
Kyom20:HER STORY right? What's her father's story? |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by iqiq: 6:58pm On May 25, 2020 |
At times both is necessary |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Pious101: 7:01pm On May 25, 2020 |
FeliciaOja:u are solely responsible for d outcome of ur life and not ur parents |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by KC031: 7:03pm On May 25, 2020 |
FeliciaOja: Thank your God you retraced your steps if you really did,no one! I mean not even your parents owe you anything in this life,even orphans grow up to be responsible Adults.We know your type in Uni. |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Ojady(m): 7:05pm On May 25, 2020 |
That my dear, is your story. It is not the Generalization. I want to assume your parents were well off, otherwise, if food was scarce on your family table, everyone was chipping in somehow - mum and dad working end to end, kids as well: Hawking and looking after each other and you had to struggle to get into Uni, youthful exuberance as you so described would not have been an option. Nonetheless, strict parental upbringing differs substantially from spoiled/pampered/overprotected upbringing. You knew what you knew at the time, when you knew better, you did better... Nothing to do with strict parenting...shikena! |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by mildteddy(m): 7:13pm On May 25, 2020 |
crackland: I stan 1 Like |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by hupo: 7:16pm On May 25, 2020 |
An African adage goes "he whom the gods want to kill they first make mad. Have this at the back of your mind that you are responsible for what you become in life, parents are there only to offer you guidance and if you chose to derail, that's your palaver. Strictness, discipline are not as bad as you put it. Have you wondered by students tend to perform better in course handle by their so called "strict teachers/ lecturers". Judas Iscariot despite being with Christ chose to be way ward, perhaps you were the "black sheep" in the family. |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Rich4god(m): 7:16pm On May 25, 2020 |
safarigirl:Abeg, no mind all those people... They are just looking for who to blame for their failure. Life is a choice, it was their choice to be like that. |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by enemyofprogress: 7:17pm On May 25, 2020 |
VickyRotex:help me find one babe for your church now. I no mind that your pastor's daughter or your choir mistress |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by enemyofprogress: 7:18pm On May 25, 2020 |
safarigirl:pls can i be your sex partner with no strings attached? 1 Like |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by yeyeosoronga: 7:19pm On May 25, 2020 |
OP, nothing do you. You did the right thing at the right time. What better time to explore than in the university? It would have been too early if you were less than 18 years and perhaps a bit too late if you were over 28 years. I don't know if it had anything to do with strictness, but you wus jus a young gal living da life You no kill person, na only party you like. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by kikelomojessy(f): 7:22pm On May 25, 2020 |
Abegi na u wan be bad pikin. It's all Ur making. The presence, footstep or shouts of my dad is the beginning of wisdom. CONTINUE TO RIP DAD. we still make sure his strict rules are obeyed even grand kids sef no say one papa dey like dis and like that so u can't come to the family house and do rubbish. |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Drizzy5001(m): 7:24pm On May 25, 2020 |
If not for my parent's strictness especially my old man , while I was growing up , I for don useless by now o. I really thank God for them |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Dshocker(m): 7:27pm On May 25, 2020 |
rockstarB: Double blessings for you my sister |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Ishaquine(m): 7:29pm On May 25, 2020 |
edoairways:It seems you don't know some parents, they don't show compassion. They always dictate, from what you like and don't like, what you wear, what you eat without giving you a chance at all. They don't care how you're feeling when they are doing this. They think they are helping you but sometimes that doesn't help. Every kid is different, what works for one might make the other go rogue |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Ishaquine(m): 7:31pm On May 25, 2020 |
kikelomojessy:Just so you know every kid is different, what worked for you might not work for another |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Playermayweda(m): 7:34pm On May 25, 2020 |
I disagree with this bitterly, Correction is useless if the child doesn't understand or see it reasonable to correct them for the wrong they have done, no matter how strict or Godly the parents are, That the problem they correct but they don't give much effort in getting the point across, that's why when they grow out of it their tend to be even worse than their parents ever imagine |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Top1gun: 7:36pm On May 25, 2020 |
That is your problem, your parent can't be half as strict as my father that did not stop me from trying all you did but at the end I still chose to respect the norm of the larger society instead of being a renegade or a nuisance cos I understand why they chose that method. At times foolish people like to turn their parent to demigods that will understand what all their children with different character need instead of helping the parent to beta their on lives. FeliciaOja: |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by shadeyinka(m): 7:41pm On May 25, 2020 |
FeliciaOja:My people say the dog that will get itself lost is one that refuses to hearken to the sound of the hunters whistles. Why didn't you listen to your Mum. You programmed yourself for your own wildness! |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by shadeyinka(m): 7:44pm On May 25, 2020 |
Kyom20:She was who she wanted to be. After all, her mum was soft and understanding: why didn't she take her footstep. People should take responsibility for their actions |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by UPMIKE: 7:44pm On May 25, 2020 |
Op I'm really sorry for you. I wish i had the opportunities you have , i would have been everly grateful to my dad(parents). Your dad wants the best for you and you're here messing up. FYI, IT'S YOUR LIFE AND FUTURE YOU ARE WASTING AND NOT YOUR DAD'S. Pray that it will not too late for you to make amends. Our people say; Ihe onye iberibe mere mmadu enweghi ka oha ka nke omere onwe ya, maka na nke omere onwe ya ga akariri njo. Nwanne, you are doing yourself. |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Mypeople2(m): 7:46pm On May 25, 2020 |
FeliciaOja:It is a good thing you changed .But never you put your drinking ,drugs etc on your dad.Parenting is not an easy task .The man tried to show you the way.My father drinks then but I have never drank alcohol not because my mum warned me never to drink ...I saw the need not to .So parenting is not easy.The man was only trying to do his best |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Scordroncyber(m): 7:51pm On May 25, 2020 |
my mum was very strict..
All those childhood games I been de watch am for window... But I'm not easily influenced and I have self-control.. Strict parents don't bring up bad kids. |
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