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Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by CsRockefeller(m): 4:53pm On May 25, 2020 |
This OP will make a terrible wife and mother who wants to bet? You're finished, you have nothing to offer any reasonable man anymore. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Longman8: 4:53pm On May 25, 2020 |
In my own experience as a child i have come to understand that discipline really don't have to do with beating a child frequently when they are wrong.I could count the numbas of days my dad laid his hands on me while growing up as a kid. My dad was a disciplinarian but he uses more of advice and sunday morning devotion to nurture and train us in becoming what we are today. It is still hard to deviate even now that he is no more alive. I wish i still have him around,for him to see the person his son has become today. Even in death he is still the best DAD. 1 Like |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Myself2(m): 4:54pm On May 25, 2020 |
FeliciaOja: Taaaa there OP See your life, your mom drew you close, yet you still turned wayward, do you realise there are some children with just their mom and they turned out fine ? Even when the single parent was strict ? Just tell us the truth, your waywardness na follow come, as an ogbanje girl ,even if your dad drew you close the way your mom did, you would still turn out bad and blame it on an aunt that didnt join them to draw you close. You for kuku go buy tow rope make people use dey draw you close 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by MOnkeyBabe(f): 4:55pm On May 25, 2020 |
LordKO:GoD Bless you. JuSt like the Quote goes. "Have fun, but don't lose it though". But most peeps who see themselves as or who people see as STRiCt won't let you have fun at all. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Cocao(f): 4:55pm On May 25, 2020 |
You went wild because you wanted to biko. Don't begin to blame your parents. What did you want from them? To serve you meals with alcohol or to introduce you to weed? Better take up responsibility for yourself and clean up your shit What nonsense! 9 Likes |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by atakamus: 4:58pm On May 25, 2020 |
FeliciaOja: When You born your own, we go know. You na bad girl. Whether they cage you or not. You wan make your papa leave you like that so that you go carry belle return house,abi. Package yourself. No blame your papa. Me wey dey, my papa flog me wella wella.I enter uni, still behave. Go seat down. 7 Likes |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Cloudlord(m): 4:58pm On May 25, 2020 |
See another mumu.... Who smoked weed? Who's fussy boys bleeped? Who will live your life? Who will regret all the actions? Your parent tried to train you to be a good and better lady and you chose to be a bad lady. No one will regret all these but you. Someday not too far from now, you will leave ur parent house and start regretting all your actions in school. Then, you will appreciate all their monitoring and training. For the main time, try and stop all the actions and start doing good to them. You do not have to tell them about the bad acts in sch just stop and stop now. The earlier you stop the better. You can still live a more better life - you deserve it. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by titusmichael27(m): 4:59pm On May 25, 2020 |
ednut1:i bear you my humble testimony that life has a manual. please look for it. |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by poordad(m): 4:59pm On May 25, 2020 |
crackland:Well said op. 1 Like |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by mt77: 4:59pm On May 25, 2020 |
Who lose now? Don't forget that whatsoever you sow, you reap. |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by MuchAdo: 5:00pm On May 25, 2020 |
At least, you are back to the right path. All the while you explored, you knew you were on the wrong path thanks to the strict training you got as a child. In essence, without the strict training you would have been irredeemably spoilt and doomed... ![]() @FeliciaOja 3 Likes |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by toniobyke(m): 5:01pm On May 25, 2020 |
You wanted to be a spoilt child, you come spoil finish. Now you are blaming your father for being strict and preventing you from bad influence of others. You need serious brain check |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Johnnoo(m): 5:01pm On May 25, 2020 |
crackland: Enough said... 1 Like |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by donMIG(m): 5:01pm On May 25, 2020 |
U just dei make noise Strict no strick if u wan spoil u Go spoil My parents were strict too I'm a guy #I drank alcohol didn't like it #Weed I didn't try because I've always loved to c someone puffing smokes n trust me I've got hard core smokers as friends #the colet ![]() ![]() Overall still a good boy wei just like colet sha 1 Like |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Ferdinandu(m): 5:01pm On May 25, 2020 |
FeliciaOja:This your theory works negatively on few cases, I also came from a family of very strict parentage. Most children of strict parents learn to respect themselves in time because as far as your parents is concerned you don't have second opportunity. African children are more likely to be wayward if coming from lenient parentage than strict parentage. Though many things in life doesn't always follow as we planned 1 Like |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Olisehinnocent: 5:05pm On May 25, 2020 |
If u catch hiv na ur parents go suffer am ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by madridsta007(m): 5:06pm On May 25, 2020 |
FeliciaOja:Have some personal accountability and stop shifting blames. Are you an APC member? ![]() You did what you did because of the choices YOU made. And not because of your parents discipline. I was disciplined by my parents, to the point where I once doubted if my Dad was my Dad. Because the way I was beaten. I went to a Army School and a Unity School. The discipline, "no get part two". Yet, I did not "change" when I had the freedom to do so in Uni and later years. Own your bad behaviour. 5 Likes |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Randommikey(m): 5:06pm On May 25, 2020 |
My mum was never strict, she never forced us to do anything, she would ask us about the girls we liked and would want to meet my girlfriend to advice us about sex and how if we aren’t planning to get married, having sex will ruin our lives. My dad was also easygoing, when we got to 200 level he advised us to always have a condom in our room, he said he knows what it feels like being a young man and having your hormones take over sometimes, better safe than sorry. All this advice made me a very calm and careful person when it came to experimenting things. 1 Like |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Maliqcious: 5:08pm On May 25, 2020 |
Dear Op it a burning desire.. You always want to explore and the environment present you with what you ache for. You plan was not all focus on academic excellent.. As long as You over 16 and in school trust me you in control. You type can't do well overseas America in particular. You would have end up been a shadow of yourself before realising. |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by yongg: 5:09pm On May 25, 2020 |
The child growing up has to learn from choices, it is what pushes us to explore the world. Some readily accept the supposed result of such choices of those who have been there before them who themselves may not have experience the result to the said choice as it could have been passed on to them. They are termed as good children per se. The other just may like to experience the choices for themselves. Even when teaching, there's so much fulfilment from the student if he/she completes solving a task (sometimes of his own choosing, or arbitrarily fixed by the parent or tutor etc) with his method... Of course not all student may be able to come up with a method of theirs. The goal is to adopt the method of the tutor without having to shove it down the student's throat or doing that but reconciling so whatever resentment does not remain for long to eat em up in future I think the goal of parenting should be guiding those choice in a manner not to cause or avoid resentment in the child. Cause that's when the messed up behaviours starts to spring up 1 Like |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Ablemax(m): 5:10pm On May 25, 2020 |
DontBullshitMe: After she have finished fvcking all the rich dudes She's now blaming it on her strict dad.... absolutely NONSENSE |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by openmine(m): 5:11pm On May 25, 2020 |
Royalfurnitures: The highlighted statement is not entirely true! God has already blessed man/woman with the required tools and skills to train up a child! Point your kids in the right direction— when they’re old they won’t be lost. Pro. 22:6 (MSG) 1 Like |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by crackland: 5:11pm On May 25, 2020 |
yongg:It really doesn't matter the grade or manner of discipline. I bet the OP has siblings who didn't do half the things she did while in school, yet they were all raised with the same manner/level of strictness. How would you explain that? 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by simplepee(f): 5:11pm On May 25, 2020 |
I don't agree with you op. I have the strictest parents and when I became independent I never explored or did anything contrary to what they wanted of me. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by druxlazu: 5:11pm On May 25, 2020 |
FeliciaOja: When you are a terrible and bad human being, you put all the blames on your parent. Do I need to tell you my story? Maybe I should. The reason my mother and father doesn't let me out normal and mingle is because of terrible people like you who would instill a mode of thought that could easy turn a child against his parents. Will you be able to make me hate my parents? No, you never will. In fact, the moment you attempt to do that, I will desert you and if you push me, I will pull the trigger on your brain. Let me tell what happened as a result of my parents not allowing to go out of their range and being strict. They groomed the most healthy, mentally strong human being, religious, pious and noble human being and the reason why it happened is because they were true pure Yoruba people who realized that there is ingrained low quality, corrupt behavior or mode of thoughts among the majority of Nigerians except Yoruba and if they did allow me to mingle with this people at the years I was growing to do the right things, I will have being the most corrupt and terrible person. Yes, people like you are the reason why parents are stricter and never allowed their children to mingle with terrible creatures like you. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by salaza: 5:13pm On May 25, 2020 |
In my own best opinion, you can smack child a very young age probably till they reach like age 12 but also make em know where they messed up as well....age 13yrs above don't need much flogging but talk to there souls.... Note what works for A no fit work for B. 1 Like |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Farki: 5:14pm On May 25, 2020 |
crackland: This is a young Barack Obama and another of Elon Musk. Though I am against smoking and see it as a bad habit it is not really an accurate measure of someone's intelligence.
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Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by ThothHermes: 5:15pm On May 25, 2020 |
FeliciaOja:How many pastor children do you know? Yeye talk. |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by crackland: 5:17pm On May 25, 2020 |
Farki:Smoking is not a measure of one's intelligence, I never said so. Smoking is simply a bad habit acquired from bad company. It doesn't mean a smoker can't be smart. 5 Likes |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by 9ja083: 5:18pm On May 25, 2020 |
U lived the way u choose. Nothing like your parents been strict on you made u do that. Been strict can make u change ur style of dressing but not to this extent. What u did was actually your choice! |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Thomywah: 5:19pm On May 25, 2020 |
crackland:God bless you 1 Like |
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