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Re: Why Are Some Families So Divided And What Can I Do To Unite Mine? by malcom1X: 1:09am On May 26, 2020 |
Yuneehk: No one cares about your dirty pride, you look like someone that thinks she's better than others from your comments. Finally your family is poor and you can't escape that. You'll never be born rich, I hope you know that. 1 Like |
Re: Why Are Some Families So Divided And What Can I Do To Unite Mine? by Ndipe(m): 1:12am On May 26, 2020 |
True. RoyalBlu: |
Re: Why Are Some Families So Divided And What Can I Do To Unite Mine? by ikorodureporta: 1:44am On May 26, 2020 |
When you make phone calls to your brothers and sistes,, always call yr kids around to say hello to them 5 Likes |
Re: Why Are Some Families So Divided And What Can I Do To Unite Mine? by Nobody: 1:49am On May 26, 2020 |
The problem is that the rich ones expect the poor ones to be the ones asking after them, and the poor do not want to appear as beggers, so everyone minds his or her business. Let the rich ask and go after the poor, then things will change. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Are Some Families So Divided And What Can I Do To Unite Mine? by Nobody: 2:30am On May 26, 2020 |
klap4gbens: the poor feel entitled and their only weapon is the threat of stigmatization and ignoring you - imagine a 25yr old sponsored to go to the university of lagos with fully paid accommodation and expenses, she refuses for 3 years because she wants OAU to study with her boyfriend.. now the boy-friend is a graduate ans serving and dumped her.. rather than feeling sorry and thinking about school, she is demanding that she is sponsored to a US University. how can there be unity with a high level of irresponsibility ![]() ![]() 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Are Some Families So Divided And What Can I Do To Unite Mine? by Nobody: 2:32am On May 26, 2020 |
klap4gbens:if it was easy to get wealth - there will be no poor ones abi? the poor should use the opportunity to grow.. it is not their right to demand to be fed, they must earn it by showing responsibility - nothing is free but ignorance 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Why Are Some Families So Divided And What Can I Do To Unite Mine? by kkins25(m): 2:53am On May 26, 2020 |
my brother, todays world is not the one of large family gatherings with barbecues and stuff. when my mom got pregnant for me out of wedlock her parents were pressurizing her to abort me. fortunately for me, she kept me. unfortunately for her, she was disowned by the whole family. so we have always being on our own. my dad also disconnected with his people who were not nigerians by the way. so mum moved in with dad, bleh bleh bleh. when dad blow as in-get money, my mum started to reconnect with her family, everybody was smiling and what have you. dad too decided to go back home to give his family the good news that their boy is doing fine only to come back and meet sack letter. fucking chechengi. so money disappear, na so famiy members too disappear. my mums Father kon remember say he disown him daughter. we never reconnected with any of them again. until 2018. my mum whom still suffers psychological implications of being the black sheep (sort of) of the family thought may be her mental breakdown would be resolved. so she decided to see travel out of the country to see my dads parents, bleh bleh blehh. well for me i saw an oppurtunity to get the f--uck out of bloody naija, although i was thinking it was going to be hugs and kisses with my new family. bleh bleh bleh mum got back from abroad and suggested we all relocate, i said fine- awesome, bye bye buhari. upon getting here we met my dads people; they all seemed nice and all that. most of my first cousins were in swizterland nd others. so we were basically the small boys of the new family. after one year of doing nothing at home, person start dey tire. we started calling my aunties attention for help with connections to jobs or a plan for our future. we were told to be patient but it didnt seem like anything was going to happen. so we decided to move out of the family house to our own house(because my mom was already having issues with her mother-inlaw). now nobody calls to check up on us. weve been abandoned. we are looked upon like the nobodies of the family. so bruv, this is not america were people go to see behavioral therapist or a rehabilitation group. this is f--ucking africa were your family wont give a rats ass about you if you aint gat shiit .... stay your damn lane and hold your family myfriend. trouble they sleep you watch oyinbo movie wan go disturb witches wey dey rest. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Are Some Families So Divided And What Can I Do To Unite Mine? by dododawa1: 2:54am On May 26, 2020 |
You needed MONEY |
Re: Why Are Some Families So Divided And What Can I Do To Unite Mine? by Cousin9999: 3:16am On May 26, 2020 |
Dysfunction and toxic relationships due to trauma of some sort. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Are Some Families So Divided And What Can I Do To Unite Mine? by kkins25(m): 3:16am On May 26, 2020 |
LaEvilIMiss: ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() that one no get sense. make una come sponsor me ![]() |
Re: Why Are Some Families So Divided And What Can I Do To Unite Mine? by 12345baba(m): 3:51am On May 26, 2020 |
Travel make kidnappers carry u |
Re: Why Are Some Families So Divided And What Can I Do To Unite Mine? by Cblessing(m): 4:34am On May 26, 2020 |
No truer comment has been written. It is pretty difficult to bring jealous family members together. zachanalysis: |
Re: Why Are Some Families So Divided And What Can I Do To Unite Mine? by vickydevoka(m): 4:40am On May 26, 2020 |
PuZZyNegro:Guy u be smart guy. Only u spoke de gospel truth. How can some ones first born make money at 25 n rush to Marry because he owes no body anything. Buh wen he was looking for job all members of de house join hand ...please I can't continue because something make me cry |
Re: Why Are Some Families So Divided And What Can I Do To Unite Mine? by valentinos22(m): 4:42am On May 26, 2020 |
Richy4: Yeah just like the one dat died... |
Re: Why Are Some Families So Divided And What Can I Do To Unite Mine? by canDy4eva(f): 5:27am On May 26, 2020 |
Yenefer: You may be right but I beg to differ. I differ in the sense that most parents get it all wrong and are making it look like the theories invented by human can go a long way in telling how we live our lives. A theory would work on you when you throw away CORE VALUES! Values that has been from the foundation of the earth and originated by GOD HIMSELF! Until we accept individually that family is more important than even making money, we would be making a very big mistake. Personally I love my family and no matter where I am and live I ensure I get connected with them and same goes to others. The truth is that the invent of the internet, phones and social media has been abused rather than been used to bond families no mater the difference and distances between. My uncle's second son created a family WhatsApp group and it's been of great help. All my siblings and cousins are in it. We check on each other almost every day. We post pictures of our kids, birthdays, weddings, events etc and it's been great. My siblings and I also created our own different WhatsApp group that includes our Dad and Mom and we chat everyday, post different activities of the day and it's been great too. My mum prays for us there, my dad advices us there and a whole lot. In my family we believe family is ALL and it's been beautiful even though we all live in different part of the world. And again, we call each other almost all the time via audio or video. My kids know most of my cousins not to mention my siblings even though they've never meet just because we call and video call each other MY FAMILY ROCKS. It's been a generational thing and will also pass it down to my kids and grandkids by God's grace 3 Likes |
Re: Why Are Some Families So Divided And What Can I Do To Unite Mine? by joyandfaith: 5:31am On May 26, 2020 |
PowerOfLove: As long as there is no fighting in your family, you are united . Members of family can visit one another or exchange greetings through video calls or sending gifts. The practice of extended family yearly or periodical meeting is become old-fashioned . Most people are busy with many activities. Members of family are living far apart unlike in the past. Bad roads and insecurity also discourage people from travelling for social reasons. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Are Some Families So Divided And What Can I Do To Unite Mine? by canDy4eva(f): 5:31am On May 26, 2020 |
Hathor5: Nice one... Keep it up! 1 Like |
Re: Why Are Some Families So Divided And What Can I Do To Unite Mine? by canDy4eva(f): 5:32am On May 26, 2020 |
FlordFlorez: Nice one... |
Re: Why Are Some Families So Divided And What Can I Do To Unite Mine? by Ojady(m): 5:33am On May 26, 2020 |
Sho! See question!? Get rich! Oga, get rich! When you are rich, throw a Christmas party, birthday and invite the ones you get along with FIRST, no mention of reunion or family things - just plain simple fun...keep things up and in time, some will fall in, others will not - nothing you can do about that... Ironically, those who ask or want to do such things you re thinking of, are not the wealthy members of the family... |
Re: Why Are Some Families So Divided And What Can I Do To Unite Mine? by canDy4eva(f): 5:33am On May 26, 2020 |
oluplus: Well said... |
Re: Why Are Some Families So Divided And What Can I Do To Unite Mine? by canDy4eva(f): 5:37am On May 26, 2020 |
sassysure: Thank you so much... God bless you too... It really has NOTHING TO DO WITH MONEY! |
Re: Why Are Some Families So Divided And What Can I Do To Unite Mine? by canDy4eva(f): 5:38am On May 26, 2020 |
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Re: Why Are Some Families So Divided And What Can I Do To Unite Mine? by canDy4eva(f): 5:43am On May 26, 2020 |
JourneytoEL: Great suggestion.... |
Re: Why Are Some Families So Divided And What Can I Do To Unite Mine? by canDy4eva(f): 5:46am On May 26, 2020 |
akaahs: God bless you... |
Re: Why Are Some Families So Divided And What Can I Do To Unite Mine? by Bluntemperor: 6:06am On May 26, 2020 |
dawnomike: That fast pace is the destroyer of the foundation and fundamentals that the world is built.Home training is lost,respect for elders is gone to the wind,young ones queries their parents rationale with impunity. we rushed in to eat,rushed out to beat traffics that is uncontrollable,yet we abandoned the life of our loved ones to baby seaters, then rushed home to sleep and wake up.indeed,we are building a society.above we leave God behind claiming we are wise. This world is unsustainable! |
Re: Why Are Some Families So Divided And What Can I Do To Unite Mine? by demoBaba: 6:13am On May 26, 2020 |
That's it, I've try that and it worked out for good our Daddy die 13 years ago, I organized prayer for our Daddy once in a year which is second day after ileya festival, and everybody must come with their children, I singlehandedly financial it for good four years, send money to anyone that complain about transportation, then I kill ram for prayer also provide drinks we also called our friends to celebrate with us. we used that avenue to discuss family issues and anyone that need help we provide for him we're all guys no woman among us. Also our children will meet themselves, today everybody knows that date as very important. 1 Like |
Re: Why Are Some Families So Divided And What Can I Do To Unite Mine? by golddare: 6:15am On May 26, 2020 |
Niebuhr's prayer God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference. You are worrying about things you cannot change, dont forget family differs, many are even hiding there heads. More so, the world has moved from that old communal lifestyles to individuality, thanks to dispersion through occupation, marriages etc. However, technology has solved this problems, with an app like WhatsApp you can create a family group, celebrate birthdays of one another etc, you can even make life meeting conference with apps like zoom, Google. Finally, do not forget to recognize and respect privacy. |
Re: Why Are Some Families So Divided And What Can I Do To Unite Mine? by Tayor23(m): 6:16am On May 26, 2020 |
PowerOfLove:first create a family what sap group and start from there. |
Re: Why Are Some Families So Divided And What Can I Do To Unite Mine? by innobarca(m): 6:17am On May 26, 2020 |
LaEvilIMiss: The problem is if the poor person finally makes it without the help of his or her rich siblings. That's how it starts, he or she will forever see other family members as devil. |
Re: Why Are Some Families So Divided And What Can I Do To Unite Mine? by Chochovini: 6:39am On May 26, 2020 |
GboyegaD:. POLYGAMOUS Families are the worst case scenarios for this. Talking experiencially. 1 Like |
Re: Why Are Some Families So Divided And What Can I Do To Unite Mine? by Drizzy5001(m): 6:43am On May 26, 2020 |
There are some of my cousins , I don't that exist sef, and they don't even know me sef , we only meet on Facebook ![]() |
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