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My Family Is Discouraging Me From Moving To UK by wale377(m): 11:29pm On May 26, 2020 |
My fellow Nairalander, I greet you o... my family and I decided to speak about our future plans today o(mum and elder brother). My people already know that I don’t wanna stay in this country after I graduate. The good thing is they are willing to let me go but at the same time, they are discouraging me from going. Here are the reasons for thier discouragement 1) there is no job there: well, my dad happened to school in the uk so he use to Tell us about his own experience how he hustled to get just ordinary student job. Although after his studies he cameback to Nigeria to start his career in Civil engineering. He also said that immediately you graduate from the Sch that it would be difficult to get job there 2) High standard of living: They said that the UK is really expensive. The brought up the idea of rent, water, electricity bill, tax etc sha 3) Nigeria is my fatherland: ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() This are the major reason they stated Now my point is that I cannot even stay here because my 2 core strength is in Computer network security and Sports and we are very weak in this aspect in Nigeria I remembered doing my IT in ministry of sci and technology, alausa and it got to a point I was wondering WHAT AM I DOING WITH MY LIFE HERE. I was paid #2000 per month as an IT student ![]() ![]() My elder brother says he doesn’t want to leave naija cos of his area of study is quite relevant here in Nigeria (civil engineering) I agree with him tho but .... My people, if you were in my shoes would you JAPA? I need you guys advise But me sha I have weighed my options and made my decision... I will japa... regardless what they tell me
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Re: My Family Is Discouraging Me From Moving To UK by wale377(m): 11:36pm On May 26, 2020 |
The also said that it’s people who haven’t travelled outside to the western world that are insisting that dey want to leave Nigeria without knowing how life is over there 1 Like |
Re: My Family Is Discouraging Me From Moving To UK by DanseMacabre(m): 11:44pm On May 26, 2020 |
My brother except you lack the wherewithal for such. If your family cannot actively restrain you by maybe withholding financial assistance, but can only verbally 'discourage' you and you still are considering whether to go or stay, you're on a long thing. You better leave while you still can. Disclaimer---Ignore this if your family is extremely well to do. 2 Likes |
Re: My Family Is Discouraging Me From Moving To UK by tensazangetsu20(m): 11:45pm On May 26, 2020 |
Get a work permit first and then make this thread again? It's not as if you could work into the embassy and get a visa immediately. 1 Like |
Re: My Family Is Discouraging Me From Moving To UK by chatinent: 11:58pm On May 26, 2020 |
It's not discouragement, son. It's cost. 3 Likes |
Re: My Family Is Discouraging Me From Moving To UK by wale377(m): 12:01am On May 27, 2020 |
tensazangetsu20: Like I’ll go there for masters... then move on .... you get |
Re: My Family Is Discouraging Me From Moving To UK by wale377(m): 12:03am On May 27, 2020 |
DanseMacabre: Thanks for the advise mehn |
Re: My Family Is Discouraging Me From Moving To UK by tensazangetsu20(m): 12:06am On May 27, 2020 |
wale377:What are you waiting for? No think twice o especially as they have relaxed their immigration policies for students. 1 Like |
Re: My Family Is Discouraging Me From Moving To UK by wale377(m): 12:16am On May 27, 2020 |
tensazangetsu20: Thanks for your advice bro ..... I appreciate |
Re: My Family Is Discouraging Me From Moving To UK by hakeem4(m): 8:19am On May 27, 2020 |
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Re: My Family Is Discouraging Me From Moving To UK by Nobody: 8:31am On May 27, 2020 |
Even if it's rains fire over there I will still JP Wanna see everything there with my eyes ![]() 1 Like |
Re: My Family Is Discouraging Me From Moving To UK by Nobody: 8:32am On May 27, 2020 |
Avoid uk. Na security guard you go use your 2 year post graduate stay do. Beware 6 Likes |
Re: My Family Is Discouraging Me From Moving To UK by nowpresence(f): 2:36pm On May 27, 2020 |
wale377:do you have any security cert? |
Re: My Family Is Discouraging Me From Moving To UK by oludanobi: 3:50pm On May 27, 2020 |
What do you want for yourself and what is the plan ? It seems like a simple enough question but it is really important. I find if you have no idea what you want to do it becomes easier for people to push you about. Your dad is right it was really difficult during his time but we have since made progress , an MSc in the UK would get you a post study visa , it's valid for 2 years which gives you the opportunity to get a job and some experience. Note that it is not a walk in the park to get a job o and as someone said here you could end up being a security guard after your Masters. I remember a friend of mine making fun of me when I got my first office job in the UK , he was making more than me in the care sector . I stopped talking to him , in a few years I was making in 1 day what he was making in a month , he is still in the care sector ( no disrespect to care workers or security guards ). Maybe I just got lucky , you could be lucky too but you will work for it o. Networking is a not a bad career path , use your time in Naija to get certified and learn as much as possible , if that 2k a month job gives you the right experience please go for it . In summary please have a plan , do your research and put your work where your mind is � 3 Likes |
Re: My Family Is Discouraging Me From Moving To UK by Eaztzide: 3:59pm On May 27, 2020 |
Same people that will be the ones that will be asking you to send pounds when you get there. Sometimes, even your immediate family could be the ones trying to hinder you. My advice: travel there or wherever you want to go no matter what people say. You'll live your life being grateful for this decision you'll make. 1 Like |
Re: My Family Is Discouraging Me From Moving To UK by dustydee: 4:06pm On May 27, 2020 |
wale377:I guess you mean high COST of living. High standard of living isn't a problem but high cost of living. The cost if living in the UK is quite high but you can live well if you have a decent job and watch your expenses. |
Re: My Family Is Discouraging Me From Moving To UK by wale377(m): 4:50pm On May 27, 2020 |
nowpresence:Neh...... I was about to write the exams before they closed cos of covid.... so hopefully I’ll get it this year |
Re: My Family Is Discouraging Me From Moving To UK by wale377(m): 4:52pm On May 27, 2020 |
oludanobi: Thanks very much..... |
Re: My Family Is Discouraging Me From Moving To UK by GboyegaD(m): 5:14pm On May 27, 2020 |
This is your choice to make and anyone can give you million reasons why you should put shouldn't. Think through all they have said and your own goal and make your decision. The success it otherwise of your decision is your cross to bare. 1 Like |
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