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Marriage: Before And After by Dyt(f): 9:17am On May 28, 2020 |
What is Before, In Between and After? Yeah we all know marriage is an institution between 2 persons with the aim to have offspring and companionship, but is this all we see and make of it? I am a person that believes in relationship/marriage and tries to go far in making it work well except when it starts to affect my mental health (i cant go mad all in the name of i want it to work) Some say marriage is easy while some say its a hard work, we all have different opinions.. I for one been married before, it didnt work not because i couldnt try but (my choice anyway) I am considering going into another and all the things that we do that counts now may not in few years, I mean the sexiness, the kamasutra and all, well ofcourse i am not just gonna be offering just sex, we both got more to keep us going for a 100years to come (my favourite part is the friendship and companionship)... I am scared sometimes waking up to him every other day and same way it excites me ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() How has it been with those married for 5years and counting? the joy, feeling, the tears, the arguments, the sex, I mean all of it.... 36 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by liberalchick(f): 9:38am On May 28, 2020 |
An ‘easy’ marriage is not common even for those in-love. Sometimes I think the concept of marriage is unnatural but necessary. If I am single again (knock on wood) in the future, I wouldn’t want to get married again. Some marriages have its ebbs and flows. The first two years can be difficult for obvious reasons. Then marriage challenges in year 8 (that’s generally the time some marriages hit a wall). DH and I are in cruise control now, children are getting older, careers are taking off with more responsibilities. They say if you make it past year 7-8 unscathed, you are good. Modified. 114 Likes 10 Shares |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by Nobody: 9:38am On May 28, 2020 |
My sister, I thought it was only me that is feeling this way. My worry now is, after marriage, how can I just automatically stop admiring fine asxs and buubs. I can’t see that happening. It’s a future impossible occurrence. ![]() 24 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by Nobody: 9:41am On May 28, 2020 |
liberalchick:i don’t know why you people are making marriage sound like it’s a war zone. You married the wrong person no doubt. We all get to find out after marriage. Here’s the truth of the matter, it’s either you married the wrong person or YOU ARE THE WRONG PERSON. ![]() 295 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by Righteousness89(m): 9:42am On May 28, 2020 |
The Simplest way to a Successful Home/Marriage is not to Marry Just by Sight or feelings. It is not Enough ! My Advice to anyone is to seek to Hear from GOD for Direction . It saves you from a Whole lot of Stress and Struggles. I also advice people not to seek GOD with someone in Mind.. Seek For His Choice with an open heart.. Every Man /woman has a designed Perfect better half. But Many of us are either in a Rush or filled with obsessions and infatuations, so we don't hear or see GOD'S Choice.. Secondly, No Matter The Lecture or Marriage seminar you attend before Marriage, if you Don't Follow the GOD Prescribed Principle for Marriage, it will Be Struggle and stress all the way. What is GOD'S Prescribed Principle for a Happy Home? Ephesians 5:22-25 22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. 25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; It's a 2 way thing for both the Man and The Woman... If you look at the World, it is this principle the devil has used to Destroy and Shatter homes. The devil Understands the Power and Strength in 2people coming together, so he attacks it with so Many names e.g. Feminist, Equal right, etc.. devil is a very smart guy and he devices various smart means that look good to the eye. All to ensure that Marriages do not Work. Lastly , I do not Believe in Marry, Divorce/Sepration and Marry again.. I Believe that if it is comes to a point where you come to divorce, then you should Not Remarry Except at the death of your Spouse As that is what My Bible says.. Another Exception is a case where you are not the First Wife or Husband of the Person.. May GOD ALMIGHTY Help us to be Paitent Enough to Hear his Choice for us in JESUS NAME.. 222 Likes 22 Shares |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by Hathor5(f): 9:47am On May 28, 2020 |
My sister from the food family was married before and is about to be married again? See this girl living her life the way she wants. ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by liberalchick(f): 9:47am On May 28, 2020 |
Carchoice:No, I didn’t marry the wrong person. I am just being realistic, living with someone for the rest of your life will not always be romantic and easy. There are different stages in marriages where it’s excellent, good, bad, sometimes ugly and then neutral. Also, when people say their marriage is easy, sometimes it’s one sided, they are probably oblivious of their partner’s sacrifice to make the marriage an easy one for them. 241 Likes 16 Shares |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by Dyt(f): 9:55am On May 28, 2020 |
Hathor5: Don't make me laugh harder I am in class pls Before my students start to get worried ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by Nobody: 9:55am On May 28, 2020 |
liberalchick:true though. For me I hate stress. Don’t stress my life. I can arrange for her kidnap if she tries to stress me but that is not happening because I don’t mind adopting a baby girl at the right time. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by Hathor5(f): 9:56am On May 28, 2020 |
Dyt: They are not worried by now? ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by Dyt(f): 9:56am On May 28, 2020 |
liberalchick: Compromise comes to play here But how easy is it to compromise Humans are selfish you know 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by Dyt(f): 9:57am On May 28, 2020 |
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Re: Marriage: Before And After by Dyt(f): 9:58am On May 28, 2020 |
Carchoice: Lmao at kidnap ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by Hathor5(f): 9:58am On May 28, 2020 |
Dyt: Teacher is very ok. ![]() Wish I had a teacher like you back in the day. ![]() |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by Dyt(f): 10:00am On May 28, 2020 |
Hathor5: I really do wish every child has me as a teacher Every man as a partner Every mother as a daughter Every brother as a sister I am God's very own Thanks for your kind words ![]() ![]() 44 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by Hathor5(f): 10:02am On May 28, 2020 |
Dyt: See love of self. You should be teaching self-love. ![]() Girl, you rock! I love it when women are full of themselves. ![]() ![]() Thanks for making me smile. ![]() 24 Likes |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by Nobody: 10:07am On May 28, 2020 |
Dyt: In class under this COVID situation? Where's that? 3 Likes |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by Dyt(f): 10:07am On May 28, 2020 |
Hathor5: You probably wouldn't have met a better narcissist ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Don't get me started 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by babythug(f): 10:12am On May 28, 2020 |
RE: How has it been with those married for 5years and counting? the joy, feeling, the tears, the arguments, the sex, I mean all of it....“ I’ve not been too lucky so far! Many dashed expectations and turbulent times through the marriage and even though now we are on a somewhat cruise control I can’t say I feel joy or peace at being here. There are children and financials to consider hence why I’ve not moved on as it were! But now I feel marriage is a game of chance and what you see is literally what you get. Some are able to get it right with a few tweaks here and there but for some Despite best efforts it just won’t work. For anyone looking to delve in , I’d just say give it your best shot and what will be will be ! 30 Likes |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by Dyt(f): 10:33am On May 28, 2020 |
babythug: I keep this in mind The last line 5 Likes |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by Dyt(f): 10:34am On May 28, 2020 |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by Dyt(f): 10:35am On May 28, 2020 |
Plead: God shouldn't be an exemption my dear Plead ![]() ![]() 9 Likes |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by crackkhaus: 10:47am On May 28, 2020 |
One would assume that being married before would have provided some kind of perspective and realistic expectations about what the next one will be like. Or did the previous one last only two months? ![]() 51 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by Nobody: 10:47am On May 28, 2020 |
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Re: Marriage: Before And After by Dyt(f): 10:50am On May 28, 2020 |
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Re: Marriage: Before And After by Dyt(f): 10:51am On May 28, 2020 |
crackkhaus: Sometimes we all need sense Don't you think you need more? 18 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by Nobody: 10:51am On May 28, 2020 |
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Re: Marriage: Before And After by cococandy(f): 10:54am On May 28, 2020 |
Married for 6 years going on 7. I must tell you that the timeline people prescribe for certain things is often not the same for everyone. So the peak of your romance may not be when you expect it. Your difficult times may not be a the very beginning. Etc What surprised me most is the inevitable fights you’re told that you’re supposed to be having. That may never happen depending on your temperament. So you may find yourself having dull boring disagreements that you won’t even know when it’s over. But nothing explosive that requires hot make up s*x like the romance books describe ![]() Dyt: 32 Likes |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by Dyt(f): 10:57am On May 28, 2020 |
cococandy: The sex part We get old Tired and can't learn new things How do we keep it going considering how it was when we started? 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by Dyt(f): 10:58am On May 28, 2020 |
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