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Re: Marriage: Before And After by Liposure: 4:18pm On May 28, 2020 |
Ingriid:God, give me sumbody like ingrid |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by duality(m): 4:27pm On May 28, 2020 |
Righteousness89: So those who succumbed to the challenges, never heard from God? 1 Like |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by UjuJoan2: 4:28pm On May 28, 2020 |
crackkhaus: I'm just saying what I feel sometimes, what's so terrible about that? 3 Likes |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by Liposure: 4:29pm On May 28, 2020 |
canDy4eva:u hav no right 2 call him a fool. Dats his opinion. am a xtian too |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by UjuJoan2: 4:30pm On May 28, 2020 |
FGonline: I would have been a divorcee by now, no doubt! 5 Likes |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by duality(m): 4:38pm On May 28, 2020 |
bethyz: Have you considered that people's preference do change? How are you sure you will keep loving what you claim to like about a person in future. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by FatCock: 4:38pm On May 28, 2020 |
Idyat... |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by Liposure: 4:38pm On May 28, 2020 |
Marriage itself is against human nature. How can u stick with one person forever |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by Dyt(f): 4:39pm On May 28, 2020 |
FatCock: |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by Chiebunigom1(f): 4:40pm On May 28, 2020 |
zeb04: Nawaoo ,see how you just described both my early marriage expectations and present situation. Looks like we both married two different men but with the same personality The church going part got me laughing, seriously I only realized that it is some sort of family bonding time for my husband about two years ago. He may not be religious, but he is Godly. This year is our 10th year anniversary. 4 Likes |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by chlowi(f): 4:43pm On May 28, 2020 |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by Righteousness89(m): 4:44pm On May 28, 2020 |
duality: Nobody will Naturally Succum ! There is what u enjoy when you go by Divine Direction... You can't even Explain it! But you see it ! 3 Likes |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by shakespere: 4:51pm On May 28, 2020 |
I have been married for 14+ years and would like to share the following without long epistel. I am very happy in my marriage, the danger is your response during the low season. - Listen to your spouse, it's not about you alone, even if they sound unreasonable. Negotiate with fun - During fights or disagreement watch what you say, it is never forgotten. Avoid roforofo fight, you are family - Temperament and communication is key. I am tired, sorry I don't feel like talking, do you mind if I sleep early? Show care. Bad day at work, remove it before you get home and communicate it to your partner so he leaves you alone or can understand if you snap. - Always ask yourself will I like this? - Turn arguments to joke: If my wife say something's I just say, I be your mate? I no get power for fight this night, I don declare you winner, I no you sturbborn pass me, ok no vex my wife, e be like your eye de shook this night make I leave you. - Accept changes. wife may not be very experimental again, negotiate once in a while make extra effort to get her aroused. She probably have peaked and the man is still peaking. A certain day I went to a concert with my wife (2 face, davido, asa, KSA, etc) middle of it she says, what am I doing here, mother of 3, out by past 11pm thinking about her children instead of fun. Outing like bar etc, does not enjoy it again, the younger girls in skimpgy get disapproving looks and caution my spending infront my friends, so I try to find a reason to go with my friends n bring her package home. Bottom line, respect, care, patience, help tour wife (kitchen, career etc) , apologies even when wrong for peace n peace of mind, listen, be truthful, earn her trust, angry? call her inside n tell her your mind, no de shout, you de yeye yourself, remove third parties, you are both adults, manage your affairs. Finance, no hide, show her and this is what you want to spend. And pray. Even the maddest woman go calm, if you no wan fight. 19 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by WudBMother: 4:53pm On May 28, 2020 |
15years by November. It requires work. Just make up your mind that is for life. You and your spouse will change. Change with change. For instance I was very slim, now I look pregnant. Hubby also has a pouch. I loved traveling now a home body. Plenty sex vs whenever. I used to call a lot whenever we are apart, now I can go a full day without any contact and I am not worried because I know who I am with. So long there is no abuse, work with God and flow along. Communication and trust is key. Every marriage is different, pay attention and find what works for you. Love is not enough. Commitment is key. Even when you heard from God, if you don't work on it, the marriage can fail. You will argue, have shouting matches, not agree on every decision, there will be challenges, there will be poke nosing from external parties , but if you have it at the back of your mind that this a union for life you will prevail. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by franugo(m): 5:00pm On May 28, 2020 |
Hathor5: What was wrong with the one you had? |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by Ryocaj(m): 5:03pm On May 28, 2020 |
It will end in tears |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by KoolBigk(m): 5:04pm On May 28, 2020 |
Marriage is sweet when you marry a reasonable partner who is always there for you, come rain, come sun shine! I have been married for over 5 years with kids & still balling, looking forward to many more years with my partner. Life itself isn't bed of roses , but what you make out of every situations' matters a lot. Yes, we disagree & argue at times but we never allowed all that to change or define us! I tell the young folks, it's best to fall in love with both of your head/sense & heart. Sadly, most people fall in love today with just their heart. So, When your heart is leading you south 'cos you blinded with love, your head can call you back home. Have it in mind, love alone is not sufficient to make marriage works. There many other essential factors aside love like compatibility, truthfulness, compassionate, compromising & the likes. Above all the fear of God. I see based on your write up, your are having this "fear of unknown" of what might happen between you two in the nearest future. I will say focus on the bright-side. Remember, Today is the tomorrow we worried about yesterday. Dyt: 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by Dyt(f): 5:24pm On May 28, 2020 |
KoolBigk: Thanks for sharing I will also keep in mind the last paragraph Ire ooo 1 Like |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by ramatintin(m): 5:25pm On May 28, 2020 |
sisisioge:This marry your bestie crap, that's not a guarantee your marriage will last. 3 Likes |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by Hathor5(f): 5:33pm On May 28, 2020 |
franugo: Nothing. I had many great teachers. I am most grateful to them. |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by Hathor5(f): 5:35pm On May 28, 2020 |
See thread opened from a positive place. This is how it is done. 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by cutechioma1: 5:36pm On May 28, 2020 |
I think the expectations of life can be hard on a marriage. Thought I married my best friend, until we actually got married and he changed. Always hooking up with his exs, finds it hard staying at home, drinks a lot. He told me on our wedding night that he never thought he will marry a girl like me( meaning he could have done better). Our marriage has never been the same since then. He claims its because he has not been stable financially and I'm always the one paying the bills. I have not complained cos I know how much he hustling. Now 8 years and I'm thinking of calling it quits. I'm always feeling sad, depressed and resentment. 9 Likes |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by canDy4eva(f): 5:37pm On May 28, 2020 |
Liposure: Hello... I never called him a fool! I only quoted a part of the Bible. If it fits his description, then SO BE IT! AM A CHRISTIAN TOO. 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by Rahym001(m): 5:37pm On May 28, 2020 |
Dyt:na question d person ask. being married for 6yrs & counting with marriage comes experience |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by Dyt(f): 5:39pm On May 28, 2020 |
cutechioma1: I feel it's kinda hard for you sharing this But I keen on knowing how YOU have been able to manage your mental health 1 Like |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by Dyt(f): 5:40pm On May 28, 2020 |
Rahym001: Please choose to answer with your experience We are waiting 1 Like |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by canDy4eva(f): 5:44pm On May 28, 2020 |
Liposure: Like a prodigal son, freewill has doomed so many and is still destroying many. If God in his infinite mercy has gifted us with freewill, WHY NOT CHOOSE WISELY! My Bible tells me that MARRIAGE IS HONORABLE WITH THE BED UNDEFILED. PREMARITAL SEX IS AND WILL CONTINUE TO BE A SIN. I DON'T CARE HOW THE WORLD SEES IT! THE WORD OF CHRIST IS MY STANDARD. 6 Likes |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by canDy4eva(f): 5:47pm On May 28, 2020 |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by Liposure: 5:47pm On May 28, 2020 |
canDy4eva:alrite. Take care |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by Liposure: 5:52pm On May 28, 2020 |
canDy4eva:if its a sin, why do we develop sex hormones so early. |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by oxiide22(m): 5:53pm On May 28, 2020 |
Nnaabros:this is a fat lie from her hahahha 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by 001Usuf(m): 5:59pm On May 28, 2020 |
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