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MADAM YOU'RE MISUNDERSTANDING YOURSELF. YOU HAVE NOTHING REASONABLE TO SAY.

YOU'RE JUST LIKE MOST WOMEN WHO WANT TO BE KIDS FOREVER.
TAKE CARE OF ME. PAMPER ME. SPEND ON ME EVEN THOUGH I EARN MORE MONEY THAN YOU. AND ONCE I FIND YOU INSUFFICIENT, I LOOK FOR OTHER MEN TO BE RESPONSIBLE FOR ME AS AN ADULT.

THAT'S THE SUMMARY OF WHAT YOU'RE SAYING AND YOU HAVE NO REASONABLE POINTS TO PROVE.

MJBOLT:

that lady is a perfect example of your money is our money but my money is my money,evil creature

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THE WORST PART IS THAT THESE THIEVES ARE NEVER SATISFIED. THEY BRING NOTHING ON BOARD AND WOULD CONSTANTLY THREATEN TO LEAVE YOU AND GO LOOK FOR SOMEONE ELSE TO BE PARASITES TO. THIS MAKES MANY MEN SLAVE TO DEATH TRYING TO SATISFY SUCH WOMEN AND PREVENT THEM FROM LEAVING, BUT IT NEVER WORKS.GIVE HER YOUR KIDNEYS AND LUNGS TODAY AND SHE GOES OFF WITH THE MAN WHO BUYS HER MEATPIE TOMORROW.

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MADAM YOU'RE MISUNDERSTANDING YOURSELF. YOU HAVE NOTHING REASONABLE TO SAY.

YOU'RE JUST LIKE MOST WOMEN WHO WANT TO BE KIDS FOREVER.
TAKE CARE OF ME. PAMPER ME. SPEND ON ME EVEN THOUGH I EARN MORE MONEY THAN YOU. AND ONCE I FIND YOU INSUFFICIENT, I LOOK FOR OTHER MEN TO BE RESPONSIBLE FOR ME AS AN ADULT.

THAT'S THE SUMMARY OF WHAT YOU'RE SAYING AND YOU HAVE NO REASONABLE POINTS TO PROVE.

MrBrownJay1:


but thats exactly what you are saying: "you want a man to take care of you while you submit and nurture" so how can a man take care of you without MONEY?? do you even imagine what you are saying?!?!?! i wouldnt even wish the above on my neighbors dog.

i think the above is a failed mindset to teach anyone (especially your kids) as it A) put women as a 2nd class citizen in marriage and B) allow women all over the world to be treated like garbage (because of money). but the most important part is C) yes, there cant be two cooks in one kitchen but that doesnt mean you should therefore be voiceless/invisible and obedient like a good pet....and the only way to not be treated like house furniture, is to bring your own share to the table and work just as hard for the family wellbeing as daddy (raising kids is indeed a tough job but as soon as kids are over 3yrs old, you best get back to work as you are not needed all day long at home any longer).

HeavenlyCherub:


Ok if you say so. Just remember no woman can respect a man who doesn’t make an effort to provide no matter how small. You are very wrong about me I’ve actually dated 2 poor guys before but I won’t ever again as they usually want to be saved, blame you for their state then say you’re controlling. No reasonable man will be comfortable with their wife being the breadwinner. Honestly I wouldn’t want my husband to have less money than me, guys like that tend to be insecure

ALL THESE IS NOT MY BUSINESS.

I'VE NEVER BEEN WITH A WOMAN WHO DOESN'T WANT TO PUT IN EFFORTS NO MATTER HOW SMALL. ONCE WE START TO ROLL AND I NOTICE STUPID TENDENCIES I BACK DOWN. I'VE MET REALLY GREAT WOMEN WHO PAY FOR DATES AND DON'T MIND SPENDING THEIR MONEY ONCE THEY HAVE IT. WAY BACK I USED TO GET CREDIT ALERT FROM PARTNERS AS GIFTS.. IF SHE'S STIFF WITH MONEY I DISAPPEAR. IF SHE'S ENTITLED I DISAPPEAR. IF SHE DEMANDS FOR STUPID THINGS I DISAPPEAR. I KNOW MY RESPONSIBILITIES AND NEVER SLACK ON MY ROLES BUT YOU HAVE TO PLAY SEVERAL ROLES TOO, OTHERWISE I'LL DISAPPEAR... AND I RUN FASTER THAN USAIN BOLT.

HeavenlyCherub:
I didn’t say that’s all I will do. This 50/50 you men want to do just won’t work. It all comes down to the way you were raised. I will assist my man within reason but I refuse to be the bread winner of my home. The man of the household must be able to make me secure. If I lost my job would he still be able to sustain us?

HeavenlyCherub:
Ok if you say so. Just remember no woman can respect a man who doesn’t make an effort to provide no matter how small. You are very wrong about me I’ve actually dated 2 poor guys before but I won’t ever again as they usually want to be saved, blame you for their state then say you’re controlling. No reasonable man will be comfortable with their wife being the breadwinner. Honestly I wouldn’t want my husband to have less money than me, guys like that tend to be insecure

MrBrownJay1:

the breadwinner is the person who puts up most of the money for the family, because they have the means to do so, but it certainly does not discredit you from bringing your share to the table. let me guess?! you make 10K monthly, your husband makes 50K, suddenly you get a new job and now make 100K monthly, you would still expect husband to foot all the family bills (while you use your own money for Brazilian wigs and new shoes/handbags), abi?!?!

Positivechick:
LOl there is a difference between, instagram men , Facebook men , Twitter men and nairaland men . Ladies pick wisely . Broke girls will keep marrying rich billionaires, na only mouth nairaland men get ,in the real world , they are ashamed of themselves. Just imagine someone saying I am a red piller in real life , or can they boldly condemn men who actually take good care of their women ? Only on nairaland will u see a guy trying to abuse a man who publicly say , I take care of my woman like a queen , But u dare not in real life !! Shame No go let you .

Most Men will continue to be the provider for their women . They can’t change nothing

Stop lying to yourself .....

MrBrownJay1:


yes many African men have misplaced ego but should that change the issue at hand? if these men treated you like that then solely blame THESE MEN and certainly dont change your state of mind. whats next? i dated two babes that turned out to be oloshos so now i should treat all women like oloshos?!

MrBrownJay1:


there is a huge difference between feeling secure in your family (which everyone desire, men included) AND be the breadwinner of the family. now, any smart person would focus their energy/money on "the family" (which is what is the most important here), while you are here focusing on YOURSELF.

the breadwinner is the person who puts up most of the money for the family, because they have the means to do so, but it certainly does not discredit you from bringing your share to the table. let me guess?! you make 10K monthly, your husband makes 50K, suddenly you get a new job and now make 100K monthly, you would still expect husband to foot all the family bills (while you use your own money for Brazilian wigs and new shoes/handbags), abi?!?!

if the so called breadwinner loses his job, will you now reject the family because you dont want to use your own money for "the family"?
if you believe "your" money should not contribute to the wellbeing of the family, then i suggest you stay single, since you think and act like a single person

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THIS IS THE DEAD MENTALITY THAT MAKES NO SENSE TO ME.
I HAVE RECEIVED COMPLAINTS FROM MALE NYSC MEMBERS ABOUT THEIR RELATIONSHIPS WITH THEIR COLLEAGUES. THE PROBLEM ALWAYS CENTER AROUND MONEY.. AND IT GOES LIKE THIS.
2 PEOPLE EARN 19,800 MONTHLY.
FROM THAT SUM, "HE" GIVES "HER" MONEY FOR FOOD. MONEY FOR HAIR AND UPKEEP. AND ALSO TAKES HER OUT ONCE IN A WHILE. WHENEVER HE RELENTS ON ANY OF THESE "RESPONSIBILITIES" HE FACES PROTESTS AND IS NAMED THE GUY WHO IS FAILING TO CARTER FOR HIS GIRLFRIEND. HE SPENDS ALL HIS MONEY ON HER. HE HAS JUST TWO JEANS AND TWO SHIRTS OUTSIDE HIS NYSC UNIFORM. SHE USES HER OWN MONEY PLUS HIS TO DRESS WELL AND SECURE MORE ATTENTION FROM RANDOM MEN ONLINE.

THIS IS USUALLY A CASE THAT MANY FORMER AND SERVING CORPS MEMBERS CAN TESTIFY TO. EVEN WHEN SHE'S COLLECTING 100K MONTHLY AS SALARY THE MAN EARNING 10K HAS TO PROVIDE FOR HER.

MEN JUST IMPOSE CERTAIN RESPONSIBILITIES ON THEMSELVES. I'M NOT AGAINST ANYBODY LIVING HOW THEY WANT, BUT IF YOU'RE BROKE AND YOU'RE TRYING TO PLAY DAVIDO TO YOUR CHIOMA THEN I'M SORRY FOR YOU. IF YOU DON'T ESTABLISH YOURSELF... AN ESTABLISHED MAN WILL FALL FOR THE PRETTY DRESSES AND HAIR YOU PAID FOR, AND COLLECT YOUR GIRL FROM YOU. END OF STORY.

HeavenlyCherub:
I’m not saying I won’t contribute. I will contribute only 30% to our household and help if there’s emergency. I will let the man be a man. I just don’t want to a man who wants to be a man in the bedroom, a man when it comes to showing authority when he can’t be a man in our finances. To each his own. God gave us all free will to choose. Just like I won’t criticize your opinion because only you will live your life I don’t expect you to criticize mine. I will assist my husband within reason. Nothing more and nothing less

HeavenlyCherub:
No that’s not what I’m saying. I’m just not ever going to date a poor man ever again. It’s just not for me. When I dated them it was for love, but honestly I don’t believe in love anymore. When I date now I look out for compatibility first and someone who withholds my same values on marriage. Should I pick a spouse I will pick one who stays in the marriage not necessarily for love but one who honors the commitment we made before God and wants to fulfil the promise. Love and lust fade but common understanding in God and your vows withhold the test of time.

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THIS IS THE DEAD MENTALITY THAT MAKES NO SENSE TO ME.
I HAVE RECEIVED COMPLAINTS FROM MALE NYSC MEMBERS ABOUT THEIR RELATIONSHIPS WITH THEIR COLLEAGUES. THE PROBLEM ALWAYS CENTER AROUND MONEY.. AND IT GOES LIKE THIS.
2 PEOPLE EARN 19,800 MONTHLY.
FROM THAT SUM, "HE" GIVES "HER" MONEY FOR FOOD. MONEY FOR HAIR AND UPKEEP. AND ALSO TAKES HER OUT ONCE IN A WHILE. WHENEVER HE RELENTS ON ANY OF THESE "RESPONSIBILITIES" HE FACES PROTESTS AND IS NAMED THE GUY WHO IS FAILING TO CARTER FOR HIS GIRLFRIEND. HE SPENDS ALL HIS MONEY ON HER. HE HAS JUST TWO JEANS AND TWO SHIRTS OUTSIDE HIS NYSC UNIFORM. SHE USES HER OWN MONEY PLUS HIS TO DRESS WELL AND SECURE MORE ATTENTION FROM RANDOM MEN ONLINE.

THIS IS USUALLY A CASE THAT MANY FORMER AND SERVING CORPS MEMBERS CAN TESTIFY TO. EVEN WHEN SHE'S COLLECTING 100K MONTHLY AS SALARY THE MAN EARNING 10K HAS TO PROVIDE FOR HER.

MEN JUST IMPOSE CERTAIN RESPONSIBILITIES ON THEMSELVES. I'M NOT AGAINST ANYBODY LIVING HOW THEY WANT, BUT IF YOU'RE BROKE AND YOU'RE TRYING TO PLAY DAVIDO TO YOUR CHIOMA THEN I'M SORRY FOR YOU. IF YOU DON'T ESTABLISH YOURSELF... AN ESTABLISHED MAN WILL FALL FOR THE PRETTY DRESSES AND HAIR YOU PAID FOR, AND COLLECT YOUR GIRL FROM YOU. END OF STORY.

HeavenlyCherub:


I’m not saying I won’t contribute. I will contribute only 30% to our household and help if there’s emergency. I will let the man be a man. I just don’t want to a man who wants to be a man in the bedroom, a man when it comes to showing authority when he can’t be a man in our finances. To each his own. God gave us all free will to choose. Just like I won’t criticize your opinion because only you will live your life I don’t expect you to criticize mine. I will assist my husband within reason. Nothing more and nothing less

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THE WORST PART IS THAT THESE THIEVES ARE NEVER SATISFIED. THEY BRING NOTHING ON BOARD AND WOULD CONSTANTLY THREATEN TO LEAVE YOU AND GO LOOK FOR SOMEONE ELSE TO BE PARASITES TO. THIS MAKES MANY MEN SLAVE TO DEATH TRYING TO SATISFY SUCH WOMEN AND PREVENT THEM FROM LEAVING, BUT IT NEVER WORKS. GIVE HER YOUR KIDNEYS AND LUNGS TODAY AND SHE GOES OFF WITH THE MAN WHO BUYS HER MEATPIE TOMORROW.

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MADAM GO AND SIT DOWN.

ANY SANE WOMAN WHO WANTS GOOD THINGS FOR HER FAMILY WILL NOT TALK ALL THIS RUBBISH. IF YOUR HUSBAND'S PUTTING IN 100% YOU PUT IN 100%. IF HE'S TAKING THE KIDS TO MONACO THIS YEAR YOU TAKE THEM TO NEW YORK NEXT YEAR. IF YOU LIVE LIKE THIS WILL YOU DIE? IF YOU'RE NOT A COMPLETE HOUSEWIFE THEN WHAT ARE YOU USING YOUR MONEY FOR? IS IT NOT BETTER YOU RESIGN AND STOP WORKING INSTEAD OF SAVING YOUR CASH TO.... MAYBE BUY PROPERTIES IN FUTURE AND OPPRESS YOUR PARTNER?

IF YOU'RE BOTH EARNING 10K MONTHLY AND HE'S SPENDING ALL HIS 10K ON THE FAMILY, INCLUDING YOU. AFTER 10 YEARS HE HAS ZERO SAVINGS WHILE YOU'RE A MILLIONAIRE SINCE HE'S BEEN THE ONE CARRYING THE WHOLE FAMILY INCLUDING YOUR RELATIVES. GOD FORBID.

AS A YOUNG GUY MAN IF SHE'S NOT COMPETING WITH YOU ON CERTAIN LEVELS IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP, YOU BETTER DISEMBARK. ELSE, YOU'LL END UP MARRYING THIS KIND OF WOMAN.

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THIS IS THE DEAD MENTALITY THAT MAKES NO SENSE TO ME.
I HAVE RECEIVED COMPLAINTS FROM MALE NYSC MEMBERS ABOUT THEIR RELATIONSHIPS WITH THEIR COLLEAGUES. THE PROBLEM ALWAYS CENTER AROUND MONEY.. AND IT GOES LIKE THIS.
2 PEOPLE EARN 19,800 MONTHLY.
FROM THAT SUM, "HE" GIVES "HER" MONEY FOR FOOD. MONEY FOR HAIR AND UPKEEP. AND ALSO TAKES HER OUT ONCE IN A WHILE. WHENEVER HE RELENTS ON ANY OF THESE "RESPONSIBILITIES" HE FACES PROTESTS AND IS NAMED THE GUY WHO IS FAILING TO CARTER FOR HIS GIRLFRIEND. HE SPENDS ALL HIS MONEY ON HER. HE HAS JUST TWO JEANS AND TWO SHIRTS OUTSIDE HIS NYSC UNIFORM. SHE USES HER OWN MONEY PLUS HIS TO DRESS WELL AND SECURE MORE ATTENTION FROM RANDOM MEN ONLINE.

THIS IS USUALLY A CASE THAT MANY FORMER AND SERVING CORPS MEMBERS CAN TESTIFY TO. EVEN WHEN SHE'S COLLECTING 100K MONTHLY AS SALARY THE MAN EARNING 10K HAS TO PROVIDE FOR HER.

MEN JUST IMPOSE CERTAIN RESPONSIBILITIES ON THEMSELVES. I'M NOT AGAINST ANYBODY LIVING HOW THEY WANT, BUT IF YOU'RE BROKE AND YOU'RE TRYING TO PLAY DAVIDO TO YOUR CHIOMA THEN I'M SORRY FOR YOU. IF YOU DON'T ESTABLISH YOURSELF... AN ESTABLISHED MAN WILL FALL FOR THE PRETTY DRESSES AND HAIR YOU PAID FOR, AND COLLECT YOUR GIRL FROM YOU. END OF STORY.

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ALL THESE IS NOT MY BUSINESS.

I'VE NEVER BEEN WITH A WOMAN WHO DOESN'T WANT TO PUT IN EFFORTS NO MATTER HOW SMALL. ONCE WE START TO ROLL AND I NOTICE STUPID TENDENCIES I BACK DOWN. I'VE MET REALLY GREAT WOMEN WHO PAY FOR DATES AND DON'T MIND SPENDING THEIR MONEY ONCE THEY HAVE IT. WAY BACK I USED TO GET CREDIT ALERT FROM PARTNERS AS GIFTS.. IF SHE'S STIFF WITH MONEY I DISAPPEAR. IF SHE'S ENTITLED I DISAPPEAR. IF SHE DEMANDS FOR STUPID THINGS I DISAPPEAR. I KNOW MY RESPONSIBILITIES AND NEVER SLACK ON MY ROLES BUT YOU HAVE TO PLAY SEVERAL ROLES TOO, OTHERWISE I'LL DISAPPEAR... AND I RUN FASTER THAN USAIN BOLT.

SweetCunt97:
So I read a thread created by one niggy that advised guys against dating broke girls. I also saw an old baby called yigiyaga and how he insulted ladies who make humble earnings. He and other immature guys mocked these ladies but the truth is, not every lady will be a millionaire.
Concentrating on a lady's financial strength is damn right messed. As long as she's not lazy and willing to do legitimate hustle to make ends meet.

From experience, a broke guy is seriously not the problem, the problem arises from those strain of broke men who keep complaining and whining about their situation. Be broke but don't whine.

P.s this yigi character is simply a lazy troll looking for a lady to shoulder his baggage.

If you broke, kindly look around you and make nothing into something. Don't lazy around looking for one stupid white collar job.

Positivechick:
LOl there is a difference between, instagram men , Facebook men , Twitter men and nairaland men . Ladies pick wisely . Broke girls will keep marrying rich billionaires, na only mouth nairaland men get ,in the real world , they are ashamed of themselves. Just imagine someone saying I am a red piller in real life , or can they boldly condemn men who actually take good care of their women ? Only on nairaland will u see a guy trying to abuse a man who publicly say , I take care of my woman like a queen , But u dare not in real life !! Shame No go let you .

Most Men will continue to be the provider for their women . They can’t change nothing

HeavenlyCherub:


I’m not saying I won’t contribute. I will contribute only 30% to our household and help if there’s emergency. I will let the man be a man. I just don’t want to a man who wants to be a man in the bedroom, a man when it comes to showing authority when he can’t be a man in our finances. To each his own. God gave us all free will to choose. Just like I won’t criticize your opinion because only you will live your life I don’t expect you to criticize mine. I will assist my husband within reason. Nothing more and nothing less

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MADAM GO AND SIT DOWN.

ANY SANE WOMAN WHO WANTS GOOD THINGS FOR HER FAMILY WILL NOT TALK ALL THIS RUBBISH. IF YOUR HUSBAND'S PUTTING IN 100% YOU PUT IN 100%. IF HE'S TAKING THE KIDS TO MONACO THIS YEAR YOU TAKE THEM TO NEW YORK NEXT YEAR. IF YOU LIVE LIKE THIS WILL YOU DIE? IF YOU'RE NOT A COMPLETE HOUSEWIFE THEN WHAT ARE YOU USING YOUR MONEY FOR? IS IT NOT BETTER YOU RESIGN AND STOP WORKING INSTEAD OF SAVING YOUR CASH TO.... MAYBE BUY PROPERTIES IN FUTURE AND OPPRESS YOUR PARTNER?

IF YOU'RE BOTH EARNING 10K MONTHLY AND HE'S SPENDING ALL HIS 10K ON THE FAMILY, INCLUDING YOU. AFTER 10 YEARS HE HAS ZERO SAVINGS WHILE YOU'RE A MILLIONAIRE SINCE HE'S BEEN THE ONE CARRYING THE WHOLE FAMILY INCLUDING YOUR RELATIVES. GOD FORBID.

AS A YOUNG GUY MAN IF SHE'S NOT COMPETING WITH YOU ON CERTAIN LEVELS IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP, YOU BETTER DISEMBARK. ELSE, YOU'LL END UP MARRYING THIS KIND OF WOMAN.

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MADAM GO AND SIT DOWN.

ANY SANE WOMAN WHO WANTS GOOD THINGS FOR HER FAMILY WILL NOT TALK ALL THIS RUBBISH. IF YOUR HUSBAND'S PUTTING IN 100% YOU PUT IN 100%. IF HE'S TAKING THE KIDS TO MONACO THIS YEAR YOU TAKE THEM TO NEW YORK NEXT YEAR. IF YOU LIVE LIKE THIS WILL YOU DIE? IF YOU'RE NOT A COMPLETE HOUSEWIFE THEN WHAT ARE YOU USING YOUR MONEY FOR? IS IT NOT BETTER YOU RESIGN AND STOP WORKING INSTEAD OF SAVING YOUR CASH TO.... MAYBE BUY PROPERTIES IN FUTURE AND OPPRESS YOUR PARTNER?

IF YOU'RE BOTH EARNING 10K MONTHLY AND HE'S SPENDING ALL HIS 10K ON THE FAMILY, INCLUDING YOU. AFTER 10 YEARS HE HAS ZERO SAVINGS WHILE YOU'RE A MILLIONAIRE SINCE HE'S BEEN THE ONE CARRYING THE WHOLE FAMILY INCLUDING YOUR RELATIVES. GOD FORBID.

AS A YOUNG GUY MAN IF SHE'S NOT COMPETING WITH YOU ON CERTAIN LEVELS IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP, YOU BETTER DISEMBARK. ELSE, YOU'LL END UP MARRYING THIS KIND OF WOMAN.

scaramucci:


Do you see how you have been desperately trying to explain what you meant? Next time, think very well before posting. It will save you a lot of energy.

MrBrownJay1:


i am 110% sure that the values that "god" put upon marriages never stated that you should only marry a rich man... brotha jesus was poor, are you saying that you love jesus but wouldnt marry jesus because he had no money? strange type of love, if you ask me.

dont use the demons you dated in the past to dictate your future...

HeavenlyCherub:


To each his own. Don’t try force your values on me as I won’t try force mine on you. That’s why you got your life and I got mine. The fact that you believe someone has to agree with your perspective is very immature. Life is a balance all I can say is I respect your perspective but I don’t have to agree with it just like I’m not forcing you to take on my perspectives. It’s my opinion and I’m entitled to it as you are

MJBOLT:

that lady is a perfect example of your money is our money but my money is my money,evil creature

HeavenlyCherub:


When you don’t know someone all you do is criticize. This will be my last response on this topic. No matter how you men scream on Nairaland many women want a provider. A woman is not a provider a woman is a supporter. I can’t contribute more than my man for my household, this is where a lot of women lose respect. A man should stand on his feet and cater to his family. I will contribute but never 50/50. It’s only men without money that go about making noise on this issue. No need for name calling. This is exactly the reason why you are where you are financially. You have a mean spirit and it’s reflecting on your life. Change your ways and change your life. You can communicate your point without having to insult or label people.

Good day